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Nowhere on this earth do you expect to feel as safe as in the doctor’s office. It’s where we come at our most vulnerable, looking for genuine help and understanding.

But according to some women on TikTok, this is not always what you find there and they’re now sharing the most inappropriate things they were told by a doctor. The trend started when one TikToker, @kristamackenziee, shared an incident during her skin checkup.

“He was an older man and I was intimidated by him,” the woman recounted and proceeded to talk about taking her shirt off to show him the affected area. At this point, the doctor dropped a comment that left her speechless and made her feel super uncomfortable.

Turns out, she was not the only one having experienced a disturbing comment from a medical professional. So let’s see what other women have shared in response to @kristamackenziee’s question “What is the most unprofessional thing a doctor has ever said to you?”

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20 Women Share The Most Unprofessional And Disgusting Things A Doctor Has Told Them I was 15 when I was raped. I didn't tell nobody but I still went to go get checked with a doctor for std's/sti's but they didn't know that. While they were swabbing me down there I started to cry cause it hurt and I was scared. And the doctor said "don't cry now you're the one who decided to open your legs at 15"

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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Jesus Christ this is what misogyny does to people. They knew better and didn't care

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Bored Panda reached out to Krista Wiseman, a social media content creator and mom of three girls sharing her journey through motherhood with her Instagram, TikTok and YouTube followers. Krista was also the TikToker who got women sharing the most inappropriate things they were told at the doctor's office after she posted this viral video.

“It is very unfortunate, but I think some doctors feel they are 'above' their patients because of their title and their education,” Krista told Bored Panda. “Maybe they feel they can get away with more because of that, or they feel they are entitled to speak their mind because they have worked hard to get to where they are.”

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The author also said that “obviously this isn’t true for all doctors, but I’ve had many bad experiences myself and so have the women who came forward on TikTok!”

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    20 Women Share The Most Unprofessional And Disgusting Things A Doctor Has Told Them My husband and I had a miscarriage within the first year we were together. I was bleeding so we went to the ER. They were like 'there's nothing wrong with you'. I went to the bathroom and ended up birthing our baby in the toilet. I ring the emergency bell. They come in. And they look... they flush the baby down the toilet. I, in shock, walk out to my husband. He says 'what just happened?'. And I', like 'the doctor just flushed out baby down the toilet'. He [the doctor] came in and said 'Well what else were we supposed to do, it was already dead'.

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    #3

    20 Women Share The Most Unprofessional And Disgusting Things A Doctor Has Told Them So I had to start seeing a brand new doctor because I was having a bunch of issues with my skin. Turns out it was psoriasis, but we had no idea what was going on. So I got referred to this new doctor. He was an older man and I was a little bit intimidated by him at first. So the appointment starts and he's asking me all kinds of questions and then he asks to see the rash. And one of the issues I was having was in my armpit. So I was trying to show him like through my shirt. And it was kind of hard to show the whole thing. So I was like, oh, should I just take off my shirt? And this man sits back in his chair and says, yes, excite me. What? I honestly didn't even know what to say at this point. I took off my shirt and I felt extremely uncomfortable. I had a lacy bralette on and this man is just like staring at me. Anyways, after the appointment, my mom ended up going back in and giving him sh*t.

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    Mazer
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    3 years ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Yeeeeaaaah MOM!!! Creepy a-hole doctor, Inappropriate as all get out. no excuses

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    20 Women Share The Most Unprofessional And Disgusting Things A Doctor Has Told Them The doctor that I was going to for my birth control was checking it. And I had mirena (spiral), and I could tell that it had moved, it was uncomfortable, that she needed to check it better. She said, well, let's check it, come in. And checked it. She was like, nope, it didn't move. And I was like, well, how about taking it out? Because I'm having a lot of issues. And she says, no, you don't need any more kids. You're young, you have enough. Then proceeds to tell me after ab ultrasound, oh, no, you really do need it removed, because it moved. So we're gonna get you into surgery. Then, doesn't tell me or the doctor that is performing the surgery that I'm pregnant. And then, after I have already found out that the pregnancy was terminated after the surgery, calls and says, oh, I'm sorry, I didn't realize that you were pregnant.

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    When asked if she’d handle the situation differently now, Krista said that she definitely would if it happened again. “I’ve been making an effort to speak up for myself more, especially if I feel I’m not being treated properly.”

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    “When the doctor made the comment telling me to 'excite him' I think I was in shock, which is one of the reasons why I chose not to say anything. Being a survivor of sexual assault, I froze and didn’t know what I should say or do.”

    Krista said that being in therapy, she learned that this response is normal. “I would hope that if I was faced with the situation again I could gather the courage to speak up and tell him that what he is saying is inappropriate, and that he shouldn’t be speaking to women that way in this professional setting.”

