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We all have that one non-negotiable relationship deal-breaker. The usual red flags are rude behavior toward a restaurant server, a lack of trust, and having a history of infidelity. However, some refuse to involve themselves with someone working in a specific industry. 

Someone on Reddit recently asked a loaded question: “What jobs are a turn-off for a serious relationship?” While you’ll find the typical responses like airline pilots, flight attendants, and anyone in food service, there are some unexpected answers like lawyers, investment bankers, and personal trainers.

Scroll through these replies and see if your job is on this list. If so, do you agree with these opinions? 

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41 Of The Worst Jobs For Serious Relationships, According To People Online "Influencer." If your full-time gig is selling detox teas and promoting pyramid schemes, I’m out. Bonus red flag if "hustle culture" is your religion.

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    41 Of The Worst Jobs For Serious Relationships, According To People Online Anyone who peddles MLM products and services. It totally wrecked my marriage. My ex appears to be happily remarried to someone who was in his downline.

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    1 week ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Makes me think about the TV show Becoming a God (in central Florida). It's about a woman (Kristen Dunst) who loses her husband and discovers he spent all what they had in a huge MLM scheme. She's about to lose everything, then she finds a way to survive with her baby.

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    41 Of The Worst Jobs For Serious Relationships, According To People Online As a retired firefighter/paramedic, I'd say firefighters. It seems like lots of women in their 20's think dating/marrying a firefighter is like some kind of fantasy dream.

    The truth is we work 24 hour shifts and a large part of the time on our days off all we do is sleep. The schedule and the amount of calls just beat your body to hell. So many folks go into the fire service looking like a Greek god or goddess, but ten, twenty years later they're just broken and beat up with chronic knee pain and back pain and hearing loss. This is all aside from the serious trauma they deal with which so much of the time we can't even talk about because few people want to hear it.

    Lots of jobs take a physical toll, lots of jobs take a mental toll, but very few jobs take the physical AND mental toll that being a first responder does.

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    1 week ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    My best friend's boyfriend is a firefighter and while they make the crazy shifts work, he has a lot of PTSD from some of the awful things he's seen happen over the years. So many things involving children that he can't even talk about with my friend or his therapist, he just keeps everything bottled up.

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    Cops - they’re statistically high abusers coupled with the fact that they are more likely to face no repercussions because they’re buddies with the people that would charge them.

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    1 week ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Not all cops are bad. But I wish better psychological testing was done before handing someone a badge, and a gun.

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    41 Of The Worst Jobs For Serious Relationships, According To People Online Clown, I don't need the competition.

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    I have seen relationships end frequently in the military and I know women and men who won't date veterans because of the psychological problems, the drinking, and the higher tendency to be abusive. The same goes for military service members.

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    1 week ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Apparently there is also the opposite problem for so called "sham marriages": women that marry active military personnel out of interest, so to get free off-base housing, access to public service employment, commissary privileges, health care, citizenship etc. They convince some dumb schmuck to marry them before deployment, and then go on to enjoy their benefits, quickly followed by a divorce as soon as the guy comes home, or the benefits granted and milked enough to move on.

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    41 Of The Worst Jobs For Serious Relationships, According To People Online Stand up comedians. Weird work hours and locations. Whole months away for fringe festivals. Casual alcohol, d**g use, infidelity. Worst of all: Anthing that happens in your relationship will be made public if they think they can make it funny/interesting.

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    1 week ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I did stand up for a bit at a local club. I did well, and I loved it, but I didn't want the lifestyle. Even if I weren't housebound, I'd still be a homebody.

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    41 Of The Worst Jobs For Serious Relationships, According To People Online Farmer.

    Volatile income due to many external factors you can’t control, high rates of depression/suicide and all the ugliness that comes from mental health challenges, inability to get away, and just an overall doom and gloom mindset.

    It may feel idyllic at first or the rare year things go well, but overall it’s just one crisis after another.

    I say that as a former farmer.

