It seems like the body positivity movement has morphed into something irrational. Yes, absolutely you should love yourself no matter what you look like, but understand reality: if you are morbidly obese, you need to buy two seats on a plane, you will need extra help in hospitals, or need an extra paramedic team to help you get on a gurney. Morbid obesity is extremely unhealthy and can cause extra strain for those who help you in various industries, and that's absolutely no moral judgment at all, simply a fact.

A hurt back lasts a lot longer than hurt feelings and I bet she'll tell you she's a picky eater.

NTA. I am disabled (and getting more disabled as time goes by). Before getting diagnosed, my doctors tried everything including steroids. I put on over 100lbs from it before discontinuing it - my condition has no therapy/treatment options. I have lost some, but not being able to exercise much makes weight-loss difficult. Anyway... I had a medical emergency and a couple of ambulances showed up. The specialized ambulance was two tiny (compared to me) women. They needed to move me from my wheelchair and I said "No offense, but my legs have no strength. I think we are going to need the guys." (Big, stereoypical firefighters.) It took both of the guys a lot of effort to lift me (265lbs of dead weight) onto the gurney. Then they helped get me into the ambulance. I apologized to them and they said it was their job. I accept that this is who/what my body is now and I am as okay with that as can be. But being "body positive" shouldn't mean ignoring the realities of your body.

I don't care if I am getting downvoted. That said, body positivity and body neutrality are not BS. Also , we the overweight are used to fight a lot in the medical circuit to be taken seriously. I am very down to earth and I know why certain things are done. Other thing is these statements, body positivity-body neutrality are used as an excuse to behave as this lady is doing.

As one of the commenters said, this "body positivity" thing sounds suspiciously like living in denial. Would the patient prefer it, if the doctors had simply shrugged and said "Well then, you won't be getting a new bedpan, see ya later." At least they wouldn't hurt her feelings then ;)

good god no. my mum picked up her elderly dad when he had fallen in the night once and that f****d up her arm and back, exacerbating issues

When I worked as a CNA we had one resident with diabetes who was morbidly obese. I mean to the point of using a hydraulic lift to move her from bed to wheelchair. Meanwhile, her daughter kept supplying her with chocolates....(had Texas $$, private room) Yes, I did hurt my back while working there. Not with this patient, and I was "doing it right" by wearing back brace and having another staff member help to move the person. No fun!

Body positivity or not, 450 pounds is a lot of weight, and far to much to expect two people to safely roll by themselves. Not only could the nurses hurt themselves, but they are not going to be able to safely roll the patient without a risk of the patient rolling too far, and right out of bed. The nurse isn't shaming you by saying two people can't safely roll you, the nurse is just being safe.

"body positive" Karen for f***s sake... I feel sory for nurses. They are one of the most important part of any society!

Genuine question but if she's too large to roll and can't get to the toilet herself, why not catheterize her? Even if she's not going to be inpatient for long she'd likely have the same issue at home so it might be best until she's at least mobile on her own.

I have a family member who was a nurse who permanently wrecked her back in this very situation. Nowadays they would use equipment and extra staff to move a patient but this was maybe 25-30 years ago. You only get one back and it’s not worth the risk.

No nurse should be at risk of being injured for a patient.

I don't care about hurting your feelings, I don't want all these hard-working healthcare workers getting physically hurt.

"Everyone deserves to feel confident in their body and be respected no matter what size or weight they are." I'm not sure I agree with this

I find the whole story suspect. Why would a patient that heavy not have a catheter after 'major' surgery? If she were in pain, frightened, and already concious of the attitudes towards obese people (particularly in the medical field), I find it very difficult to believe she would have the energy for the kind of pettiness the OP claims (with obvious disgust and anger). I say this both as a ('normal' bmi) patient who has endured 40+ years of healthcare - including 35 major abdominal surgeries and a liver transplant - and worked in emergency medicine and pharmacy for more than 20 years. I think the OP hates obese people and made 90% of this c**p up.

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The OP herself claims it was a 'major' surgery. I had had over 30 abdominal sugeries when I got my transplant, weighed 112lbs, and couldn't pull myself up without help (and never with fewer than 2 people helping and never a pregnant person). Everything about this story is suspect but, were it true, her self-righteous attitude about making the patient feel everything they were doing was specifically because of her obesity and not just standard procedures tells me she went into that room with the INTENTION of hurting that patient's feelings. While she's in pain and afraid. WHAT AN A**HOLE.