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Chances are, you’ve got some unpopular opinions that you usually keep to yourself. Perhaps you love pineapple on pizza, or maybe you find chocolate to be repulsive. When I was in college, I was terrified to tell my friends that I had absolutely no interest in ever watching films or reading books about Harry Potter… And I was always thrilled when we’d get blessed with a gray and dreary day.
We’re not always willing to share these hot takes out loud, but it’s a bit easier to open up to strangers on the internet. Mumsnet users have recently been admitting their most controversial takes, so we’ve gathered the juiciest ones below. Enjoy scrolling through this list that you might find incredibly frustrating, and be sure to upvote the secret opinions that you actually agree with!
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#1
Not all behaviour can be dismissed as mental health issues, asd, adhd etc, some people are just tw*ts.
Nina 3 days ago (edited)
Even if you have asd, adhd or anything like that, you're still responsible for your behaviour. Yes, life is (a lot) harder if you have disorder, but you can't use it as an excuse to duck consequences for your actions. Twats will always exist, with and without disorders, your disorder doesn't make you exempt from consequences to you (lack of) actions. (Have adhd myself)
Marnie 2 days ago
Speaking specifically of autism, I mostly agree with this, and am firmly in the camp of that being autistic doesn't excuse you from being an a*****e in the sense of something like, "We've told her 10 times that hugging people without asking is not okay, but she just keeps doing it." But there ARE behaviors that can and should be excused if you are autistic. It's a disorder. To not excuse some behaviors means that autistic people should just learn to not be autistic. It's like saying, "There is no excuse for a paralyzed person to not get up and walk when necessary." Yes, it IS f*****g excuse for certain deficits. CERTAIN deficits. But of course, this talk comes about when people are trying to use it as an excuse for things where it is NOT an excuse, so in the usual context, I do agree.
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Simon Chen 3 days ago
But its far easier to present yourself as a 'victim' of a condition you can not change. If you call people out on their behaviour and they give you the ' i am autist' card or blame on mental health issues, thats it. You can not just say, nah bro, you are full of shiit. Also, the vast majority of people claiming to be autist or have adhd or whatever are just attention seeking snowflakes. I will die on that hill
XanthippeⓐWulf🇨🇦️️🇬🇧 2 days ago
I was diagnosed with autism as a child, and I give people full permission to call me out when my behavior is upsetting. I don't always remember that most NT people aren't comfortable with "direct," or don't understand that I'm not intentionally being an a-hole when I need something a certain way because any other way makes me so stressed I might completely shut down. I think I've done a decent job studying social behaviors & learning how to assimilate, but there are times when I've had to say "apologies. I'm autistic & my brain doesn't automatically think in the hyperbolic, double-meaning, or emotional way that people generally do." Tbs, I would not use it as an excuse to be obnoxious or demand special attention. If anything, my preference is for people to, yes, give me some margin for error, but treat me as you would anyone else. 🤷♀️ I would never be able to function "normally" in social situations unless people explained to me what I am doing that is upsetting & why
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David 2 days ago (edited)
I agree --- BUT... I feel like it can be argued that people who are consistently rude / abusive / narcissistic / taking advantage of others DO have some sort of mental health issue. I'm not sure how you would label it but human beings do not naturally hate all of their fellow human beings. Something is broken there.
Chris the Bobcat 2 days ago
I do live with mental health issues but I have done some tw@t things over the years that I regret. I couldn't agree with this post more.
Rebel Peewee 2 days ago
This is so true in a partnership. My husband has what could be crippling anxiety since childhood. This makes him, often, selfish (bc he's self-conscious) and inconsiderate of MY feelings. He works so, so hard on himself and his mental health bc he very much loves and respects me and wants us to be happy together. If he wasn't conscious and didn't do the work, I would have left years ago bc i do not deserve to be neglected.
