30 People Hold Nothing Back Discussing The Rudest Behaviors They Hate Seeing

Nobody enjoys being cut off or bumped into, yet these things happen all the time — both to and because of us.

Experts say that such behaviors instigate a self-perpetuating cycle, hampering our productivity, our happiness, and our health along the way.

So incivility is like a virus. Contract the stuff, and there's a big chance you can spread it without even consciously wanting to.

Interested in which of its forms are the most common, Reddit user MaximumHemidrive asked others on the platform to share what people say and do without realizing it's actually quite hurtful.

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30 People Hold Nothing Back Discussing The Rudest Behaviors They Hate Seeing If someone declines alcohol, do not insist, and do not ask them why.

Weak-Snow-4470 , Inga Seliverstova Report

Final score:

206points

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TotallyNOTAFox 8 months ago

Say you don't eat meat and everybody offers you some, say you don'T drink alcohol and everybody offers you some, say you don't have sex - nothing!

91points

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30 People Hold Nothing Back Discussing The Rudest Behaviors They Hate Seeing LISTENING TO ANYTHING IN PUBLIC WITH YOUR VOLUME ON. This includes TikTok, YouTube, social media, face timing, phone on speaker, music, etc. No one gives a f**k what media you’re consuming. Airports especially seem to attract this in droves like earbuds or headphones don’t exist?? If i can hear your phone you are getting The Glare. Learn to adjust to polite society.

merlinshairyballs , Rasheed Kemy Report

Final score:

165points

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Loverboy 8 months ago

I know people that do this, unfortunately. They know it's annoying, they just don't give a f**k about other people

31points

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30 People Hold Nothing Back Discussing The Rudest Behaviors They Hate Seeing Looking at your phone whilst someone talks to you. Put your phone DOWN and live in the moment that is REAL. Your phone is just a waste of your time 90% of the time! Enjoy a real face to face conversation!.

CountOk9802 , Andrea Piacquadio Report

Final score:

135points

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Zoey Bear 8 months ago

Wait, what did you say? Sorry, I was looking at Bored Panda on my phone.

51points

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30 People Hold Nothing Back Discussing The Rudest Behaviors They Hate Seeing Why don't you have kids yet?.

AudibleNod , Caleb Oquendo Report

Final score:

131points

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Richard Ross 8 months ago

Why would I want to bring kids up in these awful times ahead.

46points

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30 People Hold Nothing Back Discussing The Rudest Behaviors They Hate Seeing Asking when you're going to have kids.

My fiancée had a hysterotomy a few years ago because reasons. We're planning to adopt and we're both fine with it. There's enough people in this world and we don't need to make more ourselves. She gets asked a lot when we're planning to have kids and she replies, completely deadpan, "I'm infertile" and the uncomfortable look on their faces when they don't know how to respond gives us both great joy. We hope it helps them think twice before asking someone else. I can't wait to marry that woman.

fridgidfallus , Marisa Howenstine Report

Final score:

130points

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Jennik 8 months ago

In a similar situation, I used to be asked why I only had one child. Or told I was "selfish" for only having one. Or, in a slightly more positive way (I guess), "Your daughter is so gorgeous! I hope you're having another!". Yeah, well my daughter is the only surviving baby out of 10 pregnancies. I had 9 first trimester miscarriages, some of which became seriously life-threatening, so I consider myself pretty lucky to have one child, actually.

68points

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30 People Hold Nothing Back Discussing The Rudest Behaviors They Hate Seeing Giving any sort of unsolicited advice on someone's physical appearance.

Particular-Natural12 , Ketut Subiyanto Report

Final score:

129points

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Karri Berkowitz 8 months ago

In my disliking of the whole "girls hating on girls" cliché, I always compliment other females on something they r wearing. I don't care that they didn't ask for it cuz sometimes ppl just need to hear something nice from a total stranger.

55points

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30 People Hold Nothing Back Discussing The Rudest Behaviors They Hate Seeing Saying "it was God's will" when someone you care about dies. So inappropriate yet so many people do it anyway.

