I thought the same thing as you. That commenter obviously doesn't understand what it's like to be introverted. You have to be prepared for any occasion where you might have to be sociable.

God damned total WORD. Oh, I’m so terribly sorry for not being an extreme extrovert who never, ever have important things to do, just aching to spend my day listening to an uninvited asshòles monologue. I’ve got tasks to perform that needs focus, I’m going to have to seek psychiatric help for that, considering how wrong it apparently is. It “shouldn’t” have to prepare for it? I’m sorry? Tell you what, how about I tell YOU how you should and should not function? Lunatic.

The "look to your own behavior" part made be gag

My husband is an introvert and he is the same. I grew up in a large family and almost never had complete privacy for a day. So initially I didn't understand this and thought he was just being rude and fussy for no reason. But after spending more time with him I learnt that it is necessary to set boundaries and also that introverts operate very differently but it's not irrational, it's just who they are. Like my husband gets anxiety from any spontaneous plan that includes people he doesn't know or haven't talked to a lot.

Same. I was angry. Someone doesn't understand a guest is a guest, you always have to prepare. I don't want anyone dropping by

Glad I'm not the only one commenting on it

Yesssss Anna banana I completely agree! My boyfriend just told me we're going to his dad's Sunday, and still l dont think I'll be mentally ready for it, I love both his parents alot, but I just love being home more, and now we have a 4 month old, so they expect us over alot more or want to come to our house. People who are not introverts will never understand the mental toll it takes on us to even be in public, crowds, and with even people we know.

It feels so good to see I'm not the only one :D

Spending time with people taxes me before and after the interaction. As much as I need to be prepared to socialize, I also need time to decompress and recover from all of that people-ing

I'm only here to comment because of that douche 🙄. I wanted to smack fire 🔥 from that person when I read. Those are always the type to have something to say until it happens to them. Have their personal space and life intruded on every day, oh and the world just freaking ended 🤬

That comment made me furious! MIL is being rude as hell and selfish. OP doesn't have to like her, but even if she did, what the MIL is doing would STILL be wrong.

That was the first thing I wanted to comment on! Thanks for getting to it :)

Thank you. I had the same thought. I really do have to prepare to have guests over. Family or not. It's not easy being around a group of people. The more there are the more I'm hiding in the corner til it's time to go. Or I find a pet to hang out with.

I don't think the problems are only about introvert/extrovert type of personality, but also about personal boundary and activity. No one should assume that other people always have free time to accept and entertain guests. Even if it your family house, it still also their spouse's home.

Thank you also agree with you. I have my mother-in-law live with me and it was the most horrible and pleasant toxic environment I have ever endured since leaving home at 17. I am still an introvert, I have persons, not people and they are only two people who can arrive unannounced: my partner who lives in my building and my best friend who lives in the next village. I do warn them however, that I might not be wearing pants, and I will probably be in bed 🤣

Jesus Christ there are days I have to mentally prepare myself to just be around my own husband and children. There are days that I have to mentally prepare myself just to be around myself let alone another person (on those days I'd rather be a cat lol). I love my alone and quiet time. There are very few people who can just show up at my house without warning, and most of that few aren't even related. Everyone else is required to at least text one of us that they are stopping by, either shortly or at some point in the day if they even want us to open the door.

She's being smacked, no worries.

I cried when my own children came back from summer camp once as I was so enjoying having the house to myself.

The commenter who said that obviously doesn't, or doesn't want to, understand what it's like being an introvert. I am NOT spontaneous. I need at least a few days, or better a week, to prepare myself to go out, be sociable and not want to go home immediately. I do agree with the others who say just keep on doing what you're doing. Heck, I'd go back to bed! Why doesn't she go to the relatives that she's nearby? Maybe they've all gotten tired of her too. She's gonna need some pretty overt tactics to get it through her head.

Same, thank you!!!! I have to prepare, and then I have to got to a quiet room and relax one they're gone. And there is nothing wrong with that!!!!!!!!

Totally totally agree!

I wish I could have been able to say something about that comment i. The original post. I hate when people can’t try to understand the OP viewpoint before commenting bs. I just see that the MIL wasn’t raised properly. Her feelings would have been hurt and she would have been scared to even come over invited. I was raised to respect people and their space. I just pray she finds a solution to her problem.

ESPECIALLY for family

Darling/dear husband, looks likes it's been ripped from mumsnet

How about SO? I searched but don't know what it means