36 People Share Funny Differences Between Parents And Themselves At The Same Age, Internet Loves It
Interview With ExpertThere is no surprise that a lot has changed since our parents used to be our age. Not only do we have more innovations, resources or even attention to mental health, but also there is a huge difference in our views on relationships. Probably there are many of us whose parents at our age were already married with kids and we can’t even call the doctor…
Well, about that, on TikTok there is a trend going on that more and more online users are hopping on. Folks online share their parents’ photos when they were at the same age and in comparison add their own photos revealing quite a different state of life that they are in. So scroll through, upvote the ones to which you can relate the most and share your thoughts below!
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“Each generation uniquely shapes the cultural, social, and economic landscape, reflecting the values, priorities, and challenges of their time,” shared Alexis Abramson, PhD, who is a lifestyle gerontologist, with Bored Panda.
She also shared a few societal changes that have occurred between generations, starting with environmental awareness. “Younger generations have been more vocal about climate change and environmental conservation, influencing policies and behaviors. Also, family structures - they have become more diverse, with variations in household compositions, including single-parent households, blended families, and chosen families.
“There’s also been a trend towards delaying marriage and childbirth, as well as an increase in cohabitation and non-traditional relationship arrangements.” Moreover, political ideologies and affiliations have shifted over time, influenced by global events, social movements, and generational values.
I'm 36, and I would love if someone gave me an Easter basket of fun stuff :)
Well you're pointing him in the wrong direction! Sunset is the other way. Poor dog. 🤭
Obviously, each generation has witnessed remarkable advancements in technology. “For example, older generations may have experienced the introduction of television, while younger generations grew up with smartphones and the internet. This has dramatically altered communication, entertainment, and work patterns.
The following changes are in gender roles and expectations over the years. “Women’s participation in the workforce has increased, and progress has been made towards gender equality in various spheres of life. Attitudes towards LGBTQ+ rights have also evolved, with growing acceptance and legal recognition.”
Alexis noted that there’s been a growing emphasis on health and wellness, with increased awareness of mental health issues, the importance of physical fitness, and the impact of diet and lifestyle choices on overall well-being.
Someone tell her she isnt going to pull the Easter bunny out of there.
Now, speaking about the advancements in technology and communication - Alexis emphasized that they have transformed the way relationships are formed, nurtured, and maintained across generations, significantly impacting societal norms and family dynamics.
She pointed out that technology has revolutionized communication, offering instant connectivity regardless of geographical distance. “This has led to more frequent and diverse communication between family members, including video calls, instant messaging, and social media interactions. Consequently, younger generations who have grown up with these tools may place greater emphasis on constant communication and staying connected with their families compared to older generations.”
Comparing relationship dynamics, she noted that social media platforms and dating apps have altered the dynamics of romantic relationships, providing opportunities for meeting new people, and maintaining connections. “Younger generations often use these platforms to explore relationships and express themselves more openly. In contrast, older generations may have different views on online dating and prefer more traditional methods of meeting partners.”
Omg is that Raising Cane's?? I'll take a box combo, no slaw, extra toast please...
At 29, your parents could afford three kids, to have a house built, and own a camcorder. Times have definitely changed.
Technology has also both strengthened and strained family bonds. “On the one hand, it enables families to share experiences, photos, and updates in real time, fostering a sense of closeness even when physically apart. On the other hand, excessive screen time and digital distractions can lead to reduced face-to-face interactions within families, potentially affecting the quality of relationships, especially between parents and children.”
Also, generational differences exist in attitudes towards privacy and sharing personal information online. “Younger generations tend to be more comfortable sharing details about their relationships and family life on social media. In comparison, older generations may value privacy and discretion more, preferring to keep certain aspects of their personal lives offline.”
It's called preventing food waste! You're helping the environment, good job.
Finally, Alexis emphasized that there are overarching trends in the way different generations approach parenting and raising children or wanting kids in general, but individual parenting styles and approaches can vary significantly within each generation based on factors such as cultural background, socioeconomic status, and personal values.
