Bored Panda works better on our iPhone app
Continue in app Continue in browser

BoredPanda Add post form topAdd Post
Tooltip close

The Bored Panda iOS app is live! Fight boredom with iPhones and iPads here.

Mom-Of-Three Confesses She Feels Like She’s Wasted Her Education, And Her Honest Letter Goes Viral
3.2K

Mom-Of-Three Confesses She Feels Like She’s Wasted Her Education, And Her Honest Letter Goes Viral

‘I Never Knew Being A Mother Would Be So Hard For You,’ Mom-Of-Three Posts An Open Letter About Her Struggles'I Look Like I’ve Let Myself Go,' Mom-Of-Three Opens Up About Her Struggles To Find Joy In Everyday LifeMom-Of-Three Confesses She Feels Like She's Wasted Her Education, Realizes She Can't Go On Like That'I Look Like I’ve Let Myself Go,' Mom-Of-Three Confesses How She Feels In An Honest Letter, Realizes She Can't Go On Like ThatMother Documents How Daily Chores Got Her Feeling As If She's 'Disappearing Into Nothing'Woman's Honest Post About Losing Her Identity While Being A 'Mom' Goes Viral
ADVERTISEMENT

A few years ago, Kate Swenson started a blog called Finding Cooper’s Voice to talk about her son’s autism. At first, she poured her heart out daily for just a couple of readers. Kate’s sole purpose was talking about her emotions. Over time, however, more and more people started noticing her sincere texts. Now, the mom has over 560,000 followers on Facebook alone.

If you take a look at any of her uploads, you’ll instantly understand why Kate’s blog is doing so well. She perfectly captures not only her own feelings but the reality of being a parent in general. Few can externalize such complex inner experiences as clear as she does. And this entry is no exception. Titled I Never Knew Being A Mother Would Be So Hard For You, it delves deep into trying to understand what it’s like to be a mom.

More info: findingcoopersvoice.comFacebook | Instagram

Image credits: Finding Cooper’s Voice

ADVERTISEMENT
ADVERTISEMENT
ADVERTISEMENT
ADVERTISEMENT

Image credits: Finding Cooper’s Voice

Image credits: Finding Cooper’s Voice

Image credits: Finding Cooper’s Voice

“For me, I am a pretty laid back mom so when I get stressed… it’s really stressful,” Kate told Bored Panda. “Sick kids, deadlines at work and never-ending laundry will do that to a person. I don’t typically have prolonged periods of stress. I would more say they come and go.”

She believes that there are hard moments and even hard days and weeks. But the hard won’t last forever. “So, when I am struggling, I remind myself that this too shall pass. I also really focus on finding joy whenever I can. Meaning, on my hardest days, my nonverbal son may try to say a word or my 7-year-old may score a goal in hockey. I try to focus on those parts. Find the joy in the hard.”

ADVERTISEMENT

Image credits: Finding Cooper’s Voice

At the end of the day, however, all of her struggles are worth it. “I have the best children ever, an amazing husband and a beautiful life,” Kate said. “The boys in my life make it all worthwhile. I know that for a fact. I am a very blessed mom. But as I’ve aged, I’ve learned that saying it’s hard sometimes helps. Admitting to being overwhelmed does, too. It doesn’t make me weak. It makes me real. In fact, I think it makes me a better mom!”

Parents couldn’t agree with Kate more

ADVERTISEMENT
ADVERTISEMENT
Share on Facebook
Rokas Laurinavičius

Rokas Laurinavičius

Writer, BoredPanda staff

Read more »

Rokas is a writer at Bored Panda with a BA in Communication. After working for a sculptor, he fell in love with visual storytelling and enjoys covering everything from TV shows (any Sopranos fans out there?) to photography. Throughout his years in Bored Panda, over 300 million people have read the posts he's written, which is probably more than he could count to.

Read less »
Rokas Laurinavičius

Rokas Laurinavičius

Writer, BoredPanda staff

Rokas is a writer at Bored Panda with a BA in Communication. After working for a sculptor, he fell in love with visual storytelling and enjoys covering everything from TV shows (any Sopranos fans out there?) to photography. Throughout his years in Bored Panda, over 300 million people have read the posts he's written, which is probably more than he could count to.

Justinas Keturka

Justinas Keturka

Author, BoredPanda staff

Read more »

I'm the Visual Editor at Bored Panda, responsible for ensuring that everything our audience sees is top-notch and well-researched. What I love most about my job? Discovering new things about the world and immersing myself in exceptional photography and art.

Read less »

Justinas Keturka

Justinas Keturka

Author, BoredPanda staff

I'm the Visual Editor at Bored Panda, responsible for ensuring that everything our audience sees is top-notch and well-researched. What I love most about my job? Discovering new things about the world and immersing myself in exceptional photography and art.

What do you think ?
Add photo comments
POST
Clavelle
Community Member
4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

It's no wonder she feels this way. With three boys of different ages (one with special needs) a job, and no time for a hobby or night out with the girls? I think being happy living that way would be abnormal. I do agree she may suffer from depression brought on by stress. Talking about what she is going through is important. I hope her husband is supporting her through this. I'm glad she opened up about how she feels; it's a step in the right direction.

E Menendez
Community Member
4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

The real problem is that women are still expected in this day and age to take on the majority of the burden of child rearing. I work in a male dominated profession and seeing them with three kids is way different from the women I work with.

Load More Replies...
Mommyofboth
Community Member
4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

This made me sad. I understand where she is coming from, but I had postpartum depression. Once I had some therapy and got my medication worked out, I finally started enjoying my life. It sounds like she needs to make a plan with either family, friends, or husband and get at least a couple hours a week to herself just to recoup. A little self-care goes a long way and will make her happier and enjoy her children more.

Pittsburgh rare
Community Member
4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

She either overestimated her stamina and her ability to juggle or she was just too naïve to realise motherhood can be tough. Either way, she should be seeking professional help rather than the FB or IG instant and meaningless sympathy. Or that's precisely what she's in for.

Load More Comments
Clavelle
Community Member
4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

It's no wonder she feels this way. With three boys of different ages (one with special needs) a job, and no time for a hobby or night out with the girls? I think being happy living that way would be abnormal. I do agree she may suffer from depression brought on by stress. Talking about what she is going through is important. I hope her husband is supporting her through this. I'm glad she opened up about how she feels; it's a step in the right direction.

E Menendez
Community Member
4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

The real problem is that women are still expected in this day and age to take on the majority of the burden of child rearing. I work in a male dominated profession and seeing them with three kids is way different from the women I work with.

Load More Replies...
Mommyofboth
Community Member
4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

This made me sad. I understand where she is coming from, but I had postpartum depression. Once I had some therapy and got my medication worked out, I finally started enjoying my life. It sounds like she needs to make a plan with either family, friends, or husband and get at least a couple hours a week to herself just to recoup. A little self-care goes a long way and will make her happier and enjoy her children more.

Pittsburgh rare
Community Member
4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

She either overestimated her stamina and her ability to juggle or she was just too naïve to realise motherhood can be tough. Either way, she should be seeking professional help rather than the FB or IG instant and meaningless sympathy. Or that's precisely what she's in for.

Load More Comments
You May Like
Related on Bored Panda
Related on Bored Panda
Trending on Bored Panda
Also on Bored Panda