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    1 week ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Also farmer is usually a family profession. So if you marry one, you will likely become a farmer, too. And it's a tough job where you can't be afraid of getting dirty. You will have to work on holidays if the weather calls for it and it's difficult to go on vacation, especially if you own lifestock.

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    41 Of The Worst Jobs For Serious Relationships, According To People Online Chef.

    I have nothing against chefs. But, a lot of people think that dating a chef means he will cook for you all the time, you kinda romanticize his job - but it's actually the opposite. Cooking is work, and we don't like to bring work home with us.

    His hours are s**t. Weekends, holidays, nights. You want to all have Thanksgiving as a family? That might not be the case if you're in a serious relationship/marriage with a chef.

    Also, artists. I say this as someone who paints (I don't like to say I'm an "artist") so I might be a major hypocrite here. but there is something about the art world that draws some of the most self-centered people on earth.

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    1 week ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Chef is also a job in which d**g or alcohol addiction is far more common than in other careers.

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    Entrepeneur. It works out in some cases, but 90% of the people I know who call themselves an Entrepeneur are just unemployed.

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    1 week ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    if they refer to themselves as an Entrepreneur, they are most likely going to hop from one failed business to the next. If they are an entrepreneur, but refer to their career by stating what they do, you got a better shot.

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    41 Of The Worst Jobs For Serious Relationships, According To People Online Bartending. You miss all events because you're working nights, other events, or at the event

    Edit: ps I'm a bartender, this is what my most recent ex and I said as she also used to be industry.

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    1 week ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Well, I do bartend. Honestly though, if an event is so important to you, you can request it off.

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    41 Of The Worst Jobs For Serious Relationships, According To People Online For me truck drivers. My dad is one and I see how my mom hates missing him. She loves him loving his job, but hates not seeing him….

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    1 week ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    A friend of mine is married to a long distance truck driver in the US and now the kids are grown up she travels with him and they love it

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    41 Of The Worst Jobs For Serious Relationships, According To People Online The amount of cheating in the flight and cabin crew world is wild.

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    41 Of The Worst Jobs For Serious Relationships, According To People Online Any job with big hours or that's dangerous. I had a workaholic parent and I promised myself I'll never have a workaholic as a partner.

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    1 week ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I used to be workaholic. Ignored my health, relationships. It took a global pandemic to change myself. I decided not to make my work a priority. Started making friends, meeting new people, even ended up getting married. Partner is a freelancer!

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    41 Of The Worst Jobs For Serious Relationships, According To People Online I had a friend that worked at a funeral home for 10 years.

    He always said he would have better luck if he told women that he had been in prison for 10 years.

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    1 week ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I agree it’s not a great opening line, and maybe I’m just macabre and suffering the effects from working in healthcare for too long, but this wouldn’t cause me the slightest hesitation. I’d assume we have someone here who is stable, has reasonable work hours, is sensitive and empathetic and not afraid of the tougher parts of life.

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    In this job market, just about any job turns me on.

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    1 week ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I'm in HR, almost pretty much bored out of my wits... Turned on yet? *Joking* XP

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    41 Of The Worst Jobs For Serious Relationships, According To People Online I wouldn’t date anyone in the sex industry.

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    1 week ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I''ve made it work a couple of times. I dated a dancer and then a Pro-dom. Whatever part of the brain that contains jealousy, I think I was born without it. My experience is there is there is no sex in the sex industry. At least that's how it is in Portland Oregon. You can't throw a rock without hitting a strip club here but as much as they titulate, there is no sex. I've made it work.

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    41 Of The Worst Jobs For Serious Relationships, According To People Online Attorney. Dated one for 6 years. The constant competition killed it for me.

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    1 week ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Some super smart people have an ego need to be the smartest in the room and make sure everyone knows it.

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    41 Of The Worst Jobs For Serious Relationships, According To People Online Brokers— any kind of broker. Real estate, insurance, investment. They’re always networking. Their goals are all sales oriented. And the number of people in these fields who then devolve into treating their personal relationships as transactional is too damn high.

