40 Things People Considered Luxuries For The Rich Until They Realized They Just Grew Up Broke
As kids, many of us fantasized about what we would do if we had all the money in the world. “I would fill up an entire swimming pool with chocolate!” “Well, I would buy the newest and greatest gaming system!” But some kids who grew up with a bit less money just dreamed of seeing orange juice on the table at breakfast or being able to participate in after-school activities.
Earlier this week, Reddit user Ekudar invited people who grew up broke to share the things they assumed only rich people could afford (until they got older and realized that everyone should have access to those “luxuries”). We’ve gathered some of the most thought-provoking responses down below that might hit close to home if you also grew up in a low-income household, or that might remind you to never take your privilege for granted if you had all of these things available to you as a child.
Keep reading to also find interviews I was lucky enough to receive from two people who know the experience of growing up poor all too well, Amy Saunders and Assad Abderemane. Be sure to upvote the responses that break your heart or resonate with you, and let us know in the comments what other things you considered luxuries for the rich when you were a child. Then, if you’d like to read another Bored Panda article on the same topic, check out this story next.
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Orange juice.
As a kid, I vowed to be able to afford as much orange juice as I wanted when I got older. Started working in high school and used my first paycheck to buy a gallon of orange juice. I drank it all in one day and got horrible diarrhea.
I grew up eating Blue Bonnet margarine. I tasted real butter at a friend's house and it was a revelation, and ever since, the taste of margarine makes me feel gaggy. My mother said butter was too expensive, and it absolutely was for a family on food stamps. I worked at my neighborhood grocery store in high school, and bought individual sticks of butter for my personal use as a treat on Wonder bread, carefully rationing it. I have not bought margarine ever since, and even if a recipe calls for it, I use butter, and I don't care one bit if my cookies spread out more than they should because I did.
My dad grew up on margarine. He swore he would never have it again when he got married. He's 79 now, and still only eats butter.
Load More Replies...For me it was good bread. Not the cheap flavorless white bread, but a good hearty yummy wheat bread with nut or oat sprinkled crust. The kind only well to do kids or sandwich commercials had. I vowed to grow up and be able to afford good bread.
And really good bagels and sour dough bread.
Load More Replies...Aw! My best friend was very poor growing up. I routinely used my allowance every week to buy her food and clothes, ( shoes, boots, winter coat, socks, undies) as well as buy her food at school, dinners at restaurants out. Her mother was a raging alcoholic on welfare that turned tricks. They lived in a cockroach infested main floor apartment, she didn’t even have blinds for her bedroom windows!!! Got and installed window blinds as well as window bars. When I met her she had one pair of socks. Brought her on vacations with us.
I bought shampoo with my first paycheck. Real, as seen in commercials, shampoo and not the cheap stuff that mom had to buy. I spent the first week marveling at how it made my hair feel, and how nice it smelled. Once I could afford it I started leaving shampoo and soap in her bathroom telling her to use them. It felt really good to be able to give her that small luxury.
**Not from concentrate.** Anything else isn’t worth drinking, after growing up on Tang.
That tang c**p was "special astronaut" kool-aid in containers like capri sun!
Load More Replies...To gain more insight on this topic, we reached out to Amy Saunders, founder and CEO of AlphaPR. Amy has discussed her humble background on her blog before, so we asked if she could shine some light on what it was like growing up poor. "I think growing up poor, or without a sense of financial security, skews your relationship with money," Amy shared. "I didn’t have money growing up so I didn’t know how to HAVE money when I did get it. When I began running my own company in my twenties and began making a livable income, it was like it was time to celebrate by blowing it all. Suddenly, I was making close to six figures, but ended up racking up an even higher debt."
"Of course, I wasn’t taught financial literacy, or even how to save when I was younger," Amy explained. "And that lack of literacy spilled into my late twenties and early thirties. Having grown up poor, I only knew how to stay poor, even when I had money."
But Amy shared that there was no definitive moment when she realized she had grown up poor. "I just always knew that we went without. I think the bigger realization came when I was older, and had to work through my financial trauma in order to build a financially stable life for myself."
Eating every day.
THIS and schools still FORCE kids to buy their lunch from the cafeteria unless they brought their own or they don't have the money to eat that day. A lot of the times my parents will buy me lunchables but I don't really like them, so my friend has been the main one buying me food and I've been giving my lunchables to them in turn, for us it's a win-win situation and we are lucky to have this agreement, but it doesn't change the fact that a fair amount of my school doesn't eat every day.
My county passed a mandate requiring schools to provide breakfast and lunch that met nutritional standards, for free for all students. I’m so grateful for that, but I can’t believe this isn’t universal…
Load More Replies...I often used to cook as a kid from around 8. Mostly just chips and egg. One day mother gave me money to buy potatoes and the greengrocer asked if I wanted some free leeks as well. He even gave me a recipe for potato and leek soup and I very proudly made it for dinner just for a change. Mother was drunk and was absolutely furious that I hadn't followed her instructions and threw a bowl of soup at me. Siblings and stepdad liked it.
When the school decides that what you brought is not up to "STANDARDS" and tosses it. And you can't afford to buy their s**t lunch....
My family came to the USA to escape political violence in my country. But you don't get a work permit when this happened. So my mom got a University scholarship in the US (she was a professor at a medical college back home). She got a stipend of $2,000/year to support two kids and her mother. We often went without food, but she made sure that for each person's birthday they would get a chocolate bar. We had a neighbor from Iraq. One day she caught me looking under rocks for insects to eat. After that, she would always make too much food for her family to eat, and could my mom please do her a favor and take some of the food. At the time I thought she must be so rich to have all of this food. She was a student too, but her husband was a taxi driver, so they could survive on his earnings. To this day, I have a love for all things Iraqi. Especially the food. Shakran!
We had a rule at our house. The littlest ones eat first. As the oldest, I understood that a good number of days, my only meal was school lunch.
Butter. My mother only bought margarine because we couldn't afford butter. I only tasted it in high school when I got my first job and would occasionally go out to eat with friends. I promised my self that I would only have real butter when I got my own place. 50 years later I have 2 GRADES of butter at all times. Kirkland to cook and bake with, and Kerry Gold to eat on bread, potatoes, etc. It makes me feel like Mrs. Gotrocks!
I grew up eating Blue Bonnet margarine. When I tasted real butter at a friend's house, it was a revelation, and ever since, the taste of margarine makes me feel gaggy. My mother said butter was too expensive, and it absolutely was for a family on food stamps. I worked at my neighborhood grocery store in high school, and bought individual sticks of butter for my personal use as a treat on Wonder bread, carefully rationing it. I have not bought margarine ever since, and even if a recipe calls for it, I use butter, and I don't care one bit if my cookies spread out more than they should because I did.
Well look at Mr. Moneybags with Blue Bonnet over here. JK, we had the margarine that came in the plain white box. Later we moved up to BB. Haven't had margarine in any house I've owned.
Load More Replies...When I was little in my country, milk would come sold in bags, and the fat was floating on top. My job was to scoop off the fat, and make the butter. Just add a sprinkle of salt, then stir it with a fork as fast as you can until your arm is about to fall out of it's socket. So good that way. You can do the same thing with heavy cream.
Kerry Gold is the best. Also, real butter can be left in a covered butter dish on the counter. It does not need to be refrigerated.
I was told that you can do that with salted butter but not the unsalted. I wish someone here can 'clarify' this
Load More Replies...OMG - we have the 2 butters as well! Kerry Gold is pure magic, but I agree way to expensive for anything other than bread or potatoes.
Try sea salted butter and you'll never go back.... That's ultimate butter.
I thought i didn't like butter until i was an adult. Turns out I just didn't like cheap margarine.
I recently found out that most cooking oils are made from soy, check the label. Most everything has soy in it. So I use butter & get great results when ever I use it.
What´s wrong with margarine? That is all I ever eat on bread, way simpler that waiting for the damn butter to soften until it can be spread on the bread. And don´t get me started on those " spreadable right out of the fridge" brands. That´s a lie. I only have butter in the house when I had to buy it for a recipe I wanted to try.
We also asked Amy if she could share any of the things she had always considered luxuries for rich people until she got older. "Good water pressure in the shower is a big one," she told Bored Panda. "I had a friend who lived near me, in a low income neighborhood, and one time when my power was out, I went to her place to take a shower. I remember how shocked I was by the way the water hit me in her shower. She had actual water pressure. I was 19, and I had never used a good shower before."
"I also always thought having your own room, your parents owning a house or a car - these were rich people things," Amy noted. "I never got my driver's license until I was 32. In my mind, I wasn’t rich, so I would never afford a car anyway. So what was the point?"
A two story house. If you had stairs you were rich.
That's interesting, in the UK bungalows cost a (relative) fortune. Might be because there aren't that many of them and they are in demand for older people wanting to downsize and have better accessibility.
Also there are very few left because people who bought them extended upwards into the attic and put in dormer windows to get more living space which means even less properties without stairs for the elderly. When my paternal grandparents retired they sold their house so they could pay off the mortgage and bought a fixer upper on the same road. My grandad put in a new kitchen and bathroom and double glazing. Then my nanny had a stroke and was having trouble with the stairs and they couldn't find anything in their town without stairs for a decent price. Grandad told me that they found 1 bungalow that hadn't been extended so no stairs which needed fixing up but it was almost £100,000 more than what their renovated house would fetch if they sold it. Absolutely crazy
Load More Replies...A house of any kind. I grew up in apartments. Kids with backyards were "rich".
