Older Women Were Asked To Share Something That Young Women Do That Puzzles Them, And 30 Didn’t Hold Back
In a post on r/AskReddit, platform user u/IslamicAnime addressed older women: "What is something young women are doing that puzzles you?" and the answers quickly started pouring in, attracting a diverse range of perspectives.
The dialogue that emerged highlighted the generation gap and shed light on contrasting experiences between the two camps, with some older women expressing confusion over the obsession with social media and the constant need for validation while others said they can't understand why 20-something-year-olds get so many beauty procedures.
However, many older women also expressed curiosity and a willingness to learn from their younger counterparts, acknowledging the need for intergenerational connections that benefit both parties.
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I kinda hate the claw like nails that are popular right now.
I've always wondered how they cleaned their undercarriage.... especially when the nails are like REALLY long and sharp looking
Also if you're a woman who likes women, how do you even... Ouch! 😬
Load More Replies...How do they do anything with those claws. Like, wiping after you pee....
I don’t like it when they are to long or to fake looking but I enjoy letting my nails grow out
I just don't understand how so many can function with them! I wore medium length nails once and found that I couldn't type at my job! They came right off!
I keep mine rather short, it was more practical when I had horses and now (and then too) they are still more practical for typing, writing, using needle and thread or the sewing machine. Etc.
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They are SO good at makeup. I don’t know if it’s because they have better products, the availability of tutorial videos or both but they all look amazing and we were walking around with orange faces and smudged eyeliner. Not gonna lie I’m a little jealous
Edit: so many bitter people in these replies!
Makeup is a hobby. It might not be one that you enjoy but that doesn’t invalidate it.
We should respect and uplift all women and however they choose to express themselves, wether it’s by wearing makeup and miniskirts or carhartts and axel grease.
It's the tutorials! I used to be terrible at make-up, but there are SO many tutorials with step-by-step instructions, including which colours look good on which skin types, how to apply make-up, how to care for your skin, which products to use, which ingredients to look out for... a year after casually watching these tutorials, I think I've gotten pretty good. It makes things so much easier.
Upvote for you for the upvote! (I gave it an upvote for the same reason.)
Load More Replies...If someone isn't hurting anyone, leave them alone. I wouldn't be caught dead in some of the get-ups I've seen, but that's not my call.
Me & my best friend used to use the green chalk from the pool table as eye shadow as teenagers as we were not allowed to wear makeup
Gone is the PreTeen Blue....now they can create beauty I don't even have a name for! I do some eyeliner and pray it doesn't settle into my crease. TEACH ME
They are good at makeup. But I have to say, the trend of dark contour on the end of the nose with a dot of white needs to stop. It looks like you're showing a literal example of brown-nosing.
I don't care for how much make up these young girls are wearing... the fact that it makes them look completely different. But that's just me. I am impressed when they are able to make it look professional. I can understand the time and effort that goes into it but personally think most of these girls look better without it.
The overdone lip injections. I can’t wait for this trend to die.
Also, the extremely visible overlining of lips with lipstick several millimeters outside the natural lipline. We can see that you colored outside the lines, and it looks silly.
I don't find this trend flattering at all. It looks like you got stung in the lip by a bee. However, to each their own. If it makes you happy I honestly have no right to judge.
Overdone isn’t a trend. Normal lip injections are the trend. Some injectors just do a terrible job and some women just don’t want to stop at a normal level.
There's nothing normal about "Normal lip injections."
Load More Replies...I just can't process the thought of wanting a bunch of needles in my lips just to look like a monkey's butt.
It's like they don't even own a mirror. Seriously? You look ridiculous.
Voting against their own interests. I know so many young women who are 100% for birth control, abortion, equal pay, maternity leave, etc yet consistently vote Republican because "the economy is the most important issue." Now theyre shocked Roe was overturned. Nothing is more important than your rights/freedom!
A woman voting for a Republican is like a chicken voting for Col. Sanders.
Also, just looking at GDP growth, it doesn't matter too much who is President, but Democrats tend to outperform Republicans. For example, the economy under Carter out-performed Ford, Bush Jr, and Trump. The Clinton economy out-performed every republican economy in the last 100 years, including Reagan. Obama and Biden both out-perform(ed) Trump in terms of GDP growth. Republicans don't vote for their self-interest. They vote from fear.
The Feds have a lot more to do with economic performance than who occupies the White House. Clinton's economic successes were at least partially due to "no new taxes" George H.W. Bush's tax increases that cost him the election .
Load More Replies...I know. Sisters, study your own d*mn history over the last 200+ years! It was women fighting for rights in the 19th and 20th centuries that got you these precious liberties. Don't waste them! Educate yourselves!
yes!!! i realize that this is very reflective of the republican party but any time a woman goes against things that are basically for her benefit confuses me. do they want to go back to a time when a woman couldn't have a bank account without a husband's approval? or having credit in their names? maybe they find it appealing to not have the ability to make personal decisions such as birth control unless their husbands approve - or the ability to get birth control if not married.
I don't think young women understand the fight that went into getting those rights.
Load More Replies...Because Biden was a spring chicken person of color . . . . Sheesh.
Load More Replies...please don't down vote me but : That's true unless you don't have any money for housing or money for food for those chosen kids. Abortions aren't free. Life's decisions aren't always simple to make.
Actually, in recent years, since the abortion pills, and before the bans, there were many places that could help you obtain a free or reduced cost abortion, if your health insurance wouldn't pay/you didn't have health insurance.
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Not limited to women, but: gender reveal parties. I already have to go to your baby shower, and now you want me to go to another party? Do I have to bring a gift?
When is this going to run it's course? It's already been going on for far too long. smh
Unfortunately I think it's here to stay as long as TikTok and Instagram are so popular. I feel like most of the people who do those elaborate gender reveal events are mostly doing it for social media clout.
Load More Replies...Especially when it goes catastrophically wrong because they did it in the dumbest way possible and created a neon-pink forest fire
Or the waterfall and river being poisoned, it was the only source of water for a village downstream.
Load More Replies...How about waiting until giving birth to discover the gender of the baby. There aren't many happy surprises in life when you reach adulthood. This should be one of them.
Some people like to know beforehand. I guess it's more practical that way especially for your first child so you know what to buy but it is always exciting to wait
Load More Replies...Can't the gender be revealed from a sonogram?!why can't that be enough for people?
Gender reveal and baby showers should be combined into one party, then
this! like, congrats, now I know if your baby has a penis or a vagina?
For some reason it matters to the older generation. They get pretty angry if they can't distinguish it.
Load More Replies...I don't get the anticipation or the surprise element. It's either a girl or boy. Would anyone be disappointed of the outcome or more happier than the other? It's just mind baffling to me there's that much importance held towards the gender. As for decorating, the baby isn't going to care. Pink isn't just for girls and blue isn't just for boys.
I understand it as an add on thing for a baby shower but I also find it weird having an entirely different party for it. I plan on having it as a small surprise at the shower with a cake but not as a main event item.
Wearing comfy shoes (like sneakers) to the club.... I'm not mad at it, I'm mad my dumbass never did that... lol
As a middle aged guy, I never got that. I mean, being comfortable and look comfortable is way more attractive then something that's clearly is a pain to wear.