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    1 week ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I knew a girl like this, she could have been my best friend, she was lovely, she really shined, but she was always trying to network or sell something.

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    41 Of The Worst Jobs For Serious Relationships, According To People Online A seafarer. Based on experience cause I'm currently a seafarer. Long contracts and lack of reliable cell services can be a burden. Aside from those there is also the stigma if you date a seafarer chances are they are getting laid every time we arrive at ports. Like wtf, its not that there are lines of women waiting for us outside the port area🥲. Most of my time is spent looking at the sea and finding a reliable and stable cell service🥲.

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    1 week ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    One of the reasons I left the Merchant Navy after just a few years was seeing the high proportion of alcoholics and the low proportion of people with stable happy relationships among the other officers. So yeah, this.

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    41 Of The Worst Jobs For Serious Relationships, According To People Online Friend of mine dated a chef, she now advises anyone who will listen to never date one. She says you never seen them.

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    1 week ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I know a few chefs, including one that owns her own restaurant. And this is not true for her or any of them. But I'll say this; a person makes time for what they prioritize.

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    41 Of The Worst Jobs For Serious Relationships, According To People Online “Hey baby, how’d you like to date a male teacher? I have to work evenings and weekends to keep up with an unreasonable workload, I’m cranky because I deal with social issues and don’t get mental health support to process witnessed or second-hand trauma, there’s a pretty good statistical chance I won’t break six figures until I’m in my late 50s or early 60s, my pay doesn’t match inflation, and there’s a social perception that I’m in teaching cause I’m a pervert.

    Baby? Where are you going? Stop running girl, I help build up my community! Why you throwing Starbucks gift cards at me!?”

    Yeah, there’s a reason I’ve only dated fellow educators.

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    1 week ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I'm married to a teacher. I hate his job so much, because it makes him absolutely miserable throughout the 10-month school year. That said, he is so selfless and caring, I really admire that about him. U.S. teachers desperately need administrative help to assist with all the grading and B.S. paperwork, and in-classroom help to deal with all the traumatized kids and kids with IEPs.

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    41 Of The Worst Jobs For Serious Relationships, According To People Online When I grew up, the local fish mongers assistant just could not get a date. My sisters joked that he was the last man on earth to date as no matter how he washed, the fish smell lingered.

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    41 Of The Worst Jobs For Serious Relationships, According To People Online Surgeons, I listen to them complain about their wives and kids during surgery.

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    41 Of The Worst Jobs For Serious Relationships, According To People Online Judging from what I see with celebrities, definitely being an actor/actress.

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    1 week ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    'A successful movie actor', maybe. Stage actors can be very reliable in my opinion.

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    41 Of The Worst Jobs For Serious Relationships, According To People Online Only Fans.

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    1 week ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    IMHO it's just another type of sex work, and at least the content creator is getting paid directly instead of having their work pirated. I don't understand the pious judgement you hear from so many people on this topic. Whether you date them or not is totally up to you, just don't be judgemental about their work.

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    41 Of The Worst Jobs For Serious Relationships, According To People Online People in the army….

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    41 Of The Worst Jobs For Serious Relationships, According To People Online Probably any that involve risking your life and not being home for long periods.

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    1 week ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I feel like some of these are (at least in part) personality dependent. I, for example, as an introvert, wouldn't mind a relationship with someone who was gone a fair chunk of the time.

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    41 Of The Worst Jobs For Serious Relationships, According To People Online Investment bankers.
    Arrogant and always working.
    2 of them told me their sex drive is dead.

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    1 week ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    they're at the core point of capitalism, of course they get to absorb some toxicity

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    41 Of The Worst Jobs For Serious Relationships, According To People Online As a personal trainer; Personal Trainers.

    You're not horny, you're just exercising. Leave your PT alone. They're completely different outside the gym, and often are very boring people.

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    1 week ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Personally, I've only known 2 of these guys and they were both arrogant @ssholes outside the gym/health club.

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