From time to time, we all think of how unfair the world is and how much we’d like to remove all the suffering there is. The truth is, we cannot do that and we have to find ways to live in these difficult times, with all the ups and downs.
Or we can do the opposite and embrace the sadness and despair. We can look into the eyes of whatever it is that causes us pain and stand strong. In fact, there’s this whole corner of Reddit titled “Make Me Suffer” that does exactly that.
The group which is home to a whopping 1.1M members is dedicated to sharing pictures that capture anything from wholesome suffering to sad moments of reality. Scroll down through this new batch of “Make Me Suffer” examples below and be sure to check out Bored Panda’s previous feature with more pictures from the community.
Meanwhile, to find out more about our inner fascination with dark material such as serial killers to violence to disasters, we reached out to Helen Marlo, a licensed clinical psychologist and Jungian psychoanalyst who provides psychotherapy, psychoanalysis, and consultation. Helen is also a Professor of Clinical Psychology and the Department Chair at Notre Dame de Namur University. She was happy to share some very interesting insights into this compelling topic.
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Jar Of Chocolate Reserved For An Animal Hospital's Euthanasia Appointments. They Said It's Because Dogs Don't Deserve To Die Without Tasting Chocolate
Sometimes I think about my cat crossing the rainbow bridge and I cry (like right now...)
Not sure if it helps but we know how it feels. Many hugs 💜
Load More Replies...I gave my boy TJ his favorite Hickory Brown Sugar BBQ sauce as a goodbye treat moments before he passed. :( TJ-Goodbye...5e2a54.jpg
This is such a sweet picture. TJ looks like he had a long, love-filled life!
Load More Replies...I had a really cool older vet who took care of my German Shepherd. When the arthritis got so bad that he couldn't walk anymore (and pills didn't help) I took him in to put him to sleep. The vet was like, "look, I can give him a shot of a drug cocktail I came up with that well let you guys have one more 'play' - but we gotta put him to sleep before it wears off" I assume because when it wore off he would be in immense pain. I got to play fetch with my dog for about 7-10 minutes - zoomies included. It was like he was 6 years younger and happy as could be. Then we had to say goodbye. Thank you for everything Dr. Bill!
This breaks my heart. But I agree. All dogs deserve a taste of chocolate before they cross the rainbow bridge. Our beautiful boy certainly stole enough in his lifetime but he is still missed dreadfully every day and left the biggest GSD footprints in my heart forever.
I totally agree. I lost my GSD heart-dog in 2010. I am still not over it. It took until this year before I could adopt a puppy. I hope my girl and your boy met and are playing together on the other side of the bridge :)
Load More Replies...Before my first dog was put down the doctor said I should give her some before they euthanize her. Dogs love chocolate, they have a giant sweet tooth.
I just lost my dog , I wish I could have given her just one taste of chocolate
I've lost 5 pets in the last decade. Most of them didn't feel like eating anything when it was their time to go. My soul dog got to eat a whole bag of cheeseburgers and an ice cream cone before he left me. Made it hurt a little less seeing his eyes light up and act like a puppy again for those few moments.
So cute.. I'm going to do the same for my 16 year old poodle Cedric ..he is teaching his wise ways to my newest rescue..and I know that your idea will make it so much more tolerable..truly thank you🐾❤
Load More Replies...Yup. My dog of 11 years just passed away in February. Unfortunately she was too sick to eat the chocolate but I thought it was so sweet of them to do that for her. I had never seen it done before then. Luckily we knew my dog was going to pass so she ate steaks, cakes, everything I'd never have fed her when she was healthy.. everyday she got a new meal. I spent more money on steaks for her in 2 weeks than I have ever spent on food for myself. But I have no regrets. Just a broken heart.
You know, you always have the option to just stay quiet. Maybe you should try it.
Load More Replies...As someone who recently had to let 2 of her puppers go across that bridge in the space of 10 days, my heart goes out to all of you. ♥
My dog ate a whole bag of Hershey's kisses once. He s**t foil flags for a week. He was 18 when he died
I hope it was at the end of the day... Because it's full so no poor doggos passed...
