Honesty, they say, is the best policy. But can you go overboard with truthfulness? This recent TikTok trend says yes, for better or worse.
People are sharing brutally honest answers about mundane things in life. These clips have so far touched on slow walkers, French tips, and picky eating. And as you’ll come to see, these responses go deep.
Scroll through this list we’ve compiled and see if you can relate to any of these - many of which have already inspired memes online.
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It is a beautiful country. I would say "Be the change you want to see in the world" but unfortunately with a two-party system, it's very hard to change anything. There is just such an "Us vs Them" mindset; it's like watching toddlers bicker.
It's not that it's a two-party system. It's first-past-the-post, winner-take-all elections, which are far worse in multi-party nations, like Canada, the UK and France.
Load More Replies...But people get the politicians they deserve. Politicians are voted on based on their policies. So they develop policies based on what they know people want, not what's right and what's good for them.
Sadly those who appear to want to escape from tyranny have the objective of setting up their own form of tyranny. It happened with the original immigrants to America, or how would you describe how the First Nation and African slaves were treated.
If you don't like cats, please don't try to know me. If you don't love cats, please don't try to like me. If you don't love cats more than me, you can't love me. Simple stuff, that - cats are superior. No debate.
In my cat shelter, at least six cats were 'roadkill', but drivers actually stopped to check if they were alive. They were and made a full recovery. The only thing that distinguishes them from the rest of our rescues are their names: Victor, Pheonix, Charon, Hades, Persephone and Lazarus.
Is anyone surprised this post is the first so far? Its about CATS, people!
I didn't mean to ask anything to these people. Why am I reading this stuff? I came for the botox!
panel four is legit me, when i'm inadvertently reminded that people can be scum to animals and that there are who knows how many animals that should be safe indoors and are instead outside and sometimes dead, it upsets me a great deal
If you don't fasten your seatbelt, My car is not moving. That's been my rule since 1972.
..... just like those that listen to their smoke detector beep for days.
I bought my truck used. Apparently, the previous owner disabled the beeper.
...yours makes a sound if you're not buckled in? mine just puts the light on the dash, i think, although it's entirely possible i just don't hear the sound, because i wear my seatbelt and often buckle up before i even turn the car on.
In the 70s, when it was a constant beep, my father would bring any new car he bought to his mechanic to get the buzzer disconnected. He also never bothered to strap us kids in. One of my sisters got a huge bump on her head from hitting the dashboard (he was perfectly happy to have a four year old kid in the front seat) and I once fell out of Dad's car going around a turn. It's a miracle any of us survived
But they fill up the emergency wards and so delay normal people from getting treatment.
Load More Replies...If they're adults, and there's no pestering signal and they promise to pay any fees or fines - I don't care. Kids will be strapped, otherwise the engine can't. Well, at least I say so.
Still not okay. In case of a crash, their bodies become a flying missile that can kill or seriously injure everyone else in the car. So with me it's either strapped or out
Load More Replies...We appreciate people who “keep it real” and speak their minds. But being brutally honest has a downside. Psychologist Dr. Jonice Webb calls it “an easy out” for hurtful people.
“By adding the word ‘honest’ after ‘brutal,’ they are informing you that they are about to hurt you, but that you should not experience any hurt because they’re just being honest,” Dr. Webb wrote in an article for Psychology Today.
I think it's a serious lack of education if you eat with your mouth open. Ew.
Or a deviated septum and they have little to no choice.
Load More Replies...okay but what she's describing is misophonia, which is much more than just being annoyed with someone for chewing with their mouth open
I so agree. I once went on a date with a sloppy and noisy eater. I left him at the restaurant (thought I did soften the blow by paying the bill before I left). How do you tell someone that you are disgusted by the way they eat.
While I understand this I always feel that it's important to point out that there are places on this planet where this is a sign of respect and enjoyment of the meal.
Those people who step off an escalator and just stop there looking around or still talking, with all people behind them piling up to get off too.
