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50 Times People Had The Heartbreaking Realization That Their Friends Were Horrible Human Beings
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We sometimes take friendship for granted. When you have a healthy and happy social circle, you can forget that not everyone has a close-knit group of friends they can always rely on. When you know for a fact that your BFFs, your pals, your buddies have your back, it’s incredible how confident you can feel. They’d do anything for you, you’d do anything for them, and even the three musketeers get jealous when they see you. Watch out, world, nobody can stop us!
Alas! Real-life doesn’t mimic our favorite fantasy books and TV shows as much as we’d like! Unfortunately, not every friendship turns out to be as brilliant as we just described it. True friends are rare. And some people who you think you can rely on can end up betraying you at the drop of a hat.
Internet users opened up about the moment that they realized that their so-called ‘friends’ were actually truly awful people. Just horrible. Jerks of the highest magnitude. Scroll down for their stories, as shared on r/AskReddit. If you’re feeling up to it, tell us about your own fake friends in the comments. And if you happen to be incredibly blessed, why not share a bit about how awesome your pals are, too? Meanwhile, you can find Bored Panda’s earlier article about fake friendships right over here.
Suzanne Degges-White, Ph.D., explained to Bored Panda why human beings seek validation and attention, at what point the desire for approval becomes unhealthy, and how we can learn to trust someone after being betrayed by a close friend. Professor Degges-White a Licensed Counselor and the Chair at the Department of Counseling and Higher Education at Northern Illinois University, told us that human beings are wired for social connection and we all crave a sense of belonging and acceptance by others. Read on for the full interview and to learn why being alone is better than being in a bad relationship, as well as how to tell how someone is likely a fake friend.
Meanwhile, Bored Panda also got in touch with redditor u/One-Refrigerator69, the author of the viral thread, to get their opinion on friendships and 'friendships.'
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#1
We were at a music festival. He came back from the restroom with a scared girl who looked to be no more than 15. He told me that she had lost her friends and that she couldn’t get a cell signal. He wanted to take her back to our car camping spot, and give her alcohol and drugs to “get her to relax”.
I told him that he was disgusting and after a brief conversation with her, I reunited her with her friends within 5 minutes.
"When we are unable to find folks who will treat us the way we deserve to be treated, we will accept poor treatment from others," Professor Degges-White, from Northern Illinois University, detailed to Bored Panda why some people accept being treated poorly by others.
"Unfortunately, folks who grow up in abusive families learn to equate abusive behaviors with love or acceptance. Thus, they will tolerate pretty awful behavior from people that say that they love them or care about them—even when these people's actions show otherwise," the expert said.
"Sometimes, a person will decide that any 'friend' is better than no friends and allow themselves to be walked all over. Unfortunately, research indicates that a rocky or combative relationship is worse for a person's well-being and health than no relationship, actually," she said that being alone is, in fact, scientifically proven to be better than in a bad relationship.
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#2
2006 my then best friend wanted to go to a big German metal festival. I did not want to go because my Dad had endstage cancer. Dad died August 8th, couple of days after friend returned from the festival and I called him because I needed someone to talk. He very bluntly stated that he had no interest in my Dad's passing but wanted to tell me how great the festival was. You can't imagine how disappointed I was. For years I've been there for him whenever he got dumped and the one time I needed a friend he wasn't there for me. Told him to shut my door from the outside and loose my number...
Artemis302 2 years ago
I was in a one-way friendship, I gave everything I had to support them, when I needed some support...nothing. I learned what I wanted/needed/expected from my friends. There aren't many, but the friendships are deep and true, and balanced.
#3
I got surgery and no one checked up on me. Not even a text.
"When a person is spending all of their 'friendship energy' trying to please a 'friend,' that's a sign that the relationship is out of balance and is a cause for concern. If you're willing to sacrifice your pride, your assets, or well-being for a friend who is unwilling to invest in the relationship in an equivalent manner, whatever that might be, it's a time to re-evaluate your perspective and the relationship," the professor warned.
Professor Degges-White said that trust is one of the most essential ingredients in any healthy relationship. When broken, trust is extremely difficult to rebuild. And some of us go through life assuming that others are just as trustworthy as we are.
"When a friend has violated our trust, our need for that friend often dictates how quickly we're able to 'forgive and forget' or at least 'move on' from the incident. To rebuild trust can take time—we may need to give another person several opportunities to show that they can indeed be trusted. If we want a person in our lives, and they have let us down, we are often willing to start anew and see what happens," the expert told Bored Panda.
#4
I had gotten into a car accident that left me needing a couple years worth of physical therapy. To this day, i still cannot close my left hand in a fist with it hurting and shaking like mad. Anyways, i get discharged from the hospital. I had, let’s call this girl wendy, i had asked wendy a week before if she’d be able to pick me up that day at this time. She agreed. I called her she said “oh sorry there’s traffic i’ll be there in 20 minutes.” 20 minutes turned into 6 hours, and i called an uber home. sent a text two days later saying “sorry my car wouldn’t start.” Why lie?? Anyways, a couple weeks later i see Wendy, Jesse, and Vila. I’m at their house to hangout and to celebrate one of their birthdays. The ENTIRE time, was Jesse complaining on how i shouldn’t be here at the birthday party because i’m taking everyone’s attention of the birthday girl. And how i planned this to ruin her birthday. yada yada. Wendy and Vila gossiping while looking at me and giggling. Jesse got fed up that i needed help raising my hand for a toast(because why else would she specifically make EVERYONE use their left hand?). I attempted to make an effort raising my hand and the champagne spilt everywhere on me. And then jesse got up and pushed me out of her party, while Wendy and Vila did nothing and laughed at me. That day, i went home, blocked all their numbers, stopped talking to them. About a couple months later i get a text from Wendy saying “i’m sorry but you kinda deserved it, i mean u were taking all the attention of Jesse.” How does that justify anything???? And then i learned that all three girls got arrested selling drugs together. Good times.
#5
“Survival of the fittest” after I said that covid could take out my mom. they wanted to go back to partying.
#6
When I made new friends and realised that it's not normal for friends to constantly beat on me and make fun of me
"I think the saying, 'Fool me once, shame on you; fool me twice, shame on me' is one that applies to those friends who continue to let us down and violate trust," she said.
"Healthy relationships are based on trust and respect and if we don't ask for those from our friends, the relationships will be a lot less satisfying, balanced, and healthy. But we have to be willing to set boundaries, expectations, and offer to friends what we need them to offer to us."
#7
She got a boyfriend and would let him listen to our phone calls and not tell me, even if I was crying about personal stuff that I would only ever tell her. Then they both started lying to me about my crush liking me back, forcing both him and me into awkward positions (telling everyone we liked each other so they'd play along, swapping places constantly to make us sit next to each other, pressuring him into giving me a lap dance, making him kiss the prettiest girl in the room, etc), and encouraged me to shoot my shot more and more. All the while they knew he didn't like me, he had told them both directly. One night I was crying on the phone cause I was so confused why my advances weren't working, and they just kept explaining it away, blaming some other b******t reason and telling me to try again. The next day they told me they were laughing throughout the whole call, because I didn't get it and I was so upset. I should add I had no dating experience at all and nobody had ever liked me at this point
#8
When I told my friend I was completely in love with this girl and also told him that I’ve been battling depression for 2 years as well as thinking about killing myself. Then found out that not even 2 weeks after I told him all this he starting hooking up with the girl and then would brag and talk about her in front of me as if he had no idea about how I felt.
#9
They were picking on a member of our group for random c**p (eg her hair, her clothes etc).
I snapped and told them to stfu and that they sounded like a band of hyenas, and they said "if she doesn't know how s**t she is, her life will be hard, we are HELPING her".