MetamorphicMermaid , cottonbro studio Report

Final score:

127points

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ScarletRos 8 months ago

Where I used to work, a colleague miscarried. Another colleague told her, “God needed the baby more than you” in some weird attempt to be comforting. Everyone else was like WTF?

76points

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30 People Hold Nothing Back Discussing The Rudest Behaviors They Hate Seeing “Smile!” Had a coworker that kept telling me to smile and I had to talk to a manager about it. I’m a large rough looking man and apparently my resting staring off into space face offended her. I live with chronic pain, so no, I don’t feel like smiling when I’m not interacting with anyone. I’m not scowling, I’m not mad I’m just not happy.

Corey307 , Jonathon Burton Report

Final score:

119points

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Richi Weiss 8 months ago

I can totally relate to that. I hope the pain u suffer is at least bearable. Hope u find something that helps u out!

26points

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30 People Hold Nothing Back Discussing The Rudest Behaviors They Hate Seeing Being chronically ill and constantly being told "well at least it isn't cancer". No but it's stuff I have to live the rest of my life with. Also "but you look ok". Crazy how most all of my body is on the inside me.

Tarantulagirl , Sora Shimazaki Report

Final score:

118points

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Louise Clarke 8 months ago

Yes, as someone with chronic daily migraine headaches, invisible and painful, I have had a headache every day for 20 years. And I hate when people tell me to pop an aspirin and it will be fine, or tell me that if I lose weight it will improve.

35points

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#10

30 People Hold Nothing Back Discussing The Rudest Behaviors They Hate Seeing Stepping off a full escalator and then standing still while looking around. Bro, just take 4-5 steps forward to figure yourself out!.

Viviane445 , Felipe Cardoso Report

Final score:

114points

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Hans Georg 8 months ago

Not just escalators, but also stairs at the train station. Or sitting on them. I do not want to hit them with my bike.

30points

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#11

30 People Hold Nothing Back Discussing The Rudest Behaviors They Hate Seeing Commenting on weight in any way - “you’re so skinny” isn’t always a compliment.

Alley_cat_alien , i yunmai Report

Final score:

106points

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Loverboy 8 months ago

Lmao, having heard this for most of my life, definitely not heard or taken as a compliment most of the time. Certain people can get away with calling me skinny cuz they say it a certain way and I love 'em. Other than that, no.

13points

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#12

30 People Hold Nothing Back Discussing The Rudest Behaviors They Hate Seeing Leaving your grocery cart in the middle of the aisle so others cannot pass. It’s inconsiderate and infuriating.

1980pzx , Wallace Chuck Report

Final score:

104points

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Donkey boi 8 months ago

Oh I'll move it! I'll take it for a little trip around the store if you're not paying attention. Might even add a few things it.

38points

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#13

30 People Hold Nothing Back Discussing The Rudest Behaviors They Hate Seeing Touch a pregnant woman's stomach.

LuminousZephyr , Helena Lopes Report

Final score:

103points

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Loverboy 8 months ago

Touching a stranger randomly, without permission, for any reason at all is just a big no.

72points

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#14

30 People Hold Nothing Back Discussing The Rudest Behaviors They Hate Seeing “Why are you so quiet?”.

bobaboat , Etienne Boulanger Report

Final score:

97points

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Loverboy 8 months ago

"Why do you talk so much?" would be considered rude though, right?

70points

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#15

30 People Hold Nothing Back Discussing The Rudest Behaviors They Hate Seeing People getting on an elevator before allowing people who are on it to get off.

FalcorFliesMePlaces , Gaurav Baya Report

Final score:

91points

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TotallyNOTAFox 8 months ago (edited)

That's not just rude but also very stupid

37points

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#16

30 People Hold Nothing Back Discussing The Rudest Behaviors They Hate Seeing Approach a disabled person you don’t know to call them brave, inspirational, etc. Especially if you are using them as an example to children. Every single disabled person I have ever met HATES when people do this. It’s calling unnecessary attention to them and a lot of people feel put on the spot, so it’s not a kind or respectful thing to do.