Starting from parenting styles - each generation exhibits distinct parenting styles influenced by their upbringing, cultural values, and societal norms. “For example, baby boomers may lean towards authoritative parenting, emphasizing discipline and respect, while millennials and Generation Z parents often prioritize a more collaborative and empathetic approach, focusing on open communication and emotional well-being.”
Also, looking at work-life balance - Alexis pointed out that it has become a significant consideration for many younger parents, particularly millennials and Generation Z. “They often strive to balance career aspirations with family responsibilities and are more likely to seek flexible work arrangements and parental leave policies to accommodate their parenting duties.”
Pfft, this will NEVER be me... Cause if my mom drops me off somewhere she has to stay with me and hold my hand. 😂
“With the proliferation of technology, younger generations of parents are navigating the challenges of raising children in the digital age,” she emphasized. “They may implement stricter screen time limits, monitor online activities more closely, and educate their children about digital literacy and online safety from a younger age.”
And delayed parenthood. “There’s a trend towards delaying parenthood among younger generations, driven by various factors such as pursuing higher education, establishing careers, and financial considerations. Many millennials and Generation Z individuals are opting to delay starting families until the later stages of their lives, contributing to lower birth rates in some regions.”
Fresh fruit and veggies are SO expensive, at least where I live. It's sad.
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And what do you think about this trend? Do you have some fun comparisons? Share your thoughts below!
Hey, at least you're trying! Good luck with therapy too, hope you find a good fit on the first try.
Is this a trophy photo? Like posing with the bifurcated remains of an Easter Bunny they hunted down?
Honestly, two Victory Royales in a row takes incredible Fortnight skills!!! I would be very proud of such an achievement.
We were so intent on giving our kids everything, occasionally we forgot about the fact we were raising adults. I tried my very best to teach mine the life skills and they (29m,30m,35f) are excellent people.
To be fair, your mom didn't have email so she didn't need to overcome the anxiety, that obviously explains all the differences.
Hey, you knew enough to dress in dark colors and bring a container for your stash, so at least you're good at what you're doing.
I honestly don't know how kids are supposed to become independent today with the same ratio of success we (people in their mid 30s-40s) enjoyed. Hubby and I had 1st little at 21 & our 1st apartment was 645$ a month with 2bdr, 2 bath, washer dryer and trash & water bills were included in rent (this was 2002.) With one decent income or two mid level, very doable. Everything in that same area is now 1800-3k a month but the incomes have not gone up 3-4x to compensate!
Make sure to save these videos, in case the next generation will energe and wants to continue the picture comparison tradition :)
"Mom with her son she had at 23" - uh, so, OP's brother? I'm a little confused at the wording on this one.
I've seen so many comments on similar posts that blame the parents for not teaching today's kids these things. As a latchkey Gen X'r and parent, I have to say A) I did but they didn't pay attention and B) no one showed me this stuff, I had to figure it out.
Agreed! I think this post is sad. It doesn't say much for this generation. Sure it would suck to be married and kids at this age, but to be an adult "toddler"? I'd be ashamed to post I couldn't figure out not to put foil in a microwave.
Load More Replies...I get that times are hard and it's difficult to find good-paying jobs and affordable housing. But having your mom cut up your spaghetti for you? Asking your mom to call and make an appointment? Easter baskets? How can you allow yourselves to continue to be infants?
Woah there, hold up. You have no idea the situations these people have. This generation makes fun of themselves and shares it, they know its laughable. All of these situations could be cause the parents insisted they do it, particularly holiday traditions. It is so much fun being the person to put gifts together for loved ones that many parents just keep doing it and the adult children enjoy receiving them. But, the one asking for their mom to make a call ... that's a bit much. We didn't see a reply so the mom could have told them to eff off lol
Load More Replies...I have a lot of respect for my mom. One time, my pants and shoes got soaked in the rain and I had an exam in 2 hours. I complained over the phone, and she literally made an hour commute just so I'd be comfortable. I think this thread is more about parental love rather than bragging.