Child of the Stars 2 days ago
I'm a huge fan of "my disorder is mine to manage, not others to deal with." This is why I absolutely do not accept statements like "I regularly back out of plans at the last minute because I have anxiety" or "I'm always late because I have ADHD caused time-blindness." I have several disorders to manage, as well as normal responsibilities that adults have. It is not my friends' or my work's or anyone else's responsibility to "just deal" with my disordered behaviors, it is MY responsibility to find a way to make those things work.
Panda Panda Bo Banda 2 days ago
Just because you have mental illness doesn't mean you're not a twat
Kendall 2 days ago
It amazes me how people believe that this world and it's inhabitants can't function without having a diagnosis of some sort. They will not stop until a Dr puts a name to it. Hell 75 years ago they didn't label all these behavior issues. If you were nuts, you're nuts, seems like it was a lot less hassle. (And I'm one with a damn diagnosis)!!
Forrest Hobbs 2 days ago
Yeah, but who *really* thinks that "this world and it's inhabitants can't function without having a diagnosis of some sort"? There are people who make that sort of claim, but on what basis in reality? I'm not sure there is one.
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Rick Seiden 2 days ago
While this is true, you don't get to decide which is true of someone else. You don't get to say, "Rick doesn't have mental health issues, he's just a jerk," unless you're Rick's therapist/Doctor.
Joshua David 2 days ago (edited)
I'm an 80s 90s kid/teenager (20s in 2000s) and we FOUGHT to destroy labels and here we are. It's a COP OUT blame their bad behavior on labels.
CP 3 days ago
At the risk of getting downvoted, I disagree. All behavior is just a reflection of your mental health. Some people have extra things that have been catalogued by science, but I would argue some day we will be able to explain every behavior in the ways we catalog disorders today. Everyone is a product of their genes and upbringing with upbringing have a greater effect than we realized. Just look at the new field of epigenetics. How you are raised can activate dormant genes. I would argue no one has a choice being born, who they were born to or where they were born. All of those things shape who you are and you have no control over them. If your parents were twats, chances are you will be a twat too through no fault for your own because you learn most of your behaviors from your parents.
Coffee 2 days ago
So where does the fault begin, because if it's your parent's fault you're a teat, maybe it's your grandparents fault that your parents are teats, then your great grandparents fault and it goes up the family tree... So no one is responsible for twats then... Nah, people need to take responsibility for their actions, cause it doesn't matter whose fault it is, your actions can negatively and irreversibly affect someone else.
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Alex Kennedy 2 days ago
The problem with this is that it’s utterly unhelpful. What are we to do about these people — just kill them?
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#2
I think putting botox and fillers in your face is crazy. And those lips look stupid.
#3
People who climb Everest, do free climbing or base jumping etc. Self-absorbed, selfish tw*ts. The damage it does to Everest. The sheer risk with all of them, putting their loved ones through stress, worry or loss and grief. And the people at risk if rescuing them or recovering their body.
#4
Gender reveal parties are for chavs.
Katie Allen 3 days ago
first time I ever heard about a gender reveal party I thought it was some sort of coming out party for trans people
#5
Paying £££££ to get married. I say congratulations, but my word people are sucked in and could do so much more with the money.
#6
I really resent being asked for charity donations literally everywhere now. Every shop. Every single purchase. Inside supermarkets by the tills. Outside supermarkets. I just hate being hassled constantly. Just let me do what I'm doing and I'll donate to charities as and when I chose to.
GenuineJen 3 days ago
The ugly aspect of those donations made in stores etc. is that those stores get to claim the deductions for YOUR donations made there. Absolutely despicable.
#7
Social media [content] creators are mental health issues waiting to happen.
#8
I don’t understand why people are on Twitter / X.
It seems like a big toxic, waste of energy to me…
#9
That people who say proudly that they're not interested in politics and don't vote shouldn't be complaining about policies that they don't like as they did nothing to stop them.
StrangeOne 3 days ago
I'm with George Carlin on the opposite. I'm tired of people who voted for what they wanted, got what they wanted and whine when they see they were duped. Those who didn't vote are not to blame. It's just a scapegoating projection tactic.
