A name is like our business card. Every time we say it to another person or an institution, it not only introduces us but also shapes the way we are perceived. Serenity, for example, has a very different connotation than Storm.
Recently, a Reddit user shared a story about naming her firstborn daughter. She and her husband settled on a unique name they made up, inspired by mythology and literature. But not everyone was as enthusiastic about it as they were.
After they received a fair number of negative reactions from their family (including a particularly harsh comment from one of the aunties), the woman began to doubt her choice.
For some couples, naming their baby becomes a high-stakes affair
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And this mother doesn’t know if she and her husband aren’t making a mistake with their firstborn
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A name is a huge part of us, and common ones aren’t a curse at all
It’s understandable why parents put so much thought into naming their kids. Research shows that our names can reflect even our families’ socioeconomic status and political affiliations. Since they disclose so much information to the world, some might view the choosing part as a high-stakes game.
In the US and the UK, the current trend is toward more unique names—indicative of the Western world’s more individualistic mindsets. “Finding a name that has authentic roots, but is completely undiscovered, is the ultimate baby name status symbol,” Pamela Redmond Satran, founder of the baby-naming site Nameberry, said.
When you live in a culture that values standing out, it’s no surprise that some people are trying to find ways to make their children seen.
However, the point that the Redditor’s aunt was trying to make is also valid. Extremely common, classic names give very little away. Since biblical names never really go out of style, it means their bearers can be almost any age. They can be Jewish, Christian, or religiously unaffiliated. There are white Michaels and Davids and Marys, and there are black ones too. And these names are not particularly linked to politics, either.
Many immigrants followed this logic when naming their children. A 2016 study published in the American Sociology Review looked at data on Irish, Italian, German, and Polish immigrants in the late 19th and early 20th centuries. The authors discovered a strong correlation between second-generation immigrants with traditionally American first names and occupational achievement. They suggested that parents who chose an American name were signaling their families’ orientation toward cultural assimilation, which worked to their kids’ advantage.
Given the extent to which names are connected to local culture, some countries have even gone so far as to restrict parents’ choices to government-approved lists. Icelandic parents, for example, must pick from 1,800 girls’ names and 1,700 boys’ names. Sweden and Norway regulate baby names as well, and France abandoned its list only in 1993.
Speaking of which, during one study, researchers asked people in France and Israel to look at photographs of strangers’ faces and guess their names from five possible choices. Participants selected the correct name far more frequently than pure chance would have allowed them.
The researchers suggested it’s because our appearances are shaped by the cultural expectations and stereotypes associated with a given name.
“We show that people change their faces as they grow,” the study’s co-author Anne-Laure Sellier told Quartz. “You’re conditioned to look a certain way because you want to fit in and be accepted.” We expect a girl named Joy to be cheerful and smiley, so she is likely to develop a bright personality accordingly.
It could very well be that parents who give their children a common name are, indeed, allowing them to become anyone they want.
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The woman added that she and her husband also want to give the girl a “normal” middle name
But most of the people who read the story think the parents are making a mistake
Some folks highlighted the parents do have a right to go ahead with their plan but still thought they probably shouldn’t
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The really sad thing is it doesn't even crack the top 50 worst names I've seen on the Internet
Load More Replies...People greatly overestimate the power of being unique. Thanks for coming to my TED-talk.
ps: I really snorted at the Dutch translation, because it really does sound exactly like "nothing in it" "Want some milk in your coffee? no thanks, Nyxiryn please." and shortening it to Nyx would be even better, because than she's just called "nothing"
Load More Replies...Yeah that's a horrible name, aunt is right on this one and that name sounds like a medicine. The poor kid is gonna get so bullied until she changes it wich she probably will when older.
That was my first impression too. It sounds like something you'd take 2 of with water.
Load More Replies...They should name the daughter Anne and use that weird name as a middle name
There are so many beautiful names in Greek mythology that they could have used that aren't popular in non Greek speaking countries they could have used and still been youneek.
Nyx is a cool name, why not just go with that? And Irina could be a middle name
Even with the separation as the other person said it reminds them of listerine and now I can't unthink it.
Load More Replies...How are people gonna call her? "Nyx"? It's much easier to be associated with Nix (similar pronunciation) - which is a treatment for head lice, rather than a Greek goddess. Why would you do that to your baby 924562946_...fd144b.jpg
"Niks er in" is a Dutch sentence meaning ´Nothing in it´ or ´Less than empty´. They named their daugther ´dumb a*s´.
"We're both into mythology and literature" bítch you read Percy Jackson when you were 12 and forgot to develop an actual personality. Are you giving birth to an anime character or a human being?
The best naming advice I've ever heard comes from Tolkien. Yes, that Tolkien, famous/infamous for three-page unpronounceable Elvish names. At the end of TRotK, Samwise is trying to think of a name for his first daughter, and his dad (old Gaffer Gamgee) points out 'Make it short, and then you won't have to cut it short to use it.'
"My family has been less than enthusiastic with the choice, my aunt laughed out loud at it, and I felt the need to include a pronunciation guide in my post. AITA for saddling my child with this name I've Frankensteined together with no thought as to how it will affect her as she grows up?"