Fun fact: at first heels were only worn by men, it was seen as unfeminine to wear heels and only hookers did it because looking more masculine made them more attractive. If you look at old portraits of kings and knights you see them wearing skirts, stockings, heels, jewellery and makeup while the women looked a bit like female birds, mostly wearing beige or brown clothes, very plain, not much jewelry if at all and definitely no heels. Also pink and red were mens colours while girls and women wear light blue or blue. Red was first the colour of the god Mars, while pink was worn during peace time by men. Royal blue was worn by men and women but was also a womanly colour. Especially with the rise of Christianity, red was the colour of Jesus and blue was the colour of the virgin maid Mary. But it was always considered sinful for a woman to wear red or pink. It was a whore's colour if they did.
Load More Replies...If I can't comfortably walk in my shoes,I won't wear them to dance in. And I like a chunky heel. It goes great with my chunky butt.
As a young adult I had a thing about not wearing a coat when I went out partying at night. Like it was lame to feel the cold or something. :) Which usually ended up with my friends and I standing outside shivering in skimpy clothes while waiting in line to get in to (or walking to) a club. I think some of it was there was nowhere to put coats in those places. We didn't carry purses either - just an ID and some cash jammed in our pockets or bra. I honestly can't even remember why I though that was fun!
My daughter does this still no matter that I say, but me? Me and my mates used to take a huge bag and shove everyone's jackets, hats, gloves etc in it and put it in the cloak room for the end of the night, waiting for a taxi all tipsy, snug and eating chips and cheese - was living the dream back then!
Load More Replies...My (at the time) 8 year old was watching the newer Jurassic Park with me and said, "Why does she still have heels on when she's been running from dinosaurs for hours?" I had no answer, because 8 seemed a little young to have the "Hollywood is sexist" talk.
Wait, in the newer Jurassic Park she literally broke the heels off after the first encounter. It was a deliberate nod that it was dumb to be running in heels when it's a life and death situation. Or is this prior to the new trilogy?
Load More Replies...In the 90s all you saw on sidewalks were women in business suite wearing sneakers. We'd put our heels back on once we got to the office.
Early 80s in SF. Was a thing in films. "Working Girl"?
Load More Replies...I absolutely loved the "trend" back in the day of Seattle when women were combat boots or Dr. Martens with dresses... I still do it
I got made fun of hard for wearing my Chucks to Vegas. After a night of partying, I wasn’t drunk and barefoot on the Strip. I was drunk and made it back to the hotel in comfort.
ayo middle school dances be like: girls in ballgowns with vans
Taking pictures of yourself all the time. Even as a younger person I can't imagine doing this.
So many people are letting life pass them by while they snap picture after picture.
Isn't it the same as browsing bored panda? It's not just taking pictures that's ruining our lives...
Load More Replies...I have been making photo's since the 90's and I wish I had more photos with myself on it. But a tripod with self timer camera is s****y to work with. I have had people saying to me I should enjoy a sunset instead of photographing it and honestly, it is so condescending. Just let me enjoy my life the way I like it. Oh and when you get back they would all like to order a print of that beautiful sunset er.
Honestly, people used to just stand in front of a mirror and pose and try new looks and expressions. I think that's just something young people do, but now if they think they look good they can share it. People think generations are so different from each other but we're all just human beings.
Load More Replies...Yes, because if people had access to INSTANT pictures...back in their day...with the ability to upload it, as soon as they took their "self portraits" every person would have been able to restrain themselves, and no one would have done it, ever.
Myself and a bunch of friends were just talking about if Tinder had been around in the 80's. Restraint? What is this restraint of which you speak?
Load More Replies...I just recently started taking pics of my self bc I was feeling myself though I don’t usually do it. looking back at those pics made me realize I’m kinda cute.
Yeah I just do it because I like to look back at the photos and if I like it I might post it
Load More Replies...My girls are adults living in different states. I get video chat maybe twice a month. I do not object to endless selfies! They take pictures of the flowers, the moon, their lunch, themselves! It's like being there. And no, they haven't missed out on living. It's just easy to snap a couple pictures now...no special equipment needed.
I wish I had more pics of myself, my family and friends from when I was younger.
I used to be a huge shutter bug. Never once was I ever in my own photos. Seems to overly narcissistic to me. I do like when I see some group photos online. But selfies....nope.
We did it every now and then, when feeling naughty. Depending on your parents, you either got in s**t or they would laugh seeing all your selfies when the photos got developed. Or we would get those disposable cameras and have a blast.
Blasting pictures of their young children all over social media with 1000 followers.
I had a friend of a friend that took pictures of her kids EVERY DAY and wrote what labels of clothes they were wearing. "Emma is wearing a top from PoP and pants from Me&I with a cute sunhat from ICA". She posed them against a wall and posted this on Facebook EVERY EFFING DAY!!
They get free stuff that way. That's why they do it. Those poor kids are basically cash cows for their "influencer mommy".
Load More Replies...People who do this weren't around during the various baby kidnappings. Lindbergh Baby, Adam Walsh just to name two that shook the world.
There is a clear split between the mums that do this and the ones who won't put any pics (or even names) online. It often surprises me which side people fall on.
Those family exploiting YouTubers should be outlawed! Their kids literally get filmed every day of their lives and posted for millions of people to watch them. Most of the families have obsessive viewers sending them hundreds/thousands of dollars worth of gifts every week. I hope some of the money they're making off their kids gets saved for all the therapy they're going to need when they get older!
Having children with men who are basically children themselves. If you're living with a guy and he doesn't do a genuine 50% of the housework, it will be exponentially worse when you have a baby.
Let me fix it for you - not genuine 50%, minimum 50%. As a guy i grew up in a household where my father, his father, my uncle etc were taught that you always, always pick up for yourself. Now, my dad cooks and helps a little, but my mom taught me to always, and i mean always help my gf/future wife with anything with words: She will keep your house a home so pick up your a*s and help her.
surely it would be better for you to both keep your house a home together... rather than you do things "to help her". Take the whole onus of keeping a home off the woman and put it firmly onto the couple.
Load More Replies...I don't see how that's a young women issue? Surely that's just women issue
I was raised that since you help make the mess, you help clean the mess. Super simple.
My husband & I have morphed into a very 50s kind of marriage, he works and brings home the money & I pretty much do everything else. BUT - if I don't feel up to cooking he has no problem fending for himself & will basically do anything I ask him to. It's not for everyone, but it works for us.
maybe... if we are lucky and get another 100 years in relative peace... maybe there will be a degree of improvement in this area.
And when you have children with needs it's even worse, they don't know what to do and when you ask , you get a sigh. Man up and do your part.
Its 100% and 100%. There is no 50/50. My mom made sure I knew how to accomplish certain tasks. if I was married I'd expect my SO/hubby to be able to do it all as well. For when I'm ill he will have to know and vice versa if he is ill as well. Let. It be known I can wash clothes by a creek on a rock.
Posting non stop content and then caring so much about what strangers say about them online. As if life isn't difficult enough for women without finding new and unnecessary standards to hold yourself up too. It all seems like an exhausting, pointless and mentally draining exercise.
This point! If you share online, I assume you are aware that you will get any type of responses. I think most people post carelessly without thinking first if they are mentally prepared to deal with whatever comes with it. My brother's girlfriend is an example. She likes to post pictures of her naked body (covering breast and crotch areas) for "body positivism". But then she gets very angry and upset when people send her negative feedback or sexual comments. She even posted a video of herself crying on how these comments upset her. I don't know...if the expectation is to only get likes and compliments, then not sure on which planet they are living. Would be nice, yes, but... well... if you have the freedom to post your body another person has the freedom to say "I don't like this".
