77 Embarrassing Pics From People’s “Blunder Years” That They Would Like To Forget (New Pics)
Interview With ExpertMany of us try on many identities as we grow up. There are many phases one can have: a Tamagotchi phase, an emo/scene phase, a fedora phase – you name it. Some people even go through their looking-like-a-mob-boss phase.
Whatever it is, it often makes folks cringe and want to hide the evidence of that time in the deepest of voids. However, some people are brave enough to share their embarrassing moments with the rest of the world. The subreddit Blunder Years is the perfect place for that, as it has over a million netizens sharing the pics from their childhood and teen years where they thought they looked their very coolest, yet actually were anything but.
Bored Panda reached out to social science researcher Karla McLaren, M.Ed. She's an author and an emotions and empathy expert, who believes that even negative emotions like shame and embarrassment can help guide us into self-awareness.
McLaren told us more about how sharing cringe-worthy memories can help us overcome insecurities and shared the pitfalls of revisiting embarrassing blunders of the past. Read her expert insights below:
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Twenty Years Ago I Was In A Screamo Band. Now, I’m 40
I got invited to see some play from kids at art school - some of the teenagers invited me to a garage at their house (I was 23ish then). It was so cute 😝
What 12-Year-Old Me Considered Peak Fashion
A Home Perm. I Had Several. This Was One Of Them
I had a friend who willingly did this yr 7 through to graduation 😝 we laugh about it now, because between 1999 to 2004 - it was NOT the in time for perms 😂
The resurgence of nostalgia doesn't seem to be going away soon. We love to remember our favorite movies, TV shows, characters, and toys, but nostalgia is often only about the good things. We tend not to want to remember things that confused us, brought us pain, or made us feel embarrassed.
Yet we're okay with some embarrassment. The Blunder Years subreddit walks the fine line between hurtful embarrassing memories and relatable embarrassment perfectly. Folks share photos from their past to, as the subreddit's bio puts it, "laugh and regret together."
The First Photo Is When We Were All Around 13 Years Old. Last Is At My Friend's Wedding Last Year
My Boyfriend And His Mom In 1992
That face says none of my friends have posed like this. Why are we doing it this way?
When I Was Nine, I Insisted On Being A Homeless Enron Employee For Halloween. The Stubble Is Mascara
We spoke with emotions and empathy expert Karla McLaren about how the impact of sharing embarrassing moments from our childhood and teen years with others impacts our mental health. "Memory is a strange thing," she says. "It's not an accurate record of the past, and each time we replay a memory, we change it."
However, McLaren claims that there are both positives and negatives in remembering our cringey memories. "Sharing past experiences can be very healthy if you're looking to find the humor or the growth you've experienced since then. But if you're revisiting it and increasing your sense of dread or pain, it can be counterproductive."
This Was A Photoshoot I Did In 2010
2008 I Was Sooo Proud Of My Hair 😹
I came before these emos, (classic goth) I always admired how they did the big hair ❤️ (and paved the way for social acceptance in regards to alternative dress styles), before their glorious emergence we were just literal weirdo freaks and possible ‘satinists’.
On My Way To See The Jonas Brothers
Hahhaha I love it ❤️ that age where you’re ’so grown up’ in you’re own head 😂
That's why McLaren warns people to be careful when reminiscing about their regrettable past. "Focusing on what you learned and how you've overcome difficult things can be very healing, but you do have to take care!" Remember: as long as you're revisiting things that only make you laugh or cringe with humor, it's all good.
Dressing Like This To Play The Sims 2 By Myself
Showed Up To Homeschool Group In A Homemade Narwhal Costume
My Father Left Behind A Legacy Of Cool And I Am Letting Him Down
As teens and pre-teens, we have lots of insecurities: we think our noses are crooked, our hair is the wrong color, or our feet too big. Looking back at ourselves during that formative time might help us overcome some of them. "Sharing your clumsy, silly, or shame-inducing blunders has a kind of daylighting effect," McLaren notes.
There’s No Need For How Much I Spent On Skinny Jeans And White Studded Belts Between 2009 And 2012
2012 - 10/11 Year Old Me With Jeffree Star In Toronto 😭😭😭
I Went To School Like This Everyday For Months. I Had Zero Friends
According to McLaren, one of the best ways to deal with shame is to be open about it. "This helps you because you're not keeping secrets from yourself," she explains. "But it also helps others to see you do it, so that maybe they can bring some light and fresh air to their own very human blunders. It can also help you and everyone else laugh, lighten up, and create closer bonds," the emotions and empathy expert says.
Mistaken For A Substitute Teacher At Least Once In Junior High
14yo Me In 2004... Thats What I Wore While Tearing Down The Old Trailer.... New Trailer In The Back
1991, Off To My High School Graduation Ceremony
When embarrassing moments like the ones in this list are put on the internet for everyone to see, it's important how we frame that embarrassment. "If people are humorous and lighthearted (and not treating the embarrassed person as a target), it can lighten up the whole experience for everyone," McLaren says.
"But if the embarrassment is being used to mock, shame, or bring another person low, then it's just exposing, unkind, and often abusive. It really depends on the context and the intention."
2011 Homecoming
Why did so many people of that era have that same black/pink/zebra dress
I Still Have To Hear My Dad Trash My Mom For Letting Me Choose These Rainbow Glasses...but I Loved Them
The Photo That Haunted Me For Decades
This generation, it seems, is doing just fine with embarrassment and shame. The recent "Rejection therapy" trend is all about people going out of their comfort zone and getting used to their anxieties around it. People are going around and asking to speak into a plane's intercom or to take a nap at the mattress store and thus becoming insensitive to the word "No."
2008/2024…i Put Holes In My Ears For The “Scene”
Omg I forgot about this one 😂 some people had some seriously big holes. Most people I knew with them had surgery to fix it, so you’d never know
Me And My Best Friend When We Were 17. I Had The Fattest Crush On Her For Years And Only Eventually Ended Up Dating Her For A Week
Yall Have Blunders, But Do You Have Anime Convention Going J-Fashion Loving Weeb Blunders?
Mental health experts say that it's similar to exposure therapy. You go into a controlled environment and face your fears head-on. Psychotherapist Rachel Goldberg told Bustle that it "[reduces] the intensity of the fear response and [promotes] confidence." Who knows, maybe sharing that embarrassing childhood pic may help you overcome an insecurity too?
Halloween 1997, I Insisted On Going As A Generic Can Of Whipped Cream And Mom Delivered:
10 Year Old Me In My Hannah Montana Wig 😭
Mullet, Skinny Leather Tie, Grade 9 Me Was A Vision. Of Something
In the end, everybody gets embarrassed about something. According to Kristin Neff, an associate professor at the University of Texas at Austin's Department of Educational Psychology, when we're self-aware and don't take our embarrassing moments so seriously, we start to understand that everybody fails at some point. "Everyone struggles. This is what it means to be human," she said.
Feeding The Tamagotchis While Playing Habbo Hotel
This Is How I Dressed Every Day Of Middle School And Some Of High School, Because I Loved Mob Movies And Frasier. I Am Loath To Use This Sub, Because I Still Think I Ate. 🤣
Photo of the winner of some corporation northwestern branch management contest
I Was 14, The Rapper 50 Cent Was My Idol, My Mom Took The Picture
What about you, Pandas? What kind of blunders do you think you could bring to the table? We've covered the Blunder Years subreddit many times in the past, but it seems like there can never be enough awkward stories, huh? So, if you want to see more embarrassing pics from people's childhoods, head over here, here, and here for more!