It's hard not to compare, particularly with having such a contrast. At my age my mother was a single parent to a high schooler (me) and a toddler, trying to have a decent life. Here I am, childless by choice, with a cat, living in another country working on a PhD. I don't see either situation as a fail, just different paths. Lol granted, I use Google to answer most questions and if I suspect mold, I sniff it lol
If I were one of the youngsters here; showing parents with babies- and me with a cat- living in mom's basement - I would feel a bit uncomfortable. I think many do- there is a slight whiff of apology along with the "big toddler" comments. If you are one who is uncomfortable where you find yourself; try this mind experiment, in a serious way. You're well familiar with movies and anime - put yourself in one- and wind it forward 20 years. You're likely to live much longer; but- 20 years from now- what does your life look like? I can instantly hear some protests of "It's MY life, and I'm HAPPY!" - fine by me- REALLY. But sometimes we - all - hear an echo of Shakespeare- "Methinks the lady doth protest- too much." Your life, yes it is. The Chinese really have a vast store of "sayings"; here's one: "If you do not change your direction, you are likely to wind up where you are heading." Live long, and prosper.
It might be interesting to see these people in five or ten years, maybe they are just taking longer. My parents got married at 21, I got married at 28, my brother got married at 36.
Load More Replies...I worry that these 20-30 year olds are being babies too much. How will they ever be able to take care of themselves? I don't mean just financially, but even, just getting themselves a glass of water, or asking dad, at 23 years old to buy them sushi cuz they're having a bad day. wtf?
I imagine at least half of it is us remembering what our parents went through, then knowing that in today's economy it is all much, much more difficult. Having kids right after you're done being a kid, isn't exactly ideal. I see all these pictures of the parents becoming parents before 25 and think 'wow your braces are barely off'. Sure by your late 20's you should know how to do the basics and be relatively competent, but on the other hand being raised by youngin's isn't exactly ideal either. They have no life experience, no wisdom to offer, no practice at patience, they barely know their butt from a hole in the ground yet. I watched my mom do all that. Noooooo thank you, destroyed her life.
Wait... By your LATE twenties you should have the basics and be competent? Nuh uh. That's why so many of these are people asking ridiculous questions and relying on their parents when they're adults themselves. If we haven't taught our kids the basics we're responsible, but so are our kids. Ask questions. Look it up. Google and YouTube are for more than reading movie plots on Wikipedia and watching makeup reviews.
Load More Replies...As a neglected and abused child with a depressed mother and a brutal father, I had already mastered all these "grown-up" things at the age of 6 and did the housework, shopping and cooking. As soon as I could, I left home. My little brother, on the other hand, was the beloved and spoiled child (they didn't want a girl) and to this day (he is 40) doesn't know how to use a washing machine and he can only cook one dish. But it made me mentally ill and I can no longer work. He is a successful programmer. He can't cook or use a washing machine, but he can program programs that make your life easier. At his house, the milk in the fridge practically buys itself.
Plot twist: Avoiding Mature Responsibility Is The Great Lesson Many of Us Learned From Our Young Parents, and they are happy for us. They had kids at 18-25, bought a house and locked in to career paths. We then watched them live with regrets and miss out on a great many life experiences. My parents are in their 70s and are just now doing all the awesome stuff I did in my 20s. They had kids. I traveled to 27 countries in Europe, Africa and Asia and went to over 100 music festivals. They kept the jobs they started in their teens. I went to college for 7 years, and took the time to explore and really figure out my calling. They bought a 3br/2b home in a boring, suburban subdivision. I rent an apartment, but in a culturally rich, destination city. They took their kids camping on the weekend, I take weekends in Hawaii. I DEEPLY appreciate the sacrifices they made to provide me the opportunity to mature at my own pace. They want me to do all the things they wish they had done.
I'm gonna go call my parents now, and tell them how much I love them. Different choices have different rewards.
Load More Replies...I love how all these "grown ups" late 40s early 50s think they are better then us. This is 2024. A single family home cost 400k and yet yall paid 20k 30k back then.