As someone with a first name that is unusual in the US and literally not pronounceable for English speakers, yes that a-hole! DO NOT GIVE YOUR KIDS STRANGE NAMES!
As someone with an UnCoNvEnTiAl name, you are not doing your kids a favor by giving them an unusual name, you're giving them a lifelong burden. Now the kid is going to spend half their life clarifying how their name is spelled and pronounced, like I do. It's an epic pain in the @$$.
Stick these unique, hard to spell names as second or third names. If the kiddo loves the name themselves and wants to start being called that it's fine, then it's their own decision. (Tbh, Nyxiryn isn't the worst of the worst, but sounds like some prescription medication to me.).
Upvoted by someone whose middle name is "Lysle". Even my mom couldn't later recall where they got that name or spelling from or what they were thinking at the time.
Load More Replies...I'm sure the intention was good, but the name sounds like an over the counter cold medicine. I wouldn't have laughed, but the point of the aunt is valid.
Her intentions were to receive positive attention for being so clever and good at naming. Instead she got the opposite. She never considered her daughter.
Load More Replies...try using that name for a day in places where people will need to know it, like at a coffee shop(like when they ask for your name tell them its Nyxiryn) and see how well that goes for you, then imagine a whole lifetime of that experience.
I like the aunt. I wish it had gone like this: New mom: "It's our baby and our choice of name, and you should respect it." Aunt: "Honey, I respect you and your husband too much to lie to your faces."
What I would suggest people with unique name ideas do, is for them to spend 2 weeks using their chosen name out in the real world when they aren't required to use their legal name. Starbucks, Uber, store, talking to strangers on the bus, apply for jobs, etc. If the adult can't handle the reaction to the name, at least they'll have first-hand experience with what they are setting their kids up for.
No one is going to call her Nyxiryn because it's too much of a mouthful to say (and yes, it sounds like a prescription). They will shorten it to Nix, which is a treatment for lice, or a brand of underwear. It's not too late to change her name.
That name looks like a) a prescription medication that gets rid of something you don't want people to know you have, or b) Scrabble tiles dropped on the floor.
That was the one thing my dad asked me not to do when pregnant. My mom’s name was Sharyle (cheryl) and my dad is Kerry. They both hated their names. My dad said he was teased relentlessly and I remember growing up my mom being mad when she answered the the phone- Is this “Shar Lee” ? I took it to heart. My kid is Lucas. This is also coming from the people that were going to name me Theresa. As in Sherry, Kerry, and Terry. (It didn’t happen thank goodness!)
personally, if I wanted to give a name like that to something, I would just get a turtle or something, because the turtle wont get teased at school for having a "weird name"
I work in med tech, so naturally yes, my first thought was "ask your Dr today about Nyxiryn gel!"
Food for thoughts/discussions: what is the difference between an outstanding name coming from fantasy / made up name and an outstanding name from a common name but from another culture. Exemple Aadhya (Indian), Annaïck (French), Szymon (Polish), Ea (Danish), Nhu (Vietnam). Is it ok to stand out with a name from another country? (this being said, I don't like the sound of Nyxiryn)
My 2 cents. If it's a name that has nothing to do with the person's own culture, this will also create problems, because the general public cannot differentiate between made up/ unknown in their own culture. If it's a "cultural" name that ppl DO recognize, that will be less of a problem although ppl might be confused and/ or ask questions why you have that name (like Mahatma Johnson).
Load More Replies...Unique names are cool, but they should never be the legal first name--the name that will be on every attendance sheet and legal document a person will turn in. They should be left as middle names so the person has a choice in whether or not others know how special and unique their parents think they are. My oldest has an extremely unusual middle name (my favorite book character from my favorite series), but the only people who know it are them, and their dad and me.
Almost sounds like there needs to be a fast talking guy stating the side effects after you say her name.
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A name does not make anyone unique. Every person is unique simply by existing. So don't give your kid some idiotic "unique" name that will haunt them forever. Especially one that sounds like medication for venereal disease.
If you say that out loud in dutch it says 'nothing in it'. Coincidence?
I was given a (family) name that was uncommon at the time though it's now commonplace thanks to a celebrity namesake and spent most of my life having to spell it and pronounce it, then turned around and did the same thing to my daughter by giving her an uncommon spelling of a common name without even thinking about it.
Kylie Minogue has been around since the early 80's, you're fine.
Load More Replies...Good on your aunt for having the guts to tell these fantasy-dwelling parents the truth. I’ve lived with a “unique” name for nearly 50 years & although I’ve never been bullied, it has meant a lifetime of frustration having to constantly spell, pronounce & explain it, not to mention endlessly correcting people who can’t spell or pronounce it. Children are not pets & yet many parents seem to treat them as such when deciding on names.
I'm a cake decorator, I've been writing children's names on cakes for a living for the past seventeen years, so when I tell you I've seen it all, I mean it. This is, sadly, not the worst name I've seen by a long shot. I think the worst was Anemone. Like the sea creature. The horribly spelled ones kill me also. Last week I had Kynnydy. That's how they spelled Kennedy. By replacing every vowel with a Y.
