This is my hill to die on this year. For the last 27 years, I have been the one to make them out, address and post them (2 batches....the ones for in the states, my side in Nov and then another batch for the UK in Dec...his side, plus the children's friends and his work mates). This year I decided to not do them. Hubs asked when I was doing them and I said I'm not. If he wanted to send Xmas cards, he was more than welcome to do them. I've done the ones for our kids and that's it. He's done 2....2! I'll be damned if I'm gonna get strong armed into it for another year.

Not just no cards, no presents either. WHY beat yourself up finding "the perfect gift", blowing your budget for the next two months, etc., just for something that people will get a refund or exchange on or throw in the garbage? The only people you should buy things for are family and friends poorer than yourself. And for them, something like a $100 or $200 gift card for a supermarket or department store near them will do a LOT more than some lousy "present". That's the alleged point of the pointless December "holiday" that imitates the winter solstice celebrations, helping those worse off than yourself.

Plenty of charity cards available. You can buy postage online.

You don't have to go through all of that c**p and crazy expense of pictures. Go to a store and buy a box or 2 of Christmas cards that you like and mail them like normal people. I mailed mine early last week.

Misleading tittle. Buying a box of cards, stamps, addressing and mailing them would take a couple of hours at best. Something the wife or husband can easily do . This woman is talking about taking a family photo for a Christmas card which is a whole process. Honestly did we need some idiotic Tik Tok about this.

I stopped doing Christmas cards many many years ago...waste of time and money...merry Christmas and all the best for the new year...very few people will get a card from me, my nearest and dearest will if I won't be seeing them, or be able to phone them. Prefer to catch up over a coffee/wine/beer, or a phonecall, and wish them and theirs all the joy if Christmas.

I've done them for years, but this will probably be the last year. It costs so much to mail them and the USPS takes forever to get them delivered. I send out around 25 per year and get back maybe 4. The remainder of them are the smart ones, they send text messages, lol.

I think too many of you focus on how complicated she makes it sound and forget that he is free to take another mental load, find an easier solution, and organize it. She is not responsible for finding an easier solution for doing something she doesn't want to and doesn't have to do. She says it's the way she did it in the past; that's too much for her, and she doesn't want to be the one doing it this year. She is not saying, "I forbid you to do it!". Also, if I were her and for years organized this very professional session only to hear from my husband that it's nothing, I would explode.

My wife and I used to do a couple dozen until about 10 years ago. Then the older generations died out and the younger folks preferred text. When we did it, we did nothing fancy. A box of cards, handwritten notes, and best wishes. We did it together. Took two hours max and was a good cold, rainy/snowy day activity

Everyone saying its easy is only acknowledging photos/card part. The real nightmare is the addresses. People move and don't tell you, you realize you don't have others' new address, etc. Every day after the day you send them out, one or 2 or returned to sender for various reasons. Or maybe that's just me, trying to send them to every family member and family friend. I quit sending out those and thank you cards 4 years ago, no regrets. If my husband doesn't have silly little customs that suck up his free time just to keep him in good standing with petty old aunts, neither do I.

She really could have told him pretty much the same thing without being so condescending about it. "Why don't we do Christmas cards?" "Because they're a lot of work and a lot of money and in my opinion, it's not worth it." There we go. But handling disagreements like an adult doesn't get you your precious clicks now does it

I don't do cards; I just sent out Christmas photos. Saves money and I had fun editing those pictures.

Or you can just buy a box of cards, no photographer needed. There are also places that let you upload photos and order prints. Obviously still work, but the idea that Christmas Cards automatically means hiring a photographer --- well tell me you have wealth without saying it, because most people can't afford that.

I like sending cards, but if my husband doesn’t get me the addresses for his family they just don’t get one🤷‍♀️

Since 2006 with my (now as of 2015) husband I would make a goofy Xmas card with our cats and sometimes our faces an use my printer and mail them out. He loved it. Made suggestions diff years. Etc. and then I learned I could send my edit to the drugstore to pick up or have mailed to me. Nice. Now I do photoshop freelance. Messed up pic? I'll try to edit it back whole or salvage it. But I enjoy taking our heads and the cats an putting them into stupid things. One year was the Brady bunch. One year a baseball team. One year one of those toy manger settings. Last year tho he wants me to make it look like the cats were popping out of gifts. He wrapped boxes. Posed the cats. Made me take pics. It was cute editing them all into one shot. I think he forgot tho I could edit in the boxes too but whatever. So this year I picked. The Addams family. Everyone buy itt an gran mama were accounted for. I mailed them out an get great responses. Makes me happy.

I love that they sort of snuck in that its under 24 and over 65 who "love" xmas cards.... you mean the people not working, juggling family and responsibilities, not the ones doing the cards in fact... those are the people who love them....

I don't do cards - haven't for a while since I realised most of them can't be recycled due to plastic and glitter. My family all feel this way.

Completely unrelated but John Harrison's snarky remark pretty much describes what my brain would be telling me, because of ADHD + executive dysfunction. ;-)

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This lady's "mental load" for making cereal in the morning: "First you have to open the cabinet. Then you have to grasp a bowl and lower it to the counter. Then you have to turn and face the refrigerator. Then you have to walk over there. Left foot, right foot, left foot. It's EXHAUSTING. Then you have to grasp the fridge handle and pull it. Then you have too look, with your eyeballs, and locate the milk and grasp THAT. At this point, I'm barely halfway done. My dopey husband has no IDEA what a mental load is involved with this."