Wow, I wasn't actually expecting this to manage to "make me suffer" right off the bat like this...
Right before we said goodbye to our beloved girl after 14 years they brought her chocolate. I had to really encourage her to eat it because she had never even attempted to eat chocolate before even when it was dropped. Honestly just seeing this is making me tear up thinking about that final day 9 months ago. What an absolute privilege it was to have her for so long. We miss her every single day.
I work at a vet hospital and this is true. We give them as many as they want if they are able to eat. I've seen last nibbles of the cat food they used to steal, fast food burgers and many more sweet goodbyes.
My 14-year-old labrador, Lola, was put down this afternoon. Now I'm crying even more!!
My Lily left me 1 1/2 yrs ago..I still cry for her. I don't think our fur babies ever completely leave us! Sometimes, when you are sitting quietly, do you not feel their warm breath on your ear, see their shadow rounding the corner? As you are drifting off to sleep, that IS their paw you feel on the end of the bed! We love them, make them irreplaceable members of our families and they know. Our fuzzy butt darlins will always keep one eye on us and wait until we can give them Boops and scritchies again. :)
As long as I can still find bits of her fur stuck in my clothes or hiding in cracks in the floor, she hasn't really left me. And her fur spread far and wide; it will survive deep cleaning and nuclear annihilation.
Load More Replies...It's what my first dog got when she passed away. She had been sick for a while and the last few days she had no appetite and what little she did eat, she threw up. On her last night we just instinctively knew. That if she somehow survived the night, she would be put down in the morning. So her last treat was a handful of chocolate chips. It was the first thing she ate in days that stayed down. The next morning at 6am she died in my arms. I hate that her last days were full of suffering, I was only a teenager but I should have done something. I guess we were in denial.
You did do something: you gave her love and affection and chocolate chips.
Load More Replies...Someone once said that our pets wait for us in a wonderful playplace... then when we show up we move on together.
Shouldn't someone point out, for the unknowing reader who asked themselves why not treating your dog with chocolate every day, that chocolate is really a kind of poison for dogs and should only given as a last treat? (Edit: adding the missing word "day").
Technically dogs CAN eat low quality chocolate, it's the good quality bitter chocolate that can threaten their health and wellbeing. Obviously this statement varies on each dog and I wouldn't give my dog chocolate everyday just because it won't kill her (and I have a 1kg Chihuahua so maybe I shouldn't f**k around dose dependant stuff, she would get sick with less amount) but my father is a vet and a lot of times we have to explain to crazed owners that their dog won't die an instant and painful death because they took a bit out of their cheap "chocolate" cake...
Load More Replies...My lovely siamese girl died in my arms as we were watching the end of TLOTR, during the Grey Havens song. Now I have two reasons to cry when I watch the movie. Happily, her tuxedo "sister" is still by my side, and loves movie nights!
If you are going to give a farewell chocolate to a dog at least give them something delicious. Those 'kisses' are sweetened wax.
My cat died in my arms..not before having half a teaspoon of chocolate sauce..
I'm so sorry. But you made your little fluffbutt so happy, and that's gotta count for something.
Load More Replies...my dog died a few months ago. it was terrible for my family, but I cried the most. everyone had tears in their eyes rolling down their cheeks, but I was sobbing. like, UGLY crying. I shook Zoey (my dog's name) in disbelief at the current situation because I had had that dog for (almost) my entire life, and I wasn't ready to let her go. I started sobbing so hard, whispering to her softly, "don't leave me, please don't leave come back" and crying too. it was a long week.
The pain and grief of a loved one's death (logical family, biological family, species irrelevant) is only equaled by the depth of the genuine love we had for them. But I'd never trade a millisecond of my love and time with my fur babies and human loves knowing that it would alleviate the pain when they left this earth. It's all worth it.
Chocolate killing dogs is a misconception it is caused by an allergic reaction and not all dogs have a chocolate allergy. 2 of mine over the years have gotten into my chocolate stash( I am hypoglycemic) and were just fine and a friend of mine gives peanut butter cups to his every night.
