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As you go through life—whether walking gently barefoot or dashing through the undergrowth without a care in the world—you naturally pick up some wisdom and experience along the way. And like the pebbles you’ll find on the beach, all of these insights can look very different, ranging from the practical (‘lift with your legs not your back’) all the way to the cliched but deeply true (‘spending time with your loved ones is far more important than your career’). Though some people simply advise you to regularly sharpen your shovel because it makes a world of difference.
Twitter user @Dustmopp31 made a lot of people smile when he asked them to share random but great bits of advice they’d like to give others. The question quickly spread beyond the boundaries of Twitter, however, and drew quite a lot of redditors from the r/MadeMeSmile subreddit into the discussion as well.
We’ve collected the very best, most interesting, and even quirky pieces of advice shared by these internet users. Scroll down, upvote your fave posts, and if you have any advice to share with all the other Pandas reading this, consider dropping by the comment section at the bottom of this article. Got your notepads ready? Let’s go!
I reached out to a couple of experts in their fields to hear what advice they'd give others. I spoke to British comedy writer, author, singer-songwriter, and all-round creative person Ariane Sherine in order to take a peek at the pearls of wisdom she's collected over the years. "What you give is usually what you get back. I’ve given my daughter endless kindness and love and she’s turned into a very kind and loving girl. But there are adults who don’t respond well to kindness and will throw it back in your face, so with adults, the lesson is: only love those who love you," she told Bored Panda how she approaches life. Scroll down for my interviews with Ariane, as well as with fitness expert and entrepreneur Jack Bly.
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#1
Leave the first time he frightens you. Because it won't be the last.
chi-wei shen 3 years ago
Also "leave the first time she frightens you". It's not always the man.
I asked comedy writer Ariane what advice she'd give anyone who keeps failing at something. Her approach is to be flexible while staying persistent and try something else. "Either another way of doing what you failed at, or something else entirely, but do persist. Not every seed you plant will grow, so you often have to plant many seeds in order that one will sprout."
I was curious if Ariane would do anything differently or give her past self any advice. However, she told me that she doesn't regret anything. "I wouldn’t tell my teenage self anything, as if she’d done anything different then I wouldn’t have my wonderful daughter now! But for other teenagers, I’d say: don’t waste yourselves on people who don’t care about you. Give your love to people who do."
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#2
Apologize to your children. Genuinely. If you were wrong, say sorry and mean it.
Christopher Brenna 3 years ago
I'm amazed how many adults can't bring themselves even to admit that they were wrong to a child, much less apologize for what they did.
#3
When you're cooking the recipe is only a reference. When you're baking the recipe is the work of the law.
Meanwhile, fitness expert Jack told Bored Panda that the very best advice that he can give people is to start controlling their inputs in life. You are what you consume, not just what you eat. "Be mindful of what you put into your mind. Music, TV shows, social media, politics, etc. Think about if they are creating negative or positive thoughts and beliefs, he told Bored Panda.
"Inputs lead to beliefs and beliefs lead to your actions."
According to Jack, he's been "hardwired for optimism" since birth, so he has a better time facing challenges. "Whenever I face hardships, I always try to view it as a blessing. It will force me to grow in some capacity and get better."
As for advice that he'd give his younger self, Jack believes that authenticity and being your true self are the most important things. "Stop caring so much what others think. Be 100% authentic to you and chase what you want."
#4
Never take criticism from someone you wouldn't take advice from.
Bardhi's Dad 3 years ago
I just posted this on my Facebook 3 days ago, after I saw it on one page.
#5
When a kid shows you a drawing, instead of saying “what is it?” Or guessing, which could upset them, ask them
“Can you tell me about it?”
The kid will be excited to tell you all about it and they don’t get upset that their nonsensical squiggles weren’t immediately recognized.
#6
Check-in on people who always seem strong. Sometimes they’re not doing well but think they can’t say anything because they’re the “strong one.”
