Or symptoms aren't easily discernable and expectations are higher than physically able. No, I may not "look" like I'm terminally ill but I AM and I get tired easily.

My grear grandma is 96, still living alone with her dog, going frequently to hang out with my grandma. One of the coolest people I know.

And other peoples lives. When someone's car isn't properly fixed (thanks to misogynistic stereotypes), or will cost more to undo the mistake at best, which can easily deplete many peoples funds, causing a loss in food security and other major resources, and that's at best, at worst the vehicle can break down at dangerous time, literally killing people. The patriarchy is completely illogical and really really sucks.

They have to walk the streets on fear of being attacked, are underestimated by dumb males that pass them up for promotions and raises, are expected to pick up home work, kid rearing and a career, and also need to pluck hairs in weird places, use uncomfortable shoes and NO POCKETS on their clothes. But they're angry because them hormones, amirite? As a man, all I can say is that those of us that say that are idiots with no mothers, born out of a rotten cabbage, apparently.

I really wish some people would just understand that not everyone wants kids. I like kids but I sure as hell don't want any!

As far as sexist double standards go, this is about the worst. 14% of males will be victims of domestic violence at some point in their lifetime, compared to 27% of women. Yes, it's more common for women to be victims, but it's not exactly rare for men to be victims....and when men are victims, they're OFTEN still treated as being the ones at fault. "Well what did you do "make' her hit you?!" And any action a man takes to defend himself in that situation is treated as evidence that he's the one who is actually responsible. It is disgusting.

Whenever I start to talk about how HARD it is to live with OCD+anxiety, I quickly feel like an imposter. As if I am not troubled enough to be talking about my problems.

Gotten this one countlss times, especially in my hometown and parts of London. Because I don't have a stereotypical "Asian accent", I am apparently "acting white" and "have been domesticated". I haven't gotten that one in this town so haven't heard it in years, but yes.

And all Muslims are assumed to be Middle Easterners, but only a minority are.

When first dating my now husband, for about a month, he took a call and started speaking fluent Spanish. Afterwards, I said, “Oh. I didn’t know you could speak Spanish!” He cautiously laughed and asked me what I thought he was and I was still clueless. I said, “my boyfriend???? 🤷🏼‍♂️ “ He clarified ethnic background, and for the first time it actually donned on me that he was, in his own words, brown. I don’t know if it was growing up white in India or living the majority of my life as one of the few white families in a very Latino redlined neighborhood or, most likely, being on the “new relationship” oxytocin high that I just never consciously thought about it. But once I did, it was a paradigm shift. The gay community can be a little catty. I was jokingly teased with race-related jokes about being into Latinos. Which kinda pisses me off. I’m into one person who happens to be Latino. Which isn’t irrelevant, but has nothing to do with my attraction to him.

You need brains to deal with the public.

My husband was a single dad of 3 under-5s when we started dating. It used to irritate him how often people (always an older woman) would make comments like "giving the wife the afternoon off?" or "nice to see the man babysitting for a change." When we went out as a group in the very early days, he generally did things like take the kids to the bathroom, or cut up their food, and we inevitably got comments (from old ladies) like "well done, you've got him under your thumb" Dads don't babysit their own children, they parent.

As a dad, I found this incredibly frustrating. Sometimes they are present in men's rooms, but not often. I would have to either change my baby in the car, or improvise with my jacket or something to put her on the floor, during good weather I would do it in the grass in a pinch. We did have a mat, but that doesn't make it wast on a floor, and as a parent, we know you don't always leave with everything you need. Changing stations are awesome. There were times I debated going in the women's bathroom when it seemed no one was there. I never really understood. What dad these days refuses to change their baby? And on that note, was there a time when men just didn't take their babies with them alone? Would only do so with their moms or other caretakers like a nanny? Nannies must have been super cheap back then or else men just didn't. Which like many things past, is disturbing as hell.

Older I get, the more liberal I get.

"All muslims are terrorists". Bah. One of the kindest, gentlest, and most delightful men I've ever known was a devout muslim. We had a Christmas decorating competition at work a few years back, and he was very keen to help. "But you don't even celebrate Christmas!" I said to him. "No, but I celebrate decorating!"