Not entirely in line with the question, but:
Two pairs of shoes. I thought only rich kids had more than one pair of shoes. I didn't realize we weren't poor, and when I told my dad, "I want another pair of shoes but I know we can't afford it" he IMMEDIATELY took me to the shoe store and bought me a pair so I could be "rich" lol
Was going to say the same. Sometimes we don't realise what's killing our kids inside. I'm a 1 pair till they die guy. My son has more shoes than my wife. He loves them. I don't get it but he's so excited when a new pair shows up. I've had to work to be even a decent listener for him. I miss things. But we dads gotta try
Load More Replies...I've only until a few years back had one pair of shoes. I still only have one coat. Not poor but I have a hard time buying things for myself. I'm the type woman who gets a toaster on her b-day and loves it. I buy my Christmas gifts and last year got a microwave and crochet books. I tend to get things that the house needs. It works.
My parents didn't have any extra. We had enough, but there wasn't money for luxuries. When I was a preteen, Nike shoes were becoming popular. For the next few years, I asked for Nikes for my birthday. One afternoon, my mom called from work to tell me that Nikes were on sale half-price at the local shoe store. She told me to get some emergency money out from under the plates and go buy myself a pair. I very happily complied.
my mom would always spend money on shoes for me knowing i wouldn't wear (i only wore the one pair i liked, i have autism and it was a routine thing, still wear shoes till they break before switching)... i never understood it because when i actually needed something we "couldn't afford it"
New school year, maybe two sets of new clothes and no name shoes. Until @sshole basketball coach comes up with kids only can play if they have the "team shoe"! Newest Jordan's you can buy. $$$ luckily grandma put money especially for if her grandkids needed it. We qualified for free lunches and if did, they covered sports fee. But not shoes.
How long ago was this basketball coach insistence? I am surprised parents didn't complain.
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New clothes for no reason. I was so confused when I got to highschool and girls would just suddenly have the new trend piece, I didn't understand why they were just allowed to have them.
I had one pair of trousers for 1-2 years (or as long as they last). Even now, while I can afford it, I feel immense guilt buying clothes.
My wife has to talk me into buying clothes. They seem like a luxury. I finally caved and agreed to two new pairs of pants, and she bought me three. Now I have two ratty pairs of jeans and three new ones. I’m rich!
Load More Replies...Fast fashion is despicable. So wasteful, and so often unethically made and sourced. I wish it was ridiculed and not coveted.
As a kid, I wore hand-me-downs from the lad over the road. Thing was, while we were a similar height, he was quite a bit broader than me so they never fitted properly and I lived with the nickname “Baggy” for years.
I got the hand-me-downs from my sisters and cousins, even when I grew quite a bit taller than all of them. Everything was always baggy but also too short at the cuffs and hems. The teachers always got on me for having the skirt of my uniform too short.
Load More Replies...I wasn't even allowed to keep the new clothes my dad bought /sent me. He was in the British army and was stationed abroad so I rarely saw him. His parents also sent new clothes for me and my sisters, one full sister, 2 half sisters. They were allowed to keep their new clothes. Mine always got sold for beer money. My dad came to visit us early December and I didn't have a winter coat or anything warm so he took me shopping and bought me a lovely warm duffel coat. I loved being warm. Next day when I got up for school it was gone. As I walked to school I saw one of the neighbours kid wearing it. Mother had sold it. She also lied to my dad and his parents that it was me who sold them for alcohol and drugs. Eh I was 8?!
dude, that might be the saddest thing I have read in a long time.
Load More Replies...I had two pairs of clothes all my life up until college. Never felt poor or anything but unfortunately studied in a very fancy college with rich kids. When I started getting my scholarship for masters, i think i spent more on clothes than books and library subscriptions. No regrets 😀
Nothing bad about second hand clothes. My kids only ever had hand me downs. Not because we could not afford new stuff, but because it is just ridiculous to buy everything new when you outgrow it in a few months anyway. The only thing we buy new is shoes. My husband insists on that. Those are expensive enough.
One thing that always sets my Dad off about modern fashions is the trend of slashed/ripped jeans, because as the youngest sibling, most of his clothes were worn out & patched hand-me-downs. He got teased a lot in school for never having new clothes, and it seems nuts to him that now people are doing that to their clothes *on purpose*.
Amy also noted that the topic of food can be a whole separate conversation when it comes to growing up poor. "The quality of food you eat when you're poor is vastly different than what you eat when you have some money - but it’s not all about affordability," she noted. "Growing up, my mom worked three or four jobs, sometimes all in a day. By the time she got home, she wasn’t about to cook a lovely, big, healthy home cooked meal. We were getting frozen dinners in front of the TV. Perhaps we could have afforded fresh veggies to make big stews and chilis and meals, but when you’re poor and working to make ends meet, you don’t have the time." It's no surprise how many responses on this list have to do with food, beverages, eating out and having access to snacks.
Vacations. Like actually going somewhere. We'd go on car trips once in awhile.
Not sure what OP means by "car trips", because car trips can be absolutely phenomenal. Not everything has the be about flying to the Seychelles, right?
Probably like one-day car trip to zoo or castle in reasonable driving distance, if I can judge from my low-income childhood. Except we didn't have a car so we took trains and buses.
Load More Replies...Remember my first flight. I was 18 and flying to London with two friends. I was talking very loud due to I didn't know why I could not hear anything. people must think I have autism or something, it was so embarrassing.
I remember a family camping trip to the mountains near Ventura, CA. We finally made to camp and thoroughly enjoyed ourselves. Those who wanted to sleep outside had their sleeping area set up under the station wagon. Or we could choose to sleep in the car. I loved sleeping under the car. It was so adventurous.
I've never been on a real vacation. We did the car trips too, all over this state. Never went camping until I was out of high school.
My Dad took us on many "car trips." I'm from Philadelphia, PA and we went all over to Virginia, Connecticut, Massachusetts, Maryland, Western PA... and we had a blast doing sometimes weekend trips and several week excursions. We had a nice family blast and by the time I was 19... I literally knew my way around the eastern US and even took MY family to these places.
We absolutely can afford to fly - and don't. We drive. We've had some phenomenal trips with our car. Usually 1 day drive in some direction.
Travelling by plane. As a kid I never been in an airplane, I always thought that was for extremely rich people.
I was 33 the first and only time I have been on a plane. Went on it. Came back on it. Have never been on a plane since due to costs. May be someday.
Now adays since they charge for every little thing & give the customer nothing, I'd say that you aren't missing anything.
Load More Replies...For a long time (until the dawn of the cheap package holiday) it was the preserve of the rich. See how many times 007 flies in James Bond novels - It was to show how he was rich and part of the “jet set”. I first flew when I was 10 years old and on a school trip to London but that was a rare exception. Usually our holiday consisted of driving to Germany from Ireland every 2 years to see relatives and camping en route to keep costs down. I didn’t fly again for another 10 years when I went to college.
I grew up very poor. I joined the Army to pay for college. When I finished school, I took a job at a non-profit in Cairo Egypt making $18K/year. That led me to projects all across Africa and the Middle East. Then Latin America and Asia. By the time I was 30, I had been to at least 35 countries. Many of those were just 4-6 week stays, but some were much longer. All while making under $30K. You'd be surprised what you can accomplish if you set your sights on something. I wanted to see the world, and I did. Now I make a lot more money, but I have young kids. Traveling with kids is as much fun as getting broken glass under your fingernails. I hope to start traveling again soon though.
First time I went on a plane was aprox. 20 years ago when I was a child. Never been on one since.
I've never been on an a plane (unless you count the short joyflight I went on as a teenager - the pilot was a friend of the family).
The only aeroplane I went on as a kid was through the Make a Wish Foundation.
depending on your age flying might have only really been for the rich when you were a kid. Back when I was a kid in the 1970's return fight tickets for an adult and a child from the state we lived in to the state my mums family lived in literally cost two months wages (and my dad was on an above average salary). My mum could only afford to see her parents once every couple of years and only with one of the four of us children. This meant I only got to see my maternal grandfather once and my grandmother twice before they passed away. Fast forward to the 2000's and I could (and did on multiple occasions) shop around to pay less than a week's salary for return airfare from Australia to Japan ( and I was actually earning below average salary, "richer" friends of min would fly overseas two or three times a year usually a few weeks in Europe and a couple of weekends in Bali or Thailand
We can afford it but don't fly. Actually I avoid it. Not convenient at all.
There was a rich kid in highschool that complained about me wearing the same five sets of clothes every week... I said 'if it bothers you that much, why don't you buy some' and he said 'tell your parents to' and laughed like it was a burn or something. That was when I realized Greg S. from AHHS class of '02 was a complete piece of s**t lacking in empathy, but to answer the question: nice clothes.
Whilst I didn't like my school uniform it did at least prevent people noticing if you didn't have much other choice.
That's why we have school uniform in the UK; might not be a fashion statement, but it avoids this sort of issue.
They are doing this s**t at uni. Had a classmate who refused to invite one of his teammates from rugby to his parties, because he "devalues" his party due to having only a Samsung and no new clothes for every day of the week. God, I wanted to deck that guy so much. But he was playing rugby and I weigh like 57kgs so....
Load More Replies...You suck greg. Hopefully in adulthood you’ve pulled your head out of your keister
This is where school uniform is the way to go - in UK, sold in Walmart type supermarkets, and same for all.