I can't for the life of me see what's wrong with Anemone. That's a flower.
Load More Replies...I can one-up the five-letter Irish name with a SIX-letter Irish name! You have no idea just how often I’ve heard ‘Karen’, ‘Kirian’; one kid called me ‘Keyring’, and I’ve even heard ‘Carrot’! 🤣🤣🤣
If email is still a thing when she's of working age, most of hers will never arrive !
Ask your doctor if Nyxiryn is right for you, possible side effects include mocking laugher from everyone you meet.
My mother chose popular unremarkable names for all of us to balance the weird last name Mudgett(which i like, but iti s both odd and uncommon). I I I I like my name and always have, even though it was the 3rd most popular girl name thee year I was born. even at thta, it's surprisingly often spelled Susam, or mistaken for Suzanne.
Load More Replies...She wouldn't be so upset about it if she didn't deep down realize it was a terrible name. The daughter may grow up to love it, but people will always laugh behind her back about it if not worse.
I have to semi common name that my parents spelt differently. It has been a pain all my life. I either have to be a pain and get folks to change how they spell my name or live with it being wrong. Always fun having to have legal documents retyped.
Same. My name isn't that uncommon, but it occurs in different spellings, and my parents chose the most unusual one. It's not a made-up spelling, just less common. I always have to spell it, and my last name too, by the way. Quite annoying.
Load More Replies...That sounds more like a cough syrup brand than a name for a human child.
I read in your explanation that the child's middle name is Anne. Once the child gets old enough and she can decide for herself, she can say, I go by Anne. She can explain what her first name is but again say I prefer Anne. That way it will be easier for her.
My mom spelled my normal name wrong (added a random H in Nicole making it Nichole... ugh it's hideous) and that's been enough of a PITA my whole life. Poor little Noxy.
Ah, she will get called Nix her whole life and we all know it. No child or teen is gonna say that name
I don't even have a unique or uncommon first name, but it is spelled differently by 1 letter. I don't think My mother did it on purpose. She was heavily drugged, so that may have been a factor. It is also the old form European spelling, as a military brat she may have only seen it spelled while overseas.My last name is uncommon and is 2 words. I have spent my entire life spelling my name out. First name, ****i*** last name, capital V** space capital W*****. Because for some reason, despite being a name if I didn't say capital they were inevitably spelled all lower case. It's exhausting, and I didn't even have the added issues of making fun of my name, or people not being able to pronounce it.
I agree with all the comments saying it sounds like a prescription medication. To me it sounds like something to help you stop smoking. Horrible name, feel sorry for the kid growing up with it.
I'm so glad to have a name that is common in many countries of the world. And that my parents didn't want to be creative. Poor kid.
Just like one of the commenters mentioned, it sounds like Listerine; or, even worse, sounds like a disease. The Aunt, albeit, may not have said it diplomatically, she was spot-on.
Gawd people who want their child to have an unconventional name are too self-absorbed to have children. Why are you saddling your child with a name that will make life difficult for them?
As someone with a Maori name growing up in germany was awful. And even as a grown up I don't like it. I hate to explain why I even got this name in the first place and I really can't stand the reaction of the people to finding out it's a NZ name : "Oooooh, it's so beautiful there! My daughter was in NZ for 3months after school!"
Sooner than later, first names will be a very useful queue to know if one has been raised by an inconsiderate pair of loonies.
That name IS awful. But the person saying they would toss a resume with that name really is TA. People don't normally name themselves. And if you're Lady Gaga, you don't need a resume.
Who would look at a perfect newborn baby and think “yep, Nyxiryn suits you down to the ground”? This is a great ego trip for the parents but what a nightmare for the poor child - it’s not unique in a good way, it’s ugly and contrived. Think of the care homes in 60 years time, full of oldsters with ridiculous meaningless names. Think of your child you two and stop being selfish smart asses.
Remember David Bowie's son Zowie Bowie? Now known as Duncan Jones. What are people thinking when they name children? Anybody remember the little girl in New Zealand saddled with the name Talula Does the Hula From Hawaii? Took her parents to court age NINE so she could change it. And whoever thought Number 16 Bus Shelter (also NZ) was a good choice ought to be shot.
As a first born child who got named something I've always hated, I can see the Aunt's point, but just like I understand why I was given my name, I understand Nyxiryn's mother as well. The secret is abbreviating it in a cool way. Everyone knows me by the abbreviated form of my name I commonly use, and I've come to identify by it so much that when I'm home and my mother uses my full name, sometimes I don't answer. Nyx is a pretty cool nickname I say.
As someone with a made up, unique name YTA. It will forever be mispronounced and misspelled and be a point of bitterness. Even worse some states don't allow you to change your name at 18 without guardian approval. As I've gotten older, I've noticed more and more people think I'm pretentious for my name even though it's the one I was given by my patents at birth. Would have changed it but I was in the miliary and that's even harder to go through the processes of changing your first name.
I feel like the people jumping to "the child will be bullied for it" are the same kind of brain dead trash, that bullied kids for anything they could. Its a name, its unique, easy to pronounce and meaningful. Ready for a reality b***h slap? Thats where ALL names came from. Not everyone needs to be named the same as millions of others. Grow up.
