Sanitize my a**e

If the mother can "sanitise" the money so can the daughter.

I'm sorry to have to tell you this, but your mom is just greedy. Your suggestion of donating to charity is a very good one: kudos to you. In that way, something good will come of it. Why do you think the money was left to you in the first place? It could well be that your aunt had an inkling that your mother was just jealous and disguised this by feeding her moral horse. Listen, donate some money to charity, do it anonymous and then use the rest for yourself. I'm sure the money will be well-spent: you don't seem like the kind of person who will let money go to their heads. Enjoy it! That's the best use. As for 'sanitizing money': just tell your mom there is no such thing, but she already knows, of course. Stand firm and good luck!

TAKE THE MONEY AND RUN!!!

The mum is a giant hypocrite and fake Christian. OP should absolutely keep the money.

Any decent mother would be glad their daughter had received such a boost in life, rather than being jealous.

Really? A 26 year old needs to turn to Reddit to get to know what she should do?

How infantilized is OP? She's 26. She can't make an obvious decision without approval from mommy? She has to do what mommy says? Mommy wants that money all to herself. This is ridiculously obvious. Also, in case OP sees these replies, that big yellow thing in the sky is the sun.

'Religion' says you can't - but the local church will gladly accept it ... and definitely her greedy mum, who I hope she refused to give it to.

"Define 'sanitize' for me, Mom. Oh wait, if I give it to you, your very presence will make it clean, right? Uh huh. Not happening, Mommy Dearest. End of discussion." NTA.

Mom doesn't approve of aunt's profession, won't shut up about it. Aunt dies leaving large sum to neice and none to mom. There is a message there, pay attention. Keep the money and find a friend your own age.

Money is evil, give it to me. I will sanitize it....by spending it all on myself.

This sounds made up. Also, there isn’t really a dilemma here. If your mother or best friend truly advised you to turn away 700k, then they aren’t looking out for your best interests and obviously they don’t care for you. But we are to believe the mom didn’t just say “you can’t accept that money” but also said “you have to give the money to me”? And the OP doesn’t know what to do? I call BS.

Does mummy not realize that the $1 bill in her purse has touched a strippers boobs and nuts before she paid for her Starbucks with it? Currenct is the FILTHIEST thing we touch on a regualr basis. Not because of gambling, but because it's been rubbed on privates, paid for sex, paid for d***s, been vomited on, been rubbed with bodily fluids, paid for d***s, and possibly even paid for murder. Tell mommy to sanitize ALL of HER money first, and let you worry about your money.

Oh, so it's dirty money, but not so dirty that SHE can't use it, heh? HA HA HA HA HA HA HA HA HA HA HA HA I don't care how she wraps it up, your dearest mom wants the money for herself and is trying to guilt you into stupidly giving it up. If your aunt had wanted your mother to have any of it, she would have drawn her will accordingly. Accept the money, pay off your student debts, buy a house etc, and invest the rest. DON'T share it with family, esPEcially mom, as nothing you give her will EVER be enough. I mean, hey.

Her mother is not her best friend, she's a manipulative, jealous and greedy nightmare. I hope the daughter sees the light, takes the inheritance and lives her best life with financial security. Imagine being a "loving mother" and wanting to deny your own child financial security!

Nope! Your mother is an opportunist who is using her ideology as a paycheck. . . or misunderstands the concept of money laundering. In any case, shut it down. If you want to be diplomatic, maybe tell her you've enlisted an [insert clergy here] to bless your good fortune thanks to her concerns, but there's nothing to worry about now.

You and mum are "best friends"? Sounds more like you are trying to be the "best friend" than she is..."Sanitise" the money? With what, bleach? I don't think so, babe. Sounds like mum is trying every trick in the book to get her hooks into the money. If she does, you're cooked. You're 26 years old? Tell "mummy dearest" to f*** herself and move out. You ARE an adult in 99.9% of the world's cultures. Move in with auntie if you have to or if you can. Mum is showing you exactly who she is with all of this...listen to her.

Take the money. Tell money you donated it all. Then use small amounts to pay off bills. Get a used car that's nice but not flashy. Pretend you got a raise at work or a bonus an buy mom something. Wait a few years a get a small home you can flip later an upgrade but deff don't tell her or let her get into your finances. Make sure those stay private.