There are a million-billion things that can go wrong on the wedding day, but none sting as painfully as a groom who fails to show up for the ceremony. But it can be worse. And it was.

A bridesmaid recently went online to ask if she was a jerk for putting her very drunk brother, the groom, on loudspeaker without him knowing it while his wife-to-be heard all of the ranting he did, mainly how he didn’t want to marry her despite having been together with her for 18 years.

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A lot of things can go wrong at weddings, but nothing really hurts as much as a groom not showing up

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So, let’s unpack. We have “Ben”, the 39-year-old groom, and “Abby”, the 39-year-old bride in this story, who have been together for 18 years. 8 of which were lived out in engagement, and 3 years ago, the two “nearly” got married, but Ben got cold feet some months before, so the wedding was called off.

Well, fast forward to just several days ago when they were attempting to take another stab at this marriage thing and the groom was nowhere to be found. While at first they were giving Ben the benefit of the doubt, several hours of waiting only led to more worry, so while the bride went back to the hotel, everyone else went out to search for him.

And this woman seemingly added fuel to the fire by putting the groom on loudspeaker while he was ranting about the wedding and the bride… who heard everything

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And find him they did. Drinking at a bar. OP got a text from her brother-in-law about it, and that they were trying to talk him into going to his own wedding. It was so ridiculous, OP described the ruckus she overheard over the phone as him acting like “a 5-year-old who didn’t want to go to the doctor.”

So, OP had had enough of him leading Abby along for 18 years, so she turned on the loudspeaker, went to the bride’s room, and let Ben rant about how she wasn’t “the one,” and he’s only with her because he’s scared to be alone at this point. He was not aware of this improvised eavesdropping.

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After this, Abby grabbed the phone, told Ben he had one hour to appear at the church, or it was over. He ended up appearing there in 20 minutes, at which point Abby simply left him at the altar and bolted on their honeymoon alone.

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The end result was that nearly everyone in OP’s family “disowned” her, leading her to ask if she was wrong to do what seemed right

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Needless to say, there were people who were furious with OP, but she didn’t expect a lot of people to be. In short, almost the entire family, save for her two sisters, were upset with her and “disowned” her. It was so intense that she had to have one of the other bridesmaids collect her suitcase which was very conveniently (not really) left there by her mother.

So, she turned to the Am I The A-Hole? community for some perspective on the issue, and perspective she got. Most were actually supportive of her, saying she did the right thing by doing the bride a favor and just getting it over with, especially after 18 years. If anything, some thought the bride needed to hear him say it.

For the most part, folks online were on OP’s side, though there were some who argued that she could’ve just not butted in

Some others opted for calling everyone a jerk in this situation, with the most backlash dedicated to the brother as he was leading someone on for that long. OP could’ve taken a different route, but her intentions were good, so there was that. The mom was overreacting, period. The only person who could truly be called a victim was Abby, so some were hoping her honeymoon-now-turned-vacation is at least good.

Whatever the case, the post got over 21,600 upvotes and engagement reached over 2,400 comments, which you can check out here. And you can also take a look at other AITA posts we’ve covered here.

But don’t go just yet, as we’d love to hear your opinion on this whole situation in the comment section below!

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