Needless to say we didn't keep in touch afterwards.
General Anaesthesia 2 years ago
Right, plus the age old "he bullies you because he really likes you". People can be so cruel.
The author of the viral thread, redditor u/One-Refrigerator69, shared with Bored Panda what made them create the post on r/AskReddit in the first place.
"My inspiration for writing this was because recently one of my friends was being very mean and disrespectful to me and my other friends," they told us.
#10
When I almost died in the hospital. People I thought were good friends never visited or called, and people who I wasn't very close with came to visit me.
Katrin Krueger 2 years ago
Afterwards they'll whine and go "I didn't know what to say/do!" Yes, understandable, but neither did I, and sorry this wasn't about you, why do I have to deal with a) my problem/health and b) your inability to handle it right then and there?
#11
My husband got cancer. When my friends found out about it, they stopped contacting me.
Now he's dead and they still don't call.
Final score:
191points
#12
I let my friend use my car while i house-sit my neighbors house while my friend uses it for work (his car died)..9 days later, he comes back in a uber and gave me 500 bucks and i asked him where my car is and he said "ima be honest with you, i sold it for weed and alcohol so no hard feelings?"
My car around that time was a 1965 Chevy Impala SS that my grandpa gave me before he died due to lung cancer and that was the last thing he gave to me so the car was very special to me and the fact that my "friend" sold it for f****n weed and alcohol blows my f****n mind😐
Also, i had an appraisal on my csr just in case if i needed money and the appraisal was around 35-45 grand for the car.
Paul Macdonell 2 years ago
So report it stolen, find the owner through DMV records and retrieve your car. This story sounds untrue as people just can't sell other people's cars and all is lost. It dosen't work that way or people would be selling rental cars on every corner....
Meanwhile, they also shared how they check if someone's a true or false friend. "In my opinion, the way I check if a person is really my friend is if they don't try to use me for anything and don't make excuses for trying to hang out with you," they said, adding that if someone's overly rude to you when you spend time together, it's a red flag that they might not be such a great pal as you initially thought.
"What me and my friend did was talk about the sort of things that they did and why that is wrong," the OP said that they tackled the issue head-on. "Hopefully they will be willing to listen and understand that what they did was wrong and how they can change that."
#13
When we were driving, he purposely tried to run over some ducks. The first time I saw him swerve at a turtle I thought that I hadn't just seen that and thought that I was wrong in what I saw. When we got to his house ( we ran to the store for some more chips and rolls for a cook out) told the wife we had to go. His wife called later to see if everyone was ok, and my wife shared with her what had happened. To which she replied" it's just freaking birds". I'm polite but not friendly to he and she now.
hot foot mask 2 years ago (edited)
anyone who's cruel to animals is undeserving of basic kindness or respect!
#14
When I was being abused by my ex and told them what was happening so maybe they could help me get out. They didn't believe me, acted like I was lying, and even defended him.
That was nearly 10 years ago and thankfully I was able to get out and now I'm happily remarried, but you can bet that I haven't had a close friendship since because I no longer trust people.
Artemis302 2 years ago
I'm so glad you're out of the abusive relationship! We'll done, you! What sh*t friends you had. Not everyone is like that, but you're right, trust needs to be earned. Please stay safe
#15
Had been friends with this dude like 2 years, shared a common hobby of playing guitar and we used to jam a lot.
One time we met up and he started to brag to me that he had just cheated on his girlfriend with her niece, I mean dude was proud over it like "woohooo I just got laid". I lost all respect for him in that moment and slowly started to talk less and less with him so eventually he wouldnt bother to make contact again
Professor Degges-White previously explained to Bored Panda in more detail how to tell if a friendship is superficial or authentic. She said that real friendships are built on trust and mutual respect. “If you don't feel in your gut that this is what a person is offering to you in the relationship, they aren't a true friend,” she said.
“Also, friends recognize that the 'giving and taking' in friendships needs to be balanced over time," the professor noted that the spirit of reciprocity is very important in friendships. A person who constantly asks for favors like a place to crash or a loan, but never has the time to help you when you need a hand, is most likely not someone you can trust.
"Friends who talk about us behind our back, aren't there for us when our lives are crashing and we need someone to talk to, or aren't there for us when we want to celebrate our successes—those friendships don't reflect authentic deep friendship. When a friend takes advantage of us or lets us down repeatedly, then it is time to re-think whether this is a relationship that is worth the risk,” Professor Degges-White said.
#16
When he sexually assaulted my new girlfriend, while I was using the washroom.
Bernd Herbert 2 years ago
Wow. I mean, some of these stories were simply a*****e behavior, others, like this one, are criminals.
#17
When he didn't invite me or even tell me about his wedding but called on the wedding day and asked me to lend him $1000 because he was in a tight spot.
#18
I was in the locker rooms changing and one of my classmates said "did you see what X posted on her insta story?" as in a very condescending way. Then, the other girls jumped up saying "No, let me see!" or "Yeah, she's such a h0." I happened to have seen that story bevorehand and it was just a selfie with her in her bf's car. Nothing out of usual.
AFTER that, they started to show each other old videos of themselves mocking other stories of her. I realized the real h0es were in there with me, quickly grabbed my stuff and left.
"Real friends are those people who are going to be there for you whether life is going beautifully for you or life has tanked and you feel like you're in over your head. Friendships are about emotional and instrumental support—it's a totally mutual, voluntary, reciprocal relationship. Therefore, we can all decide what we want to put into a friendship," she said.
"Authentic friendships are built on mutual respect and reciprocity and affection—there's an emotional commitment there that doesn't exist in superficial friendships. Don't tell your secrets or your vulnerabilities to a superficial friend, because you can't be sure how they might use this information. With authentic friendships, we can be completely ourselves and know that we will still be loved," the professor told Bored Panda.
"One of the biggest differences between friend types is the amount of emotional energy they are investing into the relationship and the depth of their appreciation for your presence in their lives."
#19
When I finally realised that if she was b**ching about other people to me, she was most likely b**ching about me to them. It took me a surprisingly long time to figure this one out.
Wondering Alice 2 years ago
I'm massively insecure around anyone I've heard b***h about anyone else.
#20
I let my friend borrow my ps2 when I went to boot camp. When I came back, he said he sold it and gave me $50 I think? This was in 2006.
#21
When my ‘best friend’ f****d the guy I was in love with (she knew) while I was on work-placement for 2 weeks.
All my ‘friends’ thought I should get over it and not rock the boat. So I did.
First major depressive episode and a reflection of my self-esteem at the time.
A year later she threw a fit because I kissed a guy that she liked. While still being in a relationship with the original guy.
He dropped off a bag of my clothes she borrowed INCLUDING a box of tampons I had given her.
You know the friendship is over when you get back your feminine hygiene products!! 😂
F**k you A and J!!
Meanwhile, financial expert Sam Dogen, the founder of the Financial Samurai blog, shared with Bored Panda how we can tell if someone is with us just because of our money.
"If the partner never offers to pay for anything, that is a huge red flag. A truly loving partner would at least offer to pay for a meal, buy a small gift, or spend time doing something nice for you, especially if they don't have a lot of money. However, a partner who is mainly using you for your money will usually never speak up. They'll just have the default expectation that you'll pay for everything," he explained how we can tell if someone who we’re dating is more interested in our resources than who we are as people.
"The wealthier partner can protect themselves by first having an open dialogue about their partner's finances. Once the wealthier partner knows what they are dealing with, then they can make a more informed decision about how money will play a role in the relationship. It is really the surprise money issues that throw couples off-balance," the financial expert told Bored Panda.
