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We all have that one non-negotiable relationship deal-breaker. The usual red flags are rude behavior toward a restaurant server, a lack of trust, and having a history of infidelity. However, some refuse to involve themselves with someone working in a specific industry.
Someone on Reddit recently asked a loaded question: “What jobs are a turn-off for a serious relationship?” While you’ll find the typical responses like airline pilots, flight attendants, and anyone in food service, there are some unexpected answers like lawyers, investment bankers, and personal trainers.
Scroll through these replies and see if your job is on this list. If so, do you agree with these opinions?
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#1
"Influencer." If your full-time gig is selling detox teas and promoting pyramid schemes, I’m out. Bonus red flag if "hustle culture" is your religion.
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#2
Anyone who peddles MLM products and services. It totally wrecked my marriage. My ex appears to be happily remarried to someone who was in his downline.
Nadine Debard 2 months ago
Makes me think about the TV show Becoming a God (in central Florida). It's about a woman (Kristen Dunst) who loses her husband and discovers he spent all what they had in a huge MLM scheme. She's about to lose everything, then she finds a way to survive with her baby.
#3
As a retired firefighter/paramedic, I'd say firefighters. It seems like lots of women in their 20's think dating/marrying a firefighter is like some kind of fantasy dream.
The truth is we work 24 hour shifts and a large part of the time on our days off all we do is sleep. The schedule and the amount of calls just beat your body to hell. So many folks go into the fire service looking like a Greek god or goddess, but ten, twenty years later they're just broken and beat up with chronic knee pain and back pain and hearing loss. This is all aside from the serious trauma they deal with which so much of the time we can't even talk about because few people want to hear it.
Lots of jobs take a physical toll, lots of jobs take a mental toll, but very few jobs take the physical AND mental toll that being a first responder does.
MeowMix 2 months ago
My best friend's boyfriend is a firefighter and while they make the crazy shifts work, he has a lot of PTSD from some of the awful things he's seen happen over the years. So many things involving children that he can't even talk about with my friend or his therapist, he just keeps everything bottled up.
#4
Cops - they’re statistically high abusers coupled with the fact that they are more likely to face no repercussions because they’re buddies with the people that would charge them.
LizzieBoredom 2 months ago (edited)
Not all cops are bad. But I wish better psychological testing was done before handing someone a badge, and a gun.
#6
I have seen relationships end frequently in the military and I know women and men who won't date veterans because of the psychological problems, the drinking, and the higher tendency to be abusive. The same goes for military service members.
Jrog 2 months ago (edited)
Apparently there is also the opposite problem for so called "sham marriages": women that marry active military personnel out of interest, so to get free off-base housing, access to public service employment, commissary privileges, health care, citizenship etc. They convince some dumb schmuck to marry them before deployment, and then go on to enjoy their benefits, quickly followed by a divorce as soon as the guy comes home, or the benefits granted and milked enough to move on.
#7
Stand up comedians. Weird work hours and locations. Whole months away for fringe festivals. Casual alcohol, d**g use, infidelity. Worst of all: Anthing that happens in your relationship will be made public if they think they can make it funny/interesting.
Bouche and Audi and Shyla, Oh My! 2 months ago
I did stand up for a bit at a local club. I did well, and I loved it, but I didn't want the lifestyle. Even if I weren't housebound, I'd still be a homebody.
#8
Farmer.
Volatile income due to many external factors you can’t control, high rates of depression/suicide and all the ugliness that comes from mental health challenges, inability to get away, and just an overall doom and gloom mindset.
It may feel idyllic at first or the rare year things go well, but overall it’s just one crisis after another.
I say that as a former farmer.
Marianne 2 months ago
Also farmer is usually a family profession. So if you marry one, you will likely become a farmer, too. And it's a tough job where you can't be afraid of getting dirty. You will have to work on holidays if the weather calls for it and it's difficult to go on vacation, especially if you own lifestock.
#9
Chef.
I have nothing against chefs. But, a lot of people think that dating a chef means he will cook for you all the time, you kinda romanticize his job - but it's actually the opposite. Cooking is work, and we don't like to bring work home with us.
His hours are s**t. Weekends, holidays, nights. You want to all have Thanksgiving as a family? That might not be the case if you're in a serious relationship/marriage with a chef.
Also, artists. I say this as someone who paints (I don't like to say I'm an "artist") so I might be a major hypocrite here. but there is something about the art world that draws some of the most self-centered people on earth.
#10
Entrepeneur. It works out in some cases, but 90% of the people I know who call themselves an Entrepeneur are just unemployed.
#11
Bartending. You miss all events because you're working nights, other events, or at the event
Edit: ps I'm a bartender, this is what my most recent ex and I said as she also used to be industry.
#12
For me truck drivers. My dad is one and I see how my mom hates missing him. She loves him loving his job, but hates not seeing him….
#13
The amount of cheating in the flight and cabin crew world is wild.
#14
Any job with big hours or that's dangerous. I had a workaholic parent and I promised myself I'll never have a workaholic as a partner.