#10
Fashion. It's purely designed to part the gullible from their money.
#11
That gentle parenting often leads to poorly behaved children. The teachers in schools are having to pick up the pieces of this.
3 days ago
I think there's a delicate balance to find..treating your kids caringly while strictly disciplining them.
#12
Sports. Particularly the big money making machine types. I don't understand why it's not more of a niche interest.
There was a meme or similar a good few years ago and it was basically, imagine if sports coverage was dedicated to archaeology, hourly news bulletins, sections of newspapers, endless coverage on TV, huge stars. Breaking news, star archaeologist Dr Richard Brown has signed a new contract to begin working in Corfu. And then everyone phoning in a radio show to discuss why he should dig somewhere else, people really upset because they were hoping he would dig at a place they preferred, live coverage of the ground being broken at the excavation site, with commentary and discussion from retired archaeologists.
#13
There are too many dogs and some people who have dogs should just not own dogs.
#14
I think veganism is bad for your health. Most of my vegan friends seem to be ill much more than average, and I think they'd be much better if they were at least vegetarian.
I don't say that to them of course. I can see an argument for vegetarianism, but not veganism.
StrangeOne 3 days ago
I tried going vegan for a couple months. I found it to be SO expensive to try to keep up with the demands for extra supplements and finding foods filling enough to feel full and satisfied. I got tired of beans and nuts real quick.
#15
Everyone self diagnosing with ADHD. I know at least 3 people who claim to have it but have never been near even the GP with their concerns. Being a bit daft and scatty now and again isn’t necessarily ADHD. Sometimes it’s just that you’re a bit daft and scatty now and again.
#16
Being in the armed forces doesn’t automatically make you a hero and charities like ‘help for hero’s’ shouldn’t exist, it’s a job people chose to do, nobody these days is conscripted it’s a personal choice.
Orwell 3 days ago
Agree, does not make you a hero. There are plenty of military personnel that are terrible people. Disagree that it's entirely a choice. I'd be interested to learn what percentage of US military were from low socio-economic status and/or extremely dysfunctional homes and felt enlisting was their only hope for stability, safety, healthcare, community, education - a future.
#17
And anyone who wishes a happy birthday to their snuggly bumpkin on Facebook. I have been married 18 years now. I tell my husband face to face cos we aren’t 12.
The Other Guest 3 days ago
For me it's folks who post happy birthday wishes to a celebrity who is never, ever going to see it. Especially if the celebrity is dead. I just don't see the point.
#18
Ppl asking for charity donations on social media, sometimes they are doing something like running /walking, other times it's "it's my birthday' - really really winds me up. Not anti-charity but hate being guilt tripped into it.
lenka 3 days ago
I'd much prefer this option than corporations seeking donations. Not only do you NOT get the benefit of the tax deduction but the multimillion corporation does. They dont set up charity schemes out of the goodness of their hearts - they are just minimizing their tax obligations. DONT donate to corporate charity schemes! Donate directly to the charity.
#19
The Royal Family are an expensive waste of space and I find it baffling that anyone would think otherwise.
Wang Zhuang 3 days ago
I'm not British, so maybe that's why I can't fully understand the hype behind the family. Especially Diana. She's been gone since 1997 and people are still writing books and making films about her. I have nothing against her at all, but why?
#20
No, I don't want to see your holiday photos, or pictures of your child/grandchild.
Ever.
#21
I irritate myself with my own instinctive belief that a lot of children are really badly parented and that their shi**y behaviours are the direct result of that bad parenting. Intellectually, I'm far more nuanced, completely believe that there are a lot of complex factors at plat etc etc... but deep down, I think I'm a big fat judgey pants and I don't like it.
Also, I'm terrified that I'm one of those parents and that I'm as delusional as I think so many of them are. I hope I'm not. But... it's a worry'!