Sure you can name your child whatever you like, but your aunt can also express her opinion, and the kid is going to be asked, constantly how you spell/pronounce it, that's going to be HER life due to YOUR CHOICE. If you can't take the heat, stay out of the kitchen Having said that, my name is normal, and I have always used the shortened version of since childhood, USE HERS, Nix, or Irene, whatever, and she will do the same, and the bullying over a name that sounds like something a doctor prescribes, will be less obvious.
Ok. Unpopular opinion. It's their baby. No one else's. Certainly no one on here has the right to bash her. It's one thing to say "I'd be worried about bully's". Or maybe "consider this really hard before going through with it ". But I think the bashing got outta hand. It's not abuse, and the daughter may love her name as she gets older. The aunt was a little out of line not handling it with more tact, but had the right to express her concerns also. I think they should really consider all the input they've gotten over it. And I think Nyx is cute.
Every word the aunt said was true. These parents are very selfish and trying far too hard to "make a statement' with their child's name about themselves, without any consideration for how awful this will be for the child. It's a stupid name.
My name id Dove and it caused many many problems with it, including having the federal government issued my ID as Dave. It has been HELL!!!!! I am 60 and I still have problems with it.
The aunt's reaction was a little inappropriate, but her reasoning is sound. Also, they spent *months* deliberating on the perfect name, and *that's* what they came up with? It looks like they grabbed a handful if letters out of a scrabble bag.
At the same time, I kind of feel sorry for OP. At least I feel sorry for her if she takes the comments like a normal person, and realises her mistake. She and her husband really couldn't see the wood for the trees when naming her child.
Load More Replies...I get it, I do. I got some funny looks when I named my daughter Annika, and that's not even a made up name. By the time she was 16, she had chosen to go by Roma. I also chose the name Bastonyx for my cat, using a similar process (Bast + Nyx for a mostly-black cat). But I placed it as a middle name for her, because I knew it would be too hard for people to say/spell/remember, and instead we call her Sophia Butters Bastonyx Jones. So I do get the impulse, but grandma is right, "people do have points." And some of them are sharp.
This "parent" (more like tormentor) has set this child up for a lifetime of ridicule, bullying and misunderstanding/misspelling. Yes, she can change her name at age 18, but by the time she gets there, the damage will be done. Guess who is going to a nursing home when that time comes for the "parents". I would put this on the same level as naming your kid "Hitler".
FFS. Reminds me of a Harry Enfield sketch. "We'll call her Spudulike (pronounced Spe-do-licker)? It's exotic!"
I like the special meaning behind the name, but you definitely have to consider the child's future when picking their name. My son has a normal but Biblical name and it's misspelled all the time.
Nyxiryn sounds like some kind of ointment or delousing potion for dogs or cats. What a terrible thing for a parent to do to their child, just because the parent is a narcissist and wants to feel special. My sister named her son a weird name and now as a teenager he still gets picked on for it, thankfully he’s a big boy and can stand up for himself.
Names like this are just the new version of the tattoos people got of foreign language characters where they had no idea what it ACTUALLY means.
"I suppose it does take courage to show that kind of commitment to soup"
Load More Replies...Made up names are extra narcissistic If parents cannot be confident in it No one will. I have a PhD Can’t remember any of my friends’ hipster kid names All invented words and I try I’m anti traditional feminist, atheist, no kids, no marriage I’m confident to defend my anti traditional choices with 1000 reasons I hate religion and made up names My friends kid is Hubble Our would have been Simon or Max Or Sophie, Simone after martyred Jewish Holocaust resistance fighters
The name is unusual, but don't forget that by the time this girl is going to school she will not be the only one with a difficult-spelling-kind of name. The times are changing,. There are so many non-English (typical Jack and JIll kinds) names already that this Nyxiryn might be one of well-liked ones.
my first name is 14 letters long and irish, so no one knows how to read it etc. my parents, not only decided to saddle me with such a name, they didn't give me a middle one, as my first was too long. i'm not irish, i am irish descent, it's a family last name i got stuck as a first, because my brothers got the scottish side. more than 5 decades of hassle because of my name, and i've seriously thought about changing it more than once.. but the costs add up(having to change everything) and that's annoying. at least my name wasn't made up, just a traditional one... and not after an evil goddess of the night os something like nyx lmao
I mean, it's not the *worst* name I've ever heard... but yeah it's just too much. If they'd gone with something like Nyxie that would be one thing, sounds just slightly different from Nikki with the second meaning of a Nixie being another mythological being to align with their 'theme', but Nyxiryn is just... a step too far.
My name is Ilia, pronounced eye-lee-ah, after the Star Trek character. My name is pretty and unique, but literally no one gets it right on the first try (they pronounce it like the Illiad, or they think the capital i is really a lowercase L and call me "Llia") and I have to give the correct name to everyone. Nyx would be pretty. Irina is also very pretty. But the two together are not. Keep in mind how syllables flow off the tongue.
