Oh wow, thanks for saying that. My husband and I do not like kids. Not having kids was by choice for us.

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Citing common knowledge is no psychoanalysis. I did a general reply, yet you make it personal and get very defensive over it. Whatever works for you but the way you reply says a lot.

@Ron Baza, I don't get what you try to hint at, being a sex offender is a crime, being childless is a right. Do you want to put childless people one one level with criminals? Then there is a difference between being asked once or twice and being asked constantly, if your friends or family constantly nag you about it and don't stop despit you told them to stop, that's not ok. If random people you just met ask you why you have no kids - absolutely ok. I get the impression you assume a lot and then project your assumptions on people that you disagree with without knowing what they actually stand for.

@John Smith, there is a very simple answer: are you willing to not pay into social security and sign that you receive no healthcare, no pension, will not hire any support at all in your old age? You will not take a caregiver away from people who had children. You 100% have to rely on yourself and expect zero from society? If you are willing to take this risk you have earned the right to state this opinion, if you don't, if you have the slightest expectations to get help from younger people at an old age the word for what you just did is hypocrite.

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Yeah, that's the automated excuse for it. Anybody who says this sentence is masking their real reason. The world never was a better or worse place than it is now and with what right do you decide for others? If you think the world is so bad it's not worth living in why didn't you end your life? Would you kill a baby to prevent it from going trough the misery? No? Then that's contradicting your sentence. Just admit to the real reason why you don't want children and if that reason is valid for yourself all is good, go for whatever you want for yourself. I know quite some people who started with the sentence and then went "but actually..." which I have high respect for. But if you have to use an excuse you maybe try to justify a decision of which you are not entirely convinced, that was pushed upon you and maybe you secretly long for something else. You will not know until you stop using excuses.

“Anyone who doesn’t want to have kids should kill themselves” is definitely a… statement.

@Ron Baza, Why would you even think such a thing? You are very radical to write such a statement completely out of the blue, I think you completely missunderstood the point: we shouldn't hate people without kids, but people without kids should expect to be questioned by society and question their reasoning - if their reasoning is valid for themselves no problem. There is no need to hate on childless people, please overthink your opinion about these people.

No, I don't think I should be questioned about not having kids. It's really nobody's fking business. I pay my taxes and do what I can for society, so whether I want kids OR NOT, is my business!

@Tree P What are you waiting for then? Leave. Nobody is holding you back, go join a society that doesn't question you in that point. Your rights are the others responsibility and that gives them the right to question your actions - note question not deny. If you don't like that as said: leave go to a society that has less personal freedoms where more things are set by the governing body and you will be questioned less. But you will also be forced to do more things in a certain way. So it's your choice, just stop complaining if you don't actually want to leave.

It’s quite simple. I’m going to quote your own words back to you. You’re going to read them. You’re going to realise that they’re pretty horrific. And then this conversation will end. “ If you think the world is so bad it's not worth living in why didn't you end your life?”

@Ron Baza, what is horrific about holding people accountable to their own words? Well of course I know for quite some people that is horrible because they hate accountability but I see it as a generally important thing to do. So let's look at what I said: - if you think life is so horrible that no human should be born to live it - why are you living it? If you decide to not end it that means you think being alive is better than the alternative and that counters the argument that life is so bad that no human should life it. Because that I don't want to bring a baby into this world translates to, you think the baby would be better of dead than alive. And the next thing I said is if you don't agree with my statement your argument is an excuse for the real reason and you should find that reason. And then, if that reason is valid good for you, if it's not, maybe you want to rethink and either change your decision or validate it differently.