I hate people who refuse to respect others people space which is very different to bad spatial awareness. I too don't have very good spatial awareness, I am constantly bruised from walking into things or stopping mid stride because I find myself completely turned around. Im always apaolgetic vexause it sucks to crash into someone whos just stopped. But people who willfully ignore personal boundaries like on planes where you're squashed because the person next to you feels entitled to your space is a big no. That's not a lack of spatial awareness that's a lack of manners, cop on and awareness that they're not the only person on the planet.
Load More Replies...Okay this is too much of a blanket statement. I have terrible spatial awareness and I don't stop in middle of walkways etc. I just bump into things all the time. I'm not tapped in the head, I have something called ADHD and poor spatial awareness is a common trait.
Oh, this one hits home! I've experienced soooo many times that people just stop and talk in the middle of an aisle in a shop so that no one can pass either side. Or people parking their shopping trollies in such a way that they block the flow of traffic in a shop.
Uh, some people have ADHD and don't realize they're in your way. They're not being self-centered or having a "need" to block a whole doorway, they have no idea. Just say excuse me and they'll move
This is sweet. I hope my kids have this kind of relationship when they're grown. I have only brothers, but we're all close, even if we all live on different continents
You definitely ought to say that. At least to her, if not to others. We always assume the people we care about know how much they mean to us, but often, they don’t. Tell them.
Besides being a cop-out, Dr. Webb says brutal honesty may also be an act of manipulation.
“It’s also likely to make you feel that you’re wrong for experiencing the hurt. That’s gaslighting."
People like to make so many assumptions about families. I've had a few grumpy and egotistical patients try to insult me by saying "Didn't your mother ever teach you that?" (usually regarding something they're wrong about anyway).... in real life I shrug and say "I guess not"... in my mind, I'm thinking, "my mom died before I turned five, you ignorant moron." Sure, saying it aloud would probably shut them up... but I'm there for patient healing, not my own pride.
Both my mom and her mother went through some serious s**t in their lives. My great-grandfather was a drunk and a gambler. He regularly beat his wife and his children. He beat my grandmother's older sister to death when my grandmother was 13, so she ran away from home, and made a life for herself. My mother was a university professor when the Junta came to power. I was still just a kid, but I remember the fear. She built a false wall into our apartment, and we would hide her friends when the military police came for them. It would be temporary, but enough time to get out of the city. So many of her friends were killed, but she continued to fight. It wasn't until my father was taken that she had enough and we fled the country.
I can feel her, even though I'm a man. I have had a beard for the past 30+ years because the idea of shaving my face every day just seems crazy to me.
My beard is nearly 45 for the same reason. No regrets.
Load More Replies........and why is this a beauty standard for women? Hairless legs, pits, etc. is a relatively modern trend. Just about 100 years old. What is it about female body hair that seems so offensive to society?
Not so modern. Razors are commonly found in women's grave goods from the Stone Age on. Fashions are cyclic.
Load More Replies...I agree. Shaving absolutely sux, but if we don't do it, we get judged. It's ridiculous how taboo body hair is on women when it's completely natural.
judged by whom? my guess is not by as many people as you'd think. Most people won't even notice, and of the ones that do 80% won't care. Of the 20% that DO care, most of those will keep it to themselves. And for the extreme minority that feel like they need to say something to you, tazers
Load More Replies...I was using Harry’s five blade razors. My SO talked me into buying a “girls” five blade razor from flamingo. My legs don’t stay as smooth for long now. And then shaving down there is even more annoyin
I made a joke in covid about loving the feel of wind in my hair but probably time to shave my legs. It got heat. Like am I doing you and are you personally affected by my not shaving my legs?
just don't honestly. I know it's easier said than done thanks to social pressure, but I'm AFAB and have never gone near my legs with a razor in my life. Yeah some people will point it out, but the people who care are not the people whose opinions matter. I only shave my armpits, and that's because I'm in Aussie and it's hard to use deodorant if I don't. Yall can do it i believe in you!
