It can also motivate others to do it, but I get the point.

Anyone that enters into a relationship and starts setting the terms and conditions of their new partners interactions is definitely not a healthy person to be with!

It's sad times when people are apologizing for not responding within a minute to a text. I have to tell friends to chill out. A text is not going to disappear. We all have other priorities and no one should expect anyone to stop their lives all of a sudden to engage in a conversation out of the blue.

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I have had this conversation with the executives at my job. I love what I do for a living, but when I am not at work, I lead an unplugged life. I don't get on social media much, I am not big on video games (not there is anything wrong with gaming, just not my thing), and I often leave house without my phone. My job isn't saving lives so if someone can't reach me at 10AM on a Sunday, so be it.

May not be relevant but I have a 'dog-park' family and they text EVERYTHING in their life. It's draining. I wait until the end of the day and scan the texts. If it's not important, it's deleted. If it requires a reply, they get it late. Nothing has ever been an emergency and I doubt if it was, they would be texting the dog park group.

Don't leave your phone at home. What if you have an accident?

Folks have totally forgotten what life was like before cell phones. I loved it. Bosses couldn't guilt me into working when they were short handed because the only phone I had was at home. Needy friends couldn't call constantly wanting something. And best of all, when you wanted piece and quiet you could have it without the constant notifications and random phone calls.

I am constantly getting it in the neck for this. I dunno where my phone is most of the time, and it is ALWAYS on silent. 'Why didn't you pick up?' Don't care.

You know there's a do not disturb mode right? It's a little silly to assume your priorities should be everyone else's. I keep my phone on me all the time for the dumb little games I play while waiting an hour for the doctor to see me. Maybe I just don't want to stare at a wall and check out huh?

I wish I could do this sometimes but, I'm a woman. Can't go anywhere without a phone and pepper spray. And my boss may text, needing me to come in that day or the next. It's just not possible for me.

I just stopped answering. Problem solved 👌🏻

I remember the days of not having the "convenience" of immediate communication, and I agree that we don't HAVE to be immediately accessible 24/7/365 just because we CAN be. Ongoing emergencies are an exception, of course, but hopefully those are rare for most people. I do usually have my phone on me, even on a quiet walk (in quiet/data-off mode), just in case.

I keep my phone on me at all times for my safety. Ignoring calls is not a problem, and if need be, I mute it.

Actually I don't always carry my phone on me for those reasons. With all the scary stuff going on in the world these days, I carry it in order for my family to be able to track me in case I go missing. I live somewhere where barely anything happens, but that's what they all say until someone goes missing.

I do keep my phone with me when I'm off alone, in case of emergency. But I never walk and stare at my phone at the same time. It's available in case I truly need it.

I had a (what I thought was a close friend) drop me because I refused to text her every few minutes while awake. It was insane. And I just can't.

I have a type of friend to feel sorry for not texting back right away but that's because their mom taught them that the only reason they're on this Earth is to be the mom's and rest of the family:s toy or punching bag.

This is why our phones are almost always on do not disturb

I agree so much with this.. I like to have some peace from my phone.

I think people are getting better at this. Setting boundaries, giving space and the like.

My phone is for my convenience not anyone else. I'll pick up the phone if I feel like it.

This is why I quit my 2nd to last job. Great hours, decent pay, new company car every 2 years(for personal use as well). But I had to have my work phone on me at all times. 24/7. I'd get calls at 4am expecting me to take care of an issue. I was always so stressed since I never felt like I had a day of in the 7 years I worked there. For months after I left my stomach would drop every time my phone rang. I've had my phone on silent ever since then. It's been about 6 years.

THIS🙌 I can go days without paying a lot of attention to my phone. I keep it with me because I have kids but I won't even look at it.

I had to repeatedly tell my mum to at least switch off sound and maybe even mobile internet during the night. It would also teach people that she is not at their disposal at all hours. I also had friends who complained that someone is waking them up with texts or calls and when I suggested the mentioned above method they were so surprised as it never came to their minds.

Personally it's about a 50/50 chance whether I respond now or a couple hours later

The whole point of a text is you can rrspond at your convenience. If it's urgent call if it's really urgent go/send someone to look for the person.

THANK YOU THANK YOU THANK YOU....AGREE

I have a mobile but it’s rarely on. I wouldn’t have one but my husband is a worry wart and thinks I’m constantly in danger and said keep your phone just in case.

No, I have recently had enough. All that c**p gets turned off a 8pm, back on at 7am. So freaking liberating!!!

5¢? Is that like 2¢ plus inflation?

I feel no guilt leaving my (only) phone at home. It's a landline. lol

We just need to know that you're not dead.

I bring my phone for safety, but never answer calls or texts when it's "me" time

I wouldn't ever be without my phone by choice (for safety purposes) but yeah

Well I keep my phone on me I'm not glued to it 24/7 but if I go for a walk or somewhere I want to make sure I have it on me for emergencies

This is my mother. Thank christ I wasn't born in the 70s or I would have never have any freedom instead of the slim bit I get now. What would these people have done before cell phones? Thought you died each time they called your home and you didn't respond within 30 seconds? Jeez.

Oh my god, my husband threw a fit one day because I was working downstairs and 15 minutes later I hadn't answered the text he sent from upstairs.... asking for tea. He didn't like my answer, and the problem with me is, the more you try to coerce me into doing something, the more I am going to do the exact opposite.

My family and friends know that unless I am using my phone, chances are it's been "put down" aka ignored. If it's an emergency, or they want to get a hold of me asap, they call my hubby if I don't answer lol

Unfortunately for me, I am on call 24/7. That is why after 15 years on this job, I had decided to retire.

Being witht toxic people...tell them to f**k off

Yep, definitely this. I just can't fathom why anyone would give a sh*t about what dress a celeb is wearing, who they're currently dating, etc. Whatever part of the brain that finds that stuff interesting I must just be missing.

My workplace has been under staffed for over a year. I refuse to work extra hours and when im sick Im staying in bed. Whats the point if you burn out and have no energy to do the things you actually like?

This!!! Being related to someone does not grant them permanent space in your life. If they are not good people, you DON'T owe them your time, your forgiveness or your love.

Honestly, it depends. We have organized beggar clans, which get driven into the country in spring and back home in autumn. They refuse any and all help, they even refuse to use the toilets specifically installed for them only they have a key for, and instead s**t on sidewalks and p**s in parks and bike parking spaces instead. I get persecution.

I like living in my own skin!

Nobody understood why I wouldn’t have a big wedding. Between the costs and my MIL thinking it was her special day I talked my husband into a destination wedding with just us. When we got back my MIL had a fancy cocktail party. That was enough.

Good choice!

I’m sorry to break this to you, but you’re hanging out with the wrong people. Unless everyone is drunk, being with drunk people is really boring!

I refuse to go to bars or restaurants where the music is too loud to talk to each other without screaming. I just don't get the point.

This. Companies think they're the most important s**t on the planet over humans. Idc if it's business or what. They're run by humans who've forgotten where they came from and the meaning of what's important. We're not slaves to corporations. We're brainwashed into believing we need them.

Being able to opt in or opt out of hanging out with munchkins is great! I love being Aunt Mary Rose and not Mommy!