#22
This was way back in the MSN Messenger period.
I had this "friend", really friendly outgoing guy and we used to hang out together like once or twice a month. Spinning some records, watching anime, playing video games. He tried to make steps into a music career and our chats usually would involve him sending over samples and tracks. Most of the time it was just utter trash but me, being a good friend, being positive and giving tips.
Fast forward...
His music 'career' took off and he was able to DJ at some small events. He gained some traction, kinda gathered an entourage.
Didn't hear from him much any more, after suddenly he messaged me with many different things, if I could help him out. Do some graphics, do some spreadsheeting. When I said I was busy he threw the "but we bros, bro". I screenshoted the chat, highlighted the date of our last chat and told him "bros don't let bros messages unread and unreplied for 6 weeks and than don't say 'hi' and barge in with questions and demands".
I've seen him one or twice in the past 7 years. I greeted him but avoided conversation.
I heard later that he done this with more people and it was his way of making 'friends'. Look for people with certain skills, use them, benefit from them and 'move up'.
ben woskje 2 years ago
ill expect more downvotes for this (assuming i can now comment again) - but sometimes people dont know how to relate to others - and their work/doing things together is how they relate to others/their best attempt.
#23
(just one) When he propositioned my girlfriend to have sex with him under the guise of making sure she was being faithful to me.
#24
When I started to actually show how horrible my mental health was. I was expected to be the "clown friend" in a friend group. Meaning I should always be joking and happy even in serious times and playing dumb. It's not how I wanted to be known but it seemed like it was the only way for me to make friends. The pressure of this, plus other things I was dealing with became too much for me to handle so I started taking about how I was feeling and how I was starting to have an identity crisis. Since I stopped playing dumb and being obnoxious I became "too boring" to hang out with. I had a few who stuck around and eventually the few and I became more open to each other about mental health.
"For example, if you know your partner is deep in debt and you still choose to team up, then that's fine. Your expectations are set. But if you went into your relationship thinking your partner had a million-dollar investment portfolio but doesn't, then things might turn sour quickly. A strong relationship is based on trust and admiration,” he said.
"Ideally, I think marrying your equal is better than marrying rich. It's extremely rewarding and more dignifying to build your wealth together as a couple. However, if you can marry someone who you love who is also already rich, then that works too!"
#25
When i prepared my graduation project with them.
Those a**holes left me in the last week before the deadlines, and put their names with group of girls.
The surprise that i had another plan, and it won the prize of the best project( so i didnt need to share it with those a**holes)
#26
When they cut me out all of the sudden. I had been friends with these guys for 10 years then one day they all up and left blocked me on everything. I have been questioning if I am a horrible person.
Down With Agent Hedgehog! 2 years ago
Your friends chose not to explain to you why. So, no you are not horrible person. Sorry about blunt hedgehog logic.
Emerald Ocean 2 years ago
Blunt hedgehog logic🤣 I’m gonna use that sometime!
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Wondering Alice 2 years ago
The small group I hung out with at high school all decided to cut me out one day. One girl had come on a foreign family holiday with us the year before, so my mum appealed to her mum to at least tell me why. I never found out. It hurt for a long time.
Lady Goldberry 2 years ago
This happened to my son when he was 15 and his 3 best friends decided he was annoying or something. 3 months later we threw him a 16th birthday party. Loads of people came, they put pics all over FB, going on about what a great time they'd had and how amazing my son is. It was really cool. Word obviously got around and the other 3 made overtures of friendship again, which Leon graciously accepted. They're still friends now and I think they all learned a lesson.
CrunChewy McSandybutt 2 years ago
This happened to me, too. It's worse than a breakup, because with a breakup at least you know why. It's been 20 years and I still get stung by it every so often.
Flexiegirl94 2 years ago
This happened to me... I had been best friends with this girl for 6 years. Like, REALLY close. Then she went to uni and I got ghosted. No calls, txts. Nothing. I learnt from other people what was happening. Most painful experience of my life. Cried myself to sleep a few times.
Mer☕️🧭☕️ 2 years ago
Ghosters are horrible, weak, nasty, spineless, cowards that we are all so much better without. It does hurt at the time of the ghosting but once you're through it, you realize that it's best to get them out of your life as soon as possible else you ran the risk of them showing their true colors at an even worse time.
Isaac Huntoon 2 years ago
A high school friend of mine (who is great and I'm still friends with) was getting married and invited our entire friend group of a decade to the wedding. I was also attending with my fiancée. When we arrived, they didn't even bother to get to know her and barely caught up with me after years of ghosting/barely acknowledging I even existed. What pushed it over the edge was when one of them kept messing with my fiancée by playing with her hair and hitting her on the back of the head before walking away without saying anything or apologizing. Needless to say, they lost my friendship and were definitely not invited to my own wedding. They made a night that was supposed to be about celebrating our mutual friend absolutely awkward and made me question whether or not they ever truly cared about me.
Wysteria_Rose 2 years ago
I was guilty of this (I acknowledge I was a sh*t person at that time). Me and another friend were upset that our other friend who was leaving school was withdrawing. Now I see she was in so much pain and going through hell, so how she was able to even show up to meet us ever was incredible really. The one friend though decided it was best to just cut off communication entirely. I went along with it...only for that "friend" to do the same thing to me when I wasn't doing life like they thought I should. Now me and the first friend have reconciled, we're closer than ever, and I am never doing that ever again to anyone.
Natalie Seaton 2 years ago
Sometimes it's a bad friend. And sometimes what you've done to them is so ugly, that if they need to explain - they really don't have to explain a thing.
#27
I came back from six months of travelling all around the world. Second night back, I organised to hang out, had brought them presents, souvenirs and wanted to get drunk on a massive bottle of Saki I'd got from Japan and have a proper catch up.
Instead, they wanted to meet at 2am to smoke weed in the park and then instantly all go home. I decided I wouldn't message any of them until they messaged me after that, three years later and I've never heard a peep.
#28
When one told me I should try harder to be well to be happy for them, and having me depressed was "sad" and not "fun"
I was hiding self harm and very dark thoughts from them, and couldn't afford therapy.
#29
When she made out with a rando stranger right next to me on an airplane (for like, an hour) WHILST she was in a serious relationship with one of my best friends from high school.
Once we were back on land, I texted my hs friend and told him that she cheated on him, and I immediately friend-dumped the cheater. (She was genuinely shocked that I told him, like she expected me to just be chill with her cheating on a bro).
This was really the straw that broke the camels back-- the cheater was a real narcissist and her behavior had been getting on my nerves for a while by that point, especially the way she'd been emotionally abusing my buddy in the months leading up to this.
My hs friend was devastated at the time, but it's been a few years and he's a lot happier now.
#30
When they ganged up on one of them over her changed behaviour due to her depression. She had been very happy-go-lucky, but fell into a deep depression and completely changed. Teenage girls are the worst
#31
When they prioritised drugs over loyalty and began to steal from me to financially support their habit. F**k those guys.
#32
Some people have told me it wasn't a big deal but it was to me. She went after the woman i had a thing for and i was already pursuing. She knew I had a thing for this woman. I told her how much I liked this person. My friend knew how strongly I felt and what made it worse was she was being supportive to my face and gave me the courage to finally go for what i wanted but never had the confidence to do before. but then she tried to get with this woman behind my back. She said "it's whoever gets there first" when I found out. Wtf.
I always felt like that was just something you don't do to friends anyway, whether it's behind your back or they're being obvious about it. It's a line you're not supposed to cross. I felt betrayed and disrespected. I did end up dating the woman and we were together for 2 years. So there's that. But I cut ties with my friend.