And even if you have a modern safety razor, there is that strip of skin you actually shave off that bleeds like a pig and really hurts!
If people are late, go ahead with whatever you were planning to do, with or without them. Never accomodate this behaviour, because this behaviour is controlling you. It's your time they're wasting.
Yeah, I always say, don't wait for late people. Why should you?
Load More Replies...I am totally on board with her. People who are late all the time, it's like they are stealing your life. You don't get that time back. Ever. They just shortened what you have left. So incredibly selfish.
We live in a society that pressures us to follow a strict schedule simply because it generates more GDP. While our productivity constantly breaks records, we are always in a rush and short of time. Instead of recognizing that as the issue, we blame those who have a harder time adjusting to the unhealthy and unnecessary pace of our lives — due to ADHD, just to mention one of many reasons. This is just as recent and absurd social standard as the lack of women's body hair ;)
Load More Replies...Do not move to Latin America, Africa, or Southern Europe (yes I have lived in all these places). If I tell you to be at my party starts at 5PM, and you get there at 5PM, I will wonder why you were so early. Obviously, that means family starts showing up at 6PM, and the party starts at 7PM at the earliest. These are cultural differences. 5 PM is when I will start setting up for the party. It wasn't until I moved to the UK that people expected you to be there at a certain time. Now that I live in the US, my expectations are more fluid, depending on the people I'm talking to. If they're all fellow Brazilians, I don't expect people to be on time.
But that's cultural and expected. I don't care if you're "late" just show up when expected.
Load More Replies...I have ADHD. One of the most stressful things in my life is getting somewhere on time and not an hour early or late. It has me sweating, crying and shaking. In 72 years, I've never been able to master times and dates.
This drives me crazy. Like do you lack the awareness to realize your lateness is affecting other people?
They are often aware of it and even spend a lot of money on medication and therapy just to please those who find it easier to adjust to the unnecessary fast pace of life.
Load More Replies...With some people I know, I'll make an appointment for (say) 6:45 because I know they'll never show up until at least 7:15; I'm there shortly after 7:10.
ITS MY TIME YOU ARE DISRESPECTING. Yeah, caps because I hate people who are always late.
I play soccer and a few friends of mine are ALWAYS late to games. Not only are they late, they show up in flip flips and have to take time to put on their cleats. Sometimes we have to start games short bc they can't get there on time. 100% super rude.
Dr. Webb’s main problem with brutal honesty is that it rids the conversation of its true message.
“By being self-described ‘straight shooters,’ the brutally honest risk hurting the feelings of the receiver, raising their defenses so that they want to distance and protect themselves instead of responding in a useful way,” she wrote.
i have to be in my bed; chairs and even the couch destroy my spine and jam my tailbone up into it. my options are semi-reclining in bed, or misery.
Never felt before? I bet five bucks you've been horizontal at some point almost every day of your life
I've gone of chicken. Since I had Covid, I don't enjoy it. It's a real tragedy.
Most of the texts you’ll read in this list have strong emotions behind them. Their message comes with some extra spice. According to Dr. Webb, it could be a sign of childhood emotional neglect.
“Families that are not tuned in to the subtleties and complications of emotions (i.e., emotionally neglectful families) are more likely to be unaware of how their words affect others’ feelings. Therefore, they produce more perpetrators and victims of brutal honesty.”
If you work in customer service, remember this equation - "Stupid customers = job security".
And then there are customer services people who do the minimum to help you. They don't even bother to listen, they hear no matter how articulate you are and how effectively you provide relevant support information. By the way, I've worked supporting customers almost all my life. My last job before retirement was to help people change their loves through education as an adult. I have given, I have received and I've been fobbed off by disinterested morons.
There is a diagnosis called Maladaptive Disorder and when I read about it I was elated to know it had a name.
i don't even need music, i'm doing this all day every day all on my own! glad it's not just me lmao.
Maladaptive Daydreaming Disorder for the Win. Wild Minds Unite!