Not really. Social media has normalized people feeling empowered to comment on a person’s body.
Load More Replies...So many folks online think they are interesting. Maybe 10% are actually interesting. I'm looking at you, Instagram.
The recipes call for olive oil, not cod liver oil :)
Load More Replies...OMG this!!! I mean I'm not even gonna be that upset if someone I actually know hates my (whatever) let alone random people
Also, just so much of the content I see online is just so mind numbingly banal. I don't understand who's watching it.
Sending nudes and trusting the recipient
I work with middle school and high school kiddos. No, your boyfriend does not keep these to himself!
I do not know whether this is a thing, a, and b, in my country there are direct laws against revenge porn so if he shares it he can be arrested.
Simply can't imagine doing this. So easily appropriated by someone else for abuse.
You can't trust ANYONE. I learned that the hard way. My ex-husband had taken Polaroid nudes of me, but when we broke up, and I was moving out, I'd discovered he'd hidden them, so I wouldn't find them. Well, I did find them eventually - put them in an envelope, taped the hell out of said envelope, then entrusted it to my sister until after I was fully moved out. When she gave them back, I burned the photos. Never again.
I don’t trust the recipient. I just don’t really care. What are they gonna do, post it on Reddit? People wouldn’t know who I am. Even if they did, so what? That’s how I look naked. 🤷🏻♀️
If you don't mind random strangers seeing them that's one thing. But lots of people are still upset about the possibility. At which point the best idea is just not to send them in the first place.
Load More Replies...So glad there wasn't mobile phones etc when I was young and stupid.
Influencers and those who are influenced by them. It drives me crazy! So many of these influencers are just narcissistic idiots who really don’t know anything but if they are pretty and talk a good game, people follow them and believe in their “brand”. So much focus on body image - it’s no wonder depression is spiking.
I have gotten to the point where if an "influencer" is showing a product or a place to go I avoid those like the plague!!!!
Why are you even watching influencers, in that case? I can't tell you the name of a single influencers, much less what they are impressed with.
Load More Replies...As an older Millennial I never understood Influencers. I find them vapid and entitled. I was disgusted to learn that Influencers were buying huge hauls of fast-fashion clothing to wear it once for a "unboxing video" and then throwing this clothing away since second-hand stores wouldn't take the clothing due to its lower quality.
I highly doubt any of them could get a job outside the influencer realm. I also highly doubt many of them have anything more than a high school diploma, or any useful—-repeat USEFUL—-skills or training that would help them find employment in the real world. They’re going to be shocked when the influencer bubble bursts, and people move on to the next fad, I suspect mostly because they don’t follow the news, except for celebrity gossip.
Detest the label...Influencer. Sounds like the worst of high school.
Crying on the internet. I’m talking full on snot bubble crying. Maybe it’s my childhood trauma talking but I can’t fathom having an awful thing happen to me and then whipping out my phone to tell my “followers” about it. Maybe bc I have No followers😂 I just bury it deep and slap on a smile like my mom taught me 💗
I can never tell anymore what's real or fake, I just assume everything I see or read is made up for "likes".
does it matter? if you don't think it's sincere, don't follow. if it's not moving you, you have the right to just look away.
Load More Replies...and both sides are overdoing it, whether taking your ugly crying to social media or burying emotions altogether
Since my mother died I have from time to time made video diary entries. Only on my computer not for public viewing. Do that...get your angst out of your system and just keep it on your system. You want support for your troubles, join a support group. Tossing your c**p out to cyber space only sets yourself up for depression.
YES! Do this! Normalize emotions! Show us that we aren't alone! The first time I saw my favorite vlogger just show tears...no comment, I have no idea why she was crying....I felt validated. VALIDATED! Seen! Human beings cry, dangit. And that's okay.
I don't think it's healthy for the person doing it to be honest. If it's that devastating to them they should be dealing with the problem with friends and family not posting it on the internet for their followers to fawn over. I could understand them posting about it some time down the track, and even getting a bit teary then. But in the moment? Absolutely not.
Load More Replies...So are you complaining because now a days women are less traumatized?
I am bewildered by women who do not prioritize the ability to support themselves.
OMG, *SO* important! Women, always have a backup plan and be able to support yourselves.
I don't see how this is a younger woman thing - if anything, women today are more likely to be financially independent from their partners or to prioritize their careers rather than being dependent on a spouse.
There is a new trend to basically be the dream housewife and care for husband and offspring without working being employed.
Load More Replies...Why don't we let women decide how they want to live their lives? I was a SAHM for 11 years. I don't regret it a bit. If my husband had passed during that 11 years, insurance would've bridged the gap while I job hunted. Supporting my family in ways other than financial was a priority for us.
So you have the ability to support yourself, as the OP says. Once that's a fact, how you live with your spouse and pets and/or children is up to the two of you and nobody else. But you can take care of yourself if need be.
Load More Replies...this was very common before the 1980's. It's not been long in human history that women have supported themselves. I tend to be more empathetic to this as we as women are still learning!
Heck, until the 70's, in many 'developed' countries women were fired from their jobs when they married.
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Big, fluffy false eyelashes. I tried it once and it felt like caterpillars on my eyelids, they had to come off right away. I don't know how they stand it, but I admire their skill.
(Edit: Just wanna make it clear here, I'm not about s******g on the aesthetics of young people. You do you, my sweet children! It's just not for me.)
This. I see so many women, especially on TV, with absurdly huge eyelashes. Perfect hair, makeup and a beautiful flattering outfit but long, bushy, obviously fake lashes. To me it's the equivalent of spending two hours getting ready then donning a big red clown nose. It's all anybody is going to notice.
Stop trying to look like a Kardashian. They are not attractive.
I watched a girl with humorously long lashes (I mean they extended beyond her nose) whip out a little brush and proceed to brush her eyelashes for 5 minutes. I was mesmerized. I was also in line at airport security...
TikTok dances and challenges. Social media is garbage.
I don’t do any social media. I actually LiKE my privacy.
Load More Replies...This one I agree with, tiktok content is mostly mentally disabling in a big way. I think your IQ drops about 20 points every video you watch. It's banned in my house.
The irony of posting "Social media is garbage" on reddit is almost as good as agreeing to that statement on BP. Just sayin' 🙃
Young people, male as well as female, have been harmed and even killed doing these Tik Tok challenges.
I think that enjoying music and dancing creately together is one of the few truly good things about social media. It is fantastic to see young people learning dances instead of a lot of the other things they could be doing
I think most of the time it looks stupid and I don't like and wouldn't use TikTok. But my take on it is as long as it's not hurting you or someone else then go nuts. If you don't laugh at me for being a 50 year old man who reads comics I won't laugh at you for being a 20 year old doing dances for random strangers.
Load More Replies...Some are fun ad cute but not the ones that are dangerous or put folks in danger.
Why the need for 5 parties, 2 wedding dresses, B and C lists, and numerous other demands… just to get married. Like, just get married. It’s not that complicated. Save the money (and more importantly, your guests’ and bridal party’s money) for something that will actually mean something - charity, home down payment, personal enrichment in classes or travel… whatever, the sky is the limit. Spare yourself the time and stress of going overboard to follow the new cultural norms. *Traditional, generational customs need not apply… though maybe they should be questioned and re-examined.