#33
A classmate told me my 'friend' was saying some weird stuff behind my back. I didn't believe it and she told me to lock myself into the bathroom stall and to listen.
She managed to get her to talk about me and what I heard wasn't nice at all.
She called me some names and said that she didn't like me at all, she was just pretending to. Sadly I didn't drop her immediately. Was friend with her for a good year after that. She just got worse. Eventually dropped her.
#34
When they stopped being my friends after I went through a rough financial patch.
#35
After I realised that other people don't s**t on each other on every possible occasion in their circle. And that it isn't right when a "friend" uses every known insecurity as an argument against you when you do not behave the way he/she would want you to.
Mrs. Jan Glass 2 years ago
Lather, rinse, repeat. It took me too long to learn this. If they dish it out but can't take it, you aren't friends. You're their butt-monkey.
#36
When I became depressed, when I reached out, the first thing they did was tell me off for being depressed (more like full on yelling), then stopped talking to me over time.
Stephanie Did It 2 years ago
I went through an emotional breakdown after a serious illness, a divorce and losing my job due to health issues all within a year. My former co-worker and "dear friend" across the US from me kept calling to 'check on me' (I think she was more interested in the drama aspect) and when I was unable to respond for a week due to crushing trauma, she called my daughter and told her if I wasn't going to give her updates on my situation, then she wasn't going to waste her time on me. That was 10 years ago and it still hurts.
#37
when i was suicidel and no one cared enough to try help me just left me too it one even said why attempt to stop you if youre gonna do it ,Do it .
#38
when they started to smoke and drink alcohol as kids. they were obsessed trying to pretend they were gangster and s**t and then as they got older they started to rob and do drugs.
another one, i didnt see it at the time but they only wanted to be with me because i was the "rich" kid of the block. so they took advantage of that, i payed for the arcades, food or we played often at my house since i had a video game console and they didnt, but when i wanted to play at their house they would refuse every single time.
#39
One of them found me crying in the closet and just closed it and walked away. But they also often hung out without me that was just the final nail.
#40
I would like to know the other side to a few of these stories.
Final score:
71points
Lady Goldberry (Submission author) 2 years ago
Whoops, thought I was making a comment here, not adding to a list!
#41
A friend never had much money but that was OK. Gave him a lift home from a hospital appointment, about 40 miles, no problem. Came a time I needed a lift home from A & E, maybe 5 miles, he asked for petrol money. A dim little light came on.
General Anaesthesia 2 years ago
Am I missing something, is there more to the story? Friend never had much money, so asking for petrol money isn't that strange to me. Those are extra kilometers/miles for him.
#42
A couple things.
About three years ago i sold them my pc, monitor and desk for $800. They only gave me $400 and when i asked about it recently (they brought up having to sell it) i told them they still haven’t paid me for it entirely and they basically said they never will.
I only ever get invited to big parties where all of their friends (none of which i know) attend. I end up in the corner by myself every single time. They have weekly hangouts with friends and often go to shows/camping/trips with other friends that I’m never even considered being invited to.
I struggle a lot with mental health issues and every time I’ve messaged them saying I’m struggling/ want to kill myself they say s**t like “idk i feel like everyone feels like that sometimes u kinda just gotta work through it.” Then proceed to talk about themselves and how broke they are (they’re terrible with money).
We’ve been friends for nearly ten years but i feel like we’re not even friends at all anymore. I haven’t cut them off yet bc i quite literally have no one else and have zero social skills to make new friends.
Down With Agent Hedgehog! 2 years ago
Cut them off. You will definitely feel better. And you can make friends. If you’re feeling lonely you can consider getting a pet, like a dog or something. That made it better for me.
#43
When my 3 friends made fun of me for not having the money to go on a camping trip for a week.
I was just coming back from a month long unpaid vacation and needed to get back to work. I had less than $100.
We had gone on this same camping trip twice and it never cost as much as they were claiming everyone had to pay this time around. I didn’t have the $500 to go and I let them know well in advance. The day before I was due to fly home, I got a text from my friend who was planning the camping trip telling me when it was, in 2 days, and how much it was going to cost.
The things she said to me are things I would never say even to someone I hate. They never let it go either. I literally lost my 3 best friends due to a camping trip.
Edit:
This was at the height of Twlight (I know, I know) and we were going camping up in Forks. It is absolutely gorgeous up there so we enjoyed the scenery more than anything.
#44
When they told the whole class about which girl i had a crush on and then started bullying me.
#45
When we went on a trip to America and a day before coming home he mentioned that he only could afford a one way trip so could we help him pay for his return flight.
This was back in the early 2000s when flights were only around £400.
He’s the guy who’ll organise a meal knowing he can’t afford it. He only gets away with it because he’s funny.
#46
We used to be a group of 4 BFF until the day one of my friends wanted to bring along another girl to hang out with us. I didn't like her very much bc she was known to have this habit of breaking couples (if she heard that X and Y were having a hard time in their relationship,she'd go with all her kindness to try to "make things right" by flirting and hooking up with the boyfriend) and honestly she was a total two-faced snake who spent her time talking s**t behind people's back and then playing nice. I really can't stand hypocrisy but for the sake of my friendships I tried to make an effort. God I lasted like 15min with her and then left the group saying that we'd see each other at school. Next morning my friends are there with the girl and some other people from our class,I went to say hello and kiss everyone even the girl and then I spotted my friends and her exchanging glances and they started to laugh. No need to be a genius to get that after I left,they told the girl that I didn't like her and that me saying hello despite of that made me the two-faced one. Friendship ended,new group of 4 hypocrites unlocked.
Lady Goldberry 2 years ago
But this OP had obviously bitched about the 5th girl to the others...maybe some introspection is needed here.
#47
When I just asked if anyone wanted to play and he told me to kms and I was a fat loser all I said was anyone wanna play?
#48
When I realized I was her last close friend left. Shortly thereafter I started to open my eyes and understand why that was the case.
Lady Goldberry 2 years ago
Some people are very good at self-destruction, especially through a refusal or inability to learn from mistakes.
#49
Was dared to run down the hall of our hotel butt naked. They locked the door and I had to stand outside and hold my junk whilst the poor woman who worked at the front desk let me back into my room.
Funny now, I was pissed at the time.
Wondering Alice 2 years ago
To be fair, if you think it's funny to run down a hall naked, I can imagine you would have the type of friends who think it's funny to lock you out.
#50
We were in highschool. My mom is a psychologist, and has a nice office near where we went to highschool. One day i envited my friends to the office to have whisky and cigars. I told them the place had to stay as clean and neat as it was, so we don't get caught.
One of them puked in the corner, and they put the couch against the bathroom door while i was in there breaking one leg of the couch and trapping me in.
I'm not friends with these people any more.
My current friend group is really nice, and i'm really happy.
What do you think ?
hot foot mask 2 years ago (edited)
best long-distance friend for many years had me trapped in an abusive relationship where i couldn't leave because they would threaten suicide & told me i was the only person they could rely on, despite them having a boyfriend. stayed up almost 24/7 so i could always be there for them, especially when their boyfriend was at work. they got sexual, said they & their boyfriend wanted to do very graphic things to me. i was practically trained to talk dirty to them whenever they wanted, even though it made me uncomfortable, just because i was scared of what would happen if they were unhappy. eventually cut things off when they wanted me to meet them & their boyfriend in a hotel outside of my state. they wanted to lure me to unfamiliar territory to rape me or worse, & looking back im sure most, if not all, of the good parts of our friendship that made me want to stay were lies to gaslight me into thinking i would be safe with someone who "loves me." the 15th of august marks 2 years free of them. still suffering ptsd from the years of abuse & manipulation.