Yep, my dad was my first heartbreak. The day I head him telling my mum I was too fat and would never find a husband if didn't get off my fat a*s, was the day our relationship broke. I then later found out he was a convicted sex offender when I tried to foster (with the husband, I'd never find because I was too fat). We went NC after I'd heard him tell 5 different stories about how he got the conviction and found out the truth from the Social Worker who was working with us.
Same. The person who was supposed to protect me was the one who taught me to fear everything that is supposed to seem safe.
Brutal honesty isn’t advised in romantic relationships. For neuropsychologist Dr. Sanam Hafeez, it shows a lack of compassion with the primary intent to inflict pain.
In an interview with Well+Good, she spoke about how being too blunt with a partner can create an unbalanced dynamic. It could also be damaging to the receiver’s self-esteem.
“There is no healthy way to sustain a relationship where one partner is held in such high esteem compared to the other.”
Personally, I cannot nap. Take me forever to doze off and then when I wake, I'm not refreshed, I'm trapped in another dimension.
i can nap as long as you're okay with my nap being 4-12 hours
Load More Replies...Finally one I can empathize with (though I wouldn't say it's my favorite time of day). I've even been known to take multiple naps on days when I'm not at work. And no, it's not just because I'm old. I've always enjoyed napping during the day. Ten minutes of sleep during the day does me as much good as an hour at night.
Having a hard time to empathize with those who don't live like you is not something to brag about, but rather something to work on, Papa ;)
Load More Replies...Tell that to my son who would rather starve than eat something he doesn't like. It's even a battle to get him to try new foods.
Yes! That's my son too.. if I try to make him eat something he doesn't like, he'll go to bed hungry before he'll eat it. It drives me crazy.
Load More Replies...I won't criticize if they are polite about it. But if we are at a family dinner and they can't eat the main course because they just don't like it? Yeah no.
Load More Replies...What about people with sensory issues? I can’t stand most forms of potato, potatoes taste okay but I can’t eat them because of the texture. Fries and potato chips are the only form of potato I’ve tried that I actually like because they have a different texture. Chicken (along with every other bird meat I’ve tried) tastes really dry to me, so I normally don’t eat it. It’s not a matter of me (or other “picky eaters”) growing up, maybe you should grow up and let other people live their life without being bothered by morons who get “the ick” when someone doesn’t want to eat pasta salad or whatever a “normal food” is.
And some of us just don't like some things! All those "favourssss" doesn't make those foods taste better to me. Some of it's genetic - Licorice tastes like a*s to me, but some love it. Cilantro tastes like soap, so I'll skip the Guac thanks.
Load More Replies...i can't really eat them because i get overstimulated if i eat specific food. I'm autistic (I'm not using this to excuse my reactions I'm just saying how it affects me) so I'm a lot more sensitive to things on my face, i could start crying if i have a bad enough runny nose
you must not be autistic, sir, or have other sensory issues. i once had a baby panic attack over trying to eat cottage cheese. we don't choose when these things happen, or why, or how. f**k off and let people eat what they want to, and not eat what they don't.
What about people with ARFID like myself? Do we need to grow up? Grow out of an ED?
... these are, truly, just dietary choices. There's no ethics involved, there's no obligations to be met, it's just preferences that nobody has direct control over. A little communication rectifies this in about 99 %, and the remaining few where this won't, would find something else to be angry about and complain, because that's their goal, make you miserable, make you spend more and more effort, to be met with more and more hostility. I consider myself a picky host in regard to them.
DND is the closest thing to feeling like you have no phone. All the dings, pings, and buzzes don't make me flinch anymore 'cause I know it can't be my phone lol. I do love it.
I don't answer my phone but I really don't care if it rings or makes other noises.
This one resonates with me, more so as I get older. I have so many bells, pings, alerts, popups, whistles, etc going off around me; text messages, emails, Teams mgs, etc. coming in that I have no idea what the heck is going off or where messages are arriving. Nova (PBS) did a show on this prolly 15-20 YEARS ago. Called information overload. It's only gotten worse since then.