As someone with an unusual name (Lutritia) I've gone by "Trisha" since high school and even now get teased lightly because of it. I hate it and am resentful towards my mom for it. People need to stop! If you want to give something a unique name, a dog won't care if their name is Listerine or Ozempic LOL. But a kid will, guaranteed.
I have a name that's VERY uncommon in the part of the world I live in. It's a Lithuanian name with a long history, though, and my parents, who were Lithuanian, thought about all the aspects of it before naming me. No adding extra Ys or portmanteauing it to other names they found interesting. The double Y is just trying too hard to be "unique". It screams low class. This would have been so easy to turn into a first and middle name! Nyx Irina [Smith]! I never had kids, but if I'd had a daughter I would have loved to name her for the pirates Anne Bonny and Mary Read...I was going to name her Bonny Read [Smith]. Bonny is a perfectly understandable first name where I live. Of course, I could also have named her Maryanne...
Your aunt is 100% right. Your daughter will be bullied relentlessly her entire life because of your stupid, pompous decision, and no jury in the world will convict her after she murders you and your husband.
Okay, fine, my jokes are a little bit to over-cooked sometimes... I'm Dutch. Like the one person commented, they way she spelled out the pronunciation means 'nothing in there' in Dutch. This coincides with the Buddhist teaching on emptiness, which teaches that there is no such thing a soul, because all things are empty from a separate, unchanging Self. *I'll see myself out thanks*
Load More Replies...I like it but wish she was named a more...holy name? but poetic either wa. feel free to downvote or reply something mean, I know it's not a popular opinion but srsly, people should Jude the baby for who she is, not her name. Also, if she does get bullied, i'm already thinking of thousands of ways a comeback can be developed!
The really sad thing is it doesn't even crack the top 50 worst names I've seen on the Internet
Load More Replies...People greatly overestimate the power of being unique. Thanks for coming to my TED-talk.
ps: I really snorted at the Dutch translation, because it really does sound exactly like "nothing in it" "Want some milk in your coffee? no thanks, Nyxiryn please." and shortening it to Nyx would be even better, because than she's just called "nothing"
Load More Replies...Yeah that's a horrible name, aunt is right on this one and that name sounds like a medicine. The poor kid is gonna get so bullied until she changes it wich she probably will when older.
That was my first impression too. It sounds like something you'd take 2 of with water.
Load More Replies...They should name the daughter Anne and use that weird name as a middle name
There are so many beautiful names in Greek mythology that they could have used that aren't popular in non Greek speaking countries they could have used and still been youneek.
Nyx is a cool name, why not just go with that? And Irina could be a middle name
Even with the separation as the other person said it reminds them of listerine and now I can't unthink it.
Load More Replies...How are people gonna call her? "Nyx"? It's much easier to be associated with Nix (similar pronunciation) - which is a treatment for head lice, rather than a Greek goddess. Why would you do that to your baby 924562946_...fd144b.jpg
"Niks er in" is a Dutch sentence meaning ´Nothing in it´ or ´Less than empty´. They named their daugther ´dumb a*s´.
"We're both into mythology and literature" bítch you read Percy Jackson when you were 12 and forgot to develop an actual personality. Are you giving birth to an anime character or a human being?
The best naming advice I've ever heard comes from Tolkien. Yes, that Tolkien, famous/infamous for three-page unpronounceable Elvish names. At the end of TRotK, Samwise is trying to think of a name for his first daughter, and his dad (old Gaffer Gamgee) points out 'Make it short, and then you won't have to cut it short to use it.'
"My family has been less than enthusiastic with the choice, my aunt laughed out loud at it, and I felt the need to include a pronunciation guide in my post. AITA for saddling my child with this name I've Frankensteined together with no thought as to how it will affect her as she grows up?"
As someone with a first name that is unusual in the US and literally not pronounceable for English speakers, yes that a-hole! DO NOT GIVE YOUR KIDS STRANGE NAMES!
As someone with an UnCoNvEnTiAl name, you are not doing your kids a favor by giving them an unusual name, you're giving them a lifelong burden. Now the kid is going to spend half their life clarifying how their name is spelled and pronounced, like I do. It's an epic pain in the @$$.
Stick these unique, hard to spell names as second or third names. If the kiddo loves the name themselves and wants to start being called that it's fine, then it's their own decision. (Tbh, Nyxiryn isn't the worst of the worst, but sounds like some prescription medication to me.).
Upvoted by someone whose middle name is "Lysle". Even my mom couldn't later recall where they got that name or spelling from or what they were thinking at the time.
Load More Replies...I'm sure the intention was good, but the name sounds like an over the counter cold medicine. I wouldn't have laughed, but the point of the aunt is valid.
Her intentions were to receive positive attention for being so clever and good at naming. Instead she got the opposite. She never considered her daughter.
Load More Replies...try using that name for a day in places where people will need to know it, like at a coffee shop(like when they ask for your name tell them its Nyxiryn) and see how well that goes for you, then imagine a whole lifetime of that experience.
I like the aunt. I wish it had gone like this: New mom: "It's our baby and our choice of name, and you should respect it." Aunt: "Honey, I respect you and your husband too much to lie to your faces."
