I can't imagine getting into such a long, drawn out and pointless exchange. I would have invited them both in to hear what the drumming actually sounded like in the apartment. I would have sent girlfriend plus one of them to hear what it sounded like in their place. End of story. Either there was a problem or there wasn't and that would have solved it.

Neighbors can be so dumb and mean. Mine saw me with an animal in a bag, then days after he complain that my cat peed in the straicase, he smelled cat pee. I don't have a cat i have a rabbit and she don't use the staircase... I tell him that and days after he was complaining that his appartment was smelling rabbit pee. ^^ "you probably smelled your own smell sir" was my only answer to this lunatic control freak. My dog was also barking when i was in vacation WITH my dog, i told him to go quickly see his psychiatrist because it was worst than i thought. "When you smell and hear something that didn't exist it's alarming sir, you may consult your psychiatrist about it". I'm a 1,60m young woman, he's a 60 yo man, he likes to harass people and probably thought it will be easy to annoy me, he harrassed 3 people before me, but he always put his face down when i reply and like cartman his face says "screw you, i'm going home!!!", "don't forget to take your pills grown up man".

Also @boredpanda it's really annoying when the author is repeating word for word what the original poster had written, we don't need to read everything twice... just a short intro would do. Not even necessary in a lot of cases but when reading on a phone, the doubled text is just obsolete. Hope you read this, thanks.

I love a happy ending.

Oh, we had a neighbor like that. Certain that we were the source of every noise. Said it was me thumping on the ceiling. Then accused my typewriter. (I'm old. Pre-laptop era.) Turnedo ut her radiator was banging from air in the old steam heat system. Six months of harassment of us, and it was her own darned radiator. *headdesk*

This poor guy. As a clinically depressed doormat in recovery I genuinely feel for him. I know we're only getting one side of the story, but he seems like a very kind hearted and accommodating person. Unfortunately, those are exactly the sorts of people who are chronically used. I say this from experience. 🙁

I wish my neighbors were as nice as this guy... they just call the cops on my barking dog and we get fines $200...

I had a similar experience. My husband, then boyfriend, lived in an apartment for a few years. He then had neighbors below constantly complain about his TV via notes and management. He wasn't loud at all, and there were neighbors on all sides who could have made noise, too. Management even decided to put up a note stating they couldn't get ahold of him so he could be evicted. They never called, we assume just knocked once. And the door was down the hallway and easy to not hear. Besides...my husband was moving to be closer to me anyway and unplugged his sound system and was visiting me for the weekend when there was another complaint. They claimed they heard car racing games...he didn't own car racing games. But my husband isn't vocal enough to have done s**t about it.

This is why I ignore my neighbors.

I lived under an apartment with 6 kids (in a 2 bedroom mind you) and it sounded like I lived under a playground. I complained constantly and nothing was ever done. I had to move because living under those brats was hell. I honestly think living under noise is more loud than it being beside you. The ground vibrates and it just makes it worse. Definitely not defending his neighbors, they were very selfish and unreasonable at least the writer TRIED to compromise and make peace. The hell spawns I lived under would just get louder out of spite.

I wonder... as an introvert, i got very little tolerance to noise and this fella has a drum kit? My neighbors state that they don't believe that i live in my house as they very rarely see/hear me. Of all the families down my street, i'm the quiet one. Thankfully we got anti-noise patrols that has kept the noise loving extros at bay.... for now. I know that too many people love to cause stress to others regardless our mental traumas and if you tell them to stop hurting us, they just laugh. Guys, my street WILL call the police on anybody who's a noise-jerk. Noise hurts, causes anxiety and can break even the strongest minds, silence does not. I don't see how this guy can deal with the sound of a drum kit.

Make more money and get your own house if you want to play the drums at any time of the day.

50% of the world population are arseholes, so the chance of living next door to one are very high. I know I do.

I would have loved to set times up, him to play his drums and me my music, work with people, man.

If people are like that, then they should give you a schedule of when baby is napping. And that is being EXTREMELY courteous. ONLY in those times you can oblige not to play. If they fail at putting their kid for a nap on time, then that’s on them. The first time that failure as a father came kicking my door, I would’ve called the cops. You let them do whatever they want, didn’t say anything to them, and then posted on the internet. It doesn’t make sense. This whole time they’re thinking that what they’re doing makes perfect sense. What you allow, will continue. It’s 100% on you.

I had upstairs neighbors who had a really impressive stereo system. The bass would literally make the candles on the TV cabinet bounce. I was very polite when I knocked on their door at 11:00pm on a Tuesday (school/work night) and asked them to turn it down. They were very passive aggressive and would crank it up when they LEFT THE APARTMENT in the morning. Constant calls to the mgmt. It escalated into me having to call 911. They in turn called CPS and claimed I beat my kids. CPS showed up one afternoon, after the house had been scrubbed (it still smelled of Pine-Sol) freshly baked cookies were cooling on the counter (I s**t you not) son playing a video game (with no bruising/injuries) and baby daughter taking her nap after having a bath (also sans bruises or injury). I calmly explained why they had REALLY been called. Neighbors were cautioned and fined $500 for filing a false report. They were evicted about a month later. F**k you people.

I am so sorry you had to go through that. I am glad you made it through though and happily playing your drums again. You are such a good person and you did not deserve that treatment.

Establish normal use of your apartment with the landlord with hours, etc. If you tried to be friendly with neighbors and they abused contact privileges, then let them call the cops. Police measure disturbing the peace by whether they can hear the noise in the hall or from outside the building. If a complaint is issued, answer the summons -- ask other neighbors to be your witnesses that there is no disturbance, just normal use. It is up to the complainant to produce evidence of disturbance.

Unfortunately in todays world its better to just move. People with such psychotic issues are prone to violence. Dude could have stabbed you for just playing your tv

I had a neigboring woman 2 doors down coming to my door because the music I was playing in my garden was extremely intrusive to her "experiencing her garden". My wife couldn't even hear what music I was playing from the other end of our garden.... So I told that neighbor that I wouldn't stop playing my music but I admired her attempt to control my life. She never came to complain anymore.

It would always help to have some proof so investing in some "surveillance" might help if the footage proves neighbours are lying. On the other hand, I've lived next door to party loving people who were too intimidating to complain to, so I probably wouldn't be happy having a drummer neighbour but these people have some serious issues and I feel really sorry for the baby. The guy was very courteous and he deserves more respect.

This is the reason I am glad that I live next door to my sister and have pretty decent neighbors. This guy let his neighbors bully him for far too long, but I understand why he tried to be understanding.

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Also, I just found out the authors of this article DID NOT get the original poster's permission to write this!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! NOT COOL

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This story isn't remotely believable I swear people just sit around thinking of ridiculous scenarios