We also asked Amy about some of these things she previously considered luxuries that have now become normal to her. "I have a car now, and I think about doing groceries as a kid and pushing the broken down cart full of food all the way home, or in the snow in the wintertime," she shared. "It reminds me that when you’re poor, your 24 hours in a day are different than the 24 hours in a day of someone with money. Lugging groceries home is something normal people do every day, but not something I have to do now that I have a car, which also feels very normal."
And over time Amy has found a way to change her perspective and understand that she does deserve access to these things. "Things began to shift once I worked on addressing my unconscious beliefs about money, wealth, and my deservedness of money," she explained. "It was exceptionally painful to shift this perspective. I used to cry every time I got a piece of mail from the bank or the government about my taxes."
"Now, my husband and I make nice, fresh, healthy meals. I haven’t eaten peas out of a can, or a TV frozen dinner, since I was a teenager," Amy told Bored Panda. "I also own a house, but as a millennial, I still consider that a luxury in today's market. That and, my shower actually works these days."
Takeaway food. My first experience of it was having a sleepover at a friends house. We were, apparently, set to have Chinese food that evening. I was asked what I wanted. I had no clue. So the parents just recommended something. I just said OK. I was staggered to NOT see the mother cooking. She was just mooching around the house doing *f*k all*. Where was this food? Why wasnt she preparing it? Then a knock on the door. And some person delivered a box of food. With more boxes in it. One box was for me... Madness. Such wealth to get people to make and deliver your food. That display of *vast wealth* stayed with me for a very long time...
I had my first takeaway a couple of months after starting my first proper job at 18. I felt like a sophisticated man-about-town going to the local Chinese and ordering my portion of Peking Style Spare Ribs.
You have not experienced true luxury until you have Peking (Beijing) Duck at a proper sit-down Chinese restaurant. I always hated when my family cooked duck growing up. It was greasy and left an aftertaste. I just thought I hated duck. Turns out there is a right type of duck and a right way to roast it, and the oven isn't it.
Load More Replies...Takeaway did not even exist in my town growing up. I knew you can have food delivered from american movies but that was it. Then as an adult I moved to england with a friend from our town and we got a leaflet put through our door. Indian food. We only recognized one food item. Chicken Vindaloo. Because Lister in Red Dwarf, our favorite TV show, was always eating Chicken Vindaloo. So we ordered it. I have never eaten spicy food before. We cried eating it. But it cost us double our daily food budget so we are it all. I cried again next day in the toilet. It was a long while before I had takeaway again.
We had take away food, mostly Maccas on a road trip, but never paid for delivery. Now it seems strange, when I hang out with my brother and sister, that we can always afford to pay to have food delivered.
My favorite growing up was Chicken Delight. We could order from the menu as a treat. I learned to love fried shrimp from those meals. I still remember being handed a paper plate with another one inverted over the food and stapled shut.
Our very special treat on rare occasions was burger King. We'd get so excited!
A fridge with an ice dispenser
Yeah mine broke right after the extended warranty expired during the beginning of the pandemic. I will get it fixed before summer though. I really miss it.
Load More Replies...We didn’t have a fridge (let alone one with an ice dispenser) - my Ma would keep everything cold by keeping it outside in the shed or the coal bunker. One red letter day in 1983, my dad bought a second hand fridge for a tenner and never looked back 🙂
We didn't even have ice trays, dad used to freeze water in sandwich bags and then smash it up with a rolling pin for ice. Got my ice dispensing space fridge now and I love it.
Lemme guess, filled up 2 liter bottles, froze them, busted them up for the cooler too?
Load More Replies...My GF's fridge can even give you different kinds of ice. You want crushed or cubes, or pellets?
I forgot until just now that mine does that! I keep it on cubed.
Load More Replies...Have one now and it's a pain in the a$$ as no matter how full it is... it just grinds and grinds and maybe you get a chip that falls on the floor for the cat to chase around the kitchen. I just go into the bin and grab a fist full! LOL
My son when he got married bought one that dispenses I've cube, cracked or crushed. But for him but because I have an incredible crushed ice love, he says if I come over enough it might pay off. Lol
Going out to a sit down restaurant
We rarely did this as my dad didn’t trust anything my Ma didn’t cook but, if we did, it was somewhere that served sausages and chips or as similar to my Ma’s cooking as possible. When I first met my wife and offered to take her out for a meal, it was the first time I’d ever eaten in a proper restaurant - and the first pizza I’d ever eaten!
I too would have married the person who introduced me to pizza
Load More Replies...When we were kids, going to McDonald's was considered a very rare treat. That was our special sit-down restaurant meal. 😊
We got to go every few months. McDonald's had small tables between the regular ones, with saddles as the seats. It was awesome being allowed to sit "by ourselves" and pretend we were cowpokes.
Load More Replies...When we were lucky enough to go to a sit-down restaurant, we had to choose from the cheapest options on the menu, (even if that meant just a sandwich), and were VERY rarely allowed to order a beverage - we had to drink water. I still mostly drink water at restaurants, because it feels frivolous to pay for a "real" drink.
This was once a year only and the only other luxury outside food was Chinese takeout once a month. Fifty-plus items on the menu and the only thing my mom ever ate was shrimp with lobster sauce.
Going out for fast food. I think I was 14 when o had my first takeaway. Even after that it was a once a year treat.
My family NEVER ate at a sit-down restaurant (aside from fast food places that had tables) once when I was a child/teen. The first time I ever went to a restaurant I think I was 18. Sit-down places were just too expensive.
In the 70's and 80's Ponderosa was a treat. And about twice a month my dad stopped at Taco Bell on his way home from work. I still don't eat out often but when I do it's a much higher quality restaurant.
Despite Amy's humble beginnings, she still wanted to take a moment to acknowledge that we don't all have the same opportunities. "I have privilege as a white woman. I recognize that people still experience many of these things as luxuries, and escaping poverty when you come from a historically marginalized community is harder than escaping poverty when you’re white," she shared. "I carry a lot of privilege, and I think that is something important to recognize when it comes to discussions about poverty, wealth, and financial trauma. It is not an equal playing field."
If you'd like to hear more wise words from Amy, you can find her blog right here or follow her on Instagram right here.
Kitchen islands
To me this is more about what the island represents - that you have enough spare floor space to put an entire additional counter (bonus points for it being where the stove or sink is located). I wouldn't say we are that far into the lower income bracket (certainly afford going to the cinema, flying somewhere and more than one pair of new shoes), but we definitely do not have the room for a kitchen island, so this is still on our "richer than us" list.
I'm not rich and I hate these things... No real purpose but to eat up kitchen space. I'd rather a small breakfast / lunch table.
We're close to doing a DIY kitchen refurb. We're removing the island. Colossal waste of space in our kitchen.
My father and I built kitchens and therefore kitchen islands in the 60s and 70s but we didn't have one.
Removed our kitchen island, couldn't open the refrigerator door all the way with it in place. It's been 10 years, and I don't miss it at all!
Going to the movies
As a single parent I wanted my daughter to have "luxuries". So I made sure we had a decent TV and a refurbished sound system so came movie night I would head out to the local cinema, I would buy a LG bag of popcorn with butter, bring it home and her and I would watch movies and ate movie popcorn! She has such fond memories and doesn't feel she missed out!
I was a projectionist for 20 years. I'd bring people in who wanted to see movies when they couldn't afford to go. Now... it's worse. you could spend literally 80 to 100 US on tix for a family of 4 plus concessions. It's a rip.
Movie prices now are disgusting. Going to the movies used to be the cheap night out cause tix were $6 bucks and you could get a small popcorn/soda combo for $4.50 Basically $12 for the whole night, and my friends and I would go at least once a week in high school. Now? $12 won't even get you a box of candy once you pay the $20 tix price to get in the door!! Edit: $12 bucks cause taxes
Last time I went to the movies: 2 tickets, 2 medium popcorns, and 2 small cokes costed us €50. Absolutely insane.
Yes! I'll never forget being little when 101 dalmatians came out and my mom won some money in a raffle so she came home super excited to tell me we'd be able to go see it. I still remember that so clearly 🙂❤️
Amazing how many things we thought were the most exciting things in our life. So many.
Load More Replies...We could afford to go to the movies, but only the small local cinema, where the tickets were about $7. When I got to high school and my friends and I hung out at the large shopping centre, I was appalled that the tickets at that cinema were about $13!
Having actual tissues instead of toilet paper to blow your nose.
And matching socks in good condition with no holes or stretched cuffs, ahh what could be better than a clean nose and comfortable put together socks
I am not poor- I'm not rich either but I can live somewhat comfortable but I never buy tissue paper. It's either toilet paper, kitchen paper (like these loger toilet paper like rolls) or I'll grab a few pack of tissue when I'm at my parents house.
I have terrible sinus issues. I prefer Charmin TP to blow my nose. I have tissue boxes for guests. I recently had to go to the ER for a severe nose bleed. I grabbed a roll of TP on my way out the door. So glad I did because those hospital tissues are like sandpaper.
Imo that's not being rich it's wasting money. With my allergies I can easily use a whole toilet paper roll on my nose in one day. Just how many tissue boxes that'd be?
We have money and I still use toilet paper as tissues. Have you seen the price of a box of tissues?