What I would suggest people with unique name ideas do, is for them to spend 2 weeks using their chosen name out in the real world when they aren't required to use their legal name. Starbucks, Uber, store, talking to strangers on the bus, apply for jobs, etc. If the adult can't handle the reaction to the name, at least they'll have first-hand experience with what they are setting their kids up for.
No one is going to call her Nyxiryn because it's too much of a mouthful to say (and yes, it sounds like a prescription). They will shorten it to Nix, which is a treatment for lice, or a brand of underwear. It's not too late to change her name.
That name looks like a) a prescription medication that gets rid of something you don't want people to know you have, or b) Scrabble tiles dropped on the floor.
That was the one thing my dad asked me not to do when pregnant. My mom’s name was Sharyle (cheryl) and my dad is Kerry. They both hated their names. My dad said he was teased relentlessly and I remember growing up my mom being mad when she answered the the phone- Is this “Shar Lee” ? I took it to heart. My kid is Lucas. This is also coming from the people that were going to name me Theresa. As in Sherry, Kerry, and Terry. (It didn’t happen thank goodness!)
personally, if I wanted to give a name like that to something, I would just get a turtle or something, because the turtle wont get teased at school for having a "weird name"
I work in med tech, so naturally yes, my first thought was "ask your Dr today about Nyxiryn gel!"
Food for thoughts/discussions: what is the difference between an outstanding name coming from fantasy / made up name and an outstanding name from a common name but from another culture. Exemple Aadhya (Indian), Annaïck (French), Szymon (Polish), Ea (Danish), Nhu (Vietnam). Is it ok to stand out with a name from another country? (this being said, I don't like the sound of Nyxiryn)
My 2 cents. If it's a name that has nothing to do with the person's own culture, this will also create problems, because the general public cannot differentiate between made up/ unknown in their own culture. If it's a "cultural" name that ppl DO recognize, that will be less of a problem although ppl might be confused and/ or ask questions why you have that name (like Mahatma Johnson).
Load More Replies...Unique names are cool, but they should never be the legal first name--the name that will be on every attendance sheet and legal document a person will turn in. They should be left as middle names so the person has a choice in whether or not others know how special and unique their parents think they are. My oldest has an extremely unusual middle name (my favorite book character from my favorite series), but the only people who know it are them, and their dad and me.
Almost sounds like there needs to be a fast talking guy stating the side effects after you say her name.
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A name does not make anyone unique. Every person is unique simply by existing. So don't give your kid some idiotic "unique" name that will haunt them forever. Especially one that sounds like medication for venereal disease.
If you say that out loud in dutch it says 'nothing in it'. Coincidence?
I was given a (family) name that was uncommon at the time though it's now commonplace thanks to a celebrity namesake and spent most of my life having to spell it and pronounce it, then turned around and did the same thing to my daughter by giving her an uncommon spelling of a common name without even thinking about it.
Kylie Minogue has been around since the early 80's, you're fine.
Load More Replies...Good on your aunt for having the guts to tell these fantasy-dwelling parents the truth. I’ve lived with a “unique” name for nearly 50 years & although I’ve never been bullied, it has meant a lifetime of frustration having to constantly spell, pronounce & explain it, not to mention endlessly correcting people who can’t spell or pronounce it. Children are not pets & yet many parents seem to treat them as such when deciding on names.
I'm a cake decorator, I've been writing children's names on cakes for a living for the past seventeen years, so when I tell you I've seen it all, I mean it. This is, sadly, not the worst name I've seen by a long shot. I think the worst was Anemone. Like the sea creature. The horribly spelled ones kill me also. Last week I had Kynnydy. That's how they spelled Kennedy. By replacing every vowel with a Y.
I can't for the life of me see what's wrong with Anemone. That's a flower.
Load More Replies...I can one-up the five-letter Irish name with a SIX-letter Irish name! You have no idea just how often I’ve heard ‘Karen’, ‘Kirian’; one kid called me ‘Keyring’, and I’ve even heard ‘Carrot’! 🤣🤣🤣
If email is still a thing when she's of working age, most of hers will never arrive !
Ask your doctor if Nyxiryn is right for you, possible side effects include mocking laugher from everyone you meet.
My mother chose popular unremarkable names for all of us to balance the weird last name Mudgett(which i like, but iti s both odd and uncommon). I I I I like my name and always have, even though it was the 3rd most popular girl name thee year I was born. even at thta, it's surprisingly often spelled Susam, or mistaken for Suzanne.
Load More Replies...She wouldn't be so upset about it if she didn't deep down realize it was a terrible name. The daughter may grow up to love it, but people will always laugh behind her back about it if not worse.
I have to semi common name that my parents spelt differently. It has been a pain all my life. I either have to be a pain and get folks to change how they spell my name or live with it being wrong. Always fun having to have legal documents retyped.
Same. My name isn't that uncommon, but it occurs in different spellings, and my parents chose the most unusual one. It's not a made-up spelling, just less common. I always have to spell it, and my last name too, by the way. Quite annoying.
Load More Replies...That sounds more like a cough syrup brand than a name for a human child.
I read in your explanation that the child's middle name is Anne. Once the child gets old enough and she can decide for herself, she can say, I go by Anne. She can explain what her first name is but again say I prefer Anne. That way it will be easier for her.
