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Mom Is Puzzled Whether It’s Ever OK To Leave Kids In The Car, Asks The Internet For Advice
Nearly every week on some social media or local news there is either a tragic story of a child left in a hot car or a timely reminder to not do that, supplemented with images of smashed car windows. Particularly if one lives in a hot area, every summer (or winter, if you are in the southern hemisphere,) there are reminders to keep windows open and AC on.
But one mom wanted to hear the internet opinion on when, if ever, it would be acceptable to leave a baby in the car. Surprising no one, thoughts were deeply divided as netizens shared their thoughts, argued, and debated OP’s question.
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But one mom decided to ask the internet about when it would be ok
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The act of driving seems to actually make parents forgetful
While OP was debating scenarios where one could leave a baby in a car, there is a surprisingly high number of cases where a parent, babysitter, or guardian leaves a child by accident. This is so common that psychologists have named it “forgotten baby syndrome,” which is quite descriptive, if a bit unimaginative. Studies indicate that around one-fourth of parents forget there is a child in a car during a drive or when arriving at a temporary destination, like a shop, gas station, and so on. Despite this relatively high number, the actual deaths caused by being left in a car are relatively low, potentially around one hundred a year.
Despite more public knowledge, the incidents of children dying of car-induced hypothermia or heat stroke have actually grown in recent years. Researchers have noted that the implementation of airbags and backward-facing child-safety seats both appear correlated with this increase. Psychologists believe that, without a visual or audio reminder of a child’s presence, parents go into autopilot after parking the car and simply leave and lock it. Of course, this doesn’t include the parents who willingly and knowingly leave children in a car, as only a sleeping baby is quiet and passive enough to not draw an adult’s attention when pulling up to Walmart.
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Car manufacturers and litigators around the world have both started addressing this issue
To combat the former case, some manufacturers are developing devices to remind parents that, hey, your literal child is still in the car. One simple solution is a beeper. The car keeps track of when the backseat has been opened, and the next time the car parks or the front door opens, it goes off. In OP’s example, this would perhaps wake the child, but, depending on where she lives, this could also save his or her life. Other vehicles come with end-of-trip reminders, though it’s easy to see how it could be annoying to hit a button or switch every time one stops the car. The Association of Global Automakers and the Alliance of Automobile Manufacturers, a wonderfully long and grand name, have committed to standardizing some sort of warnings or alarms in the future, while Italy and Israel both already require them in all new vehicles.
All these factors together point to the fact that leaving a kid in the car is, at best, an exception. A hundred or so deaths seem like a low number, but these were all preventable, unnecessary deaths caused by ignorant and irresponsible parents. There might be fringe cases where, realistically, the child will be fine, such as OP’s example. However, her fear of being judged or some sort of emergency responder being called is not only valid but pointing towards a growing awareness of this issue. While in her example, a firefighter breaking her vehicle’s window might be excessive, it’s an overall net positive that people are vigilant of children left unattended in cars and willing to get help.
Understandably, many believed that there were really never any good reasons to leave a baby unattended
While others saw the mom’s point and brought up other scenarios
What do you think ?
Jan Hyde 1 year ago
I'm not a parent so I'm not gonna judge. But when a driver parks and says they'll 'just be 5 minutes' it seems to rarely be true.
StrangeOne 1 year ago
Tbh, I hate that whole "Unless you're a parent, you don't understand..." bs. Not everyone is a parent, but everyone has been a kid. So, we all understand what it's like on that end. I didn't always feel safe staying in the car with the risk of a stranger coming up to the car to try to break in and kidnap me or steal the car, or both. I don't recall too much about being a baby being left in the car, but I do remember that a car that feels comfortable at first can feel sweltering once the engine is off and little breeze is coming in from the barely cracked windows. A short duck into the store from the folks felt like an eternity. So, proceed to spout caution.
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Sonja 1 year ago
I'm from Germany and leaving your kids in the car for example to pay for gas or go to the toilet is perfectly normal here. However, the people who forgot their children in the car and the kids died of heatstroke never planned that. It wasn't negligence or bad parents. It was circumstances and the way our brains work. Our brain creates routines that run automatically whenever a certain trigger is activated. That allows us to do complex operations like driving home without constant stress. For example if you drive home from work, getting into your car and starting the journey home triggers the 'driving home' routine. That's why people forget to get groceries on their way home when they're not usually doing it. Not taking the kid with you means risking falling in one of those routines and forgetting that the kid exists until you come back. And that's how those horrible accidents happen. So I'd not do it
StrangeOne 1 year ago
Exactly, she could think she's going in for one thing, then get completely distracted. Heck, I forget to sign out for my unpaid lunch sometimes, and that's supposed to be a normal routine thing. But I forget because I have 2 other paid breaks where I don't sign out and back in, and my brain may not realize it until I realize I'm on a lunch break and not my shorter coffee break. Like, today for me it hit me hard. I forgot to sign out but I didn't realize it until I was walking back to work. And then I got this feeling that maybe I mistaken my 1st short break as lunch and nearly panicked. That was a weird, time distorted experience. I didn't even trust I knew what time it was. Anyways, that's just another perspective of basically the same thing you're talking about, I think. It's a human error, but when babies are involved it's imperative to try harder to prevent that mistake.
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Jan Hyde 1 year ago
I'm not a parent so I'm not gonna judge. But when a driver parks and says they'll 'just be 5 minutes' it seems to rarely be true.
StrangeOne 1 year ago
Tbh, I hate that whole "Unless you're a parent, you don't understand..." bs. Not everyone is a parent, but everyone has been a kid. So, we all understand what it's like on that end. I didn't always feel safe staying in the car with the risk of a stranger coming up to the car to try to break in and kidnap me or steal the car, or both. I don't recall too much about being a baby being left in the car, but I do remember that a car that feels comfortable at first can feel sweltering once the engine is off and little breeze is coming in from the barely cracked windows. A short duck into the store from the folks felt like an eternity. So, proceed to spout caution.
Load More Replies... Sonja 1 year ago
I'm from Germany and leaving your kids in the car for example to pay for gas or go to the toilet is perfectly normal here. However, the people who forgot their children in the car and the kids died of heatstroke never planned that. It wasn't negligence or bad parents. It was circumstances and the way our brains work. Our brain creates routines that run automatically whenever a certain trigger is activated. That allows us to do complex operations like driving home without constant stress. For example if you drive home from work, getting into your car and starting the journey home triggers the 'driving home' routine. That's why people forget to get groceries on their way home when they're not usually doing it. Not taking the kid with you means risking falling in one of those routines and forgetting that the kid exists until you come back. And that's how those horrible accidents happen. So I'd not do it
StrangeOne 1 year ago
Exactly, she could think she's going in for one thing, then get completely distracted. Heck, I forget to sign out for my unpaid lunch sometimes, and that's supposed to be a normal routine thing. But I forget because I have 2 other paid breaks where I don't sign out and back in, and my brain may not realize it until I realize I'm on a lunch break and not my shorter coffee break. Like, today for me it hit me hard. I forgot to sign out but I didn't realize it until I was walking back to work. And then I got this feeling that maybe I mistaken my 1st short break as lunch and nearly panicked. That was a weird, time distorted experience. I didn't even trust I knew what time it was. Anyways, that's just another perspective of basically the same thing you're talking about, I think. It's a human error, but when babies are involved it's imperative to try harder to prevent that mistake.
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