Just leave people the f**k alone, they’re not here to be your example or your teachable moment.

captcha_trampstamp , ThisIsEngineering Report

Final score:

87points

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censorshipsucks 8 months ago

I always think you can figure out how it feels by swapping the person around. If you think for example that hotpants are ok, visualise your dad in them and ask whether they're ok. No, they're not. They're lechy. Now, do the same thought with the above. Swap disabled person with black person. "Oh look how inspirational, a black person in a store!" ... f**k off. So if your gut reaction to the person swap is "ewww gross" then yes, ANY comment on ANY person in that scenario is "eww gross".

28points

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#17

30 People Hold Nothing Back Discussing The Rudest Behaviors They Hate Seeing Talking loudly while traveling in herds with no spatial awareness. The random scream. Think college freshman packs or middle schoolers at the mall.

gator_grinder , Rich Smith Report

Final score:

87points

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Loverboy 8 months ago

I have been guilty of this. Not screaming or being super loud but kinda disregarding my surroundings while with a bunch of people unless I had to interact with said environment

10points

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#18

30 People Hold Nothing Back Discussing The Rudest Behaviors They Hate Seeing People who let their dogs jump up on you. Hey I love dogs but I’m not in the mood of having dirty paws on my nice clean clothes.

son_berd , Lisa Fotios Report

Final score:

85points

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Loverboy 8 months ago

As someone who is slightly terrified of random dogs, I agree with the first sentence

34points

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#19

30 People Hold Nothing Back Discussing The Rudest Behaviors They Hate Seeing "You don't look autistic"

Oh you don't say?.

Cherokeerayne , cottonbro studio Report

Final score:

77points

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Richi Weiss 8 months ago

My question would be: "how should an autistic person look like?" 🤦

46points

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#20

30 People Hold Nothing Back Discussing The Rudest Behaviors They Hate Seeing Talking to someone about work when they're eating their lunch on their lunch break.

BallScratcher123 , Marcus Aurelius Report

Final score:

77points

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Nika Strokappe 8 months ago

I don't mind discussing work with colleagues while on my lunch break, so not everyone will think this is rude...

6points

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#21

30 People Hold Nothing Back Discussing The Rudest Behaviors They Hate Seeing It amazes me how many people cut each other off mid-sentence. It doesn’t matter how many people are in the conversation, the topic, or nature of it, inevitably someone will cut the other person off mid-sentence.

Broderickboggs , SHVETS production Report

Final score:

76points

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Louise Clarke 8 months ago

I hate never getting a word in.

18points

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#22

30 People Hold Nothing Back Discussing The Rudest Behaviors They Hate Seeing Immediately walking up the aisle once the plane lands and not letting those sitting in front of u get out first.

kingkpooh , Chris Brignola Report

Final score:

70points

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muntherqia 8 months ago

First out of the plane wins

20points

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#23

30 People Hold Nothing Back Discussing The Rudest Behaviors They Hate Seeing Sharing your own experience before reacting to someone else sharing a story. No matter your intentions behind sharing your own story it will always seem like you are trying to one up someone or make everything about you. I'm not trying to say you can't or shouldn't share your story but react and ask a few questions before you do. Show that you care about the other person first.

Excellent_Price_8762 , Ricky Esquivel Report

Final score:

70points

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Richi Weiss 8 months ago

It is super easy to step into that trap. I have to admit I also do that sometimes but if I do I wanted to tell the other person that they are not alone but I am also thinking "dammed u shouldn't do that" while talking. But then it's too late 😔

51points

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#24

30 People Hold Nothing Back Discussing The Rudest Behaviors They Hate Seeing *why are you so quiet?*

Why do you talk so much? See how rude that sounds?.

goated95 , cottonbro studio Report

Final score:

69points

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Mrs Irish Mom 8 months ago

Uncle asked my kid why are they so quiet and she said, why are younso loud, i could hear you even before i walked tru the front door the poor neighbours

26points

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#25

30 People Hold Nothing Back Discussing The Rudest Behaviors They Hate Seeing Commenting on a stranger's acne. Holy s**t, doesn't matter what 'hack' or trick or advice you have that you just have to share, the person KNOWS what their skin looks like, has almost certainly tried everything and then some, and is just trying to get through their day. That s**t hurts from friends and family, let alone some a*****e customer at your job or d******d at the bar. Just /don't/.

