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Parents Furious Teen Daughter Keeps Driving Car Without Permission, Secretly Put A Tracker In It
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Parents Furious Teen Daughter Keeps Driving Car Without Permission, Secretly Put A Tracker In It

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Teenage driving statistics in the U.S. can be pretty worrying. Although they constituted only 5.1% of all drivers, teen drivers made up 8.5% of all fatal crashes in 2021. In fact, they have the highest involvement in fatal crashes of any age group. That’s why driving age restrictions are a thing; drivers need to have the relevant experience and emotional maturity.

These are the two things this teen lacked. She didn’t have a license yet, but she got into a habit of taking her parents’ car for joyrides. When they found out, they decided to put a tracker inside the car. And the mother asked people whether this was inappropriate. Interestingly, many people took issue with another aspect of the story.

These parents decided to use a GPS tracker to find out if their student-driver daughter was using the car without their permission

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When it turned out to be true, the mom asked the Internet whether it was unreasonable to use the tracker

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When judgments and criticism about their parenting rolled in, the mom came in to justify the decision

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Drivers who only have a learner’s permit cannot drive without adult supervision

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The first reaction from people was that the parents misidentified the problem. This wasn’t a privacy issue. What the daughter was doing was wildly irresponsible and definitely illegal. So many netizens piled up on the parents for not parenting the teen properly.

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Indeed, having a learner’s permit does not allow a teen to drive a car on their own. A learner’s permit is a form of a license, but a teen with a permit is not a licensed driver yet. It depends on the state, but a learner’s permit usually implies that the teen needs adult supervision at all times. The accompanying adult needs to be 21 or older in many cases.

Only when the required amount of time of having a learner’s permit passes (in some states, it’s six months, and in others, 12, like in this case) a teen driver can receive a provisional, or restricted, license. Depending on the state, even the provisional license comes with lots of strings. In some states, they can’t have passengers under 21 for the first six months. In others, they’re not allowed to drive without adult supervision at night.

Clearly, the teen in this story still didn’t have an intermediate license and couldn’t drive on her own. If she were to be stopped by the police or get in an accident, she would have to face fines, potential vehicle impounding, and the suspension of driving privileges. In some cases, learners might not be allowed to retake their driver’s test for another nine months.

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Some teenagers are not mature enough to drive, and that’s for their parents to decide

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This story sounds pretty nuts when you consider that a 14-year-old was on her own behind a wheel. We already mentioned that teenagers have higher fatal crash rates than older drivers. Experts say that’s because they lack maturity and driving experience. Peer pressure can also be a huge factor, as teens often might get distracted by their friends in the car.

Some even argue that 16 is too low an age to allow teens to be drivers. They say teenagers don’t have fully developed brains yet, so they speed, become distracted more easily, and make mistakes. That’s why parents need to take extra responsibility when their teen becomes a new driver.

The Insurance Institute for Highway Safety (IIHS) recommends parents put in place some rules. “Keep a log of the time they spend driving under your supervision, and set a goal at or close to 70 hours even if your state requires far less.”

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They even recommend putting the rules in writing and making your teen sign a driving contract. Their template offers to agree on the terms of what’s off the table for the teen when they’re behind the wheel, like speeding, using a phone, or driving without the parents’ supervision. There should also be additional rules about the consequences of breaking the rules.

Marie Snodgrass, an injury prevention program lead at the University of Michigan C.S. Mott Children’s Hospital, says this might make it clearer for the teen as to what’s expected of them. “We know that when families set up clear rules and boundaries that are discussed ahead of time, kids are more likely to follow them. Anytime you’re intentional as a parent it goes a long way.”

And there’s nothing wrong with not letting a teen get their learner’s permit yet. Especially if they exhibit immature behavior like this daughter. The IIHS writes that parents don’t have to allow their teenagers to get their learner’s permit the minute they turn the required age. It’s up to the parents to decide if their kid is ready for such a responsibility or not.

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People still called out both parents for allowing their unlicensed daughter to be a danger on the roads

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Some said the daughter was just as guilty for acting so recklessly

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Others said the daughter was the jerk and clearly not mature enough to be driving

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Kornelija Viečaitė

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Hi there, fellow pandas! As a person (over)educated both in social sciences and literature, I'm most interested in how we connect and behave online (and sometimes in real life too.) The human experience is weird, so I try my best to put its peculiarities in writing. As a person who grew up chronically online, I now try to marry two sides of myself: the one who knows too much about MySpace, and the one who can't settle and needs to see every corner of the world.

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Hi there, fellow pandas! As a person (over)educated both in social sciences and literature, I'm most interested in how we connect and behave online (and sometimes in real life too.) The human experience is weird, so I try my best to put its peculiarities in writing. As a person who grew up chronically online, I now try to marry two sides of myself: the one who knows too much about MySpace, and the one who can't settle and needs to see every corner of the world.

