Becoming a mother is a tough thing. Your whole life changes in an instant. Your friends and family start visiting to see the baby, not you. The life you had before having the baby feels like a distant world. You, as the person you were before being a mom, are different now – and we're not just talking about the pre-baby body.

Even though taking care of your baby can be all-consuming, it's vital to make time for yourself during this transition so you don't forget who you are. Motherhood can be overwhelming, but you can maintain your sense of self by following these tips.

The first step in understanding your identity as a mother is acknowledging that you're not the same person you were before having a baby. Your priorities, schedule, body, and emotions change permanently from the moment your baby arrives. Recognize that it will take time to reconnect with yourself, and be kind to yourself as you discover the "new" you.

Instead of dwelling on the loss of your former self, view this transition as a fresh start. Motherhood is a transformative journey that can lead to significant personal growth. When you have a baby, you become an immediate role model. Focus on becoming the kind of person you want your child to admire.

There's nothing quite as challenging to your self-identity as spending every day with a little one who can only express themselves through cooing and crying. Motherhood can sometimes feel incredibly isolating, so it's essential to connect with other adults to combat the loneliness that often comes with new parenthood.

 Make an effort to spend time with your friends without your baby, or invite them over for a chat after the baby is asleep. Allocate time with your partner to discuss topics other than your baby. If it seems like you have nothing to talk about beyond the challenges of parenting, consider listening to the same podcast or reading a specific online column so you always have a reliable conversation starter.

We understand, it might seem overwhelming to consider making time for a hobby or passion right now, but returning to the activities that defined your identity before becoming a parent can help you adjust to your new self more smoothly. 

Having a creative outlet, whether it's drawing, photography, writing, or cooking, can increase your happiness and add some variety to the daily routine of changing diapers and being available around the clock. Even if it's as simple as adding a pinch of cumin to your tuna salad or jotting down "I MADE A HUMAN!" repeatedly in a notebook, a small dose of what makes you unique can set you on the right path.

When your every waking moment is dedicated to caring for someone entirely reliant on you, it's simple to overlook self-care. Nonetheless, attending to your own needs is one of the most effective ways to adapt to your evolving identity. Daily showers, a bit of exercise, nourishing meals, and the occasional application of makeup can serve as reminders that you are also worthy of care and deserving of it.

We get the challenges, whether you're a mom or mom-to-be. We hope these tips prove helpful, and always remember that you're only human, and it's okay to take care of yourself too. If you're in the mood for more mom-life-inspired humor, be sure to check out our earlier posts for a good laugh and a sense of camaraderie!