Himory TheDreamer 2 years ago
That's the fist time I heard of someone else going through long distance abusive friendship. It wasn't as bad as in no sexual thing happened, but he'd do the same thing trapping me with threats of suicide and emotional manipulation, I'd feel guilty having to leave the computer to use the restroom, stopped showering and doing stuff I enjoyed because I needed to be there 24/7.
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Doctor Strange 2 years ago
I posted this in a previous article, but last September I should have died. Not could have, Should have. I had a viral infection that lead to organ failure, including my pancreas. That caused my blood sugar to spike off the charts, literally. The meter readers in the hospital couldn't even give a number it was so high. (They would later tell me that the lab they sent bloodwork too had never seen anyone's blood sugar that high. Mostly because everyone died before it could get to that point). That in turn lead to severe dehydration. You know how they say the longer you wait in the ER the more likely you are to be ok, because you can afford to wait? I didn't even wait a minute. Straight in and to a room. They told me I was in the worst condition of anyone they saw that day, and another hour and I definitely would have died. Nor were they sure that I was going to make it. I spent about a week in the ICU. And not a single one of my friends visited me.
Katie Lutesinger 2 years ago
Guess it was the wrong time to make a Doctor Strange reference. I'm sorry.
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NY Redneck 2 years ago
Put this on Reddit but think I was too late to make the cut. Leaving a bar one night, friend was driving. Look at a parked car as we're pulling out and see a girl being assaulted in the front seat, waving her arm and yelling for help. I tell him to stop and he says "Not my business", just like that. I was just stunned at the coldness as he said it. I did a tuck and roll out of his car at about 15mph (luckily we had just pulled out and there was a red light about 30ft ahead, but wasn't sure how much longer it would stay red) and ended up with some mean road rash and a fractured rib, but I dragged the piece of c**p out of the car and off of that girl just in time to stop him from raping her. My "friend" no where to be seen, a$$hole kept driving and haven't spoken to him sense. Girl was shaken but ok considering what could have happened and I ended up calling a cab home.
ThatBiBookLover 2 years ago
OH MY GOD THANK YOU THANK YOU THANK YOU that broken rib saved a broken human :( f**k that a*****e friend
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Eline 2 years ago
2015 was a tough year for me. My grandpa died, and he was someone really important to me. For months, i cried, and still miss him nowadays. So, i spoke about it with a friend. Let's call him "Zac". He listened. Then, he looked at me, and seriously, said "okay. Very hard indeed. Well, how are you gonna pay me for my kindness?". It was not a joke. He asked me to pay him something like 100 € (i'm french). Or to have sex with him. I refused. And then, he sent me messages everydays, asking the same thing, and sometimes, calling me a bi**h. I was scared of meeting him every morning, as he took often the same bus as me. I had panick attack when i saw someone who looked like him. For 2 years and a half, he insulted me, asked me to sleep with him, and gave me "compliments" about my body. I was terrified and felt like a bi**h. I hated myself. Sorry for my little level in english. Take care, everyone !
ThatBiBookLover 2 years ago
Your English is fine :) so sorry that had to happen to you!
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Rob Chapman 2 years ago
I caught my best friend of 30 years watching child porn. We are no longer fiends. last I heard he was in a convalescent home.
Falcon on Dizzy 2 years ago
one of my old friends legit sexually assaulted my best friend AT SCHOOL and tried to blow it off. my best friend got something that doesn't let the two talk to or about each other, I forget the name. Old friend then constantly breaks the agreement for the rest of the year. has to be the worst person I've ever known
Donkey Pandaaaaaaaa 2 years ago
I had a friend in primary school. She was HORRIBLE. So, when we started out being friends she was nice and we were almost inseparable. Then, she started looking annoyed when I tried to talk to her, then when I went away she looked happy with her other friends. Then, whenever I hung out with by other friends she wouldn’t talk to me for like 3 weeks straight. It’s about two months to the end of the year now. I had kind of given up with the toxic friend, so I started looking for some new friends. I started hanging out with one of her friends, and she didn’t like that. She started spreading rumours about me and getting everyone in the class on her side. Once, when I was really stressed, I started to cry because I was stressed and all of my friends were on her side and no-one was listening to me, she made HERSELF cry so she would get all of the attention. I still haven’t forgiven her for making a quarter of the school year HELL. Thanks a lot, Phoebe.
IFailedSuccessfully(He/they) 2 years ago
All these name reveals are badass. High five ✋
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asexualotl (she/her) 2 years ago
when she completely stopped talking to me (ditching me without a single word) and started being friends with people who had bullied me a year before. i considered trying to make friends with her again but then i decided against it.
SydneyP 2 years ago
I've posted this once before but it still blows my mind. Last February my dad was very sick. I texted my "bestie" to let her know. I never heard back from her. He passed away March 6th of last year. I still haven't heard from her. Nothing took place to end our friendship. There was no disagreements or anything of the sort. She just obviously didn't value our friendship like I did. To make myself feel better I did text her one last time to explain how I felt then wished her the very best. I have no hard feelings but I really have no feelings at all concerning her. The way I see it if someone doesn't value me as a friend then why should I concern myself? There's wonderful people out there. We just have to weed out the bad ones.
Mabelbabel 2 years ago
I had a group of friends from university and we'd all been close, being room mates, going on vacation etc. I had to move away with work for a few years, but I made real efforts to keep in touch and organise nights out every so often. Gradually, people started getting married-one wedding was at a large hotel so I booked a room to stay over, and tried to contact the others to see what they were doing. They were very reluctant to say, and it turned out that 6 of them (3 couples) had booked a holiday cottage nearby for a week and were going to make a holiday of it. I wasn't invited because they thought it would awkward with me being single (despite knowing all of them for 10 years). A few months later, I moved back to the region, and threw a housewarming party. I spent ages arranging and finding a date that suited most people. On the evening, only 2 of my old friends and my new work colleagues turned up. 20 years later, I'm still close friends with the two who came.
vogonpoet 2 years ago
Over many years I've found myself in situation where I've been used and s**t on by people. I'm happiest now having no real life friends. It's too draining. But if ever an acquaintance or even a stranger needs help, I offer, simply because I know what it's like to be left alone without help. And I don't expect anything in return. Just happy to help out a fellow human.
BonnyDK 2 years ago
I had a group of friends in HS that I hung out with everyday. They kept asking me what stores I liked to go to. I was big into art so I said I liked to buy stuff from an art store. They wanted to go and I took them over there. I was friendly with the manager and talked to him about the latest projects I was doing. They used me distracting him to rob a bunch of merchandise. When we got back to one of their houses they emptied their bags and pockets onto a bed to compare all the loot they stole. I was horrified. I never went to that store again. So embarrassing. These girls were all on the A basketball team that went to state, all from nice middle class families. My parents divorced not long after that and we moved away. I never saw them again even though I was probably 20 minutes from them. Just in another school district. Good riddance.
Mark Kelly 2 years ago
I know there are two sides to each story and if these are real some of them seem pretty straightforward.
T'Mar of Vulcan 2 years ago
I thought I was good friends with 2 women from work. One, Betty, had been giving me lifts to work as I don't drive due to eyesight problems. The other (Charlene) would give me lifts home. One week, Betty's car was in the shop & she asked Charlene if she'd give us both a lift in the mornings. Charlene had to be at work 15 min earlier than Betty & me as she had to open up the office, etc. After a week I wasn't sure whether Betty would have her car back on Monday, so I waited outside 15 minu earlier just in case. When Charlene didn't come I went back in the house & came back out 15 min later... Only to wait & wait. Turns out Charlene actually came 10 min earlier as Betty's car was still in the shop. But when I didn't come out, they just drove off. They had cellphones (though this was just when they had come into general use so no WhatsApp), I had one, Betty & Charlene both had my cell number AND landline number. And they didn't even TRY to get hold of me! I had to call my SIL to drive me.
deanna woods 2 years ago
My sister dropped her best friend after they graduated high school. It turns out that the friend was causing my sister and her fiance to hate each. She told my sister that the fiance was abusive and my sister became protective and she told the fiance that my sister was a lesbian and obsessed with her.
deanna woods 2 years ago
I was thrown a graduation party by my aunt and only two of the eight people I invited showed up.
