I wish I could upvote twice 🤣 brilliant

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Man, I could almost 100% agree, but reading the tobacco free part, na, no thanks mein fur. All the rest is spot on, but if I'm somewhere and want to step out for a smoke, anyone who wants to try and stop me can get a big puff blown right in your judgmental face.

That’s what I didn’t get, no one in the above comments really reacted to that she had just lost her husband?! Maybe she’d have a bit of anxiety leaving what will be her only child by him with anyone else? Or maybe that update was after they posted.

Oh the baby will absolutely be an issue. The whole point of a child free wedding is no children. A 5 month old baby is going to cry, and is going to dictate how loudly people can have fun. A person is NOT a Bridezilla for not wanting other people's children at their event. The issue here is that the sister is whining about OP not coming. If you make a wedding childfree then you have to be ready to accept that some people with children will not come.

Exactly. And it's no wonder that she is anxious about leaving her baby. She has already lost her husband and is still recovering from that. The sister has no empathy apparently. Even if she took the child to the wedding, her sister would never let her live it down if the baby so much as let out a peep.

I still think it's reasonable not to want babies at the wedding but then you must accept that a young mother in this situation either needs an alternative compromise like what the mom proposed to do or can't attend. But it seems the sister is making this into some sort of test of loyalty that is, as usual, completely unreasonable. Of course a young mother's loyalty lies with her child and expecting her to leave her young baby in the care of a stranger for a whole day is extremely unreasonable. The sister should have accepted the offer of her mom

I could agree with a lot of what you said, but saying "at 5 months old, the baby won't be much of an issue." Tells me you've never been around a 5 month old. Not defending bride, but just making the point that a 5 month old will most likely be very noisy and prone to throwing things. If that's not your experience with 5 month Olds, they were either robots, or you were very fortunate!

Yup, can confirm, my sister married when my youngest was 3months old. Slept all through the ceremony, "then friendly interested in her surrounding". Then asleep again. No issue, and no "focus on bride stealer". My biggest problem on this day was borrowing a blouse that fitted me. 🤣.

If i were her sister, i would change the rules to include children, plus i would love time with my Newborn Niece/nephew 😲 and i don't even like kids, but it would make every one happy, if you have the money for an entire wedding, you can afford a chaperone in a separated but nearby area with some child activities like paint and playdough. Why does she not want to see her sisters baby so bad!