When we’re growing up, our parents make the rules. They assign us chores, set a curfew, and tell us how to treat others. But things can get complicated if we become adults and they still insist on managing our lives.

A couple of days ago, a woman who goes by the nickname Meekotherogue online turned to the subreddit ‘Entitled Parents‘ to vent about her mom.

The lady sometimes visits her, and she’s OK with having her at home; however, the Redditor’s mom started claiming her guest room and calling it ‘her’ room.

Continue scrolling to read the woman’s story in her own words, which accentuates just how important it is to have healthy boundaries. Without them, everyday life becomes more difficult than it needs to be.

Parents like to offer us guidance and support even after we grow up

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But this woman said that her mother should back off a little instead

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Such overbearing parents can be difficult to interact with, but that doesn’t mean they should get a free pass

According to Zoe Reyes, who is a licensed marriage and family therapist specializing in anxiety and trauma, overbearing parents often disregard your need for freedom and self-determination.

“They may frequently dismiss your choices and label them as immature and dumb,” she said. “They may want to exert influence on every aspect of your life, and when you don’t allow that, they make their scorn apparent.”

So what drives such frustrating behaviors as the one Meekotherogue described in her Reddit post?

Anxiety is one probable cause. “Individuals who struggle with anxiety often try to control things within their environment … to feel a sense of control within themselves,” Reyes explained. “The problem with this is that these individuals end up alienating the people around them.”

Another potential reason is fear. “Parents sometimes see themselves in you, catching glimpses of their own personalities and challenges as they watch you live your life,” the therapist continued. “They may be fearful of you making the very same mistakes they did at some point.”

Whatever the explanation might be, it’s clear that Meekotherogue (and others who find themselves in similar situations) need to develop strong boundaries and be assertive.

Setting limits isn’t disrespectful in the slightest. On the contrary, it’s good to draw the line and ask your parents to respect your needs. Licensed clinical social worker and nurse Judith Aronowitz explained that some of the benefits for both sides include:

• preventing resentment;
• creating healthier and long-lasting attachments;
• supporting autonomy and individuation;
• allowing uniqueness and feeling true to oneself.

Hopefully, the author of the text will manage to do it!

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The woman’s confession ignited an emotional discussion on parent-children boundaries

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