FYI I'm 32 with 3 boys. I'm stuck renting an apartment that's to small and we live paycheck to paycheck.
Load More Replies...in short, current generation of adults do not want crippling poverty caused by getting a family at 23? Makes sense. I waited to 38 before having kids.
Time spirits...... 30 years ago the world was organised around people marrying, having children, buying houses, and, though it was not cheap, it was affordable back then. Nowadays, with all the sh*t going on, most things are affordable to the rich and semi rich, and with all the threats in the world around finance (and little support), climate and despots threatening to nuke everything, I would hesitate to put a child into this world.
I do worry a little for some of these posters. The difficulties for starters are real, and can't be compared between generations. But there is a difference between staying young or having some troubles in finding your way in the world on the the hand and staying completely dependant in the other.
My parents owned a modest but nice house and took vacations even though they were teachers. I am nearing 50 and I will never ever own a house and even though I technically make a decent wage, it is barely enough to cover my bills, let alone take a vacation.
are y'all seeing a pattern here? NO ONE nowadays can afford to take care of themselves, much less have kids!
Had to stop reading after the comment about somebody needing four dollars for some chipotle, it’s mostly these stupid kids who I guess don’t have good enough jobs to pay for their own chipotle, but I don’t really need to see less prepared for life. These kids are than their parents were.
Or……supposedly grown adults who can barely wipe their own àss
Load More Replies...I've seen so many comments on similar posts that blame the parents for not teaching today's kids these things. As a latchkey Gen X'r and parent, I have to say A) I did but they didn't pay attention and B) no one showed me this stuff, I had to figure it out.
Agreed! I think this post is sad. It doesn't say much for this generation. Sure it would suck to be married and kids at this age, but to be an adult "toddler"? I'd be ashamed to post I couldn't figure out not to put foil in a microwave.
Load More Replies...I get that times are hard and it's difficult to find good-paying jobs and affordable housing. But having your mom cut up your spaghetti for you? Asking your mom to call and make an appointment? Easter baskets? How can you allow yourselves to continue to be infants?
Woah there, hold up. You have no idea the situations these people have. This generation makes fun of themselves and shares it, they know its laughable. All of these situations could be cause the parents insisted they do it, particularly holiday traditions. It is so much fun being the person to put gifts together for loved ones that many parents just keep doing it and the adult children enjoy receiving them. But, the one asking for their mom to make a call ... that's a bit much. We didn't see a reply so the mom could have told them to eff off lol
Load More Replies...I have a lot of respect for my mom. One time, my pants and shoes got soaked in the rain and I had an exam in 2 hours. I complained over the phone, and she literally made an hour commute just so I'd be comfortable. I think this thread is more about parental love rather than bragging.
It's hard not to compare, particularly with having such a contrast. At my age my mother was a single parent to a high schooler (me) and a toddler, trying to have a decent life. Here I am, childless by choice, with a cat, living in another country working on a PhD. I don't see either situation as a fail, just different paths. Lol granted, I use Google to answer most questions and if I suspect mold, I sniff it lol
If I were one of the youngsters here; showing parents with babies- and me with a cat- living in mom's basement - I would feel a bit uncomfortable. I think many do- there is a slight whiff of apology along with the "big toddler" comments. If you are one who is uncomfortable where you find yourself; try this mind experiment, in a serious way. You're well familiar with movies and anime - put yourself in one- and wind it forward 20 years. You're likely to live much longer; but- 20 years from now- what does your life look like? I can instantly hear some protests of "It's MY life, and I'm HAPPY!" - fine by me- REALLY. But sometimes we - all - hear an echo of Shakespeare- "Methinks the lady doth protest- too much." Your life, yes it is. The Chinese really have a vast store of "sayings"; here's one: "If you do not change your direction, you are likely to wind up where you are heading." Live long, and prosper.
It might be interesting to see these people in five or ten years, maybe they are just taking longer. My parents got married at 21, I got married at 28, my brother got married at 36.
