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DIL Demands That MIL Give Up Her Emerald Ring As An Heirloom Engagement Ring, Is Told To Get Out
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DIL Demands That MIL Give Up Her Emerald Ring As An Heirloom Engagement Ring, Is Told To Get Out

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Passing on family heirlooms is a beautiful tradition, allowing items of high sentimental—or monetary—value to stay in the family for generations to come.

This redditor’s soon-to-be daughter in-law really wanted to have her emerald ring as an heirloom engagement ring. The problem was, the ring was not an actual heirloom and the woman wasn’t looking to give it away to anyone, especially not to her son’s fiancée after the altercation they had. Scroll down to find the full story below.

A ring that’s been in the family for years can be a great family heirloom

Image credits: avanti_photo / Envato Elements (not the actual photo)

This woman’s soon-to-be daughter-in-law demanded that she give her emerald ring to her as an heirloom

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Image credits: KaikaTaaK / Envato Elements (not the actual photo)

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Many people nowadays think that they don’t own anything worthy of becoming a family heirloom

It’s not uncommon for certain things to stay in a family for generations, especially if it’s something that has a high sentimental or monetary value. Yet the tradition of passing down heirlooms seems to be dwindling, as fewer people believe they have something worth leaving to those of their kin.

A study of 2,000 participants found that close to half of them—43%, to be exact—feel this way, Zenger News reports, mainly because they don’t think modern everyday items have as much sentimental value, believing they are more “disposable” now.

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The study also found that roughly four-in-ten people would love to continue the tradition of passing down heirlooms, and nearly as many said they have received one themselves. For those who’d like to leave something for future generations, the main motivation seems to be keeping the family’s heritage alive.

According to the aforementioned poll, when it comes to heirlooms, people seem to choose sentiments over money. That might be related to the fact that they reportedly love delving deeper into their family history. This was revealed by another poll of 2,000 correspondents, close to 80% of whom said they enjoyed learning about their family’s history and the family heirlooms when they were growing up.

Pictures seem to be the most valued possessions that can be passed down from generation to generation

The latter research found that the possessions and heirlooms people seem to prize the most are family photos, followed closely by wedding rings and other pieces of jewelry. Further down the list lined up computer laptops, cars, wedding dresses, TVs, artwork, cameras, and musical instruments respectively.

But as prized as heirlooms might be, they can sometimes become a source of negative emotions, too. Take siblings, for instance; when there are two—or more—of them and only one precious item that’s been passed down from generation to generation, it might be difficult to decide who gets to keep it. Someone deciding to sell a family heirloom can also create a rift in the family relationship or become a moral dilemma bothering the new owner.

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In the OP’s case, the idea of an heirloom alone was enough for her and her future daughter-in-law’s relationship to go sour. The woman was taken aback by the DIL’s demands, while the latter couldn’t understand why her soon-to-be mother-in-law wouldn’t give up one of her many rings. Fellow netizens, too, had varying opinions on the matter, which they shared in the comments.

Fellow netizens shared their thoughts in the comments, and the OP replied to some of them

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Some people found the woman’s reaction to be a little too much

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Libstak
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1 month ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

All the YTA are self serving types. There is no polite way to ask someone to give you their jewellery, none. The DIL and son have been together for 2 years, not even close to long enough to know future MIL enough to even be looking lying longingly at anything she owns much less make a demand for anything. Future MIL has a daughter she has been raising for 18 years (?), the FDIL is basically encroaching on the daughters future inheritance and she is neither chosen by MIL to join the family (the son chose her) nor is she even in the family yet.

Lila Allen
Community Member
1 month ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I fully agree. It's tacky AF to ask someone to gift you their own jewelry

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TribbleThinking
Community Member
1 month ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Well, that's one surefire way of ensuring that you're NOT in my will, sweetcheeks. 🙂

Ben Aziza
Community Member
1 month ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

"THE RING IS MINE" when i read that part it came out in Frodo's voice in my head. And she is right. Literal gold digger vibes that has clutches on her son. Asking for an heirloom is so creepy... vulturey... The concept of it is to be a gift if you ask for it it cant be an heirloom.

DC
Community Member
1 month ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Don't insult Vulture! Rolls Royce have thrown great effort and knowledge into the development thereof, but had to sack it due to wartime prioritization that favoured the Merlin over any other machines they were developing then. Don't insult Vultures, as they're, sort of, the trash collectors of nature, making rotting corpses vanish away without even having to invite or order them to. Don't insu ... she's a gold digger. A stone digger. Stone digger makes me think ... doesn't Bill Wyman have some taste for women significantly younger than him?

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Libstak
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1 month ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

All the YTA are self serving types. There is no polite way to ask someone to give you their jewellery, none. The DIL and son have been together for 2 years, not even close to long enough to know future MIL enough to even be looking lying longingly at anything she owns much less make a demand for anything. Future MIL has a daughter she has been raising for 18 years (?), the FDIL is basically encroaching on the daughters future inheritance and she is neither chosen by MIL to join the family (the son chose her) nor is she even in the family yet.

Lila Allen
Community Member
1 month ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I fully agree. It's tacky AF to ask someone to gift you their own jewelry

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TribbleThinking
Community Member
1 month ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Well, that's one surefire way of ensuring that you're NOT in my will, sweetcheeks. 🙂

Ben Aziza
Community Member
1 month ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

"THE RING IS MINE" when i read that part it came out in Frodo's voice in my head. And she is right. Literal gold digger vibes that has clutches on her son. Asking for an heirloom is so creepy... vulturey... The concept of it is to be a gift if you ask for it it cant be an heirloom.

DC
Community Member
1 month ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Don't insult Vulture! Rolls Royce have thrown great effort and knowledge into the development thereof, but had to sack it due to wartime prioritization that favoured the Merlin over any other machines they were developing then. Don't insult Vultures, as they're, sort of, the trash collectors of nature, making rotting corpses vanish away without even having to invite or order them to. Don't insu ... she's a gold digger. A stone digger. Stone digger makes me think ... doesn't Bill Wyman have some taste for women significantly younger than him?

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