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Final score:

63points

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censorshipsucks 8 months ago

same for anyone suffering anything. I have loads of allergies and people tell me stupid s**t like "well if you only ate healthy like more nuts"... f**k right off... I am precisely allergic to that "healthy" s**t.

22points

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#26

30 People Hold Nothing Back Discussing The Rudest Behaviors They Hate Seeing When someone shares something tough they're experiencing, saying "Welcome to the club" is really invalidating.

WildShadow163 , Rosie Sun Report

Final score:

63points

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Daria 8 months ago

I always understood it like "you're not alone" and actually felt better?..

64points

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#27

30 People Hold Nothing Back Discussing The Rudest Behaviors They Hate Seeing Touching people’s hair without their permission. As a black woman who wears protective styles I get this all the time. I am not a petting zoo.

Cleonce12 , Bennie Lukas Bester Report

Final score:

58points

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JuniorCJ82 8 months ago

What does protective style mean?

15points

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#28

30 People Hold Nothing Back Discussing The Rudest Behaviors They Hate Seeing Rude to do? Cancel plans to attend an activity for the last minute or just not show up to something you've RSVP'd for. I understand sometimes people suddenly get sick, their kid gets sick, or they have a last minute work assignment, but I hate the "I changed my mind," or "I didn't feel like it" excuses. I actually had a birthday party where everyone I invited decided they'd just not show up, but it was okay because they assumed other people would come. I only invited four people, and nobody came. It was very hurtful and disappointing. Happy birthday to me!.

SuLiaodai , Tima Miroshnichenko Report

Final score:

57points

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Lucky2BAlive 8 months ago

Just so you know, I would have shown up (unless death or a family member, or serious illness) - I don’t get invited to parties so when ai do, I take it seriously.

19points

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#29

30 People Hold Nothing Back Discussing The Rudest Behaviors They Hate Seeing “You look good for your age.”

There are so many ways to compliment someone on aging well, but that is not one of them.

graygemini , Craig Dennis Report

Final score:

57points

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censorshipsucks 8 months ago

I'm ok with this one. I'm definitely heading to old age now so if a youngish person says this I feel quite good about myself.

21points

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#30

30 People Hold Nothing Back Discussing The Rudest Behaviors They Hate Seeing Leaving your highbeams on whenever there’s a car in front of you, whether they’re on the same or opposite side of the road. I know for a lot of people this is obvious, but I was once in front of somebody who would always turn their highs off for oncoming cars and turn them on once said car had passed, even though they were 15 feet behind me and were still shining their highs into my face. I did not know this person, and had not committed some sort of traffic faux pas.

Beetlejuice1800 , Luke Miller Report

Final score:

52points

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Philly Bob Squires 8 months ago

Pitch dark on the turnpike. Some moron 100 feet begind me with high beams blaring. If you're 1000 feet behind me, it's blinding. If you can see me, turn them off! (Especially if you have those newer "brighter than the sun" type of headlights!)

29points

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#31

Coming up to someone with a baby and giving unsolicited advice and touching the baby.

Worried_Appeal_2390 Report

Final score:

20points

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Nerd Groupie 8 months ago

Bonus points if it's passively said to the kid. "Oh, mom forgot your socks today!" It's 70 degrees, Janet. Calm down and bite me.

4points

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#32

30 People Hold Nothing Back Discussing The Rudest Behaviors They Hate Seeing Random people coming up to me (a smoker) and saying “you know those will k**l you”. Yeah, I know.

xxxtravirginoliveoil , Donny Jiang Report

Final score:

20points

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TotallyNOTAFox 8 months ago (edited)

"You know, walking up to strangers and give them unsolicited advice can do that, too"

31points

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#33

“You look tired”.

