When something major happens—good or bad—many people turn to their parents first to share the news. It’s also not uncommon for individuals to have parents set as emergency contacts for moments they need support the most.

Unfortunately for this redditor, their parents weren’t available at the time they needed them the most – when they got in a terrible accident. Having to go through it all without them by their side led to the OP deciding to go no-contact with them, but they couldn’t help but wonder if cutting ties over one mistake made them a jerk.

Parents’ support in difficult times is important for a child no matter the age

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This person couldn’t forgive their parents for not being there for them when they needed them the most

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Many people seek emotional support from friends and family

Whether it comes from friends, family, or complete strangers, for that matter, emotional support is crucial for a person’s well-being, especially in a time of crisis. Chances are, you know exactly how important it is, if you’ve ever found yourself longing for nothing more than a friend’s shoulder to cry on or a parent telling you that it’s going to be okay.

For many people, family members are the main source of emotional support. Understandably so; those of our kin tend to be the first people we develop a bond with and who are there to care for us through the good times and the bad. “Family relationships provide resources that can help an individual cope with stress, engage in healthier behaviors, and enhance self-esteem, leading to higher well-being,” a study on family relationships suggests.

Among family members, moms and dads tend to play an especially significant role when it comes to support. According to Unicef, “Parents are central to providing the support and sense of safety and security that children need during times of crisis.” After a deeply distressing event—like the accident the OP was involved in—affected children will reportedly cope and recover better if they feel safe and receive care and attention from their loved ones.

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Parental support is often especially important

Bearing in mind just how important emotional support from parents is, it’s not surprising that being deprived of it at the time the OP needed it the most affected them quite significantly.

In a piece for Psychology Today, Dr. Michelle P. Maidenberg, adjunct graduate professor of mindfulness practice at New York University, noted that such a lack of support can lead to the child feeling lonely, awkward, or not being intrinsically understood or result in them distancing themselves or cutting ties completely.

“For children who don’t have the emotional support of parents readily and feasibly available to them, the thinking can be, ‘If my own parents, who are supposed to love me and be there for me more than anyone else in the world do not love me and aren’t there for me, then who will be?’ It’s a double whammy when there’s a lack of emotional support from both parents,” Maidenberg noted.

The OP shared that until the accident, after which their mom and dad were out of reach, the couple were amazing parents. They also seemed to have learned their lesson, as the OP shared that they have since changed their rules regarding phone use at night. Be that as it may, the redditor was still considering going no-contact with them – a decision that seemingly evoked different reactions from the online community.

Many netizens believed that the OP wasn’t being a jerk in the situation

Others, however, shared a different opinion

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