Advice comes in all shapes and sizes. And two areas that we definitely need to work on to create a solid foundation for our future include our finances, as well as our relationships.
Some time ago, financial expert Sam Dogen, the founder of the popular Financial Samurai blog, shared how we should approach work when we’re young. “In your 20s and 30s you need to work BOTH smarter AND harder, especially if you are of average intelligence. The world is a brutally competitive place with some of the smartest people also working the hardest. So working long hours while you’re still young and learning is a matter of practicality,” he shared with Bored Panda. However, just hard work by itself isn’t enough.
“You can’t expect to go straight to the corner office without putting in your dues. At the same time, you can’t expect to outperform your peers simply through hard work, You have to be strategic by building a strong network of relationships internally and externally (clients) who will pull to get you promoted and help you get paid at your next job.”
#7
Never lie to your doctor.
Brunettechameleon 3 years ago
This is super important. I understand that people are scared of being judged, but lying could lead to big problems. And chances are, the doctors probably aren’t going to judge you since they see odd things all the time.
#8
TURN ON SUBTITLES FOR YOUR KIDS!!! Studies have shown it’s proven to help with reading.
#9
Never answer a kid's joke. Always let them tell you the punchline even if you already know it.
Christopher Brenna 3 years ago
You wouldn't answer an adult's joke even if you knew the punchline, or at least most people wouldn't. There's a broader issue of paying kids the same respect that we pay adults.
However, we shouldn’t work ourselves to the bone. It’s important to recognize when we’re burning out and take the necessary steps to recharge. “Take sick days and mentally recharge. Don’t just think being ill is just a physical thing. There are plenty of mental illnesses. They are just not as visible. There is no better time than right now to take sick days due to the pandemic and the greater awareness of mental health issues. There is simply no shame in healing the mind!” Sam said.
He added that some people boast about how much they work because they feel like nobody’s noticing their efforts. “The irony is, if you have great results, there’s no need to tell anybody how hard you work,” he noted.
#10
Use turn signals when driving.
#11
Never insult someone who is going to prepare your food or has access to your data.
Meanwhile, relationship expert Dan Bacon, the founder of The Modern Man project, said that honesty is vital to the long-term success of any serious relationship. It’s important to have honest conversations about practical issues like divvying up the housework in order to prevent resentment building up and to avoid unnecessary arguments.
“Housework used to be seen as women’s work only, due to a man traditionally being the breadwinner and the woman staying at home all day. Yet, in today’s society, if both the man and woman are working, it’s more fair, loving, and respectful for both of them to contribute to keeping the house clean. On the other hand, if a man is the sole breadwinner and the woman stays home all day, many people would agree that she should do most or even all of the housework. That said, no one actually ‘has to’ do anything in a relationship,” the expert told Bored Panda.
#13
Get everything in writing, even if you think you don’t need it. An email, a text message, something in case things don’t go as planned. Has saved me countless times and burned me by not having it.
#14
Don't smoke. Don't even start.
Gin. No tonic 3 years ago
I've never even tried a cigarette. My friends in high school offered me one quite a few times, but I always said I don't want to. Because "No, Thank you" is a valid answer. I said, I'm not judging you for smoking, but I don't have to smoke to be friends with you. Good friends understand this.
“A woman shouldn’t ever force a man to do housework and a man shouldn’t force a woman to do it either. Instead, the couple should honestly agree on what they feel is fair and then go with that. If it feels unfair to one of them, resentment will build up, arguments will happen and they will feel less connected and happy as a couple,” Dan said.
According to him, if we feel that we’re left doing all the chores at home, we should ask our partners why they think we should be doing all of the housework by ourselves. “Then, ask if they honestly think that is a fair, loving, and respectful way for them to be approaching the relationship.”
#16
If you see a bathroom in your dream, don’t use it.
Biba Little 3 years ago
Hahaha, I actually used it but I just couldn't go, even in dream, my body knows something is odd.
