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Many of us try on many identities as we grow up. There are many phases one can have: a Tamagotchi phase, an emo/scene phase, a fedora phase – you name it. Some people even go through their looking-like-a-mob-boss phase.

Whatever it is, it often makes folks cringe and want to hide the evidence of that time in the deepest of voids. However, some people are brave enough to share their embarrassing moments with the rest of the world. The subreddit Blunder Years is the perfect place for that, as it has over a million netizens sharing the pics from their childhood and teen years where they thought they looked their very coolest, yet actually were anything but.

Bored Panda reached out to social science researcher Karla McLaren, M.Ed. She's an author and an emotions and empathy expert, who believes that even negative emotions like shame and embarrassment can help guide us into self-awareness.

McLaren told us more about how sharing cringe-worthy memories can help us overcome insecurities and shared the pitfalls of revisiting embarrassing blunders of the past. Read her expert insights below:

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#1

The First Photo Is When We Were All Around 13 Years Old. Last Is At My Friend's Wedding Last Year

Group of four friends posing together in 2011, 2019, and 2023, showing changes over the years, highlighting blunder years.

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    When I Was Nine, I Insisted On Being A Homeless Enron Employee For Halloween. The Stubble Is Mascara

    A young person in a suit and hat, smiling awkwardly, embodying blunder years nostalgia.

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    #3

    A Home Perm. I Had Several. This Was One Of Them

    Child with voluminous, curly hair in a red shirt with a number design, reflecting blunder years fashion.

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    13 hours ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I had a friend who willingly did this yr 7 through to graduation 😝 we laugh about it now, because between 1999 to 2004 - it was NOT the in time for perms 😂

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    The resurgence of nostalgia doesn't seem to be going away soon. We love to remember our favorite movies, TV shows, characters, and toys, but nostalgia is often only about the good things. We tend not to want to remember things that confused us, brought us pain, or made us feel embarrassed.

    Yet we're okay with some embarrassment. The Blunder Years subreddit walks the fine line between hurtful embarrassing memories and relatable embarrassment perfectly. Folks share photos from their past to, as the subreddit's bio puts it, "laugh and regret together."

    #4

    Twenty Years Ago I Was In A Screamo Band. Now, I’m 40

    Teen in emo outfit posing with friends in garage, capturing an embarrassing blunder years moment.

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    PeepPeep the duck
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    13 hours ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I got invited to see some play from kids at art school - some of the teenagers invited me to a garage at their house (I was 23ish then). It was so cute 😝

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    #6

    2008 I Was Sooo Proud Of My Hair 😹

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    13 hours ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I came before these emos, (classic goth) I always admired how they did the big hair ❤️ (and paved the way for social acceptance in regards to alternative dress styles), before their glorious emergence we were just literal weirdo freaks and possible ‘satinists’.

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    We spoke with emotions and empathy expert Karla McLaren about how the impact of sharing embarrassing moments from our childhood and teen years with others impacts our mental health. "Memory is a strange thing," she says. "It's not an accurate record of the past, and each time we replay a memory, we change it."

    However, McLaren claims that there are both positives and negatives in remembering our cringey memories. "Sharing past experiences can be very healthy if you're looking to find the humor or the growth you've experienced since then. But if you're revisiting it and increasing your sense of dread or pain, it can be counterproductive."

    #7

    On My Way To See The Jonas Brothers

    Child posing in a pink top and capri jeans during their blunder years, standing confidently with hand on hip.

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    PeepPeep the duck
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    13 hours ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Hahhaha I love it ❤️ that age where you’re ’so grown up’ in you’re own head 😂

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    2012 - 10/11 Year Old Me With Jeffree Star In Toronto 😭😭😭

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    That's why McLaren warns people to be careful when reminiscing about their regrettable past. "Focusing on what you learned and how you've overcome difficult things can be very healing, but you do have to take care!" Remember: as long as you're revisiting things that only make you laugh or cringe with humor, it's all good.

    #10

    Mullet, Skinny Leather Tie, Grade 9 Me Was A Vision. Of Something

    Teen in a school photo wearing a blue shirt and tie, capturing a moment from their blunder years.

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    My Boyfriend And His Mom In 1992

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    Daniel Atkins
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    15 hours ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    That face says none of my friends have posed like this. Why are we doing it this way?

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    #12

    My Father Left Behind A Legacy Of Cool And I Am Letting Him Down

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    As teens and pre-teens, we have lots of insecurities: we think our noses are crooked, our hair is the wrong color, or our feet too big. Looking back at ourselves during that formative time might help us overcome some of them. "Sharing your clumsy, silly, or shame-inducing blunders has a kind of daylighting effect," McLaren notes. 

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    #14

    I Still Have To Hear My Dad Trash My Mom For Letting Me Choose These Rainbow Glasses...but I Loved Them

    Child in glasses and a balloon shirt during their blunder years, smiling against a blue background.