Howl's sleeping castle 2 months ago
I used to be workaholic. Ignored my health, relationships. It took a global pandemic to change myself. I decided not to make my work a priority. Started making friends, meeting new people, even ended up getting married. Partner is a freelancer!
#15
I had a friend that worked at a funeral home for 10 years.
He always said he would have better luck if he told women that he had been in prison for 10 years.
Say No to Downvoting 2 months ago
I agree it’s not a great opening line, and maybe I’m just macabre and suffering the effects from working in healthcare for too long, but this wouldn’t cause me the slightest hesitation. I’d assume we have someone here who is stable, has reasonable work hours, is sensitive and empathetic and not afraid of the tougher parts of life.
#16
In this job market, just about any job turns me on.
SheamusFanFrom1987 2 months ago
I'm in HR, almost pretty much bored out of my wits... Turned on yet? *Joking* XP
#17
I wouldn’t date anyone in the sex industry.
Ray Ceeya (RayCeeYa) 2 months ago
I''ve made it work a couple of times. I dated a dancer and then a Pro-dom. Whatever part of the brain that contains jealousy, I think I was born without it. My experience is there is there is no sex in the sex industry. At least that's how it is in Portland Oregon. You can't throw a rock without hitting a strip club here but as much as they titulate, there is no sex. I've made it work.
#18
Attorney. Dated one for 6 years. The constant competition killed it for me.
keyboardtek 2 months ago
Some super smart people have an ego need to be the smartest in the room and make sure everyone knows it.
#19
Brokers— any kind of broker. Real estate, insurance, investment. They’re always networking. Their goals are all sales oriented. And the number of people in these fields who then devolve into treating their personal relationships as transactional is too damn high.
Nadine Debard 2 months ago
I knew a girl like this, she could have been my best friend, she was lovely, she really shined, but she was always trying to network or sell something.
#20
A seafarer. Based on experience cause I'm currently a seafarer. Long contracts and lack of reliable cell services can be a burden. Aside from those there is also the stigma if you date a seafarer chances are they are getting laid every time we arrive at ports. Like wtf, its not that there are lines of women waiting for us outside the port area🥲. Most of my time is spent looking at the sea and finding a reliable and stable cell service🥲.
#21
Friend of mine dated a chef, she now advises anyone who will listen to never date one. She says you never seen them.
#22
“Hey baby, how’d you like to date a male teacher? I have to work evenings and weekends to keep up with an unreasonable workload, I’m cranky because I deal with social issues and don’t get mental health support to process witnessed or second-hand trauma, there’s a pretty good statistical chance I won’t break six figures until I’m in my late 50s or early 60s, my pay doesn’t match inflation, and there’s a social perception that I’m in teaching cause I’m a pervert.
Baby? Where are you going? Stop running girl, I help build up my community! Why you throwing Starbucks gift cards at me!?”
Yeah, there’s a reason I’ve only dated fellow educators.
BarfyCat 2 months ago
I'm married to a teacher. I hate his job so much, because it makes him absolutely miserable throughout the 10-month school year. That said, he is so selfless and caring, I really admire that about him. U.S. teachers desperately need administrative help to assist with all the grading and B.S. paperwork, and in-classroom help to deal with all the traumatized kids and kids with IEPs.
#23
When I grew up, the local fish mongers assistant just could not get a date. My sisters joked that he was the last man on earth to date as no matter how he washed, the fish smell lingered.
#24
Surgeons, I listen to them complain about their wives and kids during surgery.
#25
Judging from what I see with celebrities, definitely being an actor/actress.
Nadine Debard 2 months ago
'A successful movie actor', maybe. Stage actors can be very reliable in my opinion.
#26
Only Fans.
Lyoness 2 months ago
IMHO it's just another type of sex work, and at least the content creator is getting paid directly instead of having their work pirated. I don't understand the pious judgement you hear from so many people on this topic. Whether you date them or not is totally up to you, just don't be judgemental about their work.
#27
People in the army….
#28
Probably any that involve risking your life and not being home for long periods.
Child of the Stars 2 months ago
I feel like some of these are (at least in part) personality dependent. I, for example, as an introvert, wouldn't mind a relationship with someone who was gone a fair chunk of the time.
#29
Investment bankers.
Arrogant and always working.
2 of them told me their sex drive is dead.
#30
As a personal trainer; Personal Trainers.
You're not horny, you're just exercising. Leave your PT alone. They're completely different outside the gym, and often are very boring people.
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Jessica SpeLangm 2 months ago
@Tempest...IMHO, it depends on the politican individually and their position in the government.
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Kraneia The Dancing Dryad 2 months ago
If it's a small town type butcher, that would be okay, they seem to be more ethical in how they do things. But a large scale processor, no. And definitely not a fur farmer!!
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Jessica SpeLangm 2 months ago
@Tempest...IMHO, it depends on the politican individually and their position in the government.
Load More Replies... Kraneia The Dancing Dryad 2 months ago
If it's a small town type butcher, that would be okay, they seem to be more ethical in how they do things. But a large scale processor, no. And definitely not a fur farmer!!
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