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    20 Women Share The Most Unprofessional And Disgusting Things A Doctor Has Told Them what he said wasn't really unprofessional. It was more how he handled it. Big back story. I was having pain in my pelvis for about a year and a half. Had every test you can imagine. I was referred to the doctor because he was a specialist and knew my family history. I waited a year and a half to see him. He did not review my file. Asked me a few basic questions. In total spent less than 15 minutes with me. Examined me, didn't order more tests. Looked me dead in the face and said: Oh, you're constipated. You just need to take a laxative. And left. Waited a year and a half for that. He did not take me seriously in any way, shape or form. Fast forward to another specialist. She happens to be female. She ordered some tests. I get diagnosed with endometriosis. I'm now on a wait list for surgery. So was the problem that he was a male doctor and it was a female problem, or that I was female and he didn't take me seriously, or that he just didn't care?

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    Ozacoter
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    3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Most doctors dont recieve the sufficient training about womens health. So even female doctors often dont take women seriously. I have endometriosis too and most of the doctors that dismissed me were women :(

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    #6

    20 Women Share The Most Unprofessional And Disgusting Things A Doctor Has Told Them "You aren't married, right? This miscarriage is probably a blessing in disguise, huh?"

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    20 Women Share The Most Unprofessional And Disgusting Things A Doctor Has Told Them It was a nurse. I'm well, I'm sexually active. And I was like, OK, maybe I should get tested for STDs because that's what people who are sexually active do. So I went to a clinic that specializes in STDs and pregnancy, and the nurse looked at me completely disgusted and and said, you should practice abstinence. I'll be praying for you. Then she grabbed my hand and started praying. I never went there ever again.

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    JennyLaRue
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    3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    It's concerning that such a centre would employ someone with those views or not have realises what they were saying to patients.

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    The woman also said that she was surprised to see that so many women have experienced unprofessionalism from doctors. “I wasn’t expecting the TikTok to blow up, or to have so many responses. Something needs to change!”For anyone who’s wondering if a medical professional has crossed the line during an appointment, Krista says: “I think if a patient is uncomfortable in any way during an appointment, a line has been crossed.”

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    Moreover, “If someone comes forward saying they felt uncomfortable, the doctor should take accountability for the situation and apologize and try to learn from it,” she concluded.

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    20 Women Share The Most Unprofessional And Disgusting Things A Doctor Has Told Them OK, so when I was 18, I went to the doctors to follow up on like a bunch of symptoms that I was having. And when I was there, much to my surprise and shock, I found out that I was pregnant. I hadn't considered as an option. And I was 18. So I was understandably shock. So I because I was in shock, I started crying in an attempt to console me. My doctor said to me, don't worry, you are still really early on in the pregnancy. And sometimes this early on, people have miscarriages. And for people like you, that may be a good thing. The fact that I'm a medical professional, I thought it was her place to wish a miscarriage upon me. Anyway, this year, my daughter is going to be 10 and her dad and I are still together.

    shannoona , DebMomOf3 Report

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    Mazer
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    3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I’m glad that you have a wonderful family and a pox on that medical “professional” and I use that term professional very lightly… OK no scratch out professional and just put worker

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    #9

    20 Women Share The Most Unprofessional And Disgusting Things A Doctor Has Told Them I stopped getting my periods at the age of 17. I went to my doctor who said it was because I was fat. I was told this multiple times by multiple doctors at the same hospital. Finally went somewhere else and was told its because I have PCOS. I'm 23 and finally got them back and now working on having my own family

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    TmKhr
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    3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    So unprofessional. You can't blame something like that on being overweight. I'm glad she got the correct diagnosis eventually.

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    20 Women Share The Most Unprofessional And Disgusting Things A Doctor Has Told Them One time I went to go get my blood drawn. [The doctor] was looking at my arm and she ended up saying that she couldn't find a vein prominent enough in the normal spot to draw blood. So she started looking higher up on my arm and she's pressing around and I'm like, you know, that's really weird. I've never really had anyone go up on my arm this far to get blood. And she was like, well, it looks like you've had needles there before. She was like, yeah, you have little needle marks on your arm. I've never used a needle a day in my life. This woman was accusing me of using hard drugs

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    DC
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    3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    ... a bit aside - accusing someone of this already is part of the problem, as this contributes to the stigma drug users have to face. They're not criminal, they're sick. And if they're not addicted, not even that.

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    Except illegal drugs are exactly that, illegal, so those using them are a criminal for that as well as more than likely being a criminal to feed their habit too

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    Robert T
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    3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I've had more needles in my arm than I care to remember. Never once did they go for my upper arm, even after my veins all went and hid after chemo. They have just about recovered 20 years later!