I spent the money on a marriage license.... Gifted our preacher....wore a dress I owned..... But I married the most perfect man for me and we are deliciously happy..... Why all the extras?
We just gathered a couple good friends and got married by a judge at the courthouse. My only real expense was a small bouquet for me and a matching boutonnière for my husband. Already had an antique white dress, my husband already had his suit. Our friends treated us to dinner at the nicest restaurant in town, and one gave us the keys to her beach house for our honeymoon—-we had planned on staying home with the door locked and the phone off the hook. Our thought was, and still is, that the marriage is what’s important, not the wedding. On May 25th this year, we’ll be celebrating our 22nd anniversary. Most of the people I know who had big expensive weddings are long ago divorced.
Load More Replies...genx here... never had a wedding. my younger brother, who is technically a millennial, never had a wedding. my younger sister, who is definitely a millennial, never had a wedding. i guess we just didn't see the point lol
My wife and I got married by a Marriage Commissioner kind of like a Justice of the Peace. We then went to Loray Caverns for our honeymoon. Been together for 30 years. Married for 20.
I have always suspected the rate of divorce was in proportion to the amount the bridal couple spent on their wedding. The more spent, the more likely the divorce. It's obscene, the amount of money spent on wedding parties these days. And for what?
The more I think about it, all that wedding stuff is very pretty, but so are many other things I see in the stores that I COULD get but can't justify spending my money on it so it can go to a different location to look pretty, and gather dust. It's all just fluff to distract from the actual boring, uneventful side that marriage is just signing a document.
I know a few 17-18y/old girls who have decided not to learn to drive or get licensed because their boyfriends always have cars; not to finish school because they don't enjoy it; and don't ever want to vote because that stuff's boring.
They have these precious rights to be free, to be educated, to be heard, and they don't care!
(Regarding the car thing - we're in a semi-rural area with limited transport options.)
I think this is the downside of living a country of privilege ... you forget that these things were fought for by women and to just give them up.... it will send us backwards!
When you said rural, my first thought was it’s more like being raised to be submissive, without a political opinion of their own, unaware of the world outside their tiny community, uneducated, unemployed, and unable to physically escape should the relationship turn abusive. I live in a rural community—-not born here. I have lived in many cities, huge and not huge. I also have a Master’s Degree. Plus, my husband is British. Basically, we’re the oddballs around here. I see s**t like this going on around me. I hate it, and wish I could take every young girl like this by the shoulders and shake some sense into them, but of course I can’t. All I can do is hope they wake up one day, preferably before it’s too late, and get TF out of here.
Load More Replies...I don't have a liscense. My partner is NOT my taxi. I have legs and can get myself around. If you choose to not have a liscense that's fine but don't rely on everyone else to get you around.
If you live in the heart of a big city I get it. But the post specifically says a semi rural area and points out limited transport. At that point you'd be dependent on the whims of your boyfriend because legs and taxi won't cut it.
Load More Replies...I refuse to drive a car because I don't trust my multitasking abilities, my attention span and reflex skills to push the right peddle. I don't trust the drivers in my city, either. It's scary enough being a pedestrian. It's a huge responsibility. If anything, more people need to be honest with themselves about whether they should drive or not. Not only that, cars are expensive to maintain and insure, then you have to renew your license every year. The gas is a large expense. I wouldn't be able to own a car and be able to keep up with my other expenses. Many people go into debt to own a car because they think public transit is beneath them. It's a privilege. ( I do live in a city with public transit. I understand there are places with little to none. In that case, I have to wonder what happens to the people who cannot drive and live there.)
Given what you say here, you shouldn't be driving. How does multitasking come into this? If you're driving, you pay attention to driving. Admittedly, some people drive distracted, but some people walk distracted. And where I live, a driver's license doesn't need to be renewed annually. It's not a matter of public transportation being beneath them, it's a matter that public transportation simply isn't available.
Load More Replies...If uneducated people don't want to vote, I'm fine with that. Why? 2016.
I still think there needs to be another box you can tick labeled "They all sound awful".
Load More Replies...This is just sad. I can't imagine being so limited. If I want to go to the shore, I get in my car and drive there. I enjoyed college and grad school. I was taught since 4th grade to do my homework about political issues. I can not imagine not having these things in my life.
not doing or completing anything because of a man, be it boyfriend or husband. my niece had a full ride to MIT and did two semesters until she got with this guy. now the guy came from money so his folks were paying for his schooling but not for living expenses. he convinced her that if she quit school to support them both then he would do the same for her after he graduated. it wasn't one week after graduation that he dumped her because she was "too country" to marry. good thing i lived several states away because i would have gladly shown him what country girls can do...including how to fertilize a field with organic material.
Unless you know for sure the reason people don't get their licence I don't think you should comment. Most people either get too much anxiety or are able to take public transport everywhere. Same with leaving school. No reason they should finish if they can get a job without it. Don't know about voting as it's compulsory here.
Unfortunately, in some countries of the former Soviet Union having a car is still a luxury, not a necessity. And now being 36 I still can't drive and don't own a car, but use public transport and my own legs. And I know lots of people in their 40s, 50s and older whose families have never had a car.
I don't have driving license simply because I don't need it. I live in a big city and commute everywhere. I'd have more problem with javing a car than with not having one. If I go on vacation, I use public transportation too, unless I'm travelling with someone with car - it takes longer but is doable. And I don't have tons of money to spend on a driving licence which I'll not be using more often than 1-2 times per year.
I’m at the age where I can get my Learners license this summer, and I genuinely don’t want to. My anxiety is bad enough, I’d rather not be in control of something that could kill people with one wrong move!
Incredibly long nails and over the top false eyelashes.
Creating new body shaming trends like tight gap, nose gap, size of waist etc. Things men don’t even know exist, so it’s purely and solely women creating absolute nightmare of beauty standards for other woman. Growing up in the 00s it was traumatic and I wished newer generations would have stopped
It's a typo - that's supposed to say thigh gap. Like you're so thin that your thighs don't touch when you stand with your legs together. Some people find that attractive.
Load More Replies...I had someone make fun of my nose when I was 15. I am 67 now and I am still self conscious about it, even though others tell me there’s nothing wrong with it. This taught me to never criticize someone else’s body. You can do lifetime damage.
From a male perspective I feel like young women can't win. There is shaming for not meeting beauty standards. And then there's also shaming if they *try* to attain those standards. It's a no-win situation.
There's something to be said about ads and product companies inventing new insecurities for people to "fix". In every day life, people don't notice.
Oh, it's not females creating it for females. If it was, we would be having PMS Muffin Tops and Greasy Hair Dos and All Chocolate Diet. No, it's men telling us we should be ____ (fill in the blanks)
I disagree. It is mostly women doing this to other women. From the outside it looks a lot like a competition with trash talking.
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I'm 33 so I don't consider myself old yet, but I've seen young girls living through Snapchat & other apps, vehemently photographing themselves and everything around them. To me, it seems as if they care more about how they portray themselves online towards others (they don't even know), instead of enjoying the actual experiences.
Life was so much better and more simple when cell phones were not around.
I love mobile phones. Not all young people are constantly filming for social media
Load More Replies...I'm under 40.... Have a 22 year old daughter in law.... She lives for her socials.... Like to exclusion of her family.....