We also reached out to writer Assad Abderemane to hear his thoughts on this topic, as he has a poignant essay on Medium discussing similar themes. Assad opened up with Bored Panda about how growing up poor impacted his relationship with spending money. "Spending money for food, some clothes, and a roof over our heads? Of course, we need to survive. Spending money on things we didn't absolutely need like a new TV or a bigger fridge was always for special occasions, like, when the old TV stopped working or a new sibling came along," he explained. "But spending money on experiences like going to the cinema or a concert? That was useless, a waste of money. I used to silently judge friends who'd pay so much money to go see a singer they already listened to every single day on Spotify. Then they'd complain about being low on cash in the middle of the month?! That was ridiculous to me."
But Assad was not always keenly aware of the fact that he was poor. "I think it really dawned on me that I'd grown up poor when I stopped being good at math," he shared. "In the 8th grade, they started adding letters to math, and suddenly all of it was too abstract for me. From the first grade to the seventh, I was always top of my class at mental math. I'd been doing mental math for my mom every time we'd go grocery shopping. I was a walking percentage calculator during sales season. We couldn't afford to pay too much for groceries, so I took my mental math missions pretty seriously."
Crayola, you knew if you were a RoseArt kid.
I desperately wanted the big 64-pack of Crayolas. Now I’m 55, not rich, but I do have lots of crayons!
Load More Replies...Prismacolor coloured pencils and Stabilo markers... when I could I got those.
My brother got one, but I didn't. Grown up, I told my mom how badly I'd wanted one. I got one for Christmas that year!
Load More Replies...My husband thinks it's really strange that I ask for new clothes for Christmas. Not even fancy clothes, just stuff like pyjamas. He thinks that's an everyday expense. I see it as kind of special as that is the only time I ever got a new piece of clothing as a child. Any other time I had to sew and patch up old clothes or receive hand me down clothes. Also I just learned to wear oversized hand-me-down clothes and shoes until I grew into them.
This one can actually go full circle from "so poor Xmas was the only time we got new socks" to "so comfortable with our income there's nothing we especially need or want (so please don't buy us pointless clutter for the house!) but I'd love some new socks please"
I wouldn't call myself particularly rich, but I finally reached the point where I'm not overdrawn the day before payday. I don't really want anything, but I love the feeling of brand new socks and will never say no to that
Load More Replies...I buy everyone new pj's at Christmas and we open them the night before. We did this when I was a kid. I've taken on the pj trend. My mom only had to buy two pj's. I've taken it over and I have to buy 6 pj's every Christmas. My kids are grown up now so it's quite expensive to buy for myself my mom, my husband and my three adult kids their night before's.
I loved getting new clothes for Christmas. That was the only thing we were allowed to open before everyone else was up, so we could wear new items for the day. Otherwise our clothes either came from the op shop or hand me downs (actually hand me ups, as I was smaller than a lot of younger people) but I loved those as well, as it would often be brands I never could have bought new.
New jammies is a Christmas Eve tradition in my family. You got to open 1 present CE and it was the jammies. My husband & I still do it (I'm almost 60). I finally got him trained to just get me men's flannel bottoms, though. They have pockets!
Ooh I felt this one to the core. My siblings and I were used to receive our cousin's hand me downs, and also clothes from church. I went to a technical secondary public school (I don't know if is something regular in other countries. Technical school meant a 6 year, full time program, after the mandatory 7 of elementary school. It's more exigent than a regular one, you get to learn the same as them + a trade or profession. For the first 3 years the load is half and half and for the last 3 it's 100% dependant on the field, eg, my degree was in advertisement so from year 4 on, we learned about marketing, graphic design, copyright, etc). For the workshop classes you had to use an "uniform" that was a specific color smock to protect your clothes. Mine got me through the whole 6 years, so I know first hand that "grew into something" feeling quite well 😅
I started working for my father at his various not so successful business's when i was 7. So by 14 I bought my own clothes. My parents didn't have the money so I would save my pay. Otherwise I learned to sew
Not me but my parents. They quite literally had a rags to riches story, they lived in the most run-down house available in the Philippines. After years of gaining money, my grandpa and grandma managed to move the entire family into a condo. And that’s where my mum and dad come in, once they had me they gave me a life that they didn’t have. Toys, proper food and generally a better life then what they had. I’m forever thankful.
I'm upvoting for the word Philippines, that's where I'm from too... :D
One of my favorite places. Many good friends there. I need to come visit again.
Load More Replies...Assad also touched on some of the things he had previously assumed were only for rich people. "I thought only rich people could wear different sets of clothes day after day," he told Bored Panda. "Hashtag OOTDs (outfit of the day) became popular when I was at the age where you expressed yourself through fashion. But I was like an anime character - I wore the same clothes every day."
"Shopping for new clothes and new shoes only happened before the beginning of a school year," Assad explained. "I'd be teased by, apparently, significantly wealthier friends at the beginning of a school year like, 'Aaayooo he's got some new kicks and a new hoodie! New socks next week or am I too optimistic?' Turns out they weren't that much wealthier than me and got a lot of hand-me-downs - I'm the oldest sibling, so I never got that 'luxury'."
"I very much could relate to a lot of what was said in the Reddit post. Going on vacation really hit me," Assad noted. "The first time I went on vacation with my family I was 15, and that was most definitely because we could stay at an uncle's dingy apartment - I remember us having some of the most fun we'd ever had."
Things at the book fair. You could probably buy a good hoard of stuff from the book fair for 30-50 dollars looking back. I was given $7 one year to buy something and I couldn’t afford a book.
$7 at a scholastic book fair would get you a book, some fruity smelling pencils, and erasers you never wanted to use because they were just too f***** cute!
yeah for real. you could (and still can) get quite a bit for $7.00. You're not coming home with a dolphin poster, 5 Animorphs and a Garfield bookmark, but you will do alright.
Load More Replies...This was a big one for me. We got a little catalog telling us what would be there beforehand and I begged to be able to buy some things. It was a big no for me. Going back to class with the kids who had big stacks of books and other fun stuff was so depressing.
The same was true for me. I remember looking at the catalog with longing, and I knew better than to ask, because the answer would be no.
Load More Replies...My school book fair didn't have books over $10. My kids just had theirs and I gave each $5 and they got books. I must not be familiar with whatever type of book fair OP is talking about, anyone got more detail on these for me? Is this something to expect when my kids get older maybe?
Then book fairs at my kids school are always expensive. I'm talking books up in the 30+ dollar range. Yes they have cheaper ones but nothing under 5 bucks and the ones that are that price were very very limited and usually for small kids. Like a book I could get on Amazon for 10 bucks was hiked up in price. At least 2 or 3 bucks for fancy looking pencils and more for pens because they have some stupid cheap decoration hanging off them that will break off in a day or two with normal kid use.They always make me angry because even if we can afford it, I think it's insane and most kids at school probably can't.
Load More Replies...Yes, not all newly published books are immediately available at the library nearby.
The local library had a book sale once or twice a year. The old/out of date books were about $1 each. They also sold books donated by patrons. Created a decent private library that way. BONUS: I lived next door to the library.
I was given $3 to buy something from the zoo's gift shop on a school field trip. I couldn't get anything.
Air conditioning.
There's no money left for soap after putting in the a/c
Load More Replies...We only had wood heat for years. My mom couldn't afford heating oil for the furnace. It was a never ending chore and you wouldn't dare let the fire go out!
Load More Replies...My grandpa used portable kerosene units to heat a room. I remember having to pump the kerosene into them with a small hand held thing and that smell….
I had AC installed this year. It cools and heats. One of the best things I ever bought. And I bought a dishwasher.
Thankfully now, with government grants, it is easier to get air con where I live. We need it more and more because of climate change.
Yes!!!!! Growing up poor in Florida in the 80's a/c was a luxury. I loved visiting friends homes that had a/c!
I still think that's for rich people, not the ac itself, but the amount of energy it uses $$$
I've been there for a lot of the previous items but this one speaks to me most over the last few years. It's just so wonderful to be comfortable in our short hot Canadian prairie summers.
Retirement savings
My dad was clearly weird among poor parents, we were poor (everybody was where I lived) but two things my dad insisted on was paying into a pension and holidays (not abroad, I am old hardly anyone went abroad, even rich people).
Same. I have a VERY small pension from work before they dropped it, and a 401k that I’m sure will not be enough since I put in the bare minimum. No other savings though. I have resigned myself to the fact that I will be working until I drop dead.
Load More Replies...A pension. There are still people who get a pension. Who are these gods?
About 70% of the US... between taxes and healthcare and overpriced stuff due to corporate greed...
We were also curious how Assad's relationship with money has changed over the years. "I spend money on experiences now. I don't splurge or anything, but I let myself have some fun every now and again," he told Bored Panda. "I can't say I never think about how much money I could have saved if I hadn't spent money on some stuff I didn't absolutely need. But I work now. Until two months ago, I'd been juggling two jobs while trying to graduate with a Master's degree. I tell myself I deserve to spend money I've worked hard to obtain."
"I'm still a product of my childhood, so I don't think the guilt ever really goes away, but I'm also a product of my own experiences after growing up poor," Assad explained. "And I think landing squarely in the middle should be the goal every person who's grown up poor should strive for - don't forget where you come from, but be kind to yourself because, sometimes, money spent is well worth it."
If you'd like to hear more wise words from Assad or learn more about his journey, be sure to check out his Medium profile right here, and you can find his essay on growing up poor right here.
Anything that required money at school. If anything required bringing money to school I just took it as something I’ll have no part of. Thankfully, I had friends that were much the same, so we got through it well.
Been there, done that. I didn't even take fliers for stuff home. No 4-h camp, no sports, nada.