    Mishte Tine
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    3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I have heard from nurses that doctors are notoriously bad at drawing blood - they rarely do it. I did have a doctor years ago who “tried” to do it. After several painful, unsuccessful tries and my blood spattered on me and on her face, she finally gave up. Ugh. Something I recently learned: if you’re getting blood drawn, drink LOTS of water beforehand (unless your fasting and fluids are restricted). My veins like to hide, and it’s really stressful - being well hydrated made such a difference!

    Tazsxp
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    3 years ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Anesthesiologists and ER doctors are quite expert, to be honest. Interns are good too.

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    CatWoman312
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    3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I scar easily and have needle marks on my arm due to all the times I’ve given blood over the years

    Amelia Bedelia
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    3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Same here, I have a little scar from every IV or blood draw I've ever had.

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    Brandy Grote
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    3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I do have "track marks" - because my drs draw blood every 3 or 4 months! 1 arm is pretty scarred, and I always request a "butterfly needle" so they don't go thru the vein entirely!

    Katherine Boag
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    3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Guess what even if you did, it could be from DONATING BLOOD and usually they dont have any trouble getting blood from regular blood donors despite the scarring

    Calypso poet
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    3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    When I was waiting for my turn to get blood drawn for pre-op screening I was getting nervous because I could hear the nurse having a hard time with lady before me. I already get queasy with needles but have very visible veins. As she got a second nurse involved they talked more and it was because the woman was a former heroine addict and they were having a hard time finding a vein. I felt so bad for her. The nurses were really nice to her.

    athornedrose
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    3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    i always have to remind nurses and doctors that i regularly give blood. i know that i've got some marks. i've never done drugs in my life, but when you donate blood regularly, you can get scar tissue in spots that've been used over and over.

    Mazer
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    3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    These people are jaded and they need to stop working with other people that are looking for help. They also need to be reported to the CEO of whatever company they work for or whatever hospital they work for or whatever medical clinic they work for. This sickens me.

    AspieGirl88
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    3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    That’s a disgusting attitude! How dare she presume something like that!! She could’ve been looking at acne scars, FFS!! 🤨🤷‍♀️

    Sue Clasen
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    3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    _You maybe don't know that they are not used to extract blood, nurses do, she was hiding her ignorance.

    Amelia Ashkin
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    3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    This is sad cause I came in to the hospital with Covid. Didn't help that I also had watered down abscess in my lungs. They couldn't find my veins on my left arm. They poked seven times and then blamed me for having skinny ass arms. I took that as insult and a compliment. -because I was chunky curvy gal, and my arms are THICK. Among other things, two years back B4 Covid, I came in with abdominal pain, it felt like I was being shot. They didn't see it as a problem and sent me on my way. Next thing happens.. over the summer. I get kidney stone problems, the nurses are like "oh I'm sorry, I didn't see them"

    Tazsxp
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    3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    You can draw blood from the superficial veins. You just need to reassure the patient and make the situation calm. Sometimes we put catheter in your neck to access your veins that are directly connected to your heart. Of course it can have complications but it has saved countless lives( central lines)

    Stannous Flouride
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    3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I worked in a blood bank as an Army medic and everyone there knew the people you LEAST want drawing your blood or setting up an IV was a doctor.

    Jonathan English
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    3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Well If you get your bloods taken regularly you are going to have needle makes

    Chrissy
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    3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I'm a certified Phlebotomist, I went to school to learn how to properly draw blood. This story sounds made up. Idk about any place else, but, in the U.S., Phlebotomists do all the blood draws. Some times we have people who are hard to find a good vein so we have to think outside the box. I have found little capillary veins that I have had to use a peds butterfly needle with a syringe to slowly draw the blood out. The only time we ever drew from someones foot was with a doctors order because if someone is diabetic, a small needle prick could cause huge problems. Also, butterfly needles are the same size as straight needles...

    Sandra Givens
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    3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    My late husband was an RN and he NEVER wanted a doctor to try to draw blood on his patients. It inevitably ended up badly because hands on things like blood draws are not something most doctors have done outside of medical school, unless they are in a tiny solo practice. Also, if he noticed what looked like needle marks on someone's arm, he wouldn't immediately go with illegal drugs. Is the patient showing other signs of drug use? Are you diabetic? Have you noticed these marks on your arm? How long have you had them? Are they bothering you? Proceed based on the answers you get from the patient. If the patient appears to be a drug user, letting them know that help is available if they have issues with medications or other health concerns and that it is confidential. He was so good at his job, doctors asked for him specifically to care for their ICU patients.

    Aisling Raye
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    3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    IV drug use should have been a question on intake anyway. That being said, she had no excuse to accuse you of anything. She can ask since it's generally important to have that information bc it affects treatment. On the other hand, being accusatory or condescending is incredibly disrespectful, not to mention unprofessional. If it makes anyone feel better at all, I can promise that no one (or at least anyone I know of) in the medical field gives a flying f if you are or are not a drug user beyond needing to know for purely medical purposes. Being a judgmental a-hole isn't part of the job.