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Final score:

19points

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Zoey Bear 8 months ago

That's because you make me tired.

9points

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#34

Commenting on a pregnant woman’s belly size. That goes for both “I can’t even tell you’re pregnant” and “wow you’re so big!”.

You have no idea how the mom will feel about your comment.

vanillayanyan Report

Final score:

18points

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Philly Bob Squires 8 months ago

Apparently, you can only say "Look at you! You got so big!" to children. Ex-girlfriends tend to get REALLY pissed off.

12points

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#35

Complimenting weight loss when the other person has not talked about exercising or dieting. When i was starting medications, i really struggled with making myself eat and lost around 10 pounds. Was really annoying getting reminded all the time.

karanas Report

Final score:

16points

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Mitchell 8 months ago

I get this, but having just lost 20kg I’m a bit disappointed that people haven’t commented on the loss,or that I’m looking fit/healthy/slim. Am I just permanently a fat person in their eyes and nothing will change the perception?

3points

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#36

Saying to a non-native speaker that their english needs improvement or that they don't speak it well. If it's true, they already know that.

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Final score:

15points

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UnpopularPanda 8 months ago (edited)

This even applies to when you compliment them on their English being good. This only implies that you expected it to be worse and surprised that it is not or that 'their people' are bad at it. The only time it is appropriate is when they themselves initiate the topic of English not being their native toungue or apologize for it being bad.

4points

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#37

People used to ask my mom all the time if I was her “real child” cause she’s blonde and I’m brunette lol. So extremely and terribly rude.

razcalnikov Report

Final score:

14points

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JuniorCJ82 8 months ago

Do people not know how genetics work?

9points

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#38

I hate compliments like "OH your hair looks so much better now" or "You look so much better now that you've lost weight" or "That paint color is so much better than your last one."
Like thanks for letting me know you thought the things before were hideous.

Acrobatic-Duck7738 Report

Final score:

14points

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Donkey boi 8 months ago

I get the point, but 'better' doesn't mean the previous was hideous. A cheese & tomato pizza is really good, a pepperoni with extra cheese is much better. And sometimes, such as when people are actively trying to loose weight, they like/want that kind of encouragement.

5points

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#39

Someone accomplishes something and they respond, "It's never too late!!" No, dude, just say congrats.

ifnotmewh0 Report

Final score:

13points

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Debbie 8 months ago

Eh, I usually do the opposite, I usally put myself as example and say: See, it's never to late to start doing [this], I started only 2 years ago. (And still haven't mastered it but I am having fun trying to)

3points

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#40

A stranger asking when your baby is due but you’re not pregnant. Why would you ever ask someone that??.

Lumpy_Decision4385 Report

Final score:

11points

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John Mosley 8 months ago (edited)

I did that once when I was a young man. I learned my lesson, she wasn't pregnant or very happy with me.

3points

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What do you think ?

Sky Render 8 months ago

Asking a transgender person if they've "had the surgery" is extremely rude, it's none of your business and has all sorts of unpleasant connotations when you ask about someone's genitalia. Although really, asking anyone what's in their pants is a huge WTF social faux pas, and I am quite shocked that it ever became normalized!

Guess Undheit 8 months ago (edited)

Asking should be considered sexual harassment. It's nobody's business other than their doctor or their sexual partners.

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Jeevesssssss 8 months ago

Agree with this SO MUCH. It says a lot about the person asking imo.

-1point

MurderMittens 8 months ago

Women may not mind sharing bathrooms/showers with a Trans woman who has had the surgery, but if she still has something to assault other women with, then she may not be welcome. Would you let your 12yo daughter shower with a fully intact male? If they haven't had the surgery, then the best thing is to avoid women's bathrooms/locker rooms. But moms/dads are going to want to know who is in there with their naked child.

-3points

Steve Kenney 8 months ago

unsolicited advice on anything is rude. "I didn't ask you, so shut up"

DB 8 months ago

Sharing your political views with me. Shut up and keep them to yourself.

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