I remember a time in high school where I would just bring something like a sandwich or sometimes nothing at all, because i knew my parents were probably short on money because some siblings moved back in with us, and there were some seniors I would sit with (I was a junior) who started to just get an extra lunch and give it to me, I guess they didn't believe me when I said I wasn't hungry or whatever.
My dad always sent money if I needed it to pay for a school trip. However, I never got to go on them because mother spent it on alcohol. Didn't know he was sending extra money for the trips until I was an adult. I'd been talking to my dad about how bad it was at home and that I never got to follow my classmates on a school trip. He was mad because every time he got told that I needed money to go on one he sent it in addition to the child support he paid
Target clothes. Apparently clothes from Target are considered cheap? I grew up thinking that's where my rich classmates got clothes.
To be honest, some of their clothes are actually a little overpriced for what their actual value is... That being said, I have one Target-brand jacket from a thrift store that will get me compliments every. single. time. It's definitely a "statement piece". It reminds me of a 70's smoking jacket and I've created several outfits around it. Target is simultaneously cheap and overpriced.
It's also worth noting that their clothing holds up a liiiiitttttle better than some other "cheap" brands, if you're gentle with it. I have flannels I've thrifted from there that are almost a decade old by now. No matter where you buy your clothing from -- be gentle with it and it will last longer than you'd expect.
Load More Replies...A few years ago we went out of town and it got hotter than it was predicted and I sweated through my outfit during the day and didn't have a backup for dinner. We swung by a Target and I grabbed a maxi sundress. I have got so many compliments on that $19.99 dress and it's still in great shape. I will never make fun of box store clothes.
When I was in high school, Target rebranded, and people started calling them Tar-get (rhymes with ballet), because they felt they were more upperclass than Kmart. :)
I was a good will kid, when my mom adopted me, my grandma would go to them every day and just buy tons and tons of toys for me my brother, and sister, like 34 trash bags full of like-new toys for use every day cause of goodwill
Filling up the whole gas tank
I can't believe how comfortable I have become driving with the gas light on.
My father remembers regularly helping his brother push the (very old) car home after work in the 1950s after running out of petrol because they didn't have enough money to buy more.
I don't care how rich you are, filling up to full with gas at $3:20 a gallon.
see i still dont fill my tank all the way up i just get about 3/4 and then im good
We didn't have a car most years as I was growing up, and if we did, they weren't reliable enough to go too far from town in case they broke down and my grandpa had to pick us up.
Same here - never happens!!! Also you get very good at putting an exact amount in :)
In a perfect world, we would all have access to fresh, healthy foods, our own beds, hot water with excellent pressure and new clothes when we need them. They should not be considered luxuries, and it's heartbreaking to realize how many people out there have to grow up, or even live their adult lives, without them. Keep upvoting the posts that resonate with you, and if you also grew up in a low-income household, feel free to share your experiences with your fellow pandas down below. Then if you'd like to check out another Bored Panda article discussing normal things that are sadly seen as luxuries by some of us, you can find that right here.
Jam/Nutella spread all over your bread. I grow up with a spread that can only cover half of my bread and is very thin in an undeveloped country. After I move to a developed country and got my first paycheck, I legit buy 5 nutella jars and spread it like a madman on my bread.
You should really let your hair down and attack that bad boy with a spoon! Pure decadence!
Hell yeah! Tablespoon fulls of it! Grape jam, Nutella, Peanut and Almond butter... SLAY!
Load More Replies...My cousin used to get Nutella on sandwiches when I was in primary school. I was so jealous. When I asked my mother why I never got Nutella, she told me it was too expensive. When I became a teacher and would feed the hungry kid or two who didn't bring lunch from home (we had a feeding scheme but there were a lot of reasons why a child might not be allowed onto it, such as if their family had DSTV, a satellite TV service), one of the first things I did was go out and buy a jar of Nutella so they could have the experience I never got as a child.
Hoy are a nice person! Sure those kids will be forever grateful ♥️
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Participation in school activities.
I wanted to be part of color guard so badly.
Did 'participation in colour guard' require funding? Anyone can explain please? EDIT: Many thanks for all responses... that honestly paint a mostly disturbing picture of how that works.
I don't know about color guard, but I couldn't participate in activities either because there were always so many extra costs. Uniforms or costumes, travel to and from events, tickets for events, equipment or accessories. They just were not achievable on my mum's budget.
Load More Replies...I wanted to be a girl scout. Nope. Then I wanted to try out for Cheerleading going into high school then found out the required summer cheerleading camp cost 500 dollars. And that was in 1979. Nope to that too.
In junior school I played the violin and loved it so much. Violin belonged to the school and I was able to take it home to practice free of charge. When I moved to comprehensive /high school we had to supply our own instruments. I was devastated because I knew there was no way I could get one so had to give up playing.
My brother and I couldn't try-out for sports teams because our single Mom couldn't afford the uniforms or equipment.
Everything my parents didn't have to drive me to or pick me up after was fine. Instruments were lend to us by our school and the classes were really cheap if you took group in the school. But we had to make sure that there is a bus that took us close enough to our home afterwards, so we could walk the rest of the way.
Was only allowed on school trips that didn't cost anything. Missed out on the Zoo. The best school outing was a trip to Catalina Island. We were fishing and me and my teammates caught a small dogfish. Was the coolest thing I had ever experienced.
It's sad, but most schools cannot afford to help kids who can't participate. I'm always stunned when people donate, because I was not able to participate in anything. I recall the forensics coach telling me that if I couldn't afford to by myself dinner, she couldn't allow me to participate.
I wanted to play tennis, but my parents couldn't afford lessons and equipment, so I played basketball. Never had nice basketball shoes as a kid, though, which sucked.
Same- for me it was the soccer "traveling team". Made the team, but when the neighbor kid didn't so we couldn't carpool to games I couldn't join cause of the time and resources required were too much for my family to cover on our own.
Enough bedrooms for all the kids.
13 kids in my family, was overjoyed just to have a bed to myself, no thought of having a room to myself
And the whole time I lived at home I never had my own bedroom and even as a senior and a sophomore my sister and I are sharing a bed
Load More Replies...I remember being baffled that my best friend shared her room with her four sisters. She loved coming to stay at mine because I had my own room and a playroom, which just seemed normal to me as a child. Funny how ignorant we can be, I realise now as an adult how vastly different our lives were.
Our minimum was at least 2 per room. But happy to have a room for any period of time. Camping, sleeping in a car, etc. Life was an adventure.
Dishwasher
In my younger years I used to joke that we had Dawn for dishes. My youngest sister Dawn (yes, her real name!) didn't find it so funny! LOL! (We actually shared dish nights!)
This seems to be the difference in living in the US. Even when I was a kid & we were broke, we still had a dishwasher. As an adult I have only ever lived in one house without one. Same goes for garbage disposals.
everyone we had broke down a week after getting the house, my mom lived in the same one for 20 years, they used it once {brand new one just put in} and it broke, we had it "fixed" many times but always broke before we got to really use it, then my mom stoped being able to use real plates and forks/spoons {due to a med condition} so we just use paper now
Bad for environment to wash by hand. It takes way more water and gas/electricity
Clothes that didn’t come from the thrift store or cousins.
I taught myself how to sew because I couldn't stand the hand-me-downs my mother's friend sent us, her daughter was very fair and liked pastels, plaid yuppy skirts and tailored blouses. I have dark skin, hair and eyes and wanted bright colors, peasant blouses and bell bottoms, a neighbor gave me an ancient sewing machine and I figured it out.
I still refuse to buy clothes that isn’t from second hand stores. It’s actually seen as something good over here. Bad is to buy new products.
Here too. Well, not that extreme, but at least most mothers of smaller children will prefer second hand
Load More Replies...At our first school reunion (at around age 30) one of my former class mates complimented me on "how much my style improved" over the last ten years. I told him quite bluntly that this happens when you finally earn money and are now able to buy your own clothes and no longer have to wear 15 or 20 year old hand-me-downs. He was a bit flustered. Obviously it never occured to them that I (a girl) did not wear my older brothers' trousers "for style" but because I was the youngest of six kids in a family with only one income. At least I always HAD something to wear, even if they didn't like my "fashion"...
I didn't hate it then, but I won't shop at thrift stores now. I buy new things and wear them to bits.
Load More Replies...Honestly I loved getting clothes from my sister when I was younger. She always had the best stuff
Even considering myself as a middle class member, I nearly always buy second hand clothes: for the price of a bad piece of fast fashion brand, I can afford quality clothes that fit and look better, and will last better. Bargain+helping the planet
Fast food. A lot of the food we ate growing up came from our garden or hunting. We did a lot of canning. My dad inherited a house from his step father and it came with this pantry full of canned green beans. We ate green beans for dinner 5 days a week for probably about 4 years straight. I still won't eat green beans.
My mom took me for a visit to my uncle's. On way we stopped at Burger King. Never seen as big of burger as the original whopper. Did not even know if we were going to be able to eat it all. My gosh, that first ever Whopper was the best thing in the world!!
My maternal grandparents were immigrants from Eastern Europe and my Mom grew up extremely poor. Fortunately the community/church she grew up in was extremely close. Her Mom would visit the local butcher once a day (this was before refrigerators were common and they couldn't afford one anyway) and they would allow her to pick stuff out of the trash. One of the things considered trash back then were chicken wings. My Mom, despite living in the birthplace of modern Buffalo Wings was unable to bring herself to eat the until the last few years of her life.