Of course "Calorie In" is NOT the number of calories that are in the food that you eat, but the number of calories that your body derives from the food you eat, and that is dependent on a multitude of factors, of which individual physiology is a major one. "Calories out" is predominantly determined by a person's physiology, so the only way that a person can know how many calories they burn in an activity is to measure their own CO2 output throughout the activity. Finally, fat is the body's reserves, it's long-term saving account. A person's body will only start burning through fat only when it has gone through other energy sources, and again, physiology is critical - some people's bodies will start burning fat relatively early, while others have bodies which will resist drawing on their fat reserves. Finally, a person's body will try and keep a status quo, so when a person who loses weight fast, their physiology will be switched to a "we need to go back to where we were" mode.

This site (and many others) are god awful about conflating introversion with social anxiety. The two are not the same thing, speaking as someone who has/is both!

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This old person begs to differ, thank you.

It's not that all American black women are angry. It's that they all have a right to be.

It's not about the drink, its about the craic. Now, pass the drink.

I suppose people assume that anyone smart will necessarily want to move up the corporate ladder.

Very sad, actually. My elderly friend is a retired school teacher and he is uncomfortable engaging with children now.

Sure, not all women are bad drivers....but then there's my younger cousin. Got her license at 18, and proceeded to TOTAL 10 cars before the age of 25 (with who knows how many minor incidents in between) One of which involved the car doing 90mph on the highway, and flipping SEVEN times. During one of the less serious incidents, her car was being repaired....but she was in college and "needed" a car, so she rented one. Drove to school, parked the car, went to class and "lost" it. As in she couldn't remember where she parked it. Her solution? RENT ANOTHER CAR TO LOOK FOR THE RENTAL SHE LOST! Not to call the rental place and have them use the GPS to locate the car....noooo. It took her TWO weeks, of paying for TWO car rentals to find the "lost" car....and what happened when she found it? She got out of the second rental, into the first, and drove off. And....forgot about that second rental car for a full MONTH while it continued to rack up charges on her father's credit card.

Just because I'm bilingual doesn't mean I'm good with languages.

But we are all glamorous. It simply doesn’t define us nor is it what primarily makes up our character & personality. Now, if OP had chosen another stereotyping word bedside “glamorous,” I maybe ready to do battle.

Threesomes are way too much effort and attention. Ditto for orgies

Or they're a dei hire

Sorry to anyone named Karen but this is how slang works, finding a shorthand instead of saying someone is crazy, rude, inconsiderate, selfish, arrogant, entitled and dramatic you save time by saying one word that everyone recognizes as all those things. Same as when a someone's called a Chad.

You can have talent, you can practice, but don't discount talent. Some people can practice forever, but without talent, it just falls flat. Like music without heart. Art without soul. Dancing without feeling. When talent is lacking, ing it is noticeable

I’m Indian, I cant dance either. I also dont speak like Raj. Nobody does.

Not you, just the trumpanzees!

Or if they drop out. I dropped out of medical school, I couldn't mentally handle the pressure of someone's life in my hands so I backed off or I probably would have been very ill. Even though I now have a Masters in a different subject, some members of my family still consider me lazy or useless for dropping out for my own health.

The idea that guys are studs for having a lot of sex and women are sluts if they do is one of the most annoying and obvious double standards we have.

Or that we're emotionless robots who are also geniuses. And also there are no autistic girls.

Sure... french, italian and spanish food are definitely bad...

They think the kid is a potential shooter and then proceed to bully said kid. Darwin would be proud if he wasn't sickened school shootings are even a thing.

"It's the quiet ones you have to watch". As a generally quiet person, no it's not BUT I personally am a pretty good person watcher and I can tell you who you do need to watch cos I'm peacefully taking it all in and staying the eff away from the trouble.

I blame 90s TV for that one. It certainly taught me that exact bad lesson.

Henry Cavill is a HUGE nerd, and has the credentials to prove it. He refused to act as the lead in the Witcher TV series unless they followed the book. When the new producer wanted to go a different direction that didn't conceptually follow the books, Cavill quit. He only came back because they promised that they would continue to follow the books. There is, truly, nothing more nerdy than demanding that a TV series/movie of a fantasy book match the book itself.