NTA. Kids aren't stupid, and they understand hierarchy very well. And she thought that she was hierarchically above the sitter, which defeats the whole point of having a sitter in the first place. The mum was right to correct her daughter, because judging by her reaction, she could have evolved pretty fast into the worst kind of entitled, pretentious, and disrespectful person.

Anything else would be a lie, and a total fabrication. The sitter quit because of the daughter’s behavior, and no other reason. The daughter behaves that way on her own, because it seems obvious the mom and dad are trying to raise her not to be that kind of person. It is the daughter’s fault and I don’t think she should forget it.

The mother handled the situation perfectly. As time passed, the daughter started to understand that her actions have more consequences than she imagined. " Wow, because of me the babysitter left and now I can't go swimming anymore." I'm sure she got the message and will be much more careful in her interactions with other people in the future.

If kids aren't mini-adults, how come this girl is already a mini-Karen?People who say "she's just 6 yo, she doesn't understand anything" conveniently skip the part where the kid claims to be "a boss" and promises to "get the sitter fired". Now, when she actually made her sitter quit, since she's such a big boss, she certainly can hire a new one, right? Kids should learn about the consequences of their actions, the mom is NTA.

As a vet I see too many parents, usually mothers, with their children out of control and their dog out of control and no discipline at all, no boundaries at all sometimes. It's a nightmare. One vet I worked for years ago ended up screaming at the mother 'Get those f**king kids out of here', it was that bad. Another one had her kids running everywhere and one jabbed itself with a needle. There was harm done, but of course, in her eyes, it was my practice's fault for her not controlling her kids. Kids need boundaries and to be taught how to behave, otherwise they end up with no social skills and no friends.

Im a mum of two and I am firmly in the NTA camp. At 6 years kids are perfectly capable of understanding what kindness looks like. They are also perfectly capable of understanding that actions have consequences. Sometimes we have to let them experience how those consequences affect them personally. The child was given plenty of oppertunity to treat her sitter with respect with no effect and the reality of the situation presented a very valuable teaching moment. Good on you mum.

NTA if she is old enough to be act entitled and snotty, she is certainly old enough to learn consequences. Besides, mum has lectured her twice before and it didnt work.

Kids learn best at young ages, so "but she's only 6" is complete BS. My kid is 5 and autistic, and understand how to respect someone perfectly well. That kid is a brat, simple as that, and deserves to be punished and hopefully learn to overcome bratty behavior before it's too late.

And she's NTA by the way. The daughter was old enough to consider herself the boss of the babysitter. Then she's old enough to understand the consequences of her behavior. This was a very good example of a teachable moment. This is called nipping in the bud. She's probably stopped that bratty, entitled behavior from becoming worse in the future.

NTA

"We pay her, so I'm her boss." like whoa whoa whoa, pump your brakes, lil mama, your parent's pay her, you don't pay anything, yikes! I think the consequences (not being able to go to swimming because there is no sitter) is perfectly reasonable and flows from her actions naturally, but I do want to say that, in my experience, if you come at a kid all angry and making sure they know you are punishing them, they won't learn as quickly. They are just going to seethe about how mean you are to them or whatever. If instead you saddle up to them and sincerely empathize (NOT sarcastically, they'll pick up on that) and say, "dang it, I know this sucks but since you did that, there's no one to take you to swimming until we find a new sitter. That's really a bummer." you know who they will be disappointed with? Themselves, which allows them to really reflect on their own actions. Don't take away that learning opportunity by making yourself the bad guy by getting angry and saying hurtful things.

I don't get why parents allow their children to act entitled towards other people at all - not only nannies, sitters etc deserve some basic human respect. Not that a child won't make mistakes, or may be powertripping once in a while, but actually telling them it's ok will deprive them of the chance to learn and develop a decent set of manners towards other people - the friend allowed to boss around will become a very, very sspoiled brat pretty soon. No one's gonna like being treated that way ... no one's gonna like her. Rightfully so. And the parents ... well, I can only imagine what a pair of spoiled brats they have to be. Disgusting behaviour ... is encouraged by disgusting people!

How is anyone calling her YTA in this situation? I don't want to know what those people's kids are like if they think it's fine that a child acts like this.

You held her accountable for actions. Good on you. Ignore the ones who say you were wrong.

I don't know anything about child psychology, but I do know that Mumboss is right--if you tell the kid why you are gone, they will likely understand. My parents both worked and I was taken care of by my grandmother, and I knew why my parents were gone and that they were making money because they loved me and wanted to make sure I had clothes and toys (that's not all of it, of course, but for my age it was enough).

NTA...If the daughter is old enough to realize that the sitter is technically an employee, she's old enough to suffer the consequences of how she treated the sitter.

They’re right to dole out consequences for the child’s actions. Good to be doing it now, while she’s young. Waiting until she’s older may be too late, and they’d be well on the road to raising a nightmare person. However, if it came to that, they could just let her go on out totally on her own for a while—-zero help from them, so she would have to work and support herself. Out into the world, which isn’t her mama or daddy, doesn’t love her, and is not even going to think of putting up with her s**t. AT ALL. That would be the hard lesson to learn. Hard for the brat, and just as hard for her parents to stop themselves from jumping in if she falls on hard times because of her entitled attitude. Hope it won’t be necessary, but if it gets to that point and is done right, it will be very effective, and never forgotten.