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Kayli Wade 3 months ago
7th grade I had a "best friend" who tormented me, and I didn't realize until years after I cut her off that she was NEVER my friend. Was the first to fall asleep at her sleepover and they poured warm paraffin wax all over my face and hair and drew on me with yellow highlighter that I didn't even notice until my mom picked me up and took me under the fluorescent lights of Walmart. She snitched on me when I tried to play a prank on a teacher (which I am grateful for bc I would have been on the hook for damages but she acted like she had no idea how the teacher found out). Last straw was when she convinced me the guy I was in love with had feelings for me too, similar to a story above. Kept encouraging me to keep trying while knowing for a fact from his own lips that he didn't feel that way about me because she told him how I felt. That one was the last straw and I never spoke to her again when I found out. F**k you Brianna.
SuePrew 2 years ago
I have one. I had a friend that I met in a sit-n-knit group. I thought we were real close. Just the 2 of us would meet every Monday for breakfast. For over 3 years I listened to her complain and cry about her husband, until she FINALLY asked for a divorce. Not long after, I was having an issue in my marriage. When I ask her for guidance, she said "You think too much" and didn't want to talk any more. And suddenly, no more breakfasts either.
Via Hawk 2 years ago
When the boy she liked opened up to me about s3lf h@rm!ng and dark thoughts, I helped him with that because he trusted me more than a Therapist he barely knows. She then gets all upset and plays victim saying I did it just to make her jealous, told me kys posted all my “red flags” on her Snapchat, she convinced my classmates I was a Phycopath. When I confronted her about it she says “if you are so insecure that you need to blame someone else, that’s when it’s time to get therapy sista” she also stalked me and sent my personal information to her friends without my consent. She and her friends then report ME to counseling. And she’s recorded me eating for some reason (I have an eating disorder). She physically harmed me in the hallways… all because of A. F*****G. BOY. SHE LIKED.
Via Hawk 2 years ago
She also nicknamed me “worthless nothing” and did some serious stalking
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TheartfulDutchGinger 2 years ago
I had a friend who suffered from ptsd and anxiety. He called me daily and I helped him out a lot. Because ,well that's what friends do. He called me his best friend, his support,etc. Until he got a girlfriend who introduced him to people with lots of money. He suddenly hung around parties with rich new friends. I was fine with that. But then one birthday he called me and said he couldn't come. He had a bad hernia and couldn't move. So I'm all concerned and went to his house to see if I could help. He wasn't home. A few days later I saw pictures on someone's Facebook of him at a party. He was dancing and having fun. I confronted him, I asked him why he felt he had to lie. He said " oh you're just jealous of my life now. ".. I haven't seen or spoken to him since that day.
maniacallysane 2 years ago
Why does it say 59 posts on the main feed but then there is only 20? Why not say 20?
Jordi Sharpe 2 years ago
I was friends with this kid in high school. His GF (of two months) dumped him because he stole a bracelet to give her as a gift. He starts turning all her friends against her (tried with me, but I was in love with her) and making her absolutely miserable. He later told me that he was trying to drive her to suicide. I talked sense into her friends, and that shithead eventually got expelled. I never had the courage to ask her out, which would have been a bit weird anyways, and we drifted.
RatherLoopy 2 years ago
When I was a teenager, my best friend and I began dating a pair of best friends. I eventually broke up with the girl I was dating and it came about one day that I was in the house alone with my friend's girl while my friend ran an errand. Before he arrived back home, his girlfriend locked herself in his room and began wailing loudly, ignoring my attempts to ask what was wrong. When my friend got home he went to his bedroom for a few minutes and talked to her, after which he came storming out, threatening me, and told me to get out and not to come back. I imagine his girl told him that I'd done something terrible to her while he was gone, and I was absolutely crushed. He and I had been inseperable friends for years but he turned on me in a heartbeat after his skanky girlfriend told him some random lie to break up our friendship.
IFailedSuccessfully(He/they) 2 years ago
Once had someone who I thought I could trust with my secrets. Turns out it was a large group of people who knew my secrets. I thought I could trust you. I should have known to break it off when you started calling me names. But you made up the shitty exuse of "not being able to handle life without me" yeah, well I can sure f*****g handle life without you. We were in kindergarten. You exposed me to so much embarrassment and harassment at such a young age. If you had gone through what I had gone through you would understand. Now you dont even look me in the f*****g eye or acknowledge my existence. You've shoved me in the halls more times than I can count. Were all those recesses of up just sitting and sharing stories nothing to you? All the photos I have of you and I are sitting in a drawer, never to see the light of day again. F**k you, Sara.
Angeline Shalyn 2 years ago
When me and my husband got back together after being self and almost divorced for 5 months , my two best friends (who had never met before) didn't agree with my decision to reconcile with him so they both decided to ghost me and become friends with eachother
Himory TheDreamer 2 years ago
I always had bad friends. I'm autistic and have always been afraid of approaching people, afraid of saying something wrong that will make them yell at me, the only friends I had were people who did take the first step but... I was the classroom "genius" and "rich kid" at the same time, people very often only saw me as a friend when they wanted something. Had a friend I'd go to her house to teach her math and then in school she'd ignore because she was ashamed of me. Had a very religious friend (ya know the sort that judges people and say gods want them to die) which always brushed off anything I said no matter what it was and I was glad when she left town. Had and abusive long distance friend which threatened suicide to make me stay forever talking to him and didn't let me do anything else, also often made prejudicial comments about me and gaslighted me when I ponted it out. Not to mention the many classmates that became my bff in test days.
Himory TheDreamer 2 years ago (edited)
There was the one who laughed when I came out to him, the one who was my friend because I had a computer... After tha last one (the abusive long distance) I started actively pushing people away. Even the best of friends I had, still wouldn't bother inviting me anywhere outside school. Until I met the person who I'm currently dating. He was my first real taste of a friendship that I thought only existed in movies and slowly became more than that.
Load More Replies... censorshipsucks 2 years ago
The way I deal with this is I learnt to stop investing feelings in friends. As soon as you notice that the deal is one-way (money to them, or they summon you to them), drop them. Just ghost. Reply to messages but don't initiate. It's not worth investing time, effort - or more - feelings, in people who don't reciprocate. Just do what you need to do, go if people ask you to go to something, but don't bother initiating or expecting anything. Oh and when people ask to "borrow" money just say "heck I'd love to help you out but my car really was a wreck this month and it cost thousands to fix so I am in a tight spot, actually I was going to ask you if you have any cash". Also works as an excuse to not go with friends who like expensive bars/restaurants.
hot foot mask 2 years ago (edited)
best long-distance friend for many years had me trapped in an abusive relationship where i couldn't leave because they would threaten suicide & told me i was the only person they could rely on, despite them having a boyfriend. stayed up almost 24/7 so i could always be there for them, especially when their boyfriend was at work. they got sexual, said they & their boyfriend wanted to do very graphic things to me. i was practically trained to talk dirty to them whenever they wanted, even though it made me uncomfortable, just because i was scared of what would happen if they were unhappy. eventually cut things off when they wanted me to meet them & their boyfriend in a hotel outside of my state. they wanted to lure me to unfamiliar territory to rape me or worse, & looking back im sure most, if not all, of the good parts of our friendship that made me want to stay were lies to gaslight me into thinking i would be safe with someone who "loves me." the 15th of august marks 2 years free of them. still suffering ptsd from the years of abuse & manipulation.