Correct me if I'm wrong. I think I understand this thought process. It might be similar to how left out I feel from the gaming community because I don't have a console and don't play online games live. But my bf does and he's done livestreams of him gaming. It makes me feel left out. Now, in terms of the post, here. It could be a similar feeling in that people are seeing other people doing stuff online, getting praised and attention, and seeing how it makes those people appear cool, others want to get in on the action. See what it's about. That kind of stuff. The appeal is starting to wane now that we're seeing all the problems having such a big online presence creates. But there will always be the next thing that comes along for society to obsess about.
Confirmation bias: you see what you want to see and now you see it all the time. But luckily I do not give a bumble bees flurry back about what you think and will continue to portray the world around me as much as I like.
My mom expects me to take hundreds of photos of my kids every day and she asks and pleads for photos all the damn time. My bf's dad thought that her requests weren't too bad so he started to send her photos. But she's asking him for photos now every time she knows the kids are with my bf's parents. So now they also know what a pain in the butt she is regarding photos of her grandkids. She is clearly disappointed when I tell her that I often prefer to enjoy being with my kids and creating nice memories for us all instead of looking at my kids' lives through my phone's camera. I suppose my mom is, in her own way, sort of like the young women op's talking about. Lol
Putting up with b******t you know isn't ok. We all do this but as 40 something it's painful to watch young women continue to just stay in abusive or even just frustrating imbalanced relationships. Realize your worth ladies..sooner than later.
This isn't something new. Women have endured this generation after f*****g generation. But it's true that we keep hoping the new generation will be stronger.
They have endured terrible marriages through the years, but nowadays they should have the ability to leave.
Load More Replies...I've stopped meddling and caring. As long as I know there isn't violence going on and children aren't involved, I just leave it up to the couple to figure it out. Otherwise you'll end up putting yourself in the middle of their fuckery and no one's got time for that.
Being on an abusive relationship can be like you are in ' the eye of the storm'. It seems normal, it seems OK...if you know someone in one who hasn't worked it out, let them know you are worried for them, and you will be there when they need you, and let them know that whenever it is appropriate....not every time you see them, it becomes a broken record, but here and there. Hopefully it it rhe gentle beginning of the storm when they realise, sadly more often it is not. Been there, love and support got me out
Can I add a corollary, "he said he loves me and he's sorry ". Get out!
heh me...I have a friendship...She hits me all the time and I just deal with it. Keep your head down and blend in. Am I right??
No hon. This person is NOT your friend, and I think you know this. It doesn't matter what pretty words someone says, if they hit you, you need to get away from them. You deserve better. You are worthy of kindness and respect.
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Glorifying submissive misogynistic gender roles, trying to codify it into law, and shaming others who exercise and defend their rights to choose something else for their life.
Right? Why do old, fat, rich white men have the right to tell me what I can and cannot do with MY body?
Wait, what submissive misogynistic gender roles are young women trying to get codified into law?
well, there are currently 9 states where you cannot get a divorce if you are pregnant, even if the guy is beating you because it infringes upn his rights. HAHAHAHAHA... good times, yeah, and 14 states where you cannot get an abortion, meaning, you don't get to decide when or whether to have children, you Do As You Are Told. And oh, honey there's still an $0.83 to the dollar pay gap between men and women. I got hired in this one place for the same job on the same day as this guy I know and he made $17000 more a year - neither one of us had any experience doing this job. So advocate for all the women you know because we are no longer full citizens of the United States.
Load More Replies...Yes, young women, but obviously not all, and yes, older women, but not all. And "generalizing"? When you put it that way, every comment is "generalizing". For example, some women cry in their social media and some don't , so if we put your comment in that context,; "I think your generalizing from women who need the attention so they air all their dirty laundry" ...you see how that becomes a dumb statement? Of course it's generalizing, because not all women do that..duh
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Van life.
The whole "Van life is so glamorous, look at me sipping my coffee sitting in the back of my van in front of the sunrise" thing is WAY overrated and very, very fake. Van life or camper life can be fun and an adventure at times, yes - but it comes with a LOT of work, expense and risk that people don't tell you about.
I think people glamorize van-life because it's what they can afford. If I couldn't afford to own or rent a house/apartment, I'd be living in my car. If I could afford an upgrade, I'd buy a van. Van-life is popular because it's an affordable alternative to renting an apartment.
I was forced to live in my car for seven months and believe me it was not glamorous or fun and I never felt safe. I was made homeless to know fault of my own and I had two cats that I refused to give up; I also could not afford thousands of pounds in down payments, references and credit checks etc.
My parents bought a camper when I was 11. It was OK for overnights or weekends, but then my father got to have an extended vacation one year. My parents packed me, and our cat, into the camper for a cross-country trip that summer. After two entire MONTHS in that f*****g camper, even though I liked seeing the country, I took a vow to never camp again, and I never have. If I go to a national park, don’t look for me at any of the camping sites. I won’t even do that glamping stuff. Nope. I will be staying at the lodge, where I have access to privacy, a full bathroom all to myself, an actual bed with sheets and everything, a nice big TV (and now internet), a restaurant, and room service—-and someone else does all the cooking and cleaning. So yeah, I can guarantee, with authority, that the van life people dream about will get real old real fast if they ever actually do it.
I'm not sure if "glamorous" is the point. For many young people it is only chance to have own space to live and they choose to see positives rather than be sour about it. My mom always share memories as they have to overcome some issues and they did it together. So yes, sometimes you have to take dump to the hole, but such is life :)
The pictures do not show you the cold, wet and damp that is part of it too. I used to fangirl over this too but found out it's not for me.
I did this for two years during grad school. I absolutely hate getting dressed sitting down and having my pee bottle freeze (Montana winters are friggin' brutal.)
The only motivation for me to get my driver's license is to travel coast to coast across Canada in an RV. I don't think I could stay sane living in a van. Nor safe. Probably get assumed I'm homeless or something.
I lived in a 10 foot wide mobile home for 3 years and it was the pits. No way I'd live in something even smaller in width.
Meh, I'd categorize this one alongside all the other false portrayals on social media. It's far from new or glamorous (although it does have its moments!). It's definitely not for everyone, but some of us have been doing it for a long time and wouldn't dream of being stationary. The movie Nomadland does the most accurate portrayal I've seen, and features real life pros like Bob Wells
So stupid,glamorizing homelessness.I feel for you if you are forced to do this but never having friends over for coffee,if you get sick or disabked what then?I freak out about getting older and not being able to take care of myself in my own home.I just spent a month in bed very sick with viral infection,what if i lived in a van or suv gives me nightmares for these people.never mind how dangerous nowadays with all kinds of nutjobs out there and you all parking in secluded places.all kinds of wrong thus life.
Focusing on their social media appearance. The lighting, the posing…it’s all for likes.
Posting where they are. Where they go.
The complete transparency over their location floors me after being told not to tell people that stuff online.
I worry that a lot of young people are too aware of their social media standing and appearance and aesthetic and are forgetting to find and love themselves for who they are.
The day that social media disappears will be a day to celebrate getting our humanity back.
Actually it'll be a day of mass suicides and breakdowns when these people realize they have no life. A life based on vanity is no life at all. (edit typo)
Load More Replies...I find it interesting that so many people are bashing social media - by posting on social media.
Apparently having a social media presence is easier at getting you any job these days, and not having one raises suspicion.