My mom spelled my normal name wrong (added a random H in Nicole making it Nichole... ugh it's hideous) and that's been enough of a PITA my whole life. Poor little Noxy.
Ah, she will get called Nix her whole life and we all know it. No child or teen is gonna say that name
I don't even have a unique or uncommon first name, but it is spelled differently by 1 letter. I don't think My mother did it on purpose. She was heavily drugged, so that may have been a factor. It is also the old form European spelling, as a military brat she may have only seen it spelled while overseas.My last name is uncommon and is 2 words. I have spent my entire life spelling my name out. First name, ****i*** last name, capital V** space capital W*****. Because for some reason, despite being a name if I didn't say capital they were inevitably spelled all lower case. It's exhausting, and I didn't even have the added issues of making fun of my name, or people not being able to pronounce it.
I agree with all the comments saying it sounds like a prescription medication. To me it sounds like something to help you stop smoking. Horrible name, feel sorry for the kid growing up with it.
I'm so glad to have a name that is common in many countries of the world. And that my parents didn't want to be creative. Poor kid.
Just like one of the commenters mentioned, it sounds like Listerine; or, even worse, sounds like a disease. The Aunt, albeit, may not have said it diplomatically, she was spot-on.
Gawd people who want their child to have an unconventional name are too self-absorbed to have children. Why are you saddling your child with a name that will make life difficult for them?
As someone with a Maori name growing up in germany was awful. And even as a grown up I don't like it. I hate to explain why I even got this name in the first place and I really can't stand the reaction of the people to finding out it's a NZ name : "Oooooh, it's so beautiful there! My daughter was in NZ for 3months after school!"
Sooner than later, first names will be a very useful queue to know if one has been raised by an inconsiderate pair of loonies.
That name IS awful. But the person saying they would toss a resume with that name really is TA. People don't normally name themselves. And if you're Lady Gaga, you don't need a resume.
Who would look at a perfect newborn baby and think “yep, Nyxiryn suits you down to the ground”? This is a great ego trip for the parents but what a nightmare for the poor child - it’s not unique in a good way, it’s ugly and contrived. Think of the care homes in 60 years time, full of oldsters with ridiculous meaningless names. Think of your child you two and stop being selfish smart asses.
Remember David Bowie's son Zowie Bowie? Now known as Duncan Jones. What are people thinking when they name children? Anybody remember the little girl in New Zealand saddled with the name Talula Does the Hula From Hawaii? Took her parents to court age NINE so she could change it. And whoever thought Number 16 Bus Shelter (also NZ) was a good choice ought to be shot.
As a first born child who got named something I've always hated, I can see the Aunt's point, but just like I understand why I was given my name, I understand Nyxiryn's mother as well. The secret is abbreviating it in a cool way. Everyone knows me by the abbreviated form of my name I commonly use, and I've come to identify by it so much that when I'm home and my mother uses my full name, sometimes I don't answer. Nyx is a pretty cool nickname I say.
As someone with a made up, unique name YTA. It will forever be mispronounced and misspelled and be a point of bitterness. Even worse some states don't allow you to change your name at 18 without guardian approval. As I've gotten older, I've noticed more and more people think I'm pretentious for my name even though it's the one I was given by my patents at birth. Would have changed it but I was in the miliary and that's even harder to go through the processes of changing your first name.
I feel like the people jumping to "the child will be bullied for it" are the same kind of brain dead trash, that bullied kids for anything they could. Its a name, its unique, easy to pronounce and meaningful. Ready for a reality b***h slap? Thats where ALL names came from. Not everyone needs to be named the same as millions of others. Grow up.
Sure you can name your child whatever you like, but your aunt can also express her opinion, and the kid is going to be asked, constantly how you spell/pronounce it, that's going to be HER life due to YOUR CHOICE. If you can't take the heat, stay out of the kitchen Having said that, my name is normal, and I have always used the shortened version of since childhood, USE HERS, Nix, or Irene, whatever, and she will do the same, and the bullying over a name that sounds like something a doctor prescribes, will be less obvious.
Ok. Unpopular opinion. It's their baby. No one else's. Certainly no one on here has the right to bash her. It's one thing to say "I'd be worried about bully's". Or maybe "consider this really hard before going through with it ". But I think the bashing got outta hand. It's not abuse, and the daughter may love her name as she gets older. The aunt was a little out of line not handling it with more tact, but had the right to express her concerns also. I think they should really consider all the input they've gotten over it. And I think Nyx is cute.
Every word the aunt said was true. These parents are very selfish and trying far too hard to "make a statement' with their child's name about themselves, without any consideration for how awful this will be for the child. It's a stupid name.
My name id Dove and it caused many many problems with it, including having the federal government issued my ID as Dave. It has been HELL!!!!! I am 60 and I still have problems with it.
The aunt's reaction was a little inappropriate, but her reasoning is sound. Also, they spent *months* deliberating on the perfect name, and *that's* what they came up with? It looks like they grabbed a handful if letters out of a scrabble bag.
