Momma is being a big old drama queen about the baby's name! For heaven's sake don't change the baby's name because of the dramatics, I mean she's having a fine old time and you might was well let her have her fun, but you do NOT want to ever give in to these tactics. If you do, it'll be the same over every tiny little thing, down to the brand of toilet paper you buy.

Not just advocate for yourselves as parents but mostly for your son. There will be million things you have to defend or simply state and stand your ground. Momma has some issues and needs to be put in her place. Never force relatives' names on somebody's child. All the best to Arthur Morgan. May he have a happy and healthy life.

Why didn’t the grandma name her own kids after the dead uncle if it was so important?

I don't think this has anything to do with Grandma wanting to honor her dead brother. Some mothers have a really hard time accepting the fact that they no longer have the power to control their adult children's decisions. I went through this with my own mother. Even into my 30s and 40s, she would demand that I do a certain thing, and she'd use various threats (refusal to visit, cutting me out of her will, etc.) to get her way. When the threats didn't work, there would be major drama, tears, angry letters, and accusations. Sometimes family members sided with her, because her demands were over something relatively petty, and they felt I should just give in to keep the peace. But I'm still glad I refused to cave to those tactics. Although it took a long time, she eventually learned she had to respect those boundaries. If I hadn't kept them, I'd still be letting her run my life in my middle age.

Just get a puppy and name it after the uncle, then there is no way you can name the kid after the uncle otherwise both will come running when you yell the Robert John and that will just be a mess ;)

My parents tried to pull the same s*** on me. I was going to name my son Steven Richard after an uncle who passed away when he was 7 and my brother who passed away when he was 4. My parents insisted I name my son after my brother and only my brother. His name was Richard Joseph Junior. To piss them off entirely I named my son Kevin Andrew and if they didn't like it oh well.

Geese really disowned? Shame on you grandma.

If Mom had no other children after her brother’s death, she may still be mourning the chance to honor her sibling’s memory by giving his name to one of her own children. Unfortunately, grandma-to-be, that’s the breaks, and you are way, way overstepping your bounds now. Leave your son and daughter-in-law alone and think of your new grandson as the one who first made your brother (yes, even posthumously) a great-uncle.

When my sister was pregnant with her second child she was adamant that she was going to call it Dualta (pronounced Doolta it's Irish meaning the dark one) if it was a boy after a character in one of her favourite books. NOBODY liked that name. But good for her she stuck to her guns and now 25 years later Dualta is a gorgeous young man and we couldn't imagine him being called any thing else. Arthur Morgan is a great name. I am not familiar with the character as I am not a gamer but stick to your choice. After all he is your child.

I bet as soon as the grandmother sees her grandson for the first time she'll forget this argument ever happened.

I have no idea why anyone would think they have any right to advice on what a parent names a child. Seems like the Grandmother is picking a video game character over her own flesh and blood. That is her choice. If that is the hill she wants to die on, then let her. I don't agree that family is the most important thing. If you have family that is like that, then I feel it is best your children don't associate with them. I have a very racist mother and the last thing I ever told her 5 years ago was that my children will never know her name. I meant it. Why would I want a woman in my life who feels being a bigot is more important than having a relationship with me or my child? The choice is on them. Sure being a racist is a bit more of an issue then throwing a tantrum over a name but still. She will get over it, sounds like she is just behaving like a child to get her way, she is pouting and will let it go if you ignore her. Treat her like you would a toddler, good practice.

Some grandparents, for some reason, believe their grandchildren are theirs as well. My mother in law used to introduce my boys as her kids, until my wife had a long talk with her.

That name is 1 thou % better than hedgehog, stand ur ground.

I don't think it's the name that is the problem, more that she is fixated on the fact that it's a character from a video game. If they had told her that we've decided on that name and she hadn't known about the video game it would probable ok. The child will not be able to replace her loss of a brother, it would be nicer if she would find other ways to remember her brother. Imagine fining out in your teens that you got your name because grandma was bitching about not wanting to see you if you didn't have that name, way to destroy a relationship.

Nta. This grandma should care about her own beeswax and not her son’s . She should get some therapy and a cat 🐈and that’ll probably calm her down by naming her cat Robert .