Chili is a hard one for me. Easy to stretch for a long time. Plus you can add crackers, bread, rice, etc.
This prompted a sudden memory of my parents taking me and my sister to Maccy D's for lunch one Saturday, just because, and how incredibly excited we both were to be allowed to eat a hamburger for lunch!
A pool.
A pool being built, yes. But now the inflatable ones are fairly affordable
Load More Replies...Have never wanted one. Too much maintenance and insurance risk, so I lucked out on that.
No upvote for this. Only ever once lived near anyone with a pool and it was an above ground round ugly thing like the ones bears climb into on videos shared by Facebook. And which collapse regularly flooding everywhere including the neighbour's yard.
Either rich or like to spend needless money. Cheaper to dig a hole and throw money in it from time to time.
Ordering an appetizer with your entree for dinner or ordering take out regularly
Going out for dinner or ordering in AT ALL was on the rich kids list for me. We were clearly very low on the rung. lol
I'd never been to a restaurant until I went for my first (two-day) job interview when I was 15 (to start an apprenticeship at 16). First time I'd stayed in a hotel as well.
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I will just say that I still feel really guilty buying new clothes or going out to eat.
Was the same, once. I never feel guilty about anything anymore. If I haven't hurt anyone, then there's no point of guilt - just enjoy what you're getting/doing and everything else can f**k off... Cause I can f*****g die tomorrow and I don't want guilt to be the last feeling I've had.
Me too , anything for myself Sean's like an extravagance no problem buying things for the kids tho trying to give them a childhood I didn't get and still can't get over
Name brand cereal! I was looked at crazy in first grade when I said an off brand name cereal was my favorite.
Malt-O-Meal and ALDI cereals here in the US beat the hell out of most name brands!!
Load More Replies...Cereal at all. It wasn't a thing at our household, we were 3 kids and that meant a budget for milk that my family couldn't afford. Once in a while we got the extra luxury of having yogurt, but the yogurt alone. I got a taste for yogurt and granola as an adult, its my guilty pleasure 😋
about 90% off brand and name brand are the same cereal, diff companies by the "cereal" and slap their names on it {can't remember the whole thing but you can look it up}
Grapes and Doritos. I was 16 and in my first apartment. Lived off of Craft Mac & Cheese made with margarine and no milk cause it was all I could afford at 28 cents a box. My neighbor was 13 years older than me and would invite me over and feed me treats. It was heaven and she was a true angel!
the two things i could live off of are craft mac and cheese and ramen noodles
Mac and cheese with just margarine tasted normal. Had it made per the instructions and still not sure about it to this day. Tastes funny
Soda. We never had it in our house. Over at my best friend’s house they had cases of it in their garage. You could drink it like water when you were over there.
Questionable diet choice, but yeah - different times, different perspective
We never had it in my house and I’m eternally grateful that I never got hooked on it. Water is my drink of choice.
Same here! We only got to have soda at other kids' birthdays
Load More Replies...Only when Grandma gifted us some when she visited and on Christmas. Sometimes on birthdays.
I... um... still prefer water. I literally lost 30 pounds when I stopped drinking soda. Now I can't due to stomach surgery. I can't take a lot of carbonation so I cant even do sparking water which kinda tastes like TV static anyway! LOL
I would occasionally get a quarter for allowance and I ended up riding my bike to the store and they had a soda machine outside. Dropped my quarter in and pulled out an original Dr. Pepper bottle. Glass bottle, 10,2,4.
I have only ever drunk coca-cola all my life, to the point that if I dont have it it makes me sick, on good days I drink about 6-7, {some people will think "oh you must be like 1000 pound!" no, I'm actually very sick and hardly eat and only weigh about 90-120 pounds depending on how well i am
This was mine, too. Went to a friend's house after school, and she reached in the fridge and asked if I wanted a coke. I was sort of scared that her mom was going to find out we'd gotten into the fridge. I thought they must be rich.
Remember those electric car things kids use to have ? Anybody know what I’m talking about
We have 6 power wheels for my 3 kids - but only paid for 1 of them (and bought it used at that!) People throw those things out all the time, and my husband knows how to fix them (it's usually an easy/cheap fix for the wires at the pedal or something else electrical - that most people don't have a clue about.) So my kids might think we're rich, but we're just thrifty and handy!
Probably Power Wheels--those things were super fun, big enough for two kids, and absolutely GUZZLED electricity to refuel the battery. Never had one myself, but all the rich cousins and one neighbor had them.
Load More Replies...One of my regular customers at a former job makes hot rod power wheels as a hobby. He juices them up with power tool batteries and more powerful motors.
Sure do!! I bought one for each of my kids just because I wanted one so badly. I hope I can give them everything they want. As well as not being spoiled
All the funny home videos of one of the kids running over a sibling or running over dad.
Name brand anything.
The "off brand" foods from where I come from is WAY better than the name brands. Cheaper too.
And, in many cases, the content inside is the same... it's only the packaging that's different :D
Load More Replies...the off brand or house brand are usually the same quality/ tastethe same so I don't buy name brans excpet I really like something. Oreos for example- the off brand version taste good as well but I prefer the og version
What annoys me is that No-Name brand often only have the "standard" flavors of stuff. I for example like to drink vanilla or cherry coke, but those are only available from coca-cola directly. There are no off-brand alternatives...
Found out later many of the genetics are name brands packaged differently
I used to buy the off brand or store brands at the store. But you learn what you can skimp on and what you can't. There was a brand of these cheap kind of bean's. They were fine but then over the years they have gotten to be bad. So instead of paying $1.09 to paying $3.59 for beans and you get your money's worth. Otherwise I buy cheap as possible.
Caprisuns. Lunchables.
They are and they've been getting cheaper, but they're better than nothing
Load More Replies...Yes! And I’ll never forget the burning embarrassment the day my mom tried to do DIY Lunchables in my brown paper bag and I had to open that mess up at the lunch table
Mechanical pencils
I was lucky and could afford to buy pencils!.... I still did that....
Load More Replies...I actually needed them for school (secondary technical school). Had 5 (0.3, .5 x 2 -one for hb and another one for 4h-, .7 and .9 mm) and took care of them as if my life depended on that as I couldn't replace them if I lost any.
Check out a brand called Nicpro on Amazon. They sell mechanical pencil sets. You get 3 or more mechanical pencils in colors, plenty of lead refills, eraser tip refills and several erasers all in a handy carrying case. Available in different sizes or the larger sets that have all the sizes in one.
Load More Replies...Cable
It's worse now than ever. Cable bill in the 90s was $30, now it's 150 without internet
Yeah as a young grown-up and not being able to afford to pay all of my bills cable was the first one that got turned off because I didn’t have enough money to pay it, or the telephone. This was in the 70s and 80s.
Load More Replies...Owning more than 1 TV. I felt like a Rockefeller when I got my grandparent's old 13 inch Zenith TV because she upgraded to a 32" Sony Trinitron for the bedroom.
Same here - I got my parents' little, old black and white TV in my bedroom when I was 12. I'll never forget watching Princess Diana's wedding on it. Weirdly enough, I bought my first dishwasher the year she died (I commented on the dishwasher post earlier in this thread).
Any vacation that wasn't in a tent.
School revision books, at £1 each, school lunch and bus fair. I would walk to school 2 miles one way. I realised after being kicked out that there was a double standard, as my eldest brother receieved every latest games console upon release, ps1, ps2, ps3, ps4, gameboys etc, his birthday was celebrated, he receieved a new laptop every 3 years and his old laptops would be sold by him or go into the trash, and he receieved a new mobile phone at roughly the same rate. He was held to no standard, he started doing drugs and drink at a young age, dropped out of college, then used predicted grades to get into uni and dropped out of uni 3 times while amounting £100ks worth of debt, he also stole £70k or so from the family vault with gold too, which dissapeared and was never questioned, he's pretty much an a*****e in every regard and never held to any standard and was loved unconditionally. I ended up getting a job with an electrician as an assistant doing minor things (such as fetching tools etc) at 13, later on working several jobs, some at the same time, ranging from mechanics to recruitment, taking a gap year from college, then working during college in a large pharmacy. All money I earned from 13 to 24 went to my mother who kicked me out on my 24th birthday on the dot, the only birthday present I ever receieved. At one point she told me to wait for her outside of a shop after I pay for the shopping (I bought all the groceries) and she left me waiting in the rain for an hour and a half with no time on when she will return or coat to wear. After 4 hours of waiting I went home where she was there with my eldest brother saying she went home to get him, took him out to the movies and a buffet, and acted like nothing happened at all. Not sure if this belongs here, I was raised to believe my family was impoverished so always worked hard and gave every penny to my family, idk if it was the case anymore though, I think that I was genuienly just treated like s**t for no reason, I could be wrong though.
I really want to just hug you. I'm so sorry this happened to you. As a mom i'm crying while reading your story. I hope you are far away from her and your brother. You didn't deserve the treatment you got as a child and young man(?). I will be thinking about you over the next few months. I will be thinking of you for a few days I can promise you. My God I just want to hold you. I hope you are living your best life with the love of your self that you deserve. Have who ever is close to you give you a huge hug.
It broke my heart to read what you went through. I wish you happiness, love and peace. I hope you are in a place where you have been able to see that you are a good and kind heart and a person who receives love and is cared for. I wish you all the best, from the bottom of my heart.
There's NO reason a kid should be treated that way. You are not wrong.
