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Dad Demands Daughter Invite Friendless Sister To Sit With Her At “Popular” Table, Mom Intervenes
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Dad Demands Daughter Invite Friendless Sister To Sit With Her At “Popular” Table, Mom Intervenes

Dad Demands Daughter Invite Friendless Sister To Sit With Her At “Popular” Table, Mom Intervenes16 Y.O. Doesn’t Want Her Younger Sis At “Popular Table”, Parents Fight Over The Right Thing To DoMom Says Daughter Must Make Her Own Friends, Not Intrude On Sister’s Circle, The Net ReactsMom Asks If It's Wrong To Not Make Popular Daughter Responsible For Younger One's Social Life“Needs to Make Her Own Friends”: Dad Thinks Daughter Should Help Her Younger Sis, Mom DisagreesMom Asks If She’s A Jerk For Not Demanding Her Teen Invite Younger Sis To “Popular Table”Mom Doesn’t Want To Force A Teen To Help Her Younger Sister Make Friends, Dad Is FuriousMom Refuses To Force Older Daughter To Invite Younger Sibling To The 'Popular Table'Younger Daughter Wants Older Sister To Take Her Under Her Wing, Mom Refuses To Force ItTeen Refuses To Invite Shy Sister To Sit With Her At The “Popular” Table, Mom Supports This
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Have you ever looked at your sibling and thought ‘how could we possibly be related?’ Well, know that you’re not the only one. In fact, the experience is so common that it even attracted the attention of scientists who got curious enough to look into it.

After some tests, researchers found that while physically and intellectually siblings are quite alike, personality-wise only 20% of siblings are similar. So, no surprise your brother or sister is an academic genius while you are drawn to art. It’s just nature taking its course.

In the following story, the two sisters have vastly different approaches to socialization. One is a popular girl, while the other is more of a loner. Scroll down to see what kind of problem they’ve encountered and why their parents found themselves at odds trying to solve it.

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    Sister relationships can be complicated, especially when both are teens

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    The good thing is that when they’re young, parents can step in and try to mediate. But should they? This is what the following story is all about

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    Image credits: Antor Paul (not the actual photo)

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    Losing a friendship can be really tough on anyone, especially a teenager

    There seems to be a few issues at hand in this situation. First is the fact that Emily is going through a break up with her friend. This is an emotional time that can make a person very vulnerable, especially a teen. Maybe having lunch on her own really triggers Emily’s negative feelings. After all, the author notes that Emily is “super upset” specifically about eating alone.

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    That is why it is very important for the loved ones to show empathy in whatever ways they can. That usually involves sitting down, talking, and offering ways to support them through resolving the conflict and/or moving on.

    Talking out feelings might help to reach a compromise

    This is where the second issue comes up: the older girl, Cindy, doesn’t seem to be worried about what her sister is going through. Sure, being told what to do can seem a little invasive, but if Cindy is aware of how her sister feels and cares about her feelings, offering to sit together should be a no-brainer. So, why is she so reluctant to help?

    Well, we don’t really know. One thing that the author doesn’t elaborate on is why Cindy is so against the idea of eating with her sister. Is it because she’s popular and her sister is not? Or is it something more specific, such as her friends discussing a lot of personal matters at lunch? Or maybe there’s something going on between the sisters?

    Whatever the reason, it seems like the parents need to dig deeper and find the root of the cause. Once that is cleared up, they can come to a temporary compromise that would satisfy all sides for a little while. After all, once Emily processes the hurt of losing a friend, there’s a high chance she will move on and won’t need additional support during lunch.

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    Commenters shared their thoughts and reactions

    Some people believed the mom is not a jerk for taking her older child’s side

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    Others thought she’s gone too far and should instead support her younger daughter, who’s obviously struggling

    There were also people who thought no one’s actions have redeemable qualities in this situation

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    Agne Steponaityte

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    Lou Cam
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    1 year ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I was the lonely teenager eating lunch on my own. Forcing the popular kids to eat with you would just be opening yourself up to bullying (expecially with girls). Best to try and find your own introverted friends or stay lonely really.

    Shark Lady
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    1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I can't believe there are people voting YTA, they either had a great high school experience or didn't have younger siblings. Forcing the younger sister on the older sister would be detrimental to their relationship and probably make her loneliness worse as she would know that it was a pity invite.

    Skulls.N.Succulents
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    1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    For those who voted YTA and saying the older sibling needs to "look out" for the sad younger sibling.. those ppl are crazy. The older sibling didn't cause the younger sibling to "lose" her only friend. The older sibling will not be there to help the younger sibling navigate her classes, social life and the rest of her years in high school. The older sibling is an individual with different interests and a friend group that probably wants nothing to do with the younger sibling. This isn't a 10 year old taking a 7 year old bike riding or letting them play video games with them and their friends. This is the equivalent of holding a 14yr old's hand while crossing the street but then waking in the other direction when you successfully cross the road every time. It's pointless and doesn't benefit either party. She would be sitting at the table with people but feeling just as alone as ever because she was brought there and then ignored.

    BlackestDawn
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    1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Fully agree, and to expand a bit on this. All those people seem to also judge this by what they themselves would do as is evident by almost all of them saying something like "I wouldn't do that (to my sibling)". So effing what, they aren't the same person and obviously don't think in the same way. To me that shows they are the ones lacking empathy since it looks like they can't really relate to either of the girls here, probably because they think back to the time they were teens and don't understand how the social settings have changed since that time.

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    Lou Cam
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    1 year ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I was the lonely teenager eating lunch on my own. Forcing the popular kids to eat with you would just be opening yourself up to bullying (expecially with girls). Best to try and find your own introverted friends or stay lonely really.

    Shark Lady
    Community Member
    1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I can't believe there are people voting YTA, they either had a great high school experience or didn't have younger siblings. Forcing the younger sister on the older sister would be detrimental to their relationship and probably make her loneliness worse as she would know that it was a pity invite.

    Skulls.N.Succulents
    Community Member
    1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    For those who voted YTA and saying the older sibling needs to "look out" for the sad younger sibling.. those ppl are crazy. The older sibling didn't cause the younger sibling to "lose" her only friend. The older sibling will not be there to help the younger sibling navigate her classes, social life and the rest of her years in high school. The older sibling is an individual with different interests and a friend group that probably wants nothing to do with the younger sibling. This isn't a 10 year old taking a 7 year old bike riding or letting them play video games with them and their friends. This is the equivalent of holding a 14yr old's hand while crossing the street but then waking in the other direction when you successfully cross the road every time. It's pointless and doesn't benefit either party. She would be sitting at the table with people but feeling just as alone as ever because she was brought there and then ignored.

    BlackestDawn
    Community Member
    1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Fully agree, and to expand a bit on this. All those people seem to also judge this by what they themselves would do as is evident by almost all of them saying something like "I wouldn't do that (to my sibling)". So effing what, they aren't the same person and obviously don't think in the same way. To me that shows they are the ones lacking empathy since it looks like they can't really relate to either of the girls here, probably because they think back to the time they were teens and don't understand how the social settings have changed since that time.

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