This isn’t to discourage straightforwardness. However, Dr. Webb encourages truth with compassion, instead.
“Basically, brutal honesty shuts down communication. Truth with compassion encourages communication.”
I got my best grades in high school in Chemistry. I also liked and admired my teacher. But every single day at the end of class, I said the same thing to myself - "Who the f___ cares?"
There are two things about sleep for me. First is I don't sleep the whole night through. I usually wake up sometime in the middle of the night and I can't get backcp to sleep. Second is that when I do get up I never feel tefreshed.
insomnia, my friend. you should talk to a doctor, see if there's some underlying cause, and if there's medication you could try. i'm on one prescription med and one supplement (plus melatonin) to allow me to sleep well, plus cbd/thc gummies every night.
Load More Replies...I'm the opposite. I would rather die of dehydration than drink sparkling water. Absolutely nasty stuff.
I'm not a fan either, but if I add a dash of lemon-juice than it's okay.
Load More Replies...I agree! I remember turning up to a B&B in rural Germany once on a boiling hot day (40C) and being all sweaty and drained. The host asked if I'd like a glass of water while I signed some paperwork and that Sprudelwasser was hands down the best thing I've ever drunk. It restored me!
i find sparkling water nasty, and i already have issues with reflux, i don't need carbonation in there making it worse. i'm on a well and my water is the best i've ever had in my life, my mom and i joke that whenever we move, we'll rent a tanker truck and take as much with us as we can.
People drink straight out of normal water bottles
Load More Replies...Sadly from my experience many (not all of course) Asians don't respect the native flora and fauna. They quite often push in line and also hog/block attractions preventing others having a look.
oh my gosh YES!! no one agrees with me but it is my favourite by far :]
Load More Replies...Try eating carburies after you have eaten dove. You will find that it doesn’t actually taste like chocolate. It will change your mind.
It's not true chocolate. It's a chocolate product. Try Hotel Chocolat and work your way from mile to the darkest of dark. It's a voyage of excitement and wonder. I didn't like 'chocolate' until I found them.
I'm a bit on the fence about gossip. It's a way to bond with your co-workers, but it can also be the cause of toxicity in the workplace, so it's not without its dangers.
I despise gossip. I had my life almost by gossips spreading unfounded lies about me based on jealousy and envy. Gossip is the entertainment of hollow minds.
Never understood the issue with them. The not really anymore scary or cute than any insect.
I had a traumatic episode when I was kid with a spider. Not so much the spider as my mother's reaction to the spider. It took a while, but now I'm indifferent to spiders, unless my wife or kids see one, then it's on me to "save the day".
Load More Replies...i would much rather have a spider run over my foot than a house centipede
Meh. We have 3 big butt mama spiders in our kitchen. The cats don't even bother with them. They're harmless and eat flies and mosquitoes. Also have a lot of little jumping spiders in our area. We name them. Last year it was James Spider. I just dont want them crawling on me.....🕷
i dislike mayo, why would i eat that when i could have miracle whip instead, or something even better like horseradish sauce?
i now want to live there more than ever. if i can't have the very small close community from my video games, then i want a place where no community is really expected.
Same! I was so proud of my 7YO daughter when she said when her dad/my husband left the room that we should form an alliance to bring him down. So proud!!
Um, disabled people ? Someone with arthritis? A mother with a child? Maybe you are the exception?
Or I'm not in any kind of hurry, unlike the douche of an OP.
Load More Replies...As someone with a hip deformity it's actually very painful to walk fast, so it is quite hard. If I notice someone behind me walking fast, I often move over to the side. If I don't see you, say excuse me, how hard is it to use your words.
What annoys me is that you, apparently, think that people walk more slowly than you without any reason. There are older people, people with disabilities, people who are tired from walking, people who carry groceries that are heavy, all kinds of things. If it annoys you to such an extent that your whole day is ruined, I would say that your day is ruined quite easily.