A TV with a remote.
I can see a mix of different decades here. Is it still a luxury if it hasn't been invented yet? 🙃
They possibly mean that the richest people were the first to get it. If you had a TV with manual buttons, but your friends got a newfangled one with a remote, they're clearly living the life of luxury - imagine not having to get off your bum to change channel! (Or, realistically, getting one of the kids/younger siblings to do it)
Load More Replies...And stand there holding them when reception won't work if you don't! 😜
Load More Replies...My grandparents had a TV with a remote. Probably early 70s late 60s. It was a "clicker". When you pressed the buttons it actually clicked and the TV had a mic that picked up the particular frequency and would change the channel. All you had was a channel up button. No down (only 3 channels, not a big deal) and no volume. You could however change the channel by shaking the dog's chain in front of the TV!
Heat in the winter... House (trailer) wouldn't insulate well and would get down to mid 40s, sometimes lower in hasher winter storms... I was just told "you're not wearing enough blankets" when I told them I was cold. I mean technically they are right but that isn't the point
“That’s why god invented sweaters” — my Dad anytime someone said they were cold because our rental house was built in the Victorian era and still had literal newspapers as insulation in the walls.
My room had the vent furthest from the furnace and it was always the coldest in the house. Between that and my dad's heat frugality I grew up freezing. Plus I don't think my circulation works properly as I'm often the cold one no matter how many layers I have on. My place now is very well insulated and I keep the heat pretty high during winter (above 72F) My kid runs cold like me and I never want him to feel desperately freezing in his room the way I did.
Lots of people in the UK are going to live this way this winter. I grew up with (and still use) indoor hats, wrist warmers, hot water bottles, sitting in a sleeping bag etc. If it was particularly cold I would drag my clothes under the covers to warm them, and later years hold them in front of a small electric fire and watch them steam as they warmed. In winter my flat is usually about 15 degrees C and I am comfortable. Visiting friends and family, I have to wear thin layers to be able to take most of them off so I don't pass out from the heat
I can vividly remember thinking my friends were rich because they had an answering machine (mid 80s). I even mentioned to my mom how they must be really wealthy…she asked why and I told her my logic of the answering machine.
Reality was we had enough money for one, mom just didn’t want one. I think the one we finally bought was less than $20. I felt like we had arrived!
To see my parents fill up the grocery cart.
We really never went grocery shopping. After rent and utilities there was no money left over. All we could do was go in and grab a few things like bread and peanut butter. We never needed a buggy.
New cars. In the few months before he passed away, my dad told me the most he ever made per year was $18K, which blew me away even though he retired in the late 80’s. I was old enough during the 70’s and 80’s to know $18K wasn’t all that much to support a family, but I give him and my mom total respect for raising us without us being made to feel like we were broke. I think one of the worst things parents can do is let the kids feel the understandable stress we all feel when we have no idea how we’re going to get by. I’m not saying you lie to them, but knowing that things are tight is different than seeing your parents feeling despair and anger over the situation. No one wants to view their parents like this.
18k in 1970 was the equivalent of 138k and 18k in the 1980s was 65k of todays money. So yeah you were not exactly poor or low income. Would say mid
I would disagree with not letting the kids see any of your money stress. Let the kids see that you have to plan your expenses and impulse buying should be limited. I don't want my kids thinking I had everything together and they are failures when they get out in their own. I struggled and still do sometimes, and then seeing me handle it in an effective way that limits any impact to us as a family is better than hiding it in my opinion
My dad always drove old bangers. Given we lived in NI during the troubles, he got some decent bomb damaged vehicles at car auctions including a 2 year old Austin Princess (with power steering) for only £220 - cheap in 1982.
Buying a Christmas tree. When I was 6 or 7 years old, I visited a neighbor's house and saw the biggest Christmas tree I set my eyes on. It was plastic because, in our country, we don't cut trees for it or maybe don't have that specific tree. (I only recently discovered that other countries cut trees when Christmas is near or they want to decorate). I asked my mom why we didn't have a Christmas tree. She told me that it was a bother to put up and we didn't have the money so I let it go. That year, she bought a small plastic Christmas tree and placed it on a small table. I felt like we had so much money and looked forward to the next year. Ever since then, I've never seen a Christmas tree inside our house again.
I actually think it's kinda weird to cut trees since they just go to waste after..but ig they're pretty
Dude. I didn't even know Walmart had toys until 2 years after my parents divorced. We only went there when it was back-to-school times and if I was lucky I'd be able to put either a pair of shoes or 2 pairs of lower-tier "Rustler" brand jeans on layaway and maybe get them by picture day. The clothes would barely survive the school year, but they HAD TO. I knew we were poor. Getting anything NEW was crazy -- like unbelievable.
Build a bears at the mall
Yes and no. Most people can afford to do the birthday promotion for a baby, but they can get quite expensive, especially with accessories.
(This is funnier if you assume I was talking about the baby with that last part.)
Load More Replies...Spices. I grew up very "eat to live" my mom made food warm and served it. If there was a prepackaged family size dinner thing, it was a treat because they were flavored. The first porkchop my wife made me, I was ready to go to mcdonalds and eat. She made me sit down and try it, I demanded that it wasn't pork, it didn't taste like cardboard and my knife didn't make a sawing sound as I cut it. Now we are very "Live to eat" and I'm never having a meal at my moms house again.
This could also have been in the Netherlands, where the only accepted spice is salt
Real bandaids. We used strong tape and paper towels.
Real banaids for us were the fabric ones, what we had were the cheap plastic ones that came off the first time you washed your hands.
well i live in the country and we have bandaids but my parents will still throw duct tape and a rag on it
We didn't ever get bandaids unless it was the type of injury that most people would go to the clinic for. I'm still stingy with giving them to my kids, so they view them as a luxury item - especially the ones with Disney characters on.
Celebrating Christmas and buying presents
We didn't have any of the things listed here but my mom made sure we had a beautiful tree and decorated house and my 2 sisters and I got more presents than anybody we knew. Also we went on vacation to the beach every summer. We never had our power turned off, no evictions. My mom more than made up for our dead beat father. We also got new clothes every year for back to school. I am 58 and I still don't know how she did it.
Honestly? Just the chance of being a kid. Never experienced half the things that people have both as kids or now. Xbox 360? Never experienced that time, was stuck with an old PS1/PS2 for a few years before everything in that house was lost - don't even know now if the stuff is still there or gone. Bike? Owned one back in primary school, gone now, can't afford one. Going into town just for the school fair or to hang out with other kids after school? Never could afford it - hell couldn't even afford to fit in with the other kids. Hell, even food we had to stretch fortnight to fortnight. ~~~ Because of it, I've just had to learn on living on the bare minimum. Can't even spend money on myself both as I physically don't know how to and because of the concern that something will come up that I'll need it (which always happens eventually). Doesn't even scrape the surface like explaining to people my own age that I don't know who x singer is or what y thing is from when we were kids because of money and family. It sucks. ._.
Fruit by the foot, fruit snacks, pudding cups, gatorade,
Ok. The thing is they are really unhealthy. Your parents might have bought them if they were healthier, even if you didn't have a lot of money
I always knew I was broke growing up. But pretty much almost everything. Eating 3 meals a day. Eating out every now and then. Getting presents for Christmas and birthdays. Etc. When I was 12, mother managed to snag a great deal on an apartment in a 2 family apartment house in a neighborhood that was definitely middle to upper class. One of the very nicest neighborhoods in the city. We were way out of our element in that neighborhood. As a matter of fact, we were the freaks of the neighborhood. We were the poorest people in the neighborhood. We were the only family on welfare in the neighborhood. Out of the dozens upon dozens of kids in the neighborhood, my siblings and I were the only kids who were being raised by a single parent. All the other kids were being raised in 2 parent families. Whereas we were the poorest in the neighborhood, our very next door neighbor mustve been the richest guy in the neighborhood. He owned his own successful demolition company. He owned the 2 family apartment house he and his family lived in. They lived out of their first floor apartment and their basement while renting out their second floor apartment. They owned a house in florida. They owned a fleet of cars which would get replaced with a new fleet of cars every one or two years. When his oldest son got married, he bought his son a 2 family apartment house across and down the street. My sister and brother made friends with a couple of their kids. They'd come home with tales of their wealth and all the nice stuff they owned. I've never been inside their home, but i could see into their dining room from our windows and the furnishings were so oppulent, fancy and expensive. I'd bet their dining room furnishings alone cost more than everything we owned in the whole world. My brother once told me how their mother went food shopping once a week, every week. And how she spent a minimum of 100 bucks each time. In our home, our mother went food shopping only once every 2-3 weeks and then she'd spend only around 10-12 dollars on food. The highest she would ever spend on grocery shopping was 20 bucks. It was a big deal to us kids if and when our mother spent a whole 20 bucks on grocery shopping. One time the next door rich guy's youngest kid was hanging out with my brother at our place when the kid decided to go to the toy store to buy himself some new toys. My brother tagged along. A couple hours later they both came back with a huge armload of toys (mostly "transformer" toys as that was the hottest toy around that time) and deposited them on our table. My brothers friend (i think he was around 8 years old. I was 9 years older, in my teens) then took out his cash change from his purchases out of one pocket and his wallet out of the other pocket so that he could transfer his change into his wallet. I was standing right behind him as he opened his wallet. My eyes bugged out of my head. Inside were 50s and 20s and some 10s. LOTS of them. Lots of 50s. Lots of 20s. A very thick wad of them. I dont recall seeing any 5s, or 1s. Not until he stuck his change into his wallet. Now he had some 5s and 1s in there. Imagine an 8 year old kid walking around with that much money in his pocket. More than most adults. All the cash I had on me at that very moment in my pocket was a lousy 3 cents. Three pennies. Which literally represented all the money i had in the world. I didnt even own a wallet. What for? I never had enough money on me that necessitated the need for a wallet. Later on my brother and his friend left. I went straight into my bedroom. I dug out of my pocket the three pennies i had on me and slammed them down on top of my bedroom dresser and stared at them. They were all tarnished. They didnt even have the decency to at least be shiny pennies. Man, being poor sucks. It sucks even more when you've got real life rich people living next door to contrast your life with.
