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Woman Faces Reality After Parent Wants To Sell Home She’s Been Living Rent-Free In For 2 Years
Parental obligations usually last until the child turns 18, the age of maturity in most places. Any form of providing beyond that duration would be out of the goodness of their heart.
Unfortunately, some kids seem to blur those lines and feel entitled to receive support. A 26-year-old woman received a massive favor from her parent, who provided her with free housing for two years. When the house went up for sale, she began acting out and resorting to harsh name-calling.
Feeling torn by their decision and burdened with the daughter’s reaction, the parent turned to the AITAH subreddit for answers and opinions. Scroll down for the story below.
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Some parents continue to provide support to their adult children out of the goodness of their heart
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This person decided to provide free housing for their daughter and her husband, who were struggling financially
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The author decided to sell, which didn’t sit well with the daughter
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47% of parents in the United States still provide financial support to their adult children
The story about adult children relying on their parents for financial support isn’t new. Recent statistics by Savings.com reveal that nearly half of parents in the US continue to provide monetary compensation. These numbers don’t include grown-up children with disabilities.
According to the May report, parents spent around $1,364 monthly on their adult children. 46% gave money for vacations and “discretionary spending,” while 18% helped their kids pay off credit card debts.
A growing number of people also seem to feel they’ve sacrificed their financial security to help their adult children. In 2023, 37% of parents felt this way, which jumped to 58% this year.
In an interview with the Pew Research Center, people blamed several factors for these ongoing trends. A 56-year-old man pointed out how “expensive our society has become,” while a 44-year-old woman believes today’s younger people “are forced to work full time at less than a living wage.”
However, some parents feel they are to blame. A 60-year-old woman feels they are “too enabling” toward their kids, which creates a sense of entitlement. The author provided sparse details, but based on their account, this is likely what happened to their daughter.
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There must be balance and boundaries when it comes to parental support for adult children
Loving parents will never stop supporting their kids, no matter their age. However, experts emphasize the importance of striking a balance and setting boundaries.
For financial planner and physician Dr. Carolyn McClanahan, parents must first develop a solid financial plan for their future and then set a budget for how much they would give their children.
“You need to create boundaries and figure out a balance,” Dr. McClanahan told CNBC.
For Virginia-based financial advisor Isabel Barrow, striking a fair deal with their kids could also work. While they provide some financial support, the children could promise to contribute 10% of their salary to a 401(k).
“If they have income, they have a job, they can save. That needs to be their commitment to you,” Barrow stated.
According to the account, the author did their part by allowing the daughter and her husband to get back on their feet. Also, the couple already had money for renovations, which likely meant things were beginning to look up.
However, the family could have talked it out calmly without hurling hurtful words and instead looked for a compromise. No amount of money or financial favor is worth damaging a relationship for.
What do you think, readers? Was there anyone who was more at fault in this scenario?
The author provided more information
For a few commenters, the parent was at fault for creating tension within the family
However, some sided with the author for allowing the daughter to live in the house rent-free
There were also those who blamed everyone involved
What do you think ?
Koala ala ala 3 months ago
Yea we aren't getting the full story here, if the point of them being there was that it was short term to help them get back on their feet, no way would they have been spending all that money remodeling the house instead of saving, I think we're getting a very skewed version of events nere
Papa 3 months ago
I was thinking the same thing. I'd like to hear the daughter's side of the story.
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Katchen 3 months ago
OP lives five hours away, hasn’t seen the house for a year, AND is sick of seeing the house? Huh?
JanaK 2 months ago
Taxes? Utilities for the daughter? The house is sucking OP's money. I wouldn't wanna pay too.
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BewilderedBanana 3 months ago
Meh... Pretty sure OP is telling the complete story. If her daughter didn't have money to pay for rent, where did the money to do the major refurbishment come from? And how was the refurbishment was done without OP's knowledge? Redoing a kitchen, stairs and bathroom isn't a quick job and I find it hard to believe that the daughter never mentioned any of it. The proper way to go about this would have been to set up some sort of written contract/agreement where both parties knew exactly what they were getting into and what options were available to them. Too late for that now, of course, so OP pretty much has to choose between a house/money and a daughter. In OP's situation i would either ask them to start paying rent (if they had money for major renovations, rent shouldn't be a problem) or offer to reimburse them for the work they did. That way, they move out with some cash and not empty handed. But why ask if you're TA and then attack anyone who says you are or might be?
Acruss 3 months ago
When you have 2 years where you don't have to pay rent or pay for utilities would allow you to save up money. Also they had problems WHEN they were MOVING IN, not that they had problems the entire two years.
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Koala ala ala 3 months ago
Yea we aren't getting the full story here, if the point of them being there was that it was short term to help them get back on their feet, no way would they have been spending all that money remodeling the house instead of saving, I think we're getting a very skewed version of events nere
Papa 3 months ago
I was thinking the same thing. I'd like to hear the daughter's side of the story.
Load More Replies... Katchen 3 months ago
OP lives five hours away, hasn’t seen the house for a year, AND is sick of seeing the house? Huh?
JanaK 2 months ago
Taxes? Utilities for the daughter? The house is sucking OP's money. I wouldn't wanna pay too.
Load More Replies... BewilderedBanana 3 months ago
Meh... Pretty sure OP is telling the complete story. If her daughter didn't have money to pay for rent, where did the money to do the major refurbishment come from? And how was the refurbishment was done without OP's knowledge? Redoing a kitchen, stairs and bathroom isn't a quick job and I find it hard to believe that the daughter never mentioned any of it. The proper way to go about this would have been to set up some sort of written contract/agreement where both parties knew exactly what they were getting into and what options were available to them. Too late for that now, of course, so OP pretty much has to choose between a house/money and a daughter. In OP's situation i would either ask them to start paying rent (if they had money for major renovations, rent shouldn't be a problem) or offer to reimburse them for the work they did. That way, they move out with some cash and not empty handed. But why ask if you're TA and then attack anyone who says you are or might be?
Acruss 3 months ago
When you have 2 years where you don't have to pay rent or pay for utilities would allow you to save up money. Also they had problems WHEN they were MOVING IN, not that they had problems the entire two years.
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