#22
Nearly all plastic surgery, 'b**b jobs' and the like are a pointless narcissistic waste of money and medical resources.
StrangeOne 3 days ago
What one does to themselves, is probably for themselves, and not you. Some people get procedures because of a disfigurement, disorder, to fix another procedure. Like, imagine getting a masectomy because of breast cancer, and feeling so self-conscious it's all you can think about. So you go to the plastic surgeon to get breast enhancements. Then after people ripping you apart because they don't like seeing how unnatural your new figure looks.
#23
The number of people now requiring special and individualised, and often competing arrangements to accommodate things like neurodivergence is going to lead to a fractured and individualistic society where it will be even harder to function with neurodivergence.
And I say this as a parent to a child with Asperger’s syndrome. I spend so much effort preparing him for the world to the best of his ability but other parents seem to want the world to bend for their child.
#24
People who complain about people on social media (showing off, bragging, going on too many holidays, etc.). How do you know they are doing all this stuff unless you follow them or are on it? Just unfollow them, get off social media yourself if you think it’s so bad?
#25
People who’s lives revolve around work need to give their heads a wobble.
Orwell 3 days ago
My family first generation American grandparents engrained in my parents and us that work ethic and craftsmanship define you and make you a respectable contributor to society. Now it feels like most people are working for billionaires that are doing their best to bleed us all dry.
#26
Pet owners who spend 1000s on vet bills for seriously ill and dying animals, who should just be put to sleep. Prolonging their life with endless medical treatments and surgeries is cruel in my opinion.
#27
Leaving dog s**t on the streets/parks/beaches should be a criminal offence resulting in a heavy fine and the loss of your dog. All dogs should be on a DNA database and licensed. Dog s**t should be tested, and the resultant fines should be big enough to pay for the system to run. If you lose your dog for fouling, you can never own another one.
lenka 3 days ago
I agree. They are not talking about dogs - they are talking about irresponsible dog owners who leave dog poo all over the street, on the sidewalk and in the parks. I love dogs and I was a dog owner until she passed away. I also have children who play and wrestle and fall over and pick things up and put them in their pockets. Public spaces are exactly that - for the enjoyment of the public and I can't let my kids play in the local park because there is dog shite everywhere. Our neighbors let their dog s**t on the sidewalk every day and we have to smell it and dodge it on the walk to school. You wouldn't appreciate me letting my kid p**s in park or poo on the grass and then just leaving it there. Your dog = your s**t. Clean it up.
#28
People who say "that's just me" to excuse tw*tish behaviour. Like behaviour isn't something you can change.
Drama, drama, drama all the time people. Don't understand why they can't just put on their adulting hat and crack on in a nice orderly fashion. That said, I think everyone has the right to have a meltdown every so often, get it all out, shake it off, move on. But like, once in a blue moon yeah?
#29
That a foreign holiday is not a human right. Especially if you go into debt for it.
#30
Having a mum (usually stay at home but with no shared finances) who puts up with a sh*t father who does nothing, negatively impacts a child’s upbringing and ensures that this ridiculous cycle continues, where the mum is labelled a martyr and has no respect, and the father seems to get away with everything both financially and emotionally. Both are to blame. Be equals and share the work/love/housework/childcare etc.
What do you think ?
Kiki Likes Sweets 3 days ago
Mmmm, I'll just relax after work with some light hearted fun on BP? Nah, here's the opinions of some privileged, right wing fücknuggets. But I do like pineapple on pizza, though!!
Tobias Reaper 3 days ago
i reckon this comment will get more of a reaction that the whole post i am referring to pineapple on pizza comment
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Carl Roberts 2 days ago (edited)
So, BP went from "This list has been shorted to the top 30, click to see the rest", to "this list has been shortened to the top 30 because the rest are behind a paywall"
Serena Myers 2 days ago
Wait for a week or so and you'll probably be able to see the whole shebang.
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liam newton-harding 3 days ago (edited)
Pointless collection of rage-bait “opinions”. I’m surprised BP didn’t include a couple of, “You know, Hitler actually had a point” statements.