I have never and will never sign up for any social media. I have no FB, no Insta, no Twitter, no TikTok, no nothing. People practically fall down in shock when I tell them. They *always* ask: "How to you keep up with everyone then? How do you tell people what you're up to either?" And when I say, "I talk to them." they look at me like I have two heads. Then next question is always, "Don't you want to share your life with pics though?" And they're even further shocked when I say no.
I'm an older millennial and I feel pressure to be to show how perfect my life is on Instagram. I can only imagine how much harder it must be for Generation Z who share so much of their life on social media. Instagram used to be a fun place to share photography. Now it is just idiotic influencers posting reels and advertisements.
I used to know someone who got dressed up and full makeup even though they weren't going anywhere..just for social media..
I couldn't imagine posting where I am at any given moment. If I was at a restaurant or on holiday I might post about it, but only after I got back home.
Botox in their early 20s. There's nothing there. What wrinkles are you trying to fix?
For real... I have two coworkers that were doing this and both are in their 20's and when I asked why they said to stop the wrinkles before they happen. Like girl.... just use some sunscreen and eat and sleep right. goodness
Also, incorporating a vitamin c serum and retinols into a skin care routine in your 20s will also do a lot of good. They protect and promote collagen. And don't forget to moisturize and wear your sunscreen.
Load More Replies...There was a recent scientific study that found that people woth botox became less empathetic. When we are interacting with other people, we subtly and unknowingly mirror their facial expressions, which activates mirror neurons in the brain and tunes us in to the other person's emotional state. Botox removes the ability to make these microexpressions, and, over time, deadens empathy.
Also having a conversation with someone that can not emote can from personal experience lead to a lot of confusion and even provoke others. It can appear as not responding/emoting properly to something that is being said or done. A friend of mine would keep making odd and random self-centered statements and looking at me for a response like I was supposed to be excited, and I took it as her bragging about things randomly and opted to not give it too much attention- only to find years later that she had been making ironic jokes! (She couldn't move her eyebrows so she just gave an oddly exited smile). Or, you know, look at the eurovision winner this year not seeming to care and appearing shallow and self-centered when actually I'm pretty sure she just git WAY too much botox...
Load More Replies...I have never understood the trend of injecting botulism into your face at all...
I don't understand botox for anyone, except as a medically necessary procedure for saliva or sweat glands etc
Actually, lines come from repeated use of the facial muscles in the same patterns, forming the muscles in a certain way. When the skin gets thinner, you see these patterns. So it actually make more sense to use botox preventatively (i.e. freezing the muscles so they don't build these patterns in the first place) than later-on. IF you want to use that sort of stuff at all and that is a big if. But another question entirely
Onlyfans. That’s going to haunt you forever
Why would anyone pay to watch porn when it’s so easily accessible to everyone for free whenever they want it on other websites? Anyone paying for OF need to grow a brain.
Tbh only fans is a way you can confirm you aren’t getting unethical porn as those people post it themselves
Load More Replies...1. Not really. Unless a future employer is one of your customers, in which case you can ask him why he was a customer, because then his alleged "morals" are equally suspect. OnlyFans is not open to the whole web, you can only see naughty stuff if you subscribe. 2. OnlyFans or similar are only a problem if you actually are judgemental about sex work. I think it's no different to any other work: you are selling your time, mind and/or body to get money. I do not really care how you do it, especially if no one is being harmed.
I dunno. Look at the suicide rates for porn stars and prostitutes. This kind of work might not be the best for your soul.
Load More Replies...Thank you. I have a friend whose daughter is on OnlyFans and she’s trying to convince everybody that no one will judge her and it’ll have no effect on her life in the future. I just can’t believe that. Human nature is what it is.
Anyone who judges her after seeing her is a subscriber, and therefore a hypocrite.
Load More Replies...ohh p**s off, they are becoming millionaires while they cannot even spell their names correctly...I would prefer this than my engineering job that gives me 50-60 thousand a year and massive anxiety attacks.
As long as the person accepts that their images may be on the Internet forever and is at peace with that, then it is up to them.
Buccal fat removal surgery.
Didn't know what this was, googled it. This should definitely be higher.
What is it? I couldn't find any comments that actually explained what it was
Load More Replies...Sadly because they women believe it will give them cheekbones that can slice through metal.
Load More Replies...What are they going to look like when they're old and they wish they still had some of that natural fat?
i'm insecure about my face shape (for gender dysphoria reasons, as well as DID reasons) so I have to ~softly~ disagree with this one.
Low-rise jeans.
Don’t do it, kids! Learn from our mistakes!
I like it TBH. I hate highrises, they make you look like you have a huge a*s and a fat stomach.
I suspect this depends on your body type. I have a mummy tummy and high rise jeans work like shape wear for me. I don’t wear them with crop tops, though, only shirts long enough to cover the tops of my jeans. Low cut jeans give me an apron stomach. But this is why there needs to be options, instead of only high rise/low rise.
Load More Replies...F**k no, i am struggling to find them, i am 35 and i hate the fact everything is high waist now, it’s so uncomfortable and it looks horrendous on my body
For me it’s the opposite.Low rise makes my look wide and like a square while high rise gives me a figure.But it depends on your body type
Load More Replies...Up there they are commenting that high-rise jeans are awful and here you're saying that low-rise jeans are awful. What should we wearing so you don't think we look bad? Lol
You need loooooow jeans like this from the 2000s, I'm sure... 🤷😉 d8475de28e...0h1125.jpg
the low rise trend was only hateful because it seemed the entire industry forgot that there are women who don't want to have to consider waxing in order to put on jeans. the only benefit i got was the fact that since i have what is considered a "low waist" a low rise jean fit me great but looked like a normal waist line. at least now there is some choice.
I like my jeans low rise and boot cut. They are becoming obsolete. My feet are too big to wear skinny jeans. I end up looking like Ronald McDonald
I grew up in the 90s and wore the big baggy pants. If I could see more than just the tips of my shoes sticking out, they weren't big enough! I still can't bring myself to wear skinny jeans.
Load More Replies...Why not? I am 54 and wear low rise, the high ones always hurt. I don't get it, if you don't have hang overs or cover them up nicely , there is nothing wrong.
I love low-rise jeans and I can't understand why anyone voluntairly wears jeans that cut your stomach in half when you sit, to the poinflt that you cannot breath... High rise trousers are the nightmare of my childchood.
They're great for those of us who are incredibly short-waisted. Normal rise jeans ride up to my bra! This style actually hits my waist. :)
I am annoyed by the 90s high-water jeans paired with the ugliest sneakers ever. I have never understood fashion because I come from a poor family and I wore what my parents could afford to buy me. This included jeans that eventually were too short for me. I was bullied for my short pants. But now everyone wants mom jeans. They are hideous and unflattering.
nope, love mom jeans. You know the ones that actual cover your butt and come to your waist... not your hips!! I am almost 50 and I love them... even loved them when I was in my 20's in the 90's!!!!
Second vote for so-called "Mom jeans"! But they are *so* hard to find! And after a "certain age", low-rise jeans just make you look stupid and/or desperate.
Load More Replies...YES! I have a half dozen beautiful, young, single, childless cousins and they all seem to be dressing like 80s & 90s moms!