"They lived out of their first floor apartment and their basement while renting out their second floor apartment". I've got news for you - they weren't rich.
They owned a second house in Florida. Last I checked, that costs quite a bit.
Load More Replies...My Uncle wanted to give me photos of my cousins that I could keep in my wallet (I was 14). I said no thanks, I didn't have a wallet. He asked where I kept my money. I don't have money, so I don't need a wallet.
For the longest time, internet. My family ran on those NetZero and Juno free discs, and Beware of Dog software for a long time until we could afford DSL..
Gaming consoles
My brother was able to buy a N64 when he was 12, only because he had a painting of his bought by an ex-footy player. That was the only console we had until we moved out of home.
After school snacks, even ones from the dollar store. My "friends" in middle school constantly made a point to remind me that I was poor. One of the things they made fun of me for was the fact that I never just had spare change to carry around. They all had spare change so they'd be able to get things like candy and chips after school. One time they each even got an entire coconut cream pie entirely to themselves. On rare instances when my mom either didn't have time or just didn't want to prepare lunch in the morning, she'd give me $5 to get food from the school cafeteria. I was supposed to give the change back to her after school, so I'd get the cheapest thing there (which was nowhere neat enough to fill me up), pocket a bit of the change and return the rest. Eventually I'd be able to afford a bag of chips from the dollar store or from the grocery store next to it. I stopped walking home with my "friends" because I felt so ashamed that I had to scrounge up change just to afford a bag of chips that cost $1.50. This is a habit that continued throughout high school, which eventually led me to have an entire tissue box full of coins. Bonus story: one morning my mom had left $5 each for my brother and I to get lunch. I took my lunch money and headed off to school. Unbeknownst to me, my mom had followed me all the way to school. The reason why was because she was convinced that I had stolen my brothers lunch money and wanted to accuse me of being a thief (this was very likely my brother trying to get me in trouble by lying, he loved to do that growing up). Obviously since I didn't take his lunch money I said as much and I thought that was the end of it. But when I got home, the accusations started again and my mom threatened to throw me out because she wouldn't have a thief in her house. I was crying and screaming that I didn't take his f*****g money and I guess this was one of the *very* rare instances where my brother felt bad about lying so he admitted that he had lied and he had his lunch money the entire time. (My mom had gotten very close to throwing him out only about a year prior to this, as in she had already chucked his backpack outside and he was literally halfway through the door as he was begging for her not to kick him out and holding onto the doorway for dear life, guess he was reminded of that.)
Name brand chips.
Going to concerts
funny story i almost went to a zach williams concert the other day but apperently i wasnt allowed to ride in the very back of the SUV even though i rode back there for 4 hours with my aunt.
Car repairs
We had a car and a truck but we repaired them ourselves. I wasn't much of a mechanic but they ran.
Color television. When I grew up, black and white tvs were common. We always had one in our house. It wasn't until I was out of the house that I saw a color television. I made it my lifes goal to get one. I finally did when I was 25. It was awesome. I had never seen star trek in color before. It was awesome. And very colorful.
Throughout the 1970s and up until the mid-80s we had a rented black and white telly. I identify with the wonder felt at seeing my favourite programmes in colour for the first time 😎
first thing i've seen on color tv was "Yellow submarine" from Beatles movie: A M A Z I N G !!!
Load More Replies...Seeing The Wizard of OZ on a colour tv was shocking. The fact that it starts and ends in black and white, with colour in the middle, surprise
Spaghetti-O’s. I thought only the rich kids deserved hot lunch in those fancy Thermos’
Half sized ziplocks/ name brand ziplocks
First time eating at a friend's house. We were allowed more than one piece of chicken.
First time trying salad dressing at a friend's house: "What is this magic lettuce liquid?"
Load More Replies...I’m sure my kids think we don’t have money because I talk about the cost of things a lot. When they waste food, when they break things, how much everything costs. Not eating out often. I really want them to be aware of exactly how much carelessness can cost.
Most of these aren't just about being "poor" growing up. They're about budgeting as an adult. I lived alone for years and owned ( mortgage) my own small house on an average salary. Saved for a new dress, bought own brand food, went on holiday once after selling some jewellery etc. However, I didn't consider myself poor, just not being extravagant. Meanwhile, my now, husband comes from a fairly affluent family and works really hard at a well paid job. He is very down to earth and not posh or a snob. He even worked voluntary overseas in Kenya for 2 years. However, he has no understanding of having to buy things on a credit and not paying off in full each month, or having to say no invitations, being panic stricken if the car breaks down etc.
This post has come up in varying forms so much recently and unfortunately it is always a bummer.
All of these apply to me. I always thought my family was "middle class" because we sure as heck weren't rich but we weren't "living in a cardboard box", as my parents would say. As an adult, I see just how poor we were. Sunday night was bath night, filled the tub and we each bathed in order of least dirty. Yep, shared the bath water. Anybody remember government cheese? Powdered milk? I bought food with my first paycheck at age 15.
I remember the government cheese in the white box, it never melted. When I grew up, we always had powdered milk, we never could afford real store milk as we called it. When I got to be an adult… the first thing I did was buy a gallon of store milk and a box of velveta. Omg, I felt like a million bucks!
Load More Replies...These all are rich things. Glad I can afford some now. But growing up a 2 story house with air conditioning, an island, and brand name cereal was definitely rich. Pool- still rich.
Medical. My dad had great insurance through his work, but it still cost a lot to do to the doctor. My mom about flipped out when my brother broke his wrist because she knew there was a sizable bill coming which he had to fit into an already tight budget. And they did not have HSAs back then.
Some of these are just signs of a family being frugal. The Rest are true signs of poverty. Here are some: -No functioning hot water heater, Boil water and make a warm bath. -A haircut every 3-4 months, That's why alot' of poor kids just have buzz cuts. -Never buying new clothes till you're all grown. Seriously, everything was used clothing. -Here's a weird one....socks. It's hard finding used socks so we had two pairs each and would just was one pair by hand when needed. - The one that still burns me...no letterman jacket. I made varsity baseball as freshman and lettered for all four years. Could never afford the jacket, or year book or prom. Once your poor, it stays with you forever.
First time eating at a friend's house. We were allowed more than one piece of chicken.
First time trying salad dressing at a friend's house: "What is this magic lettuce liquid?"
Load More Replies...I’m sure my kids think we don’t have money because I talk about the cost of things a lot. When they waste food, when they break things, how much everything costs. Not eating out often. I really want them to be aware of exactly how much carelessness can cost.
Most of these aren't just about being "poor" growing up. They're about budgeting as an adult. I lived alone for years and owned ( mortgage) my own small house on an average salary. Saved for a new dress, bought own brand food, went on holiday once after selling some jewellery etc. However, I didn't consider myself poor, just not being extravagant. Meanwhile, my now, husband comes from a fairly affluent family and works really hard at a well paid job. He is very down to earth and not posh or a snob. He even worked voluntary overseas in Kenya for 2 years. However, he has no understanding of having to buy things on a credit and not paying off in full each month, or having to say no invitations, being panic stricken if the car breaks down etc.
This post has come up in varying forms so much recently and unfortunately it is always a bummer.
All of these apply to me. I always thought my family was "middle class" because we sure as heck weren't rich but we weren't "living in a cardboard box", as my parents would say. As an adult, I see just how poor we were. Sunday night was bath night, filled the tub and we each bathed in order of least dirty. Yep, shared the bath water. Anybody remember government cheese? Powdered milk? I bought food with my first paycheck at age 15.
I remember the government cheese in the white box, it never melted. When I grew up, we always had powdered milk, we never could afford real store milk as we called it. When I got to be an adult… the first thing I did was buy a gallon of store milk and a box of velveta. Omg, I felt like a million bucks!
Load More Replies...These all are rich things. Glad I can afford some now. But growing up a 2 story house with air conditioning, an island, and brand name cereal was definitely rich. Pool- still rich.
Medical. My dad had great insurance through his work, but it still cost a lot to do to the doctor. My mom about flipped out when my brother broke his wrist because she knew there was a sizable bill coming which he had to fit into an already tight budget. And they did not have HSAs back then.
Some of these are just signs of a family being frugal. The Rest are true signs of poverty. Here are some: -No functioning hot water heater, Boil water and make a warm bath. -A haircut every 3-4 months, That's why alot' of poor kids just have buzz cuts. -Never buying new clothes till you're all grown. Seriously, everything was used clothing. -Here's a weird one....socks. It's hard finding used socks so we had two pairs each and would just was one pair by hand when needed. - The one that still burns me...no letterman jacket. I made varsity baseball as freshman and lettered for all four years. Could never afford the jacket, or year book or prom. Once your poor, it stays with you forever.
