You already know how this is going to go. Asking for your parents to spend 2 on 1 time for your birthday is a reasonable request. Not at all selfish. I am the matriarch (ugh, makes me sound ancient) of a 3 generation household with many school aged children. Once a month, one child gets to be the only one doing something or going somewhere. We do this so they can be the center of attention and we adults get to know and spend time without others getting in the way. Could be me, Grandma, and Grandpa taking the kid to McDonald's then the zoo. Could be Mom and Dad staying home to help build the Boy Scout wooden race car and ordering pizza. Anyway, you got it rough. Just do you and get out first chance. You are important, your achievements deserve recognition, andyour successes should be celebrated. You will find your way. Be well ...

OP wants his parents to actually spend time with him? OH, THE HUMANITY! He's clearly an insensitive and arrogant brat! Why, he's even proud of his accomplishments, the audacity! (For those who can't tell, this is SEETHING sarcasm.)

This 15 year old kid obviously loves his siblings. The fact that his parents are dismissing him like this... I am thinking they are the "narcissistic savior complex" type of people. No fun to be around. They are only doing good for the fame and clout not or the sake of doing good. The fact that his sister is standing up with him... makes me feel even more awful about this. The other sister sounds narcissistic.

Isn't the point of integrating adopted children into the family to integrate them into the existing family...They just made a separate family with themselves and the adopted children. The whole point is to do your best to ensure that all the children under your roof feel loved and cared for equally. Meanwhile these parents are going out of their way to ensure that they are treating the adoptive children differently than they would their natural child and depriving them of a relationship with someone who is supposed to be their sibling. Op is being punished and outcast from his family for being a biological child, how does that make any sense whatsoever. Great job fostering....resentment that is. Great job driving a wedge between your children. Those are some daft parents. He should ask to speak to the family therapist 1 on 1 and tell them how he feels. I can see spending some time with foster kids individually in the beginning to get to know them but that shouldn't mean that your other kids no longer get one on one time and they should also be doing most things as a family.

I raised my three stepkids, then my wife and I had a child together. I think I treat my daughter the same as I treat my stepkids - though we have more money now and no bio-dad to contend with, which does make it different. I still try to do more for my stepkids, even though they are older. They tell me not to, but I tell them this is an opportunity I didn't have when they were younger (financially and bio-parent involvement) so please let me do it. They are all siblings to me and equal. I couldn't imagine treating one as more-than or less-than.

Sounds like the therapy was too late for Cassandra. Be careful there. You may find that once she moves out (if she does lol) that everything will go a lot smoother and be a bit fairer. Take the therapy (from a different therapist) and express your feelings and concerns to the therapist including your adoptive siblings repsonses. You may find that that therapist can open your parents eyes to the machinations in play. No blame on Cassandra as trauma warps you but she does not have your best interests at heart, is virtually an adult, and has clearly got her therapist and your parents under her thumb.

So.. dont want to be too harsh but this is the fact of it. His DNA doners are too wrapped up in their disgusting savior complex, thankfully the younger sees if but the older girl is loving and rotting from it. 100% she grows ro be complete trash who the parents go near bankrupt covering. Start taking incredibly detailed notes, write it all down to keep himself sane and proof to throw in their face when he goes HARD NC with that filth. Just because you got your DNA from them doesn't mean they are worth your time. They definitely arent.

This is just cruel. I have two bio kids and you what? I still have mummy and eldest time without the youngest. We go out for breakfast, we go to the park, anything that just means me and him to remind him that i know for years that it was just us and his little brother has changed the dynamic, but it doesn't mean i don't still cherish him. This is the time when i can listen to all his stories without the baby interrupting and making him feel like second fiddle. When the little one grows up, we'll do the same for him too. It's not about being a favourite, it's about showing each child they're worth your time as individuals, not a package deal.

Cassandra is a b***h

As the youngest sibling with two biological brothers, I ask to do stuff with just me and my parents. I love my brothers and they're 100% my family I just like a little two on one time and I'd say that's pretty normal. The lack of biological relation doesn't make this different, OP deserves that exclusive attention too. More so, considering their parents don't seem to care

Seriously, I feel like they forgot they had a son. I feel for him and get angry at his parents because it seems that they are trying to save the world but forget that their own child. They need to wake up.

whah, whah, my parents, shelter, feed cloth me, see to it that i get to enjoy my own personal interests, but show too much attention to my EXPENSIVE PURCHASED for loads of money 'adopted' siblings, and going to spend even more money on them and not me. Well it didn't cost them anything to get you, your cheap. Just say let me get this straight, you don't think I need BONDING TIME too, just because you didn't PURCHASE ME like you did them. Remember adoption costs tens of thousands of dollars, they're trying to get their full value for their purchase of some TLC and 'renovation needed' children, do you have relatives who are childless you can discuss this with, and request time out in their custody instead. Say therapy is NO THREAT, I NEED it the way you treat me.

I am so sorry man, I don't think your parents see that by trying to help their other kids with emotional damage, they are causing you emotional damage. I think spending time with your parents alone is a great thing, however maybe it was because you asked for it to be on your birthday? Maybe any other day wouldn't have been seen as a selfish thing, as birthdays are normally a family event? Your parents are truly trying to overcompensate, kind of making you feel like the outsider. I am not an expert on adoption, but have had many step-siblings, and to be quite honest grew closer to my step siblings than to their mom... You could actually be a huge key in their mending process... All the best! I hope you find what you need from your parents. And keep working on that bond with your siblings, it will last a life time!

So... The parents are like a poorly stocked first aid kit, according to Cassandra (?) So she also acknowledges that the parents do not have the resources to take care of them all? Or maybe the resources/time is what is in the kit? She and her biological siblings take so much that OP getting some too is not possible? It is possible to spend time with all the kids at the same time without neglecting any of them all the time. Everyone can get some minutes where they feel seen. Everyone can have a good time with the others. Excluding your own kid even when you are/can be physically together is awful parenting. How does inflicting trauma on your kid help your adopted kids get rid of their traumas?

No adoptive's in my family but thus sounds exactly like my family. Im the youngest and I was ignored, belittled and ab*sed at every turn because my brother's were more important. Little to say I have nothing to do with my family now other than my mum who was also ab*sed by the men in our family. No part of a family should be given more attention than any other, family is meant to be equally loving and supportive and if it's not, then theres something wrong. This kid has every right to his parents attention as the adopted kids do, and for one of the adoptive sisters to call him a spoilt brat was disgusting and I feel he has the right to deck her purely for that comment

My parents had two children and then adopted one and for the next 30 years the only child they had was the one they adopted

Dear BP, why do you insist on putting "trauma" and "traumatized" in quotes in titles like this.

id like to know howthe 2 yr old fits in here .??