I'm sick of skinny jeans, I look like a big topped carrot. Give me straight or bootleg jeans anyday. And pockets. Gave up, started buying men's straight leg jeans, hooray, and THEY HAVE POCKETS
Not wearing sunscreen and still going tanning. My sister died at age 36 from skin cancer and it is still a struggle to convince younger girls of all ethnicities to wear sunscreen and stop tanning. Use a fake tanner or/and love the skin you're in.
Yup 75 when I can find it.... But I'm scary pale 😂
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I'm definitely not considered older woman yet, so J apologise as my view may not count but one thing I've noticed since starting a new job and working with some 17-20 year olds has given me a few yikes
One is the weird obsession with knowing where their partners is at all times, one girl threw a mini fit because her partners Snapchat location wasn't on and she was scarily angry about it
And the weird glorification I've seen about being 'psycho' is such a weird red flag. Amount of them boasting about borderline mentally abusive things or acts they do to their partners is f*****g WILD and frankly scares me a little
A long time ago I had a bf's location because I didn't trust him. Checking his location became obsession like to me. I finally learned that if I have the need for it I need to reevaluate our relationship. I tell my 19 y/o the same thing.
TF..... If you can't trust your partner don't partner there.... Don't throw fits
I am 50. I am actually amazed by young women's self confidence. So many of the amazing young adults I meet through my kids just scream self confidence. I still feel insecure at 50. Maybe it is because since they could be online everyone had an opinion on them and they had to learn just not to care. But so many of them, even if it is not there fake that self confidence.
I have said I wanted to be my middle child when I grew up her whole life. She is just fierce. She makes no excuses for who she is. She is amazing. And her life is not always easy. She just handles the world like it is hers to be handled. And I watch the same thing from her brother, her sister and about every one they know. They kind of give me hope the world is getting better.
I was laughing at my 12 yo great niece. I have taken care of her since she was 9 months old. She does competition cheer. But the faces she makes. Wow. Straight fierce. That's what I wanna be when I grow up.
I think the confidence thing with your kids says a lot about you as a parent too. We tend to surround ourselves with people who are similar to us as well. I see this as a good job!
There seems to be a hype culture about being a stripper or selling pics of one's feet on the Internet. 14 year olds are discussing how to best get a sugar daddy. Weird. And scary.
This is real small, and makes me feel real ancient, but pulling their bathing suits up their butt cracks. It just looks SO uncomfortable to me, but y’all do you. I’ll sit over in my full coverage, granny bathing suit that’s probably ugly, but I’ll be comfy 😂
Knee length boardies and a rashie top for me. The UV rays here in Australia are insane. Slip slop slap
Slip slop slap shade...rashie, board shorts and 50+ sunscreen...aussie sun is a killer
Load More Replies...My momma had the cutest suit when I was a kid(90s) full... Cute lil attached skirt
I only buy that sort now, means I don't have to worry about my bikini line maintenance :)
Load More Replies...I’d rather be mildly uncomfortable than wear something ugly. Plus granny panties / bottoms are uncomfortable too. I hate the way granny panties feel. Something that hugs the body and looks flattering is way more comfortable. Pulling your suit up your buttcrack is also ugly and uncomfortable though. I just wear high waisted thongs / cheeky swim bottoms.
Passive aggressive roommate fights.
The layers can get really impressive, but in a terrible way. "A wrote B a note about dishes but C thought it was about them so C wrote A a note then B came home and thought it was for her so she texted the group chat and..."
DUDE. TALK TO PEOPLE. TALK. TO. PEOPLE. This is the perfect time in your life to be practicing assertiveness and healthy conflict resolution. All this s****y note-writing and vague group text chatting and b******t is making whatever the problem is a thousand times worse.
YES. Talk to the other humans. "Uh, just text me" - no, you isolated little bridge troll, I won't. This situation requires an actual conversation. Learn to deal with it.
I feel like screenshots could go along with this post. I have a 19 y/o daughter and the amount of screenshots she will send me to clue me in on something she wants to complain about. Same with my 16 y/o niece.
I personally do not like texting very much. I would much rather talk on the phone for 5 minutes and get whatever it was across versus sending endless text messages that may be taken out of context and that can cause so many unnecessary issues. I'm only in my mid thirties but I definitely prefer talking on the phone for multiple reasons lol
Being so awesomely confident in their bodies that they wear whatever they want. I was taught to hide my flaws so I am puzzled, and proud, of them for loving themselves amidst the societal pressure to conform.
I've learned this adopted this and love this..... OMG no more body issues
This one feels good. Do not let anyone dictate how you are supposed to feel about yourself.
Letting everyone on the internet knowing exactly whare you are at all times and what your schedule is seems a bit nuts.
Watch the movie The Bling Ring. That's how ALL those stars got robbed. Paris Hilton almost lost her dog. Orlando Bloom never got his vintage watches back.
I do not know who does this but I do share location with friends and family continuously in case I get kidnapped or similar.
Wearing crop tops and loungewear to restaurants, stores and other public places that aren't gyms. I don't understand the just rolled out of bed look.
Lounge wear, sure. But crop tops? Lots of crop tops are suitable for public places and don’t look like pajamas.
Right? I would never wear a crop top to bed, personally
Load More Replies...Couple years ago my college had to put up a sign saying that girls wouldn’t be allowed in the dining hall without shirts, because half of them would be walking around in just their bras. I don’t mean skimpy crop tops that are nevertheless still actual clothes. I literally mean just bras.
I'm a home maker by trade I usually work nude (no central air)so when I do leave the house I do it comfy
Background: I’m 40, so an older millennial, and one thing I’ve noticed in the workplace is how damn impressed boomers are with excellent Excel skills. It’s something I’ve always laughed about because it’s such a basic skill and older folks always fawn all over my excel sheets. Then we got a Gen Z employee who simply said she could quickly code a program in an afternoon to meet several of the needs that our excel sheets were meeting. Even as someone who has some basic understanding and experience of Stata and R Studio (just a couple of grad level courses for non practitioners) I have no idea what the f**k she did or how she did it. She just laughed at my awe. I am now becoming that person who is impressed with skills that the next generation finds very basic. edit: wow, reading through this thread is like a primer on internalized misogyny. I’m really saddened by all the older women who are expressing displeasure about young women’s bodies and looks. Just let them be, for f**k’s sake, and try to teach them what you’ve learned and learn what you don’t understand from them.
we're running into almost the opposite- we need people with basic computer skills but because people are being raised on phones and not using PC's, we get people who don't know how to cut & paste, don't know how to navigate multiple windows, don't even know how to type. they are geniuses with their phones, but put them on a PC and they're totally lost.
I love watching new hires assume that all office screens are touch screens and frantically stabbing at icons wondering why nothings happening.
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Putting up with s**t partners. When I was in my 20s, I dated around. Guy got too aggressive? Dump. Tried to change me? Dump. Lied? Dump. Married 20 years now, because I waited to find a good one.
Stop asking how to change him or yourself. Dump and move on.
No, maybe you have toxic personality traits and you DO need to change. I'm dating someone right now with this problem. She thinks she's perfect and wonderful but she's the filthiest laziest person I have ever met. And when I criticise her she cries about it. It's unacceptable. Learn to take criticism if it is correct, objective, and factual.
Sending nudes to men they're not dating. "Talking" to guys...just go on a few dates and decide if you want a relationship for gods sake. All this "we've been talking for a few months now" is weird
Yeah.... But that goes both ways..... No more d pix unless we ask.... We know what it looks like... Cool you're a boy
I like the idea that if you get a diick pic, you track down the guy's mom and share it with her. Brilliant.