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Kotryna Br

Kotryna Br

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Kotryna is a Photo Editor at Bored Panda with a BA in Graphic Design. Before Bored Panda, she worked as a freelance graphic designer and illiustrator. When not editing, she enjoys working with clay, drawing, playing board games and drinking good tea.

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Anony Mouse
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3 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Sounds like they’ve tried almost nothing and it didn’t work. Ffs. If you can’t get the key, put a boot on it. Take the battery out. Amazing that two people with one brain cell between them produced a child and were able to purchase a car.

Tabitha
Community Member
3 months ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Time for the car to be sold, and daughter to only practice driving with her parents in the family car---for which she does NOT get a set of keys. Also, she will not be getting her license at 16, and will have to wait, and walk, ride her bike, bum rides from friends, or take the bus until she shows she's responsible and trustworthy enough to drive. She might be throwing typical teenage tantrums and blaming her parents, but SHE is then who broke the law, and she's lucky she wasn't stopped by the police while illegally driving alone. I'm amazed her parents didn't inform the police and have her stopped, tbh. Let her try to throw a tantrum at the officer and see where that gets her. Sometimes you have to resort to tough love, and instead of preventing your kid from getting into trouble, you let them do what they're hardheadedly wanting to do, just to show them what happens and let them pay the consequences for it---without smoothing the path and fixing it for them, but letting them really % experience all the s**t it causes in100 their life, and the clean up they have to do to make things right again. She's just lucky she didn't cause an accident---and kill someone---while driving alone on a learners permit. It's a worst case scenario, but it isn't outside the realm of possibility. She could've ended up in a real bad world of s**t she might never have gotten out of.

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Caro Caro
Community Member
3 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Good grief! She's 15. Be a parent. Sell the car. Stop telling us you were a good little girl when growing up; you sound like you're in need of a pat on the back. Grow up.

Cat Chat
Community Member
3 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

That is the big issue here. She is trying to be the parent to the child she remembers being, and not to her child, who is rebelling. So whatever her parents did worked for the teen she was. But those same tactics are not working here. She seems like an only child. Otherwise she would know that the same set of parents can use the same parenting techniques and rules on multiple children and they will each turn out completely different (outside influence, different experiences, and all). She needs to stop trying to act like her own parents and parent her child, not the younger self she remembers being.

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Heather Menard
Community Member
3 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I would sell the car have the revoke her permit and not allow her to get her license until she is 18

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Anony Mouse
Community Member
3 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Sounds like they’ve tried almost nothing and it didn’t work. Ffs. If you can’t get the key, put a boot on it. Take the battery out. Amazing that two people with one brain cell between them produced a child and were able to purchase a car.

Tabitha
Community Member
3 months ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Time for the car to be sold, and daughter to only practice driving with her parents in the family car---for which she does NOT get a set of keys. Also, she will not be getting her license at 16, and will have to wait, and walk, ride her bike, bum rides from friends, or take the bus until she shows she's responsible and trustworthy enough to drive. She might be throwing typical teenage tantrums and blaming her parents, but SHE is then who broke the law, and she's lucky she wasn't stopped by the police while illegally driving alone. I'm amazed her parents didn't inform the police and have her stopped, tbh. Let her try to throw a tantrum at the officer and see where that gets her. Sometimes you have to resort to tough love, and instead of preventing your kid from getting into trouble, you let them do what they're hardheadedly wanting to do, just to show them what happens and let them pay the consequences for it---without smoothing the path and fixing it for them, but letting them really % experience all the s**t it causes in100 their life, and the clean up they have to do to make things right again. She's just lucky she didn't cause an accident---and kill someone---while driving alone on a learners permit. It's a worst case scenario, but it isn't outside the realm of possibility. She could've ended up in a real bad world of s**t she might never have gotten out of.

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Caro Caro
Community Member
3 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Good grief! She's 15. Be a parent. Sell the car. Stop telling us you were a good little girl when growing up; you sound like you're in need of a pat on the back. Grow up.

Cat Chat
Community Member
3 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

That is the big issue here. She is trying to be the parent to the child she remembers being, and not to her child, who is rebelling. So whatever her parents did worked for the teen she was. But those same tactics are not working here. She seems like an only child. Otherwise she would know that the same set of parents can use the same parenting techniques and rules on multiple children and they will each turn out completely different (outside influence, different experiences, and all). She needs to stop trying to act like her own parents and parent her child, not the younger self she remembers being.

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Heather Menard
Community Member
3 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I would sell the car have the revoke her permit and not allow her to get her license until she is 18

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