Ozacoter, ah, you got a good one! When my health risks were known, I couldn 't get a hysterectomy, etc. (I was in my late 20s, I might somehow miraculously be cured?). So my hubby got a vasectomy. At a family event where we were pestered, he stood up and yelled, "I got my balls cut!" and that.... was that. :-)

My uterus was literally killing me and it still took 8 years of incapacitatingly painful hell to win the right to a hysterectomy, because all my religious doctors decided, "Who cares if you die? Women are supposed to have uteruses and are supposed to have children. So no." Even afterward everyone told me how selfish I was for "choosing" my literal life over the vague possibility of that diseased death trap nurturing a future child. People need to get their hands the f**k out of everyone elses' uteruses.

I've heard other women say the same things, doctors refusing to do sterilizing procedures on women because they're "too young" or they assume "you'll change your mind". Do men who ask for vasectomies have to put up with this s**t?

Ozacoter: You're finally getting it done. Hooray. I'm glad and hope all goes well. That what your partner said is gold btw. Bless you both.

But on the other hand, you're never too young to have children. No one thinks it's weird to make such a life altering decision (for you AND FOR ANOTHER WHOLE HUMAN F*CKING BEING) at 18-20, but it's impossible to decide you don't want children until your in your 50s or something. It makes no sense at all.

Doctors are the worst. Men can get a vasectomy pretty much at any age, whether they've fathered a child or not. Women are treated like brood mares who have no brain or ability to know their own wants and needs.

i kno how u feel. i have epilepsy and id b considered high risk if i got pregnant. i want kids so i currently have 5 high risk doctors along with my nuerologist figuring out which meds i can take while pregnant and the safest way for me to b pregnant. not only that my epilepsy is triggered by horomones so its tricky i cant take anything that decreases horomones if i want it to happen. i have a death risk but im taking every precaution. i just get so annoyed wen my family and in laws ask wen its gonna happen. my parents explained to my side its a process but my in laws r pushy bc all my husbands cousins have kids, his brothers wife cant have kids so we r the only ones left. it got to the point where my husband snapped and said they will have to wait unless they want me and the baby to die all bc we werent prepared and had a kid wen they wanted us to have one. his whole family with the exception of his parents felt horrible bc they didnt realize how difficult my situation was and the emotional pain im going thru. ever since i was a kid ive wanted a family of my own but at 13 my epilepsy became active and i felt like none of my dreams would become a reality. i still dont kno if its possible but if it turns out that there is no safe way we r going to adopt. my husband agreed to this bc i myself am adopted and if i wasnt we wouldve never met and we could give multiple kids a chance just like my parents gave me. i told him that even if i can have kids safely i want at least 1 adopted bc of the chance i was given i want to give that chance to a child myself. but i understand how u feel with the pressure of in laws and them not understanding the situation. mine kno im epileptic but didnt think it was a big deal for me to have kids and oh boy the look on my husbands face wen he told them off. the look on their faces tho was pure horror like they realized that if i got pregnant prematurely and died my husband would see it as their fault and probably detach himself from everyone but his parents and siblings.

I read that as "change his tuna"