Have you ever had someone look at you with so much confidence only to suggest that they might know you better than you know yourself? You’ve probably been there, whether it’s your parent telling you which career path suits you or your best friend insisting that you’re secretly in love with someone — even though you’ve never even considered it.

Despite today’s Original Poster (OP) insisting that he’s straight, his mother is convinced that he’s just hiding it. However, things took an interesting turn when she revealed that she already shared with her friends that he might just be scared to come out.

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Sometimes, very innocent interactions could potentially snowball into awkward misunderstandings

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The author’s mother assumed he was gay due to his close friendship with his best friend, despite his insistence that he wasn’t

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He was then shocked when his mother revealed that she had told her friends otherwise because she needed advice on how to support him

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The author snapped at his mom for doing that and is now wondering if he was a jerk for doing so; however, he just wanted to avoid any awkwardness

The story kicked off innocently enough. The OP’s younger sister, reading a book, had asked him what a “Greek god” looked like. He simply replied that it usually refers to someone “muscular and handsome.” However, his mom overheard this exchange and gave him a look.

Later, the OP’s mom confronted her son, asking if he had feelings for his best friend. This revealed that she had harbored these suspicions for some time. Taken aback, the OP assured her they were just friends and that there was nothing romantic between them.

His mom didn’t believe him, though, saying that the way they behaved around each other had to mean they had something going on. To this, the OP asked that she stop reading too much meaning into things. However, her response took the situation to the next level.

She admitted she had already told some of her friends that her son might be gay but was too nervous to come out. The OP snapped at his mom for doing that because it would lead to awkwardness.

The OP was particularly worried about how this might affect his chances with the daughter of one of those friends—a girl he hoped to ask out. His mom defended her actions, explaining that she only shared her suspicions with her friends to get advice on how to support him.

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According to Doctor Nerd Love, the pressure put on by social expectations, however, has created a dilemma for male friendships. With less allowance for emotional intimacy, oftentimes, guys are reluctant to open up and be emotionally vulnerable due to fear of not being taken seriously.

And so, whenever a close male relationship appears, it is seen from a romantic perspective. Whereas, it is, in fact possible for men to have deep platonic feelings toward each other without any feelings of romance.

In fact, Greater Good affirms this by stating that “the amount of hidden social pressure that exists on how a man should interact and be in friendship may be one of the reasons why many men do not have deep relationships with one other” as there are rigid ideas of how men should behave.

Research shows that today, men have fewer social connections among each other than in the past, with just 27% reporting at least six close friends in 2021, a significant drop from 55% in 1990.

Based on this research, they go further to explain that male friendships are very crucial as they come with benefits that go beyond emotional support. Spending time with male friends can help reduce stress and build resilience, which contributes to better health and potentially extending lifespan.

Some netizens expressed confusion over the mom’s faulty reasoning and assumptions about the OP’s sexuality, with one stating, “So a male saying ‘muscular and handsome’ makes them gay?” while others pointed that she was probably projecting.

Others took a more critical stance, suggesting the OP’s reaction was overly defensive, stating the mom’s intentions were simply rooted in concern, not malice.

The OP was upset at his mom, however, she says she was just worried. Do you think the mom’s assumptions were harmless, or did she cross a line by sharing them with her friends? We would love to hear your thoughts!

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Netizens share mixed sentiments about the situation as some believe the mother was wrong while some believe the son was being overly defensive

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