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    I Was 14, The Rapper 50 Cent Was My Idol, My Mom Took The Picture

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    According to McLaren, one of the best ways to deal with shame is to be open about it. "This helps you because you're not keeping secrets from yourself," she explains. "But it also helps others to see you do it, so that maybe they can bring some light and fresh air to their own very human blunders. It can also help you and everyone else laugh, lighten up, and create closer bonds," the emotions and empathy expert says.

    #16

    14yo Me In 2004... Thats What I Wore While Tearing Down The Old Trailer.... New Trailer In The Back

    Teen with spiked hair in plaid shirt and red pants stands among debris, capturing a blunder years moment.

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    #18

    Dressing Like This To Play The Sims 2 By Myself

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    7 hours ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Played all the way from the Sims up to the Sims 4. Sims 3 will always be my favorite

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    When embarrassing moments like the ones in this list are put on the internet for everyone to see, it's important how we frame that embarrassment. "If people are humorous and lighthearted (and not treating the embarrassed person as a target), it can lighten up the whole experience for everyone," McLaren says.

    "But if the embarrassment is being used to mock, shame, or bring another person low, then it's just exposing, unkind, and often abusive. It really depends on the context and the intention."

    #19

    Showed Up To Homeschool Group In A Homemade Narwhal Costume

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    #20

    There’s No Need For How Much I Spent On Skinny Jeans And White Studded Belts Between 2009 And 2012

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    #21

    Got My Hair & Makeup Done At Libby Lu At The Mall For My Birthday. I Thought I Was So Cool

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    This generation, it seems, is doing just fine with embarrassment and shame. The recent "Rejection therapy" trend is all about people going out of their comfort zone and getting used to their anxieties around it. People are going around and asking to speak into a plane's intercom or to take a nap at the mattress store and thus becoming insensitive to the word "No."

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    #22

    Halloween 1997, I Insisted On Going As A Generic Can Of Whipped Cream And Mom Delivered:

    Child in a whipped cream costume, embodying a nostalgic blunder from their younger years.

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    #24

    Feeding The Tamagotchis While Playing Habbo Hotel

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    36 minutes ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I have 2 Tamagotchis: my original from 1996 (I was 13 years old) and one I recently bought at age 41 LOL

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    Mental health experts say that it's similar to exposure therapy. You go into a controlled environment and face your fears head-on. Psychotherapist Rachel Goldberg told Bustle that it "[reduces] the intensity of the fear response and [promotes] confidence." Who knows, maybe sharing that embarrassing childhood pic may help you overcome an insecurity too?

    #25

    I Went To School Like This Everyday For Months. I Had Zero Friends

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    13 hours ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    We could of been friends, I wore al foil in my hair and as fake piercings at one school where I also had no friends because of shìt like this 😂

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    #26

    This Is How I Dressed Every Day Of Middle School And Some Of High School, Because I Loved Mob Movies And Frasier. I Am Loath To Use This Sub, Because I Still Think I Ate. 🤣

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    12 hours ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Photo of the winner of some corporation northwestern branch management contest

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    In the end, everybody gets embarrassed about something. According to Kristin Neff, an associate professor at the University of Texas at Austin's Department of Educational Psychology, when we're self-aware and don't take our embarrassing moments so seriously, we start to understand that everybody fails at some point. "Everyone struggles. This is what it means to be human," she said.

    #28

    Me And My Sister Around 2007. She Was The Scene Queen Of Myspace And I Just Wanted To Be Included In My Big Sisters Pictures

    Two people with emo hairstyles and hand gestures pose in front of a mirror during their blunder years.

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    1989 I Was So Excited For The New Recycling Program To Start That I Wanted To Be Recycling For Halloween

    Child in blue face paint and costume with "We Recycle" sign, embodying retro blunder years fashion.

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    My Wife Kickin' It With Her Dad In The Early 90s

    Two people in martial arts poses wearing white uniforms, kicking high during their blunder years in a studio setting.

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    What about you, Pandas? What kind of blunders do you think you could bring to the table? We've covered the Blunder Years subreddit many times in the past, but it seems like there can never be enough awkward stories, huh? So, if you want to see more embarrassing pics from people's childhoods, head over herehere, and here for more!

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    #31

    Took Me A Year To Grow A Full Jewfro In The 6th Grade...in 2006

    Young person with a large curly hairstyle, wearing a striped sports jersey, posing outdoors. Embarrassing blunder years moment.

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    Me And My Best Friend When We Were 17. I Had The Fattest Crush On Her For Years And Only Eventually Ended Up Dating Her For A Week

    Two people posing playfully in winter attire, embodying blunder years fashion, with colorful background and snow underfoot.

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    #35

    Yall Have Blunders, But Do You Have Anime Convention Going J-Fashion Loving Weeb Blunders?