NTA NTA NTA NTA NTA NTA

Why are people saying kids that are 6 years old barely comprehend things? Like, that's when many can do basic math, reading, spelling, writing, and money. I men, lemonade stands anybody? Heck, I drew pictures and went door to door to sell them when I was 5 or 6. Maybe it was because I was poor but 6 year olds definitely underand A LOT more then they are given credit by these people. I think the mother acted appropriately by making it known that the child caused her own demise. The catch is, the child may realize she is right and CAN make babysitters go away and run with that. Hopefully the child doesn't get drunk with power and gets the lesson the mother was trying to give.

NTA. The little s**t had it coming. She knew what she was doing with the babysitter. She deserves to know that it was her fault that the babysitter quit. She needs to deal with the consequences of it.

When I was a nanny, the 7 yo tried to tell me he didn't have to clear the table because his parents paid me. I said "you know what they pay me to do? To make sure you're doing what you're supposed to, and that includes clearing the table." He never brought that trick up again 😂

NTA. The ones saying she is likely have bratty kids as well and apparently see it as acceptable. Tbh I bet the ones say yta are Karen’s irl. This behavior is not acceptable and deserves punishment. From what I learned in child development and psychology is negative/positive reinforcement are the best ways to punish children and she did it right.

I don't understand why people are suggesting that this mother did not deal with this calmly. Assuming she's relaying her story accurately, it sounds like she did really well. After working with children of this age for many years, it is very clear that assuming they can't understand things is the root of some very serious behavioral problems. What they do understand is I can behave this way or I can't behave that way. It sounds like this mother did a good job that can be built on over time.

NTA. A child should learn actions and behavior have consequences. She learns she is in control of the outcomes in life so she will make the proper choices and display the proper behaviors to have success.

Go mom! Brats learn to LIE between the ages of 2 and 4. After that comes attempts at manipulation.

Definitely NTA. Kids need to learn responsibility and accountability, and that actions have consequences. Too much of these are lacking these days.

Think she is doing a great job as a parent. Growing up in a strict asian household, i wouldnt even dare to disrespect any adult like that without getting severe physical punishment, no joke. fyi im strictly against physical punishment on kids; i just think younger parents nowadays are too ‘woke’ that they are too hesitant to draw on lines when disciplining. Im seeing it everywhere.

This kid needed a busted ass! NTA!

NTA she is old enough to understand consequences, she needs to be put in her place if she acts like a brat. if you do not have your 6 years old children under control imagine dealing with them as soon as they hit puberty. as adults they will feel super entitled because they always got their way in life.. that's how Karens get created

6 is old enough to know right from wrong - her mother was telling her she was wrong yet she continued to belittle the sitter. The kid is the a-hole, not the mom. People who think otherwise are likely a-holes too.

This is what we don't want. If the sitter had said something before, (if there was something) it could have gotten fixed A LOT easier. THis kid definitely needs something... and the Nanny might have been a HUGE influence. Reading the behavioral person, it could be that, or it could be just bad influence. Honestly, you might have to do "grades" to get her to listen... and when it drops below a [enter letter here] you take away certain privileges ( Such as Video games, TV, Screen time, games, swimming, etc.)

I'd like to ask about the dad. Was he not involved until the sitter quit? And at 6, she is old enough for school. She is old enough to learn rules and limits. Courtesy. Obedience to authority. So... I'm reading the mom talked to her, not the dad did. Dad just said, "You were too harsh, she's only 6". Maybe if the dad didn't say "she's only 6", the kid wouldn't get away with so much? I'm hypothesizing wildly ,freely admitted. Not b/c I am a gung-ho child disciplinarian, but b/c this seems to be about a mom ... and the kid. And no dad talking to the kid. Teamwork parenting might make an impression? And here comes the hate, but... There it is. My question.

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People saying yta is reason why we have outta control kids now. They don’t make their kids own up to their behavior and the rest of us are over it . And the parents.

What's totally missing is empathy. Mom isn't showing she understands ger daughters frustration. Monkey see, monkey Do: the daughter therefore rejects empathizing with both mom and sitter. You need to sit down BESIDE one another, not across from one another in a stare down. Mom must share how the daughter's actions made mom and sitter FEEL. Itellectualizing it was overkill. Kid won't get it. Eg. When I was a kid, I HATED and never understood why I was told not to do things that were "rude." It would have made way more sense to simply say, "it makes them feel bad." That, to a child, is a real cconsequence. All logicical statements you used can be negated/misconstrue, BTW, depending on how vivid the child's imagination is. There are always exceptions to the rule. Whereas feelings are more definite. How another person feels cannot be denied. Start there. Children have a fantastic bullsh*t detector built-in; adults oft don't realize the dogma their logic is based upon. kids can't relate

The little s**t had it coming. NTA. She knew what she was doing with the babysitter. It was her fault she quit.