#17
The best advice I ever got was from a Veterinarian when I brought him a newly adopted old dog with many health issues: "I will help you prolong his life, I will NOT help you prolong his death." Words to live by when you have pets and have to face "the decision".
Lord Mysticlaw 3 years ago
I wish more people would see it this way. It breaks my heart to see pets suffer because their human can't let them go. It's not fair, they don't even understand. I realised this when my senior dog had cancer and I made the decision to let her go, and my older colleague (who herself had a long and hard battle with cancer) said to me "Thank you for not letting her suffer, this is what she would have wanted."
#18
From domestic abusers to supposed experts to politicians. If someone tells you not to seek out another's opinion, they're lying to you.
Andy Acceber 3 years ago
Within reason, yes. That being said, people who love you may be trying to pull you out of MLM schemes, cults, or cesspools of fake news. In those situations, they really are trying to help you cut ties, and it's reasonable for them to discourage you from letting MLMers/cultists/fake news weigh in on your leaving. That being said, they should 100% be in favor of you talking with neutral third parties, like other friends, a therapist, librarians, your doctor, even random strangers.
#19
If you love someone, tell them. Friends, family, coworker. It doesn’t matter. This may be the last time you talk to them.
#20
If your friend is starting a new business, don’t expect a discount. Instead, support them with sales as much as possible.
Lilla Ontherun 3 years ago
I never expect discount from a friend for something, I only ask them to do it well.
#21
If a kid ever hands you a banana, you answer it like a telephone.
Caffeinated Hedgehog 3 years ago
If a kid ever hands you a telephone, you eat it like a banana.
#22
When you are on a job interview, don't forget that you are also evaluating whether that job is a fit for you. Ask about benefits, work culture, what the interviewer personally finds valuable about working there. 1. This makes it appear that you have self-worth and eases your nervousness. 2. The answers they give can tell you a lot about whether you actually want to work there.
#23
It’s okay to like things that are considered “cringey” or unpopular. You decide what you like, not everyone else.
#24
Brush your teeth no matter what just brush em before you lose em
#25
Whenever you’re stuck in a situation where someone starts to cry, offer to get them water. It gives them the space to express their emotions privately for a bit and feel cared for as you are trying to help by getting water. Also helps if people crying makes you uncomfortable.
#26
Forgive your younger self.
Most importantly, start small. Pick one moment of the past - start small- and view it through your current self. Oftentimes, our mistakes make a lot of sense considering our age/situation. View your past self as if it was your friend or child and comfort accordingly.
TLDR It’s forgiving/understanding your past self by understanding WHY you made that mistake.
Ian Reynolds 3 years ago
Just don't dwell on the past, regret nothing, it can't be changed and live for the now.
#27
When in doubt if you get a weird email, text, letter; never click any links in the text or email. Always go to the bank to verify if it is real.
What ninjas can't 3 years ago
Its been two years and I still wait for the person who sent me an email saying that they will send proof of weird porn I had been watching to everyone I know if I didnt transfer money within the next 48 hours after opening the mail. I dont even watch porn so I was really excited to see what they had found.
#29
Waste is generated at the time of purchase, not disposal. Holding onto junk just because you paid money for it isn’t being thrifty, it’s hoarding. Your mental health and your wallet will both be better off if you get rid of it to make space for the things you actually need.
#30
Make sure you drink enough water. Every cell in your body needs it
#31
Never send an angry email or text immediately. Wait at least an hour and read it out loud or to a friend.
#32
Keep learning new things
Monday 3 years ago
And what you learn doesn't necessarily have to be useful. It's okay to learn how a nuclear reactor works just because it's interesting. It's okay to spend close to 2 hours listening to a documentary on bloody queuing if that keeps you entertained. Not everything you learn has to be a skill, just a new fact here or there will keep your brain healthy.
#33
From argumentative a**holes at the grocery store to bullies in public school, this is my best advice:
If someone tries to give you a hard time verbally and wants to start crap with you, insult you, or just get you going in some way, always remember:
You allow conversations to happen. You can control the length by simply not engaging. Remember: anyone who tries harder to get you to respond is losing and getting desperate.