At the same time, I kind of feel sorry for OP. At least I feel sorry for her if she takes the comments like a normal person, and realises her mistake. She and her husband really couldn't see the wood for the trees when naming her child.
Load More Replies...I get it, I do. I got some funny looks when I named my daughter Annika, and that's not even a made up name. By the time she was 16, she had chosen to go by Roma. I also chose the name Bastonyx for my cat, using a similar process (Bast + Nyx for a mostly-black cat). But I placed it as a middle name for her, because I knew it would be too hard for people to say/spell/remember, and instead we call her Sophia Butters Bastonyx Jones. So I do get the impulse, but grandma is right, "people do have points." And some of them are sharp.
This "parent" (more like tormentor) has set this child up for a lifetime of ridicule, bullying and misunderstanding/misspelling. Yes, she can change her name at age 18, but by the time she gets there, the damage will be done. Guess who is going to a nursing home when that time comes for the "parents". I would put this on the same level as naming your kid "Hitler".
FFS. Reminds me of a Harry Enfield sketch. "We'll call her Spudulike (pronounced Spe-do-licker)? It's exotic!"
I like the special meaning behind the name, but you definitely have to consider the child's future when picking their name. My son has a normal but Biblical name and it's misspelled all the time.
Nyxiryn sounds like some kind of ointment or delousing potion for dogs or cats. What a terrible thing for a parent to do to their child, just because the parent is a narcissist and wants to feel special. My sister named her son a weird name and now as a teenager he still gets picked on for it, thankfully he’s a big boy and can stand up for himself.
Names like this are just the new version of the tattoos people got of foreign language characters where they had no idea what it ACTUALLY means.
"I suppose it does take courage to show that kind of commitment to soup"
Load More Replies...Made up names are extra narcissistic If parents cannot be confident in it No one will. I have a PhD Can’t remember any of my friends’ hipster kid names All invented words and I try I’m anti traditional feminist, atheist, no kids, no marriage I’m confident to defend my anti traditional choices with 1000 reasons I hate religion and made up names My friends kid is Hubble Our would have been Simon or Max Or Sophie, Simone after martyred Jewish Holocaust resistance fighters
The name is unusual, but don't forget that by the time this girl is going to school she will not be the only one with a difficult-spelling-kind of name. The times are changing,. There are so many non-English (typical Jack and JIll kinds) names already that this Nyxiryn might be one of well-liked ones.
my first name is 14 letters long and irish, so no one knows how to read it etc. my parents, not only decided to saddle me with such a name, they didn't give me a middle one, as my first was too long. i'm not irish, i am irish descent, it's a family last name i got stuck as a first, because my brothers got the scottish side. more than 5 decades of hassle because of my name, and i've seriously thought about changing it more than once.. but the costs add up(having to change everything) and that's annoying. at least my name wasn't made up, just a traditional one... and not after an evil goddess of the night os something like nyx lmao
I mean, it's not the *worst* name I've ever heard... but yeah it's just too much. If they'd gone with something like Nyxie that would be one thing, sounds just slightly different from Nikki with the second meaning of a Nixie being another mythological being to align with their 'theme', but Nyxiryn is just... a step too far.
My name is Ilia, pronounced eye-lee-ah, after the Star Trek character. My name is pretty and unique, but literally no one gets it right on the first try (they pronounce it like the Illiad, or they think the capital i is really a lowercase L and call me "Llia") and I have to give the correct name to everyone. Nyx would be pretty. Irina is also very pretty. But the two together are not. Keep in mind how syllables flow off the tongue.
As someone with an unusual name (Lutritia) I've gone by "Trisha" since high school and even now get teased lightly because of it. I hate it and am resentful towards my mom for it. People need to stop! If you want to give something a unique name, a dog won't care if their name is Listerine or Ozempic LOL. But a kid will, guaranteed.
I have a name that's VERY uncommon in the part of the world I live in. It's a Lithuanian name with a long history, though, and my parents, who were Lithuanian, thought about all the aspects of it before naming me. No adding extra Ys or portmanteauing it to other names they found interesting. The double Y is just trying too hard to be "unique". It screams low class. This would have been so easy to turn into a first and middle name! Nyx Irina [Smith]! I never had kids, but if I'd had a daughter I would have loved to name her for the pirates Anne Bonny and Mary Read...I was going to name her Bonny Read [Smith]. Bonny is a perfectly understandable first name where I live. Of course, I could also have named her Maryanne...
Your aunt is 100% right. Your daughter will be bullied relentlessly her entire life because of your stupid, pompous decision, and no jury in the world will convict her after she murders you and your husband.
Okay, fine, my jokes are a little bit to over-cooked sometimes... I'm Dutch. Like the one person commented, they way she spelled out the pronunciation means 'nothing in there' in Dutch. This coincides with the Buddhist teaching on emptiness, which teaches that there is no such thing a soul, because all things are empty from a separate, unchanging Self. *I'll see myself out thanks*
Load More Replies...I like it but wish she was named a more...holy name? but poetic either wa. feel free to downvote or reply something mean, I know it's not a popular opinion but srsly, people should Jude the baby for who she is, not her name. Also, if she does get bullied, i'm already thinking of thousands of ways a comeback can be developed!
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