This has been said to me so many times, I've lost count. Three miscarriages were greeted with choruses of "All things happen in God's time", "God has a different plan for you", "It will happen if God wills it", and a real gem from a Jehovah's Witness: "God called your children back because you are a sinner". I have no use for Christians.

Hand on my heart, swear to God: after my miscarriage my ex-fiancé's mother said - "well thank God you didn't give birth to a vegetable". Never spoke to her again.

Sounds like something my mother-in-law would say. She once started a sentence with "not to minimize your loss". This was after my 25 year old son had died (her step-grandson). She was comparing the loss of her abusive husband who had lived long enough to see grandchildren. My son died on his honeymoon.

I gave up going to a building for my religious practices when a 'friend ' told me on mother's day (while holding her was to be same age child as the one I miscarried) that I should really think about them (the dead child that I thought of every second) today and what I did. To them. Idk if she understood that a miscarriage is different from an abortion.

If god wanted that baby to not be born, why did he let the mom get pregnant in the first place? And if he's so cool with just spontaneously aborting babies, what's the issue with medically induced abortions? Can't have it both ways.

**gets slapped** "God must've wanted you to get slapped."

Until they've experienced it they'll never understand the heartbreak and emotional toll it takes on you when these kind of things happen. Sadly too many people suffer from diarrhea of the mouth.

My father said that to me the day of having a D&C from my baby that had passed 2 months before. I wasn't having a spontaneous abortion( the actual term for the active miscarriage) and my father said that bullsh:t to me within hours...didn't talk to him for 4 months.

What do you say to someone in this situation? And none this happened to a few people and I just tell them I'm sorry for the lost and if they need to talk I'm there. Is that a good response or what?

With every loss my MIL insists its because God knows that we dont deserve children. 4 angels and I have lost the strength to try again

I feel for you on this one, my exs MIL told her something similar after the first miscarriage. Maybe its gods way of telling your not with the right person, had to hold my tongue

What possible reason? Miscarriages happen for a reason, but it's usually biological or environmental, and we often don't know exactly what caused it, but saying "God wanted it" is either toxic positivity or victim blaming.

When my triplet son's died due to being premature. At their funeral my ex-wife's aunt told me "that's why you don't use fertility drugs and just leave it to God"... We didn't use fertility drugs...

I understand the intent but ... this is why some people don't say anything and some people shouldn't say anything.

Yes I get it. I had a stillborn and did NOT want to hear that s**t

I was told something similar by a grief counsellor when I lost my sister last year and I thought it was one of the most outrageously insensitive things I'd ever heard. Saying it to someone who has just lost their child raises it to a whole new level of awful.

I think a lot of people get embarrassed and just don't know what to say when faced with a tragedy and come out with platitudes they think will console, which inevitably never do. It's either that or avoiding the issue. I don't think she was a b**ch. I think she was embarrassed and misguided. Society tends to treat tragedy as something shameful, not to be spoken about, if it was more open people might learn how to react better.

It's an idiotic thing to say, but at least the person thought they were saying something helpful. Guys handle this differently though, my best friend said "I'm sorry, that sucks" and I said "I know" and then we had a few beers. I'm glad we don't discus feelings.

Profoundly stupid thing to say.

i hate that BS , lost a child when he was 5 and heard that more than once , f**k your god if his plan involved killing my son

I hate "everything happens for a reason." What was the higher reason for the Holocaust and every other incredibly sh*tty things humans have done to each other?

Title was chucklesome... This is not ... What a horrible thing to think

Just because something might happen for a reason (be it sky magic or more specifically finite) doesn’t nullify pain, suffering or trauma. Even if there was a god working in mysterious ways, this woman was still grieving. Being told an apparent “why” doesn’t change that.

When a family tragedy happened, someone from the Catholic Church told me, God must have wanted it this way. Wasn't particularly religious before that, but now, can't get me near a church, unless a very, very beloved person passes.

Now in half the states she'll get arrested. Thanks a ton scotus.

This happened to me too!! I had a series of recurrent miscarriages and one of my (former) colleagues told me after my first one that god had a plan and after my seventh one that I must be a terrible person to have been punished so many times by god.

Where is she? I want to slap her for you! I’m so sorry for your loss.

F***ing RUDE!!

So, did they bury or hospitalise the coworker!

How exactly is this "chucklesome"?!

Yeah, this is not only unbiblical it is also heartless. I would want to punch her too (not really, but kind of).

A friend of mine's brother was shot and killed and a coworker said to her, "now he's with God so that's a good thing." I despise when people use their own personal religious preferences as a means to comfort people to make themselves feel like better [insert religious affiliation here]. Nothing pisses me off more than when someone comes to me at a funeral or in a hospital and tells me to pray or something. You're pushing your beliefs on me at a time where I'm dealing with tragedy. Even when they know you have a different faith or are an atheist (especially if your an atheist), they don't care...they have to push their own c**p on you. I want to believe they mean well but it's such an insensitive thing to do that it's hard to believe. It just comes off as selfish.