Source: former Correctional Officer. People talking s**t to you from behind bars doesn't matter when you never acknowledge it. Eventually, you stop caring when you hear instigation and you hear it for what it is: a power play. The only winning option is not to play.
Trillian 3 years ago
I am not sure I like this. First: It places the responsibility on the victim. Never a good idea. Second: I think you totally underestimate the persistence of especially kids. When bullies want to get a reaction out of you, they will. No one has that kind of self control. They just wear you down. You can walk away from a stranger in street most times, but bullies will literally follow you around. Advice like that just makes it seem too easy and as if victims are just not trying hard enough.
#34
Don’t feel upset if you can’t find a nice woman/man to date/spend time with. Rather be the loneliest man alive than being attached to the wrong one. It only takes one wrong one to never make this mistake again. Take your time, you are beautiful and there is no rush.
Biba Little 3 years ago
Isn't there a rush? I am almost 50 now, and I started to collect cats.
#35
Take care of your Mental health. It should be a priority. Once you lose your health, life sucks.
Andy Acceber 3 years ago
Ditto physical health. You've only got one meat suit to occupy in this life. Do your best to take care of it.
#36
Work will never love you back.
Julie C Rose 3 years ago
As someone who’s just gone into remission after getting a chronic illness by overworking, I’ve always found this a bit condescending. My employer does things like profit sharing in addition to full overtime pay; the issue is that he works a lot himself and so when I went to unhealthy levels, it flew under the radar. And the reason why I overworked was because I finally had the opportunity to work in a job that didn’t make me feel like s**t all time, plus I have a general background of struggling to say no. Doesn’t mean it was healthy, but I hate it when people forget that people who get into these kinds of situations are human beings.
#37
Learn how to say no, and learn how to have tact and grace towards others.
Celtic Pirate Queen 2 years ago
Remember that "No." is a complete sentence. You do not have to justify that answer. "I have other plans, but thank you for thinking of me" is just as good. The fact that my plans are to stay in my jammies and binge watch Downton Abbey are completely irrelevant.
#38
Always budget for less money than you have, that way if you make mistakes it’ll be ok. Leave room for error
Jeff Striks 3 years ago
Round up when budgeting how much you owe, round down when looking at what you have. Save ~6 months of expenses in a liquid (readily available) savings account. Invest anything else that's not daily spending money. Invest for retirement first, followed by personal insurance, like personal disability plans. After that look to 5-15 year investments. And start young!
#39
If you're an artist or in a job where you type a lot, take breaks and do wrist stretches! Carpel Tunnel sucks.
Thorfin Wolfsbane 3 years ago
also, Google: "Breugger's Postural Break". Upper and Lower Cross Syndromes might be minor but can lead to more serious issues later on.
#40
Don’t expect ‘you’ from other people.
What do you think ?
Susie Elle 3 years ago
Take photo's. Memories are one thing, but photo's of events, get-togethers, friends and family will be worth a million words after a decade or so.
SusanS 3 years ago
Don't always be the photographer - get in those pictures.
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Alicja Cielniaszek 3 years ago
Property is not only money and valuables. Be respectful of the things you have. Wash the colors separately, and wash delicate items by hand. If you are doing something dirty, cover the whole area. Remember that you had to buy everything you have.
Steve Barnett 3 years ago (edited)
I find that when I have sudden thought about a task that needs doing, but don’t have the time at that moment to do it and it relates to a specific object, e.g. a house plant that needs repotting, I’ll put the object somewhere in an odd place, e.g., put the house plant on a toilet seat. This simple act will be the reminder.