Elladine DesIsles 3 days ago
Well, as for the intro, I am 100% pro pineapple on pizza, and while I do enjoy chocolate, I dislike chocolate ice cream and chocolate cake (while loving many other flavours of both confections). And I have no hesitation to admit either fact, online or in person.
lenka 3 days ago
I love chocolate ice-cream, but I'm with you on the chocolate cake. I really WANT to like chocolate cake but I just... dont.
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Paul Rabit 3 days ago
Somewhere in the 40s the posts on this list started to turn towards the 'you should have kept this secret viewpoint a secret' territory...
_-DungeonKeeper-_ 2 days ago
Pineapple on pizza is amazing. Get the hell out of here with your sardines. Buffalo chicken or spinach and white cheese are also good
Shark queen 🦈🦈🦈 2 days ago
My hot take is that integrals are easier than derivatives. No matter the form of the integral.
Roxie Carter 2 days ago
How about all the people butthurt about what others spend their money on. It's their money!
Seedy Vine 2 days ago
Human overpopulation is causing 99% of the world's problems and we need to stop before it's too late.
KazzaHazza 2 days ago
I have notifications that I have replies to a comment but when I click it, it takes me nowhere! Anyone else with this problem?
chamomile tea 2 days ago
If the comment was in this section at the bottom of the post, it doesn’t scroll down but it does highlight the comment
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Miriam Insidecor 2 days ago
What a hareful list turned into. BP shouldn't be given these posters a platform for their ignorant and prejudiced views.
Kiki Likes Sweets 3 days ago
Mmmm, I'll just relax after work with some light hearted fun on BP? Nah, here's the opinions of some privileged, right wing fücknuggets. But I do like pineapple on pizza, though!!
Tobias Reaper 3 days ago
i reckon this comment will get more of a reaction that the whole post i am referring to pineapple on pizza comment
Load More Replies... Carl Roberts 2 days ago (edited)
So, BP went from "This list has been shorted to the top 30, click to see the rest", to "this list has been shortened to the top 30 because the rest are behind a paywall"
Serena Myers 2 days ago
Wait for a week or so and you'll probably be able to see the whole shebang.
Load More Replies... liam newton-harding 3 days ago (edited)
Pointless collection of rage-bait “opinions”. I’m surprised BP didn’t include a couple of, “You know, Hitler actually had a point” statements.
Elladine DesIsles 3 days ago
Well, as for the intro, I am 100% pro pineapple on pizza, and while I do enjoy chocolate, I dislike chocolate ice cream and chocolate cake (while loving many other flavours of both confections). And I have no hesitation to admit either fact, online or in person.
lenka 3 days ago
I love chocolate ice-cream, but I'm with you on the chocolate cake. I really WANT to like chocolate cake but I just... dont.
Load More Replies... Paul Rabit 3 days ago
Somewhere in the 40s the posts on this list started to turn towards the 'you should have kept this secret viewpoint a secret' territory...
_-DungeonKeeper-_ 2 days ago
Pineapple on pizza is amazing. Get the hell out of here with your sardines. Buffalo chicken or spinach and white cheese are also good
Shark queen 🦈🦈🦈 2 days ago
My hot take is that integrals are easier than derivatives. No matter the form of the integral.
Roxie Carter 2 days ago
How about all the people butthurt about what others spend their money on. It's their money!
Seedy Vine 2 days ago
Human overpopulation is causing 99% of the world's problems and we need to stop before it's too late.
KazzaHazza 2 days ago
I have notifications that I have replies to a comment but when I click it, it takes me nowhere! Anyone else with this problem?
chamomile tea 2 days ago
If the comment was in this section at the bottom of the post, it doesn’t scroll down but it does highlight the comment
Load More Replies... Miriam Insidecor 2 days ago
What a hareful list turned into. BP shouldn't be given these posters a platform for their ignorant and prejudiced views.
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