Maybe you don't understand why some people walk slowly. Some can't actually help it, have some compassion.
Speed is relative, OP. Maybe you're going too fast. Try going with the flow and smell the roses instead of my sneakers.
The picture shows a young physically fit person who should be able to walk around a slow walker. I confess I'm a slow walker, or as I prefer, a stroller. I just don't think that scurrying around like a demeted cockroach makes you look important. Except maybe in your own egotistical mind.
Yes, I dispise slower walkers myself but I try to be patient with them until I have a chance to pass them. As Lyone Fien pointed out there could be circumstances where someone cannot walk fast. So we single people that can walk faster we need to be patient with them.
Homesickness alert! I love milk chocolate digestives. Always have, always will.
I don't think that was body shaming in this context. I think it's a bit like calling your bestie a "b***h"
Load More Replies...You should look into the books. They are DARK. Talking about 'The other railway', where the controllers are cruel, and they cut up engines in huge scrap yards! Thankfully it turned out not to be true, and they actually go to Bluebell Railway, where they are cared for, put to use, and can be safe.
I used to hate the TTTE theme music as a kid. It frightened me. Now my little boy is into it and I'm going through it all again! He likes it but it is a weird show. Button Moon is much better! Soothing music, but weird in a good way.
Yes! Coffee has been with my through my toughest days! The first sip of coffee when it's the perfect temperature and strength is such a beautiful thing. And I'm British so everyone instinctively serves tea and assumes I like it. Tea < coffee x 1000.
not necessarily, you can appreciate something to this degree without taking it to excess
Load More Replies...diet sodas upset my guts horribly :( i can always tell within the first sip if some place has accidentally given me diet
If I had French tips they wouldn't survive the day, what with gardening and all.......
They would be a pain in the butt playing the piano as well. I had one manicure in my life and I had no idea what to ask for, so I just told the woman to do whatever she'd always wanted to do but no one had asked for. It looked pretty cool!
Load More Replies...unpopular opinion, but nothing about this look is attractive to me. i hate lip fillers, i don't understand the excessive mascara, this haircut doesn't look that good on her, and i personally would be covered in scratches if i tried to have nails like this. when my nails get corners on them it means they're too long and i have to either cut or chew them down again.
sucks to be you then, and i hope you don't live somewhere with a lot of pigeons :) i think they're adorable
must be nice not being disabled, and also perhaps you could see a therapist about this issue, since showering every day really isn't necessary for most people
If you were to ask me about this thread, I'd say I found the few posts I read to be ridiculous. If you were to ask me on a deeper level, I'd look at you like you were nuts, as there was no deeper area. *wanders off to open a can*
I know - this was gruesome. Couldn't get past the 5th one.
Load More Replies...Most of these tik tokkers seem to have no idea what deeper means. Talking more about the same topic is not going deeper. Examining issues of WHY you like/dislike something, going into your personal HISTORY with an issue, looking at your FUTURE possibilities relating to the issue, exploring the MORAL implications of the issue........these are all examples of going deeper.
Good good, the downvotes are erasing the 30 fake upvotes on this garbage.
**WARNING** cringe level of epic proportions. Stop after the 7th post, its too much
If you were to ask me about this thread, I'd say I found the few posts I read to be ridiculous. If you were to ask me on a deeper level, I'd look at you like you were nuts, as there was no deeper area. *wanders off to open a can*
I know - this was gruesome. Couldn't get past the 5th one.
Load More Replies...Most of these tik tokkers seem to have no idea what deeper means. Talking more about the same topic is not going deeper. Examining issues of WHY you like/dislike something, going into your personal HISTORY with an issue, looking at your FUTURE possibilities relating to the issue, exploring the MORAL implications of the issue........these are all examples of going deeper.
Good good, the downvotes are erasing the 30 fake upvotes on this garbage.
**WARNING** cringe level of epic proportions. Stop after the 7th post, its too much