Caro Caro 3 years ago
Have you sorted your lightbulbs / led lamps out yet? ;)
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Brandon Marlowe 3 years ago
When driving on a multi-lane road, if people are passing you on the right, you're in the wrong lane. (In countries that drive on the right)
Fiona Parky 3 years ago
Don’t throw out egg shells. They’re the most useful thing ever! Pop them in the freezer for a week then pound them up into grit. You can use that grit; to clarify stock; to put around plants in the garden; to add to cleaning products to make them “scrubby” without micro plastics; to add to your washing machine (honestly, try it). It’s the most versatile stuff ever! I’m still finding uses.
Biba Little 3 years ago
Sorry for stupid question but does this go for cooked or uncooked eggs?
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Jacob Nunez 3 years ago
“Better to be happy and not please someone, then to not be happy and please someone”.
Ivana 3 years ago (edited)
Learn to say no and be selfish when you are young. When you are young, you need to focus on you and not break your back trying to help everyone around you when you are the least able to help. This will help you get to a place where you can help others early on in life. I always would lend money to my parents until my husband step in and said I was giving them my student loans that I have to pay interest on when they are the adults and shouldn't have asked that of me in the first place. I cut off my parents and life got a lot easier and I was able to become financially secure enough to provide for my father during the last few years of his life.
Ry Guy 3 years ago
Parents shouldn't ever put their children in the role of parent.
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ZAPanda 3 years ago
Be kind. Listen to others. Always treat everyone with respect. Take people seriously when they talk and forget about what your view is, try understand their view before disagreeing. Help everyone who asks, in whatever way, as long as it's not illegal and you can definitely afford it. The following people are your order of priority when choosing tasks: Kids, Partner, Boss, Friends, Siblings, Parents, everyone else. Any other prioritisation will make you poor.
B. Suchecki 3 years ago
No matter how good the soap smells, never leave the bathroom sniffing your fingers!
Kate Jones 3 years ago
1. Teach your kids to not be afraid of being smart or to be threatened by smarter people than them. 2. In the end, most people regret the things they didn't do over the things they did. Unless your behavior hurts the people you love, don't hesitate to not play it safe or follow the rules all the time. 3. Learn to be social, even if you have to fake it. "Be yourself" is the biggest lie you'll ever hear and unless you can find a way to use it to make a living, you'll have to find compromises. You are neither unique or special and I promise whatever your weirdness is, there are 1000s more just like you. So learn to hold a conversation or at least how to behave like a human in public. Being able to do what you want often depends on who you know who can help get you there.
Kristen Bellefeuille 3 years ago
My dad always told me when doing a task assume everything will all go to hell, this way you can be surprised when it goes well.
GadgetGirl 3 years ago
PETS AND KIDS: Don't punish bad, reward good. Make them WANT to do what you wanted them to do. Start early and they won't see it as anything to rebel against. PEOPLE IN GENERAL: To get someone to do a thing, give them the choice of two different steps that get the same result. ie: you have to wash a tabletop at school. Don't chide people and tell them to move their stuff already. Ask them; "Do you want me to move it or do you want to?" Either way, the stuff is moved. Or you need your teen up by a certain time on their weekend that's usually a free schedule day. Don't tell them to get up. Ask the day before: "Do you want to set your alarm or do you want me to come wake you up?" People like to feel in control, even if it's something minor.
Linda Lou Jett 3 years ago
Be careful with cameras. A gun may kill you but a camera can wound you for the rest of your life.
Unaffected 3 years ago
Never stay in a bad relationship (in my case DV) for the sake of the children. They are better off living with one parent or sharing their time between two parents( depending on circumstances) than witnessing arguments and fighting.
Susie Elle 3 years ago
Take photo's. Memories are one thing, but photo's of events, get-togethers, friends and family will be worth a million words after a decade or so.
SusanS 3 years ago
Don't always be the photographer - get in those pictures.
Load More Replies... Alicja Cielniaszek 3 years ago
Property is not only money and valuables. Be respectful of the things you have. Wash the colors separately, and wash delicate items by hand. If you are doing something dirty, cover the whole area. Remember that you had to buy everything you have.