Load More Replies...no it's much better to not commit, so you can get out easier. Most relationships that I've had have not worked and it's been a mess to disentangle.
Not appreciating how feminism has improved all of society’s choices (not just women's) and not standing in support of the continuing work. Young conservative women - just, why? E: Correction. Thanks for the gold!
I never understand a woman or black person who votes Republican, it's like... do you have stockholm syndrome? These people would like you back in the kitchen and cotton fields. VOTE THEM OUT EVERY TIME.
I don't understand how some women in the U.S. claim that they are for women's rights and still endorse Donald Trump when he has spewed some of the most disgusting misogynistic comments against them and was also found guilty of sexual abuse.
From conversations w/an ex-pal (white woman), it's first of all fear. They fear other races, nationalities & the poor (even if they're not rich). Republicans know their audience & all that fearmongering hits the bullseye every time. Once they've bought into the fallacy, then it's a matter of pride to never be wrong & admit they've been had. All of those stupid lines you hear different people spewing like robots online & on interviews are repeated by their followers & (like a cult) becomes their absolute, undeniable truth. You show them evidence to the contrary & it's all "lies from the media".
I don't know how common it is, but I see a lot of posts on Reddit from women who live with deadbeat partners who play video games all day and smoke weed. They may work a bit or not, but the women are largely responsible for their financial situation. Why would women who make enough money to support themselves alone subject themselves to that?
AGREED! Though I'm starting the think they seek these relationships out for the "martyr clout" on social media
Often there are children involved and the 'free childcare' of a gaming parent is the only option.
Not using barrier birth control is another.
I don't understand why girls want to inflate their lips. Also girls with pointy long fingernails who have babies. I remember having an aunty with long fingernails and I used to hate holding her hand when I was tiny.
The whole eyebrow thing.
They could be talking about shaving them and redrawing them
Load More Replies...Eh...I survived the 90s and the whole I was surprised while drawing on my brows in sharpie look... So yeah
Wearing the awful, unflattering mom jeans that MY deeply unstylish 1980s mother looked frumpy in.
Especially the khaki ones. Very frumpy but I think frumpy is in style to some of them.
This is like the third one that mentions Mom jeans. The government didn't allocate mom jeans to everyone. Just wear whatever you want.
Load More Replies...Well done makeup including contouring. I am an old hag and NEVER mastered the art and now it seems like everyone is able to do it and no matter what I still look like a rodeo clown if I try. Young women who are into it seem to watch a couple of videos and become total artists. Beginner tutorial: find the right shade… Aaaaand I’m done.
I didn't learn until my 20s; I went to the makeup counter at the military exchange and the gal working there basically taught me how to choose shades/colors, how to apply them, etc. We're still friends years later :)
The performative nature of everything. Ask someone to a dance? Have signs and cameras filming and gifts….they film everything. It’s insane. There’s no concept of privacy or events being just for them and their loved one(s). It’s like it’s all a movie or play put on for the world to see 100% of the time. They don’t seem to live their lives for themselves but for followers. It’s really sad.
All the dancing and celebrity-impersonation on Instagram and TikTok. It’s as if they’ll disappear into oblivion if they don’t follow the ongoing trends.
It is active, it is creative and it is exactly what we did in the 80's/90's.
Sending nudes to a guy online or sending him texts/DM's revealing intimate information they don't even know simply because the guy asked. Don't do it! There are so many male influencers and social media "stars" being exposed as creeps for getting young women to send nudes or mention personal info and then doxxing them or doing revenge porn.
arrestable offence in my country. Speak to your senator and get it banned.
Dating apps, wanting a relationship but feeling obligated to have sex quickly ("because how else will you get to know each other and be in a relationship"), and lip fillers just hardly ever look good. Oh, and the flaired pants being back in, especially when it's just like a black legging material and the bottoms are fraying from dragging on the floor, reminds me of when I was a dorky 13 year old
Meh to complaining about easy sex. Sex isn't a big deal unless you're a far-right christian Handmaid. F**k that. If you want to have sex go ahead. Really this stigmatisation is so medieval it is scary.
I don't think op just meant women tho.... The pressure is on the men too
Load More Replies...How young they are getting botox, fillers, lip fillers
In the UK you don't have to be a doctor to sell/give injections of fillers.
Load More Replies...Following people on social media that just make them feel bad about themselves. Comparing yourself to a highly curated & filtered persona is so damaging to self-esteem.
Giving too much information out. I notice a lot of younger women are more lenient about being disrespected by their partners. Accepting it as a person just telling their TRUTH, however not understanding a person can be truthful without being an A-hole
Speaking with vocal fry, whether entirely or using it to finish every sentence. To be fair, not just women do this, but it does seem to be related to age and/or social media consumption.
a way of speaking in which the voice is very low-pitched and has a characteristic rough or creaking sound. "she tweaks the way teen girls actually talk, with high-rising terminals, vocal fry, and ‘like’ for emphasis"
Load More Replies...I can't stand it. You see kids who look about 17 with voices that sound like they've smoked a pack of Camels a day for 30 years. Such a transparent affectation.
Hold on to men that use them and want nothing to do with them. They stay in dead end relationships with men that have nothing and will never give them anything
Why do we pit one group of women against another like this? We don't have articles about why younger men think older men are horrible, do we?
I think you may be reading this wrong. Most of these posts that weren't light-hearted were people worrying about the younger women, not criticizing or judging them.
Load More Replies...each generation has its thing. Internalised misogyny is a thing. Stop hating women for doing what they want to do. As long as they are not voluntarily submitting themselves to Republicans/Taliban/Gender Based Violence, it's fine.
Young women don't puzzle me? I'm 50 and each generation is different and unique. I think young women today need all the support they can get from us older women. We must all have each others back and not criticise. For all you younger ladies, you are inspirational, amazing and you just be you. Women of all ages rule.
I couldn't stand the whole post. A lot of these comments are rude, misogynistic and feel a little angry
Girls doing tik toks of rants or some nonsense while putting makeup on.
It just sounds like women are hating on other women for no reason. Maybe mind your own business?
I think you may be reading this wrong. Most of these posts that weren't light-hearted were people worrying about the younger women, not criticizing or judging them.
Load More Replies...Why do we pit one group of women against another like this? We don't have articles about why younger men think older men are horrible, do we?
I think you may be reading this wrong. Most of these posts that weren't light-hearted were people worrying about the younger women, not criticizing or judging them.
Load More Replies...each generation has its thing. Internalised misogyny is a thing. Stop hating women for doing what they want to do. As long as they are not voluntarily submitting themselves to Republicans/Taliban/Gender Based Violence, it's fine.
Young women don't puzzle me? I'm 50 and each generation is different and unique. I think young women today need all the support they can get from us older women. We must all have each others back and not criticise. For all you younger ladies, you are inspirational, amazing and you just be you. Women of all ages rule.
I couldn't stand the whole post. A lot of these comments are rude, misogynistic and feel a little angry
Girls doing tik toks of rants or some nonsense while putting makeup on.
It just sounds like women are hating on other women for no reason. Maybe mind your own business?
I think you may be reading this wrong. Most of these posts that weren't light-hearted were people worrying about the younger women, not criticizing or judging them.
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