Tell her to piss off.

As far video-game related names go, Arthur Morgan is a good one. As the post above said, it's not like the parents named their kid Sonic the Hedgehog or Donkey Kong. I think Grandma never got over losing her brother, and thinks that giving her grandchild his name will somehow bring him back.

In my culture we have this weird ish belief to not name kids in honor of someone who had a tragic event in their life so that not to bring that sort of fate onto the kid. So this 'my brother died, name your kid after him' is creeping me out

Try naming your child Ezio like I did. That is all.

My mom didn't like Nolan, the name we picked for our youngest. She wanted a Biblical name, so we told her we were naming him Legion, after the verse in the Bible where Jesus asks the demon possessed man what his name was. She was ok with Nolan after that.

My brother's name was Arthur.

You're Moma is tripping hard , your kids your rules

Why didn't she name one of her 2 sons after her brother if she cares so much?!

I think that is perfectly fine. After all, my friend is named after a Final Fantasy IV character, his name is less common than the one these parents want to name their son and his name is still pretty normal. I personally wouldn't name my kid after a video game character but it's those parents choice and it's not like it's a weird name. NTA, mom needs to let you be parents and stay out of it

There are two endings here. She either forgives you and has a relationship with her grandson, or she does what she says she's going to do and she loses everything and everyone. In that case, she is the real loser here. How trivial and petty can one person get?

Our friends named their kid Raiden from Mortal Combat. Based on the Japanese deity Raijin, he is depicted as the god of thunder who possesses control over lightning. Sounds reasonable to me

Parents can name their kids whatever they want. It's their right as parents. Just try to understand that when it comes to the death of a loved one, people can be very unreasonable. I've seen families torn apart at funerals. I've known close family members who had an argument at a funeral and never spoke to each other again (kids walking out on parents, even). Something about grief sometimes makes people a bit crazier than usual.

What about the couple that wanted to name their kid Hashtag?

A Turkish couple my wife knows had this but unfortunately they relented. IIRC they wanted to call their son Ares but both families kicked off about it as it wasn't a Turkish or Muslim name. They changed it to something else but I know they regretted it. My son's first name we chose about 2 weeks before he was born, his first middle name is the name of my wife's late younger brother and his second middle name is the name of my paternal grandfather.

They should have started by telling the Grandma they were naming him "Donkey Kong". Then she would be relieved and happy to settle for it being "Arthur Morgan".

Hmm...why isn't the OP named Robert John? Does he have a brother? Is that his name? She doesn't have a problem with the name, she has a problem with control. Has the OP always given in to her emotional blackmail and never even realized it until his wife pointed it out? Using manipulation before the baby is even born is a huge red flag.

even if they were throwing darts at a list of names it is still up to them how they are going to name their children. the name doesnt need to be a reminder of anyone or anything. it just needs to be a nice name they both like

Why didn't she called one of her sons like that then?

ABSOLUTELY NTA!!! Arthur Morgan is a lovely name (if a tad ironic given the literary/mythical origins surrounding both names; i.e Camelot and Knights of the round table). About the only way you could raise my eyebrows is if you somehow worked Merlin or Mordred in there. As for your mother's behavior in regards to threatening to disown your child over this, she can leave and I hope your door knocks her ass over face on the way out.

If your mother would disown an innocent child to punish you and your wife then your son will be better off with her in his life. The woman is a fraud and a hypocrite, if she felt so strongly about her brothers name why did she not name her own sons after him? She raised her kids and should allow you to raise your kid. What a meddling drama queen. Believe me she won't follow through on her threat, she will be all over her 1st grandchild. Shame on her, as good parents you probably shouldn't allow her to be around your son.

If you give in to your mother on this, what's to stop her from assuming this will give her free license to take over more aspects of your son's life. Babies are winning; let Arthur handle this.

Heed the wise words of your wife and ignore your mother. Simply put, she is playing bitch because she didn't get what she wanted. Besides, life is about to change so much with the new arrival that you won't have time to care or notice if she pouts or not.

I read this before and I'm sorry but, I just can't stand it and it's repeated. The term is "let it slip". Just FYI