I'm so sorry. Maybe your little fluffbutt is romping in some doggie paradise, chasing the slowest squirrels and catching them every time.
Load More Replies...Oh, I can't bear this. This is so beautiful. The most thoughtful 10 seconds of joy for your doggo. Now I'll spend an hour crying. I had to euthanize my beloved cat a year and a half ago, due to kidney failure, and it still hurts. My SO and I worked so hard to save her. I think about her all the time. One of the smartest, most savvy cats I'd ever had.
I'm sure she knew how much you love her and tried to save her. That's what I have to keep telling myself: my dog knew how much I love her and how much Id miss her, even right at the end.
Load More Replies...I don't think I would want my dog to eat chocolate even if they are dying well they already passed away right around new years never got to give her, her last car ride even though I promised her it makes me feel guilty I'm still upset to this very day about it.
I'm so sorry. My dog died a few months ago as well. I try to remind myself that, no matter what I told her or promised her, all she heard was, "Human is paying attention to me! Yay! Attention!"
Load More Replies...I lost my sweet girl joni a year ago and it feels like yesterday. I knew it was coming, her last day was bacon! Steak! No chocolate though.
I had a few weeks when I knew my dog was going, and she got so much ham! I'm so sorry for your loss.
Load More Replies...Damn I wish I had thought to give my kitty some treats before... not sure he'd have eaten anything though...
I'm sure you gave him head scritches and ear flips and belly rubs and nose boops and all the other things you did to show you love him.
Load More Replies...I know it's supposed to be sweet..but Maybe unpopular opinion but I don't think I could do it....the day we knew we were saying goodbye to our last pup, we got her In-N-Out burgers. I cried, and still cry, over the fact that I forgot to get it without onions...
My dog loved onions and tried to steal them whenever he could. Maybe you made her last burgers extra delicious without even meaning to.
Load More Replies...I'm not crying, you are... That was a hard day to say goodbye to my beautiful baby girl. She crossed over the Rainbow Bridge after 4:30pm at home with the vet by our side.
Surely if dogs are to get their first/last taste of chocolate, they deserve better than Hershey’s abominations? The worst chocolate I’ve ever tasted. Even Cadbury’s is better.
We had to put my mom's dog down a few years ago and I stopped at the grocery store to buy her (the dog) a cupcake. Had a full-on breakdown un tears at the store when I realized it was ok to get her a huge chocolate one! Luckily, just so happened that a friend of mine walked past in the store at that moment. Someone above knew I needed that hug!
I fed my dog chocolate digestives just before he was put to sleep!
This hits too hard today... yesterday was the 6-month anniversary of my dog crossing the rainbow bridge
I really didn't need to get weepy while getting ready to go to work.
If they're getting Hershey's kisses, they still haven't tasted chocolate.
We had to put our ever faithful friend Trey to sleep and the night before we gave him a taste of chocolate too. We still miss him but we knew his cancer could not be beat. 😞
I get the concept of the chocolate kisses and it does give the "air of kindness" and yet, the fact these dogs are doomed to be killed, the end doesnt exactly fit the means, and seems just as cruel as the reason behind the treat for these dogs.
When we put our old man down in July, the office had Mexican food for lunch that day. He got a huge plate of it. 😭 He loved every morsel of it.
This is so sad but so sweet. I have held 2 dogs until death and my cat Beazle. I wish mine had that.
That would give me a guilty feeling ." I am poisoning my pet while putting them to sleep. Nope.
Poison depends on the dose, we as humans consume a lot of things that ARE poison and could easily kill us if gone overboard with it. Dogs can get very sick and possibly die with high cocoa content chocolate, like good quality bitter chocolate. Most commercial "chocolate" and chocolate flavored products are not dangerous to dogs. Of course when it comes to risk prevention it's better to be overly afraid than overly confident, so the "chocolate can kill dogs" is what gets thrown around the most
Load More Replies...Chocolate is bad for dogs but they love it. I think a goodbye chocolate is a blessing during such a difficult time. Nobody wants to put their beloved pet down.