Load More Replies...I worry that these 20-30 year olds are being babies too much. How will they ever be able to take care of themselves? I don't mean just financially, but even, just getting themselves a glass of water, or asking dad, at 23 years old to buy them sushi cuz they're having a bad day. wtf?
I imagine at least half of it is us remembering what our parents went through, then knowing that in today's economy it is all much, much more difficult. Having kids right after you're done being a kid, isn't exactly ideal. I see all these pictures of the parents becoming parents before 25 and think 'wow your braces are barely off'. Sure by your late 20's you should know how to do the basics and be relatively competent, but on the other hand being raised by youngin's isn't exactly ideal either. They have no life experience, no wisdom to offer, no practice at patience, they barely know their butt from a hole in the ground yet. I watched my mom do all that. Noooooo thank you, destroyed her life.
Wait... By your LATE twenties you should have the basics and be competent? Nuh uh. That's why so many of these are people asking ridiculous questions and relying on their parents when they're adults themselves. If we haven't taught our kids the basics we're responsible, but so are our kids. Ask questions. Look it up. Google and YouTube are for more than reading movie plots on Wikipedia and watching makeup reviews.
Load More Replies...As a neglected and abused child with a depressed mother and a brutal father, I had already mastered all these "grown-up" things at the age of 6 and did the housework, shopping and cooking. As soon as I could, I left home. My little brother, on the other hand, was the beloved and spoiled child (they didn't want a girl) and to this day (he is 40) doesn't know how to use a washing machine and he can only cook one dish. But it made me mentally ill and I can no longer work. He is a successful programmer. He can't cook or use a washing machine, but he can program programs that make your life easier. At his house, the milk in the fridge practically buys itself.
Plot twist: Avoiding Mature Responsibility Is The Great Lesson Many of Us Learned From Our Young Parents, and they are happy for us. They had kids at 18-25, bought a house and locked in to career paths. We then watched them live with regrets and miss out on a great many life experiences. My parents are in their 70s and are just now doing all the awesome stuff I did in my 20s. They had kids. I traveled to 27 countries in Europe, Africa and Asia and went to over 100 music festivals. They kept the jobs they started in their teens. I went to college for 7 years, and took the time to explore and really figure out my calling. They bought a 3br/2b home in a boring, suburban subdivision. I rent an apartment, but in a culturally rich, destination city. They took their kids camping on the weekend, I take weekends in Hawaii. I DEEPLY appreciate the sacrifices they made to provide me the opportunity to mature at my own pace. They want me to do all the things they wish they had done.
I'm gonna go call my parents now, and tell them how much I love them. Different choices have different rewards.
Load More Replies...I love how all these "grown ups" late 40s early 50s think they are better then us. This is 2024. A single family home cost 400k and yet yall paid 20k 30k back then.
FYI I'm 32 with 3 boys. I'm stuck renting an apartment that's to small and we live paycheck to paycheck.
Load More Replies...in short, current generation of adults do not want crippling poverty caused by getting a family at 23? Makes sense. I waited to 38 before having kids.
Time spirits...... 30 years ago the world was organised around people marrying, having children, buying houses, and, though it was not cheap, it was affordable back then. Nowadays, with all the sh*t going on, most things are affordable to the rich and semi rich, and with all the threats in the world around finance (and little support), climate and despots threatening to nuke everything, I would hesitate to put a child into this world.
I do worry a little for some of these posters. The difficulties for starters are real, and can't be compared between generations. But there is a difference between staying young or having some troubles in finding your way in the world on the the hand and staying completely dependant in the other.
My parents owned a modest but nice house and took vacations even though they were teachers. I am nearing 50 and I will never ever own a house and even though I technically make a decent wage, it is barely enough to cover my bills, let alone take a vacation.
are y'all seeing a pattern here? NO ONE nowadays can afford to take care of themselves, much less have kids!
Had to stop reading after the comment about somebody needing four dollars for some chipotle, it’s mostly these stupid kids who I guess don’t have good enough jobs to pay for their own chipotle, but I don’t really need to see less prepared for life. These kids are than their parents were.
Or……supposedly grown adults who can barely wipe their own àss
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