A good parent is someone who strives to make decisions in the best interest of their child. But that doesn't mean moms and dads have to be perfect. Nobody is. Not even their children. Mistakes are bound to happen, the important part is to learn from them... and have a good chuckle!
Realizing the benefit of being able to laugh at ourselves, we at Bored Panda have dedicated an entire series to funny parents. Each month, we compile a list of their honest, humorous tweets, and let me tell you—March has been exceptionally generous. Continue scrolling to check out the entries and after you're done, fire up our February and January lists for more giggles.
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However, what if you do make a parenting mistake and can't stop thinking about it even after venting on Twitter? Well, Vicki Broadbent, a writer, director, broadcaster, and founder of the parenting blog Honest Mum, believes the fact that you are even worrying about being a good parent is testimony to the fact that you are a good parent.
"Please remember you're a human too and will have good and bad days. Be kind to yourself so you can be kind to others and that means forgiving yourself when you mess up," the author of The Working Mom: Your Guide to Surviving and Thriving at Work and at Home told Bored Panda.
I once gave a load of stuff to a charity shop and then went in with my little girl and she was like "look mummy we have those!" Nope. Not anymore kid.
According to the Honest Mum whose also on Instagram, you are a composite of your own life experiences and upbringing, those formative childhood years and beyond, and a lot of parenting can feel triggering. "Your child is left out at school for example, and it reminds you of being bullied." So question your reactions.
Speaking from her own experience, Vicki said therapy has helped her own parenting style hugely. She was able to work through issues, allowing herself to recognize if she's projecting or feeling triggered when it comes to her own parenting/children's behavior. And that allows her to change her responses.
"It has also helped me to be a more sympathetic, calmer parent," Broadbent said. "Children require unconditional love and direction. They thrive on boundaries and routine and they require honesty. You want your children to trust and respect you. They need to know where they stand so they can feel emotionally safe at all times."
"When you mess up, be honest, explain your behavior. For example, 'Sorry, I didn't mean to shout but I didn't sleep well last night and I had a stressful situation at work today.' And if you lost your temper due to your child misbehaving, take some deep breaths and explain in an age-appropriate way how what they are doing makes you feel. Focus on your own emotions so they can empathize with you and also see you as a human being, just like them."
Ever since remote learning I've had the hardest time getting my kid to shower. He says there's no point if he isn't going anywhere and seeing no one but me. What am I, chopped liver?! His room smells like farts and testosterone.
wth is a 'threenager"? just hearing this word for the first time this week.
Children try to manipulate their parents when 2, 3, and 4. They are exploring their boundaries, learning what is acceptable and what is not. They repeat this as teenagers. Decide what rules you will enforce to the bitter end -- car seats/seat belts, brush your teeth, etc. The rest is less important, dreadful clothing choices, okay.
My teenager brings me coffee in bed every morning so I'd have to dispute that.
Have you met my 8 year old brother? My 2 year old acts better than him lmao
Load More Replies...Let me break down what you said. You should not of because a parent. Does that make any sense? No, it does not. Hope your daughter actually has an education.
Load More Replies...Am I a "Friday the 13th" then? 'Cause some of us are less of a d**k that others.
It takes a child 10-12 years to learn to listen to what parents tell them to do. Then they become teenagers ...
My oldest is nearly 18 and boy let me tell you... He thinks I'm being encouraging of his future plans to share a house with his friends because it will give him a chance to save up a lot of money. Sure yeah, that...
No, children are figuring out their boundaries when 2, 3 or 4, then again as a teenager. Pushing you to see if they can manipulate you. Pick the rules you will enforce, fight to the bitter end, absolutely mandatory behaviour, then ignore the rest. You will brush your teeth. Really bad clothing choices -- not an issue. Be consistent, don't ever change a no to a yes. Children are often reflections of their parents. They may follow your lead or follow their individual ideas. What does your child say about you?
my parents were 16 and 17 when dey had meh im 16 now and they don't care what i do because they know what it's like to have bad, strict parents. so my mom is a stripper, my daddy is a football player, and im a cheerleader dating a football player that looks up to my daddy. i don't get in trouble. they don't force me to do things. they don't make me go to school. they are pretty chill and don't enforce tons of rules. the only rule is that im not allowed to do the dirty until I graduate school 😂 they change their no's to yes all the time. im not them and i say they're pretty cool and amazing
Load More Replies...Illustrate what you mean, Vicki advised, use examples to back up your feelings so your child can understand your position. 'Remember the time you cried when your brother wouldn't listen to your story and you kept telling it to him over and over again, and felt ignored and cried. Well, that's how I feel when you ignore me when I'm calling you for dinner'.
"Warn your child when they are behaving badly then choose an appropriate punishment: stopping tech time for a period or making them take a time-out. Giving them the opportunity to remedy their behavior is fair and allows them to feel they have a chance to do better."
Vicki Broadbent thinks you shouldn't label your kid as 'a bad child'. Instead, you can label their behaviour as bad, unkind, or even thoughtless. Also, have realistic expectations from your child too: toddlers and teens are constantly going through great developmental changes, physically and emotionally so acting up is natural.
"Often it's about having the patience and understanding to tolerate the tougher times, and also seeing the behaviour as a call for help: for love, time, space or all three sometimes," Broadbent said. "My eldest behaved stroppily over tech time recently and it was only when I stopped reacting to his behaviour and started responding more gently that he opened up and said he wasn't actually upset over gaming but something that happened at school (which we later tackled together). Look behind the behaviour. Yours and theirs and don't forget that parenting requires a lot of detective work!"
Laura Markham, who has earned her Ph.D. in Clinical Psychology from Columbia University and has worked as a parenting coach with thousands of parents, said you don't have to make up for not being a perfect parent. Perfect just gets in the way of love, she said. Try to remember that joy comes from appreciating the wonder in all those miraculous moments that are disguised as everyday life.
"The key is letting go of your need to be perfect and offering emotional generosity every chance you get, to everyone around you—including yourself," Markham wrote.
this child may have just created the cure to every disease that ever existed
Some of my fondest memories is of my mother and I going into the kitchen after everyone else left for the weekend (visitation) to make a "kitchen sink" salad and share it, along with hot tea and buttered saltines. It was a ritual for us - none of my siblings cared for salad.
Remember, it's OK even if you need to vent online—Vicki Broadbent of Honest Mum said the fact you are even worrying about being a good parent is testimony to the fact that you are a good parent
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Either all of James Breakwell’s kids are miniature Jerry Seinfelds or he’s making those conversations up.
making stuff up? on the internet? but...but...that's unheard of!
Load More Replies...I was tame (other than the fact I was the bossiest child I know) compared to some of these.
Either all of James Breakwell’s kids are miniature Jerry Seinfelds or he’s making those conversations up.
making stuff up? on the internet? but...but...that's unheard of!
Load More Replies...I was tame (other than the fact I was the bossiest child I know) compared to some of these.