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Dad Refuses To Participate In “Large-Scale Global Gaslighting” And Tells His Adopted Daughter That Santa And The Tooth Fairy Are Just Fictional Characters

Dad Refuses To Participate In “Large-Scale Global Gaslighting” And Tells His Adopted Daughter That Santa And The Tooth Fairy Are Just Fictional Characters

Dad Refuses To Participate In “Why Would I Participate In This Large-Scale Global Gaslighting?”: Dad Explains How He Told His Adopted Daughter That Santa And The Tooth Fairy Are Made UpDad Breaks Down How He Was Straightforward With His Daughter About Santa And The Tooth Fairy Not Being Real To Avoid Mental ProblemsDad Explains How And Why He Told His Daughter That Santa's Not Real, Agreed Together To Netizens Debate This Parent's Decision To Let Their Small Daughter Know Santa's Not Real Right From The Start As They Don't Want To Dad Makes A Controversial Decision To Tell His Little Daughter Santa And The Tooth Fairy Aren't Real, Goes Viral On TikTokParents Don't Want Their Children To Go Through The Trauma Of Finding Out Santa Is Not Real, So They Never Say He IsParents Decide To Let Their Little Kid Know Santa And The Tooth Fairy Are Not Real, Spark Discussion On TikTokDad Refuses To Participate In Dad Refuses To Participate In
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My twin daughters are now eight years old, and they seem to seriously suspect that Santa Claus does not exist. Perhaps it all started on Christmas three years ago when they happened to see me outside the window dressing as Santa to bring them gifts. I had to urgently explain that Santa is incredibly busy right now, so he just asked me to help him, and that this would be our shared little secret.

As I said, they are eight, so now the Tooth Fairy is much more relevant. One day, my wife and I forgot to put money under the pillow of one of our daughters, so we said that the Tooth Fairy simply transferred money to dad’s bank card. Well, now we are paying much closer attention to when the girls lose their milk teeth…

But maybe it’s easier just not to tell these stories to children? To explain that Santa, the Tooth Fairy, the Easter Bunny and others are just fictional characters? Yes, it will be disappointing for the kids, but at least it will be fair. That’s exactly what Matthew Boudreaux and his spouse Aurelian of Camas, Washington believe, and their video has racked up nearly 1.3M views and over 175.5K reactions on TikTok.

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The author of the original video and his spouse decided to let their daughter know that Santa and other characters are just fictional

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According to Matthew, even before their daughter was born, they decided not to lie to her that Santa Claus, the Tooth Fairy and the Easter Bunny supposedly exist – after all, when a child eventually finds out that her parents have been deceiving her for many years, even for such a completely harmless question, it can cause psychological trauma and a subconscious loss of confidence in them.

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They told their daughter about the people’s traditions and at the age of 3, the girl herself preferred to pretend that Santa exists

Instead, the parents decided to simply tell the girl about what traditions different nations have, and how people generally came up with Santa and other characters. As a result, when she was two or three years old, the girl was asked if she considered all of them to be real. Yes, she liked to pretend that about Santa and the Tooth Fairy, but now it was her decision and at least she understood that her parents were as honest with her as possible.

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Thus, the child herself may imagine that Santa and other characters exist, but then, probably, the disappointment that this is not so will be way less. At least there is a lot of scientific research on this, says Matthew.

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Matthew and his spouse didn’t want to lie to their kid yet they tried not to take magic away from her world

Now Helena is nine, and her parents are sure that they did absolutely the right thing, but did not “take away the magic” from her childhood world. The parents did not take part in the “global gaslighting of children”, but when the girl grows up, she’ll realize that her elders never deceived her. And this, you see, is worth a lot.

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My daughters are eight and still believe in Santa and the Tooth Fairy. My youngest son recently turned one and a half years old, and for the first time in my life, I seriously thought about whether I should tell him that all these characters really exist.

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Some people in the comments recall that they didn’t have any mental trauma from realizing Santa is fictional, yet other commenters still had some shock

By the way, in the comments to the video, a serious discussion about this has ensued. Some of the commenters recall that they received absolutely no psychological trauma when they learned that Santa did not exist. Someone remembers crying all day after finding out this really shocking fact.

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In any case, according to people in the comments, it all depends on the parents. Each of them will do what is appropriate for their child, and will try to ensure that magic and fantasy leave the world surrounding the child as late as possible – because this is so important for both kids and parents.

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We believe you too have your own story about how you or your children found out that Santa was actually a fictional character, so we look forward to you sharing it in the comments. Or just tell us what you think about Matthew and his spouse’s idea.

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After many years of working as sports journalist and trivia game author and host in Ukraine I joined Bored Panda as a content creator. I do love writing stories and I sincerely believe - there's no dull plots at all. Like a great Italian composer Joaquino Rossini once told: "Give me a police protocol - and I'll make an opera out of it!"

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Monika Pašukonytė

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I am a visual editor here. In my free time I enjoy the vibrant worlds of art galleries, exhibitions, and soulful concerts. Yet, amidst life's hustle and bustle, I find solace in nature's embrace, cherishing tranquil moments with beloved friends. Deep within, I hold a dream close - to embark on a global journey in an RV, accompanied by my faithful canine companion. Together, we'll wander through diverse cultures, weaving precious memories under the starry night sky, fulfilling the wanderlust that stirs my soul.

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Nikki Sevven
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I have to disagree. I never thought my parents lied to me when I learned Santa wasn't real. In retrospect, it was pretty awesome of them to support my childlike wonder and joy with "evidence." Life sucks; let your children be imaginative about the world they live in.

Pyewacket
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Please lets not confuse the use of a zeitgeist phrase like " gaslighting " with being a modern parent. Theres no need to make children grow up quicker than they already do.

SewingStaffy
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I was never traumatised when I found out. Quite amazed that I'd slept through my parents doing all that. Also very touched when I realised that they'd stay up late to make sure I was definitely asleep, then get all of my presents

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Nikki Sevven
Community Member
2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I have to disagree. I never thought my parents lied to me when I learned Santa wasn't real. In retrospect, it was pretty awesome of them to support my childlike wonder and joy with "evidence." Life sucks; let your children be imaginative about the world they live in.

Pyewacket
Community Member
2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Please lets not confuse the use of a zeitgeist phrase like " gaslighting " with being a modern parent. Theres no need to make children grow up quicker than they already do.

SewingStaffy
Community Member
2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I was never traumatised when I found out. Quite amazed that I'd slept through my parents doing all that. Also very touched when I realised that they'd stay up late to make sure I was definitely asleep, then get all of my presents

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