Steve Barnett 3 years ago (edited)
I find that when I have sudden thought about a task that needs doing, but don’t have the time at that moment to do it and it relates to a specific object, e.g. a house plant that needs repotting, I’ll put the object somewhere in an odd place, e.g., put the house plant on a toilet seat. This simple act will be the reminder.
Caro Caro 3 years ago
Have you sorted your lightbulbs / led lamps out yet? ;)
Load More Replies... Brandon Marlowe 3 years ago
When driving on a multi-lane road, if people are passing you on the right, you're in the wrong lane. (In countries that drive on the right)
Fiona Parky 3 years ago
Don’t throw out egg shells. They’re the most useful thing ever! Pop them in the freezer for a week then pound them up into grit. You can use that grit; to clarify stock; to put around plants in the garden; to add to cleaning products to make them “scrubby” without micro plastics; to add to your washing machine (honestly, try it). It’s the most versatile stuff ever! I’m still finding uses.
Biba Little 3 years ago
Sorry for stupid question but does this go for cooked or uncooked eggs?
Load More Replies... Jacob Nunez 3 years ago
“Better to be happy and not please someone, then to not be happy and please someone”.
Ivana 3 years ago (edited)
Learn to say no and be selfish when you are young. When you are young, you need to focus on you and not break your back trying to help everyone around you when you are the least able to help. This will help you get to a place where you can help others early on in life. I always would lend money to my parents until my husband step in and said I was giving them my student loans that I have to pay interest on when they are the adults and shouldn't have asked that of me in the first place. I cut off my parents and life got a lot easier and I was able to become financially secure enough to provide for my father during the last few years of his life.
Ry Guy 3 years ago
Parents shouldn't ever put their children in the role of parent.
Load More Replies... ZAPanda 3 years ago
Be kind. Listen to others. Always treat everyone with respect. Take people seriously when they talk and forget about what your view is, try understand their view before disagreeing. Help everyone who asks, in whatever way, as long as it's not illegal and you can definitely afford it. The following people are your order of priority when choosing tasks: Kids, Partner, Boss, Friends, Siblings, Parents, everyone else. Any other prioritisation will make you poor.
B. Suchecki 3 years ago
No matter how good the soap smells, never leave the bathroom sniffing your fingers!
Kate Jones 3 years ago
1. Teach your kids to not be afraid of being smart or to be threatened by smarter people than them. 2. In the end, most people regret the things they didn't do over the things they did. Unless your behavior hurts the people you love, don't hesitate to not play it safe or follow the rules all the time. 3. Learn to be social, even if you have to fake it. "Be yourself" is the biggest lie you'll ever hear and unless you can find a way to use it to make a living, you'll have to find compromises. You are neither unique or special and I promise whatever your weirdness is, there are 1000s more just like you. So learn to hold a conversation or at least how to behave like a human in public. Being able to do what you want often depends on who you know who can help get you there.
Kristen Bellefeuille 3 years ago
My dad always told me when doing a task assume everything will all go to hell, this way you can be surprised when it goes well.
GadgetGirl 3 years ago
PETS AND KIDS: Don't punish bad, reward good. Make them WANT to do what you wanted them to do. Start early and they won't see it as anything to rebel against. PEOPLE IN GENERAL: To get someone to do a thing, give them the choice of two different steps that get the same result. ie: you have to wash a tabletop at school. Don't chide people and tell them to move their stuff already. Ask them; "Do you want me to move it or do you want to?" Either way, the stuff is moved. Or you need your teen up by a certain time on their weekend that's usually a free schedule day. Don't tell them to get up. Ask the day before: "Do you want to set your alarm or do you want me to come wake you up?" People like to feel in control, even if it's something minor.
Linda Lou Jett 3 years ago
Be careful with cameras. A gun may kill you but a camera can wound you for the rest of your life.
Unaffected 3 years ago
Never stay in a bad relationship (in my case DV) for the sake of the children. They are better off living with one parent or sharing their time between two parents( depending on circumstances) than witnessing arguments and fighting.
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