Himory TheDreamer 2 years ago
That's the fist time I heard of someone else going through long distance abusive friendship. It wasn't as bad as in no sexual thing happened, but he'd do the same thing trapping me with threats of suicide and emotional manipulation, I'd feel guilty having to leave the computer to use the restroom, stopped showering and doing stuff I enjoyed because I needed to be there 24/7.
Load More Replies... Doctor Strange 2 years ago
I posted this in a previous article, but last September I should have died. Not could have, Should have. I had a viral infection that lead to organ failure, including my pancreas. That caused my blood sugar to spike off the charts, literally. The meter readers in the hospital couldn't even give a number it was so high. (They would later tell me that the lab they sent bloodwork too had never seen anyone's blood sugar that high. Mostly because everyone died before it could get to that point). That in turn lead to severe dehydration. You know how they say the longer you wait in the ER the more likely you are to be ok, because you can afford to wait? I didn't even wait a minute. Straight in and to a room. They told me I was in the worst condition of anyone they saw that day, and another hour and I definitely would have died. Nor were they sure that I was going to make it. I spent about a week in the ICU. And not a single one of my friends visited me.
Katie Lutesinger 2 years ago
Guess it was the wrong time to make a Doctor Strange reference. I'm sorry.
Load More Replies... NY Redneck 2 years ago
Put this on Reddit but think I was too late to make the cut. Leaving a bar one night, friend was driving. Look at a parked car as we're pulling out and see a girl being assaulted in the front seat, waving her arm and yelling for help. I tell him to stop and he says "Not my business", just like that. I was just stunned at the coldness as he said it. I did a tuck and roll out of his car at about 15mph (luckily we had just pulled out and there was a red light about 30ft ahead, but wasn't sure how much longer it would stay red) and ended up with some mean road rash and a fractured rib, but I dragged the piece of c**p out of the car and off of that girl just in time to stop him from raping her. My "friend" no where to be seen, a$$hole kept driving and haven't spoken to him sense. Girl was shaken but ok considering what could have happened and I ended up calling a cab home.
ThatBiBookLover 2 years ago
OH MY GOD THANK YOU THANK YOU THANK YOU that broken rib saved a broken human :( f**k that a*****e friend
Load More Replies... Eline 2 years ago
2015 was a tough year for me. My grandpa died, and he was someone really important to me. For months, i cried, and still miss him nowadays. So, i spoke about it with a friend. Let's call him "Zac". He listened. Then, he looked at me, and seriously, said "okay. Very hard indeed. Well, how are you gonna pay me for my kindness?". It was not a joke. He asked me to pay him something like 100 € (i'm french). Or to have sex with him. I refused. And then, he sent me messages everydays, asking the same thing, and sometimes, calling me a bi**h. I was scared of meeting him every morning, as he took often the same bus as me. I had panick attack when i saw someone who looked like him. For 2 years and a half, he insulted me, asked me to sleep with him, and gave me "compliments" about my body. I was terrified and felt like a bi**h. I hated myself. Sorry for my little level in english. Take care, everyone !
ThatBiBookLover 2 years ago
Your English is fine :) so sorry that had to happen to you!
Load More Replies... Rob Chapman 2 years ago
I caught my best friend of 30 years watching child porn. We are no longer fiends. last I heard he was in a convalescent home.
Falcon on Dizzy 2 years ago
one of my old friends legit sexually assaulted my best friend AT SCHOOL and tried to blow it off. my best friend got something that doesn't let the two talk to or about each other, I forget the name. Old friend then constantly breaks the agreement for the rest of the year. has to be the worst person I've ever known
Donkey Pandaaaaaaaa 2 years ago
I had a friend in primary school. She was HORRIBLE. So, when we started out being friends she was nice and we were almost inseparable. Then, she started looking annoyed when I tried to talk to her, then when I went away she looked happy with her other friends. Then, whenever I hung out with by other friends she wouldn’t talk to me for like 3 weeks straight. It’s about two months to the end of the year now. I had kind of given up with the toxic friend, so I started looking for some new friends. I started hanging out with one of her friends, and she didn’t like that. She started spreading rumours about me and getting everyone in the class on her side. Once, when I was really stressed, I started to cry because I was stressed and all of my friends were on her side and no-one was listening to me, she made HERSELF cry so she would get all of the attention. I still haven’t forgiven her for making a quarter of the school year HELL. Thanks a lot, Phoebe.
IFailedSuccessfully(He/they) 2 years ago
All these name reveals are badass. High five ✋
Load More Replies... asexualotl (she/her) 2 years ago
when she completely stopped talking to me (ditching me without a single word) and started being friends with people who had bullied me a year before. i considered trying to make friends with her again but then i decided against it.
SydneyP 2 years ago
I've posted this once before but it still blows my mind. Last February my dad was very sick. I texted my "bestie" to let her know. I never heard back from her. He passed away March 6th of last year. I still haven't heard from her. Nothing took place to end our friendship. There was no disagreements or anything of the sort. She just obviously didn't value our friendship like I did. To make myself feel better I did text her one last time to explain how I felt then wished her the very best. I have no hard feelings but I really have no feelings at all concerning her. The way I see it if someone doesn't value me as a friend then why should I concern myself? There's wonderful people out there. We just have to weed out the bad ones.
Mabelbabel 2 years ago
I had a group of friends from university and we'd all been close, being room mates, going on vacation etc. I had to move away with work for a few years, but I made real efforts to keep in touch and organise nights out every so often. Gradually, people started getting married-one wedding was at a large hotel so I booked a room to stay over, and tried to contact the others to see what they were doing. They were very reluctant to say, and it turned out that 6 of them (3 couples) had booked a holiday cottage nearby for a week and were going to make a holiday of it. I wasn't invited because they thought it would awkward with me being single (despite knowing all of them for 10 years). A few months later, I moved back to the region, and threw a housewarming party. I spent ages arranging and finding a date that suited most people. On the evening, only 2 of my old friends and my new work colleagues turned up. 20 years later, I'm still close friends with the two who came.
vogonpoet 2 years ago
Over many years I've found myself in situation where I've been used and s**t on by people. I'm happiest now having no real life friends. It's too draining. But if ever an acquaintance or even a stranger needs help, I offer, simply because I know what it's like to be left alone without help. And I don't expect anything in return. Just happy to help out a fellow human.
BonnyDK 2 years ago
I had a group of friends in HS that I hung out with everyday. They kept asking me what stores I liked to go to. I was big into art so I said I liked to buy stuff from an art store. They wanted to go and I took them over there. I was friendly with the manager and talked to him about the latest projects I was doing. They used me distracting him to rob a bunch of merchandise. When we got back to one of their houses they emptied their bags and pockets onto a bed to compare all the loot they stole. I was horrified. I never went to that store again. So embarrassing. These girls were all on the A basketball team that went to state, all from nice middle class families. My parents divorced not long after that and we moved away. I never saw them again even though I was probably 20 minutes from them. Just in another school district. Good riddance.
Mark Kelly 2 years ago
I know there are two sides to each story and if these are real some of them seem pretty straightforward.