The night before my aunts dog being put down she had pizza and chocolate
Good quality chocolate is, your dog won't die on you just because of cheap chocolate flavored candy ocassionally, at worst they will get sick. But yeah, they are getting euthanized anyways, chocolate poisoning isn't an issue
Load More Replies...Omg this is too sad!! This is my first post read for the day and I'm sad
“First, most of us are painfully aware that darkness, what some call evil, exists. We may satisfy some human, psychological needs when we engage with it through the news, movies, or documentaries,” Marlo said.
Marlo argues that “when watching another story, and in particular, these dark and traumatic stories, we witness another person’s narrative. Narrating one’s own story, especially if we have a story that includes trauma, is emotional and hard.”
Meanwhile, “watching another’s story can give us a sense of gaining understanding or relief for ‘free,’ because we are hearing about another’s story but not doing any of the hard, psychological work to create our own story.”
Oh Hell No
Marlo explained that “it is a little like someone who reads a self-help book and imagines they will get better by reading about another person’s process. This is especially true if the story that we are fixated on has personal or traumatic meaning for us.”
Moreover, becoming immersed in another’s dark story can be a vicarious version of what psychologists call, ‘identification with the aggressor.’ “Rather than being the victim, one identifies with the aggressor and their story, and can displace unthinkable, dark impulses onto the person they are viewing, who may be doing things they may not be able to think about but wish to do.”
Marlo explained that “they may also feel more powerful, safer, strong, dominant, and in control by viewing another doing unthinkable things but they are watching and don’t have to act it out in their real life where it would have negative consequences internally and externally.”
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"After months in a sealed container with no additional feeding she laid eggs. This gives you an idea of how long a tick can be dormant and how many eggs one female can lay."
The Jungian psychoanalyst argues that “by watching about another’s story, we may gain a sense of control, understanding, or vicarious mastery over our own aggressive fantasies and anxieties about evil, whether we imagine ourselves in the role of the perpetrator and/or victim.”
This could explain Netflix’s hugely popular docuseries “Dahmer – Monster: The Jeffrey Dahmer Story” (2022). Arlo argues that the Jeffrey Dahmer story, for example, gives us at least one version of a real-life story of a serial killer.
“We may feel as if we have a better understanding of senseless violence and the irrationalities of evil by becoming immersed in learning about one person’s story. His story is a mixture of elements—some common and some uncommon—which enables us to compare and contrast this story with our own life story and our own fears, wishes, and/or fantasies.”
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But how can we explain our fascination with this kind of raw, violent, and unpleasant material? Well, Marlo says we can look for answers in the psychological mechanism of displacement.
“We all can feel some sense of vulnerability in knowing we could be the target of random violence or evil. We may feel a fascination and some voyeuristic pleasure in seeing another’s story and hearing how it happened to someone else. I am not suggesting that many of us wish harm on another person or even get sadistic pleasure in others’ suffering, although some people do.”
The Jungian psychoanalyst continued: “Rather, knowing that humans can hurt and inflict suffering on one another, and that irrational and uncontrollable things happen, becoming engrossed in another’s dark misfortune can help us feel less vulnerable and find some relief.”
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Surprisingly, watching such stories may, actually, increase our empathy for others’ suffering. “In the story, we might imagine this misfortune came from natural consequences, poor choices, genetics, karma, bad luck, or the fickle finger of fate. And becoming fascinated by another’s story may help us feel, irrationally, that we can protect ourselves from it; or are inoculated from it and/or that we can learn from it and escape this misfortune.” So in the end, it likely has a completely opposite effect than the material itself.
Another explanation for our fascination with the dark side of life can be found in a basic law of psychic behavior known as “compensation,” Marlo told us. “This is especially true when we are surprised by someone that we may not think would be utterly fascinated by stories of dark news. The law of compensation posits that when one attitude and approach to life is overdeveloped in consciousness, then a corresponding compensation emerges from the unconscious to help bring the psyche back into balance.”
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Marlo argues that “this other side compensates for thoughts, perceptions, and emotions which fail to reach consciousness because we may dissociate, repress, or defend against them in a variety of ways.”