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    #38

    When I Was 30 I Had A Pontiac Fiero Kit Car That I Used To Tell People Was A Real 25th Anniversary Lamborghini Countach. I Also Used To Pose For Photoshoots With It

    Person posing with a vintage white car, wearing sunglasses and a shiny outfit, embodying the essence of "blunder years."

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    3 hours ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Fieros were friggin awesome, for the four months you could keep one running!

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    2008/2024…i Put Holes In My Ears For The “Scene”

    Teen with gauged ears and a headband during blunder years, wearing a white shirt, sitting outdoors.

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    PeepPeep the duck
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    13 hours ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Omg I forgot about this one 😂 some people had some seriously big holes. Most people I knew with them had surgery to fix it, so you’d never know

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    #40

    2008, This Was My Everyday Winter Coat & Casual Hair

    Person in vintage attire sitting on a street chair, embodying blunder years style with a fur coat and glasses.

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    2005/6. Believed I Was Part Of Kings Of Leon And Cut My Own Fringe With A Stanley Knife. Wow

    Person in vintage plaid jacket with long hair smiling awkwardly, representing a blunder year style moment.

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    In 1996, I Was 12 And Got To Have Glamour Shots Done. 💁🏼‍♀️

    Person in glamorous attire from their blunder years, with curly hair and statement earrings.

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    All Dressed Up For The School Dance…

    Group of young people in creative outfits during their blunder years at a party.

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    #45

    Prom 2012. Yes, I Like Sum 41

    Teen with spiked hair and a tuxedo, representing embarrassing blunder years, standing outdoors with greenery background.

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    #46

    Seventh Grade - I Cut My Own Hair And Borrowed Dad’s Cow Tie

    Young person's school photo with retro haircut, wearing a white shirt and patterned tie, showcasing a "blunder years" style.

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    8th Grade Graduation, 2 Months After A Teacher Tried To Get Me Expelled For Having Blue Hair

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    My Mom Sent Me These Photos From My Elementary School 50’s Dance/Event. I Knew I Looked Fly, But Not This Fly. Circa ~2005

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    17 Year Old Me Thought Getting My Hands And Knuckles Tattooed Was Peek Coolness

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    MargyB
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    12 hours ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I decided that i really dislike tattooed hands. A lot of the time they make fingers look chunky

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    #53

    My Future Mother-In-Law Made 11 Year Old Me Pose With Some Zucchini She Grew Because She Was Proud Of It (1997). The “Zucchini Photo” Is Now Infamous In Our House

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    When Clinton Was Impeached, My Dad Made 4-Year-Old Me Pose With The Newspaper

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    Mary Green
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    8 hours ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Republicans lost their minds over Clinton and then elected a convicted felon and documented serial liar because hypocrisy means nothing to people with no moral compass.

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    #56

    I Thought I Was Peak Cool At This Moment In 2006

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    8 hours ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    It was a really short time frame. I remember vividly being a young adult in my 20s wondering why do them kids go to HS in their slippers ? No hate though. Some girlies could pull it off. For guys... Edit for remembering i am older than i usually think

    #57

    Taping My Friend To The Wall And Seeing How Many Of Us We Can Fit In Conjoining Doors Of Hotel Room

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    My Friend Made This For Me When I Was In High School At Some Point. I Truly Thought It Was The Most Xd Wrar Thing Of All Time. Also Why Did I Dress Like That

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    #59

    It's 2005. Guess How Many Viruses I Could Fit On This Bad Boy?

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    #62

    From 15-19 I Didn’t Leave The House Without A Guitar, Yes, I Was That Guy At A Party. (Photo From 2010)

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    Kept Reposting This On My Story When I Was 14 Thinking It Was The Key To Comedy

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    The Year Was 2011. This Kid Taught Me What Heartbreak Was. LOL

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    #65

    Young Me Going To My First Concert And Wanting To Be The Ultimate Alt Girlie

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    3 hours ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    1 year older and mom would've allowed the black eyeliner for the authentic look 😅

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    #66

    2012, Aged 16 And Thought We Were The Most Indiest Of Girls With College’s Borrowed Fisheye Lens

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    I Went Like This To School At 15yo, And Genuinely Didn't Understand Why I Was Bullied

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    9 hours ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Wearing a table cloth was probably not your best style choice

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    You're Welcome

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    6 hours ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    That looks like a whole box of Kleenex gone to waste.

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    Circa 2001. I Thought I Was Too Cool For Family Photos

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    2016 - Obsessed With Submarines And Not Very Well Liked At School

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    #72

    These Photos Still Haunt Me

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    #73

    We Liked Twilight Before It Was Cool 🧛‍♂️

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    #74

    16, In A Bar, Sitting On Top Of It... With A Cigarette. Terrible LOL 🫣

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    Stuart
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    4 hours ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    That doesn't look like a bar. And where's the cigarette?

    #75

    My Mom Convinced Me To Dye My Hair Blonde And Take A Picture With My Teacher In High School 2007

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    #76

    I Was 17 And Completely Convinced That I Was The Panic Pixie Dream Girl

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