T'Mar of Vulcan 2 years ago
I thought I was good friends with 2 women from work. One, Betty, had been giving me lifts to work as I don't drive due to eyesight problems. The other (Charlene) would give me lifts home. One week, Betty's car was in the shop & she asked Charlene if she'd give us both a lift in the mornings. Charlene had to be at work 15 min earlier than Betty & me as she had to open up the office, etc. After a week I wasn't sure whether Betty would have her car back on Monday, so I waited outside 15 minu earlier just in case. When Charlene didn't come I went back in the house & came back out 15 min later... Only to wait & wait. Turns out Charlene actually came 10 min earlier as Betty's car was still in the shop. But when I didn't come out, they just drove off. They had cellphones (though this was just when they had come into general use so no WhatsApp), I had one, Betty & Charlene both had my cell number AND landline number. And they didn't even TRY to get hold of me! I had to call my SIL to drive me.
deanna woods 2 years ago
My sister dropped her best friend after they graduated high school. It turns out that the friend was causing my sister and her fiance to hate each. She told my sister that the fiance was abusive and my sister became protective and she told the fiance that my sister was a lesbian and obsessed with her.
deanna woods 2 years ago
I was thrown a graduation party by my aunt and only two of the eight people I invited showed up.
Load More Replies... Kayli Wade 3 months ago
7th grade I had a "best friend" who tormented me, and I didn't realize until years after I cut her off that she was NEVER my friend. Was the first to fall asleep at her sleepover and they poured warm paraffin wax all over my face and hair and drew on me with yellow highlighter that I didn't even notice until my mom picked me up and took me under the fluorescent lights of Walmart. She snitched on me when I tried to play a prank on a teacher (which I am grateful for bc I would have been on the hook for damages but she acted like she had no idea how the teacher found out). Last straw was when she convinced me the guy I was in love with had feelings for me too, similar to a story above. Kept encouraging me to keep trying while knowing for a fact from his own lips that he didn't feel that way about me because she told him how I felt. That one was the last straw and I never spoke to her again when I found out. F**k you Brianna.
SuePrew 2 years ago
I have one. I had a friend that I met in a sit-n-knit group. I thought we were real close. Just the 2 of us would meet every Monday for breakfast. For over 3 years I listened to her complain and cry about her husband, until she FINALLY asked for a divorce. Not long after, I was having an issue in my marriage. When I ask her for guidance, she said "You think too much" and didn't want to talk any more. And suddenly, no more breakfasts either.
Via Hawk 2 years ago
When the boy she liked opened up to me about s3lf h@rm!ng and dark thoughts, I helped him with that because he trusted me more than a Therapist he barely knows. She then gets all upset and plays victim saying I did it just to make her jealous, told me kys posted all my “red flags” on her Snapchat, she convinced my classmates I was a Phycopath. When I confronted her about it she says “if you are so insecure that you need to blame someone else, that’s when it’s time to get therapy sista” she also stalked me and sent my personal information to her friends without my consent. She and her friends then report ME to counseling. And she’s recorded me eating for some reason (I have an eating disorder). She physically harmed me in the hallways… all because of A. F*****G. BOY. SHE LIKED.
Via Hawk 2 years ago
She also nicknamed me “worthless nothing” and did some serious stalking
Load More Replies... TheartfulDutchGinger 2 years ago
I had a friend who suffered from ptsd and anxiety. He called me daily and I helped him out a lot. Because ,well that's what friends do. He called me his best friend, his support,etc. Until he got a girlfriend who introduced him to people with lots of money. He suddenly hung around parties with rich new friends. I was fine with that. But then one birthday he called me and said he couldn't come. He had a bad hernia and couldn't move. So I'm all concerned and went to his house to see if I could help. He wasn't home. A few days later I saw pictures on someone's Facebook of him at a party. He was dancing and having fun. I confronted him, I asked him why he felt he had to lie. He said " oh you're just jealous of my life now. ".. I haven't seen or spoken to him since that day.
maniacallysane 2 years ago
Why does it say 59 posts on the main feed but then there is only 20? Why not say 20?
Jordi Sharpe 2 years ago
I was friends with this kid in high school. His GF (of two months) dumped him because he stole a bracelet to give her as a gift. He starts turning all her friends against her (tried with me, but I was in love with her) and making her absolutely miserable. He later told me that he was trying to drive her to suicide. I talked sense into her friends, and that shithead eventually got expelled. I never had the courage to ask her out, which would have been a bit weird anyways, and we drifted.
RatherLoopy 2 years ago
When I was a teenager, my best friend and I began dating a pair of best friends. I eventually broke up with the girl I was dating and it came about one day that I was in the house alone with my friend's girl while my friend ran an errand. Before he arrived back home, his girlfriend locked herself in his room and began wailing loudly, ignoring my attempts to ask what was wrong. When my friend got home he went to his bedroom for a few minutes and talked to her, after which he came storming out, threatening me, and told me to get out and not to come back. I imagine his girl told him that I'd done something terrible to her while he was gone, and I was absolutely crushed. He and I had been inseperable friends for years but he turned on me in a heartbeat after his skanky girlfriend told him some random lie to break up our friendship.
IFailedSuccessfully(He/they) 2 years ago
Once had someone who I thought I could trust with my secrets. Turns out it was a large group of people who knew my secrets. I thought I could trust you. I should have known to break it off when you started calling me names. But you made up the shitty exuse of "not being able to handle life without me" yeah, well I can sure f*****g handle life without you. We were in kindergarten. You exposed me to so much embarrassment and harassment at such a young age. If you had gone through what I had gone through you would understand. Now you dont even look me in the f*****g eye or acknowledge my existence. You've shoved me in the halls more times than I can count. Were all those recesses of up just sitting and sharing stories nothing to you? All the photos I have of you and I are sitting in a drawer, never to see the light of day again. F**k you, Sara.
Angeline Shalyn 2 years ago
When me and my husband got back together after being self and almost divorced for 5 months , my two best friends (who had never met before) didn't agree with my decision to reconcile with him so they both decided to ghost me and become friends with eachother
Himory TheDreamer 2 years ago
I always had bad friends. I'm autistic and have always been afraid of approaching people, afraid of saying something wrong that will make them yell at me, the only friends I had were people who did take the first step but... I was the classroom "genius" and "rich kid" at the same time, people very often only saw me as a friend when they wanted something. Had a friend I'd go to her house to teach her math and then in school she'd ignore because she was ashamed of me. Had a very religious friend (ya know the sort that judges people and say gods want them to die) which always brushed off anything I said no matter what it was and I was glad when she left town. Had and abusive long distance friend which threatened suicide to make me stay forever talking to him and didn't let me do anything else, also often made prejudicial comments about me and gaslighted me when I ponted it out. Not to mention the many classmates that became my bff in test days.
Himory TheDreamer 2 years ago (edited)
There was the one who laughed when I came out to him, the one who was my friend because I had a computer... After tha last one (the abusive long distance) I started actively pushing people away. Even the best of friends I had, still wouldn't bother inviting me anywhere outside school. Until I met the person who I'm currently dating. He was my first real taste of a friendship that I thought only existed in movies and slowly became more than that.
Load More Replies... censorshipsucks 2 years ago
The way I deal with this is I learnt to stop investing feelings in friends. As soon as you notice that the deal is one-way (money to them, or they summon you to them), drop them. Just ghost. Reply to messages but don't initiate. It's not worth investing time, effort - or more - feelings, in people who don't reciprocate. Just do what you need to do, go if people ask you to go to something, but don't bother initiating or expecting anything. Oh and when people ask to "borrow" money just say "heck I'd love to help you out but my car really was a wreck this month and it cost thousands to fix so I am in a tight spot, actually I was going to ask you if you have any cash". Also works as an excuse to not go with friends who like expensive bars/restaurants.
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