She gave an example: “a pacifist may have flashes of violent imagery, thoughts, and dreams that they banish from awareness. These flashes can be their psyche’s way of raising their awareness about this other side of life, to gain more balance, and become more whole. The pacifist may become fascinated by these dark stories as a way of bringing some of the dark, aggressive, combative energy into their otherwise peaceful life as a pacifist.”
Marlo recounted how she had a patient who loved watching true crime. “In her professional work, she had to be very responsible, personable, kind, and empathic to many underserved people. Watching true crime helped her have an outlet from her otherwise kind and generous life spent serving other people.”
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The Brown??
And if you ever wondered if something’s wrong with you because you’re drawn to dark material, you’re not the only one and it can also be perfectly explained. Marlo argues that being human also means having dark impulses or undeveloped, “hurt part of ourselves that Jung called our Shadow.”
Marlo explained Jung’s theory of Shadow further: “We all have a shadow that expresses itself in moments of pain, stress, and unconsciousness. Typically, objects of fascination on crime shows or social media are people whose shadows are big; out there; exposed for our viewing.”
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Think of it as a public display of impulses that most of us usually keep inside and underground, Marlo argues. “It can be fascinating for us to see others’ shadows out there whether their shadow is familiar or foreign to our self. In addition, we stay fascinated with their story because it gives us an opportunity to see what happens when one lives out this dark side—something that some individuals could not even imagine let alone dream of doing.”
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Rhythmic gymnasts and dancers do that. My sister was a ballet dancer for a very long time and some of the stuff she could do with her feet just looked crazy uncomfortable.
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My wife had to ask me if I was okay as I couldn't breath after reading this. I may have broken a rib laughing.
Load More Replies...Regarding the comments, I'm obviously not the only one feeling uncomfortable right now, so I‘d really like to know: What is your default sensation while looking at posts like this? For me it's always a tingling in my feet.
Idk, came straight to the comments to confirm I should NOT look at this list! 😅 (Tingling in feet is a flight response though, I think? Like you want to run away...)
Load More Replies...Who hurt you BoredPanda, who hurt you? This has to be one of the more disturbing things that has been posted on this site.
This post was a train wreck, on top of a car wreck on top of plane crash, you just couldn't look away. 🤦
I should not have read that. I'm still shuddering and trying not to puke.
Go ahead. I've already vomited so you won't be alone (it was the mold behind the fridge that did it for me).
Load More Replies...Nothing. Don't worry about it. Eat these chips, you don't need more trauma.
Load More Replies...Then throw it all outside and stomp on it, right? That's the next line, right??
Load More Replies...BP tricked us with showing the tamest pics on the main page & then showing us these horrors!
I made it to the end! It's time to go to bed now and my retinas have been burned and my brain is fried. I'm calling work, maybe it's not too late to take that overtime since sleep isn't happening.
My wife had to ask me if I was okay as I couldn't breath after reading this. I may have broken a rib laughing.
Load More Replies...Regarding the comments, I'm obviously not the only one feeling uncomfortable right now, so I‘d really like to know: What is your default sensation while looking at posts like this? For me it's always a tingling in my feet.
Idk, came straight to the comments to confirm I should NOT look at this list! 😅 (Tingling in feet is a flight response though, I think? Like you want to run away...)
Load More Replies...Who hurt you BoredPanda, who hurt you? This has to be one of the more disturbing things that has been posted on this site.
This post was a train wreck, on top of a car wreck on top of plane crash, you just couldn't look away. 🤦
I should not have read that. I'm still shuddering and trying not to puke.
Go ahead. I've already vomited so you won't be alone (it was the mold behind the fridge that did it for me).
Load More Replies...Nothing. Don't worry about it. Eat these chips, you don't need more trauma.
Load More Replies...Then throw it all outside and stomp on it, right? That's the next line, right??
Load More Replies...BP tricked us with showing the tamest pics on the main page & then showing us these horrors!
I made it to the end! It's time to go to bed now and my retinas have been burned and my brain is fried. I'm calling work, maybe it's not too late to take that overtime since sleep isn't happening.