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    20 Women Share The Most Unprofessional And Disgusting Things A Doctor Has Told Them I was having really bad stomach pains after I had had my daughter and I went to the doctor to find out what the pains were. They did ultrasounds and all of that stuff. I go back to get the results. The doctor comes in, she she tells me that she didn't see what was wrong. And then she goes, but you do have gallstones. So I proceed to ask what are gallstones, you know, all of that stuff. She tells me the best thing I can tell you is Google it.

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    20 Women Share The Most Unprofessional And Disgusting Things A Doctor Has Told Them My doctor took off his mask and said "I already had Covid I can't give it to you"

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    20 Women Share The Most Unprofessional And Disgusting Things A Doctor Has Told Them I went in for a horrible rash in an area. My doctor tried fighting me saying either I was cheating or my bf was since she said it was an STD.. Ends up I have shingles. I also had a doctor refusing to check out my son's who I brought in with hfm until I answered questions about my income and sex life. Safe to say I just walked out and that clinic closed

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    Mazer
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    3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Unfortunately that doctor is victimizing other people someplace else. These people need to be reported they are horrible

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    #14

    20 Women Share The Most Unprofessional And Disgusting Things A Doctor Has Told Them When I was younger, I went to a checkup with my doctor and just had mentioned that I wish I was a little taller. And a literal pediatrician responded: Men don't date tall women.

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    20 Women Share The Most Unprofessional And Disgusting Things A Doctor Has Told Them I went to the doctor at 17/18 so I could get updated on my vaccines. I need 4. I also got an std test because my narcissist boyfriend at the time had cheated on me. she came into the room with FIVE needles. I asked what the 5th one was. she said it was the DEPO shot! Mind you I was openly against birth control for myself and told her before. she said "I thought you'd be okay with it since you're active" I feel like if I didn't ask she would have given it to me.

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    James016
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    3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    So the doctor was wanting to give you a shot you did not consent to and wouldn't have said what it was if you didn't ask......

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    20 Women Share The Most Unprofessional And Disgusting Things A Doctor Has Told Them I have chronic back pain because of a broken disk. This old doctor told me it's because I'm too fat. I needed to lose weight

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    Valisbourne Spiritforge
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    3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    If you are overweight & female, you can go to a doctor with a broken arm and they have a 50/50 chance of just telling you to lose weight.

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    20 Women Share The Most Unprofessional And Disgusting Things A Doctor Has Told Them I had a miscarriage and was told my only option was a DNC (which now with a new OB I know that I had more options). The OB [messed] up and didn't remove all that needed to be. I got very sick. The excuse was "well you did have a lot of tissue". The a week after she asked me when I was gonna try for another. 3 WEEKS AFTER I MISCARRIAGED

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    Mazer
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    3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    OMG!! It’s so sad that our culture expects us to just blow these horribly abusive people off and continue to go see them and continue to be their patients and continue to be abused over and over and over and over and over again.

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    20 Women Share The Most Unprofessional And Disgusting Things A Doctor Has Told Them Well it hasn't just been one dr, it's been multiple, plus other health care professionals. "It would be easier on everyone if you killed yourself". "If you don't take oral antibiotics we will not admit you for IV antibiotics and are happy for you to die at home", "you are pretty bad at sewer slide, cause if you were good it at you would of succeeded already". "we have given up, you are unhelpable" those are probably the worst that has been said. I have chronic mental health issues and have been in the hospital system since I was 12. These things they have currently been saying have literally broken me

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    #19

    20 Women Share The Most Unprofessional And Disgusting Things A Doctor Has Told Them 1. the doctor was about done, it was just a normal check up and he looks at me and he's like "your eyes are kinda droopy" and I was like "yeah I've been up since 6am" cuz of school. So then him and my step mother start talking about eye lifts!

    2.another check up. So after they do the heart thing ig my heart rate was weird and he asked me (this is a different doctor btw) if I felt anxious and I said "yes" and he was like "no you dont" like you asked if that's how I felt and I said yes, and now you're telling me that's not right like what?

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    The Dave
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    3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Give doctor number one a sock in the eye, maybe he’ll forget about eye lifts.

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    20 Women Share The Most Unprofessional And Disgusting Things A Doctor Has Told Them I went to the hospital because I fainted when I was like in my eighth month of pregnancy. And the doctors told me that I needed to put more ranch or my salads because I had only gained 13 pounds during my pregnancy and they were making a big deal that I wasn't gaining more. So they're like, don't be afraid to put in your salads. My ob-gyn said my weight was perfect

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    Nadine Debard
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    3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Yeah pretty sure ranch dressing contains all the valuable nutriments that a baby needs. Brilliant.

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