“Babies Are Not Handbags”: MIL Gets A Reality Check After Trying To Claim DIL’s Daughter’s Baby
Learning about an unexpected pregnancy can evoke a mix of emotions, especially at a young age. The idea of becoming a parent might seem overwhelming and daunting as new responsibilities are on the horizon. However, those who look forward to parenthood with the right support can make it an enjoyable and positive experience.
Unfortunately, not all family members were supportive of this teen’s choice to become a mother. Especially the grandmother, who tried shaming and guilt-tripping her granddaughter into giving up the baby to her infertile aunt, for which she got kicked out of the house.
With the right support, an unexpected pregnancy can be a less stressful and daunting experience
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However, this expectant teen’s family wanted her to give up the baby to an infertile aunt, saying she wasn’t capable of taking care of it
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An unplanned teen pregnancy can be just as shocking for the pregnant teen as it is for their family
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An unplanned teen pregnancy can be just as shocking for the pregnant teen as it is for their family. Parents might feel concerned, disappointed, guilty, and surprised—all at the same time. They may experience regret thinking that they could’ve done more to protect their child or prevent this from happening. Others may be delighted to welcome a grandchild, especially if their child is in a stable relationship and financial situation.
Whatever they may be going through, it’s likely that this time is going to be difficult, which means that the teen will need the support of their parents and family more than ever. In order to be able to help the expectant adolescent, family members have to recognize their feelings and work through them so they can support and accept them.
The teenager who is going through the pregnancy themselves is also experiencing a whirlwind of emotions. They might be worried about what other people think and how it makes them feel. They may be looking forward to becoming parents or be unsure at the prospect of it.
It’s important to help them process their feelings by listening without judgement. This allows them to figure out what they’ll do or need throughout the pregnancy. Having an honest and open conversation also fosters the relationship between a child and parent and can make a big difference in the teenager’s well-being.
29.8% of young expectant mothers feel abandoned by their loved ones
Sadly, not all pregnant adolescents have the privilege of being supported by their families. Around 29.8% of young expectant mothers feel abandoned by their loved ones. As a result, teens face many risks.
Without resources and the help of their family, adolescents may not be educating themselves enough about their situation or receiving medical care when necessary. Various risks, like preterm birth and low birth weight, are more common in expectant teens so it’s important that they eat enough healthy food and avoid any harmful substances. This may be harder to ensure without the presence of experienced adults.
During pregnancy, it’s also important to manage stress and anxiety, as these feelings can have an impact on the baby. However, the absence of loved ones can make it hard to deal with these challenges and increase the risk of depression.
If pregnant teenagers struggle to find acceptance and support in their family, there are plenty of communities where they can share their experiences and learn from others facing similar challenges. During pregnancy, building a support network is vital, and many organizations are ready and equipped to help with that, starting with education programs and health services and ending with legal or financial assistance. No one is ever really alone. All they have to do is reach out to those around them.
Readers unanimously decided that the mom was right for kicking out the mother-in-law
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My sister had a child at 17, she was told all the horrible things she'd have to deal with, people trying to convince her to give up the child or abortion. She had a baby girl, finished school, finished university and is now a successful high school teacher and grand mother. She proved everyone wrong! With love determination and help from the people closest to this 17 year old , she too can be successful & a great mother. Support her. I strongly agree with you for kicking out anyone trying to destroy this unforgettable time. Some people pffff
I had my daughter at 17. Finished school, went to college, graduated top of my class. It was hard, but I'm so lucky to have her. :)
Load More Replies...Its not even her biological grand daughter she is manipulating it is mums daughter from a previous relationship. Not that it makes more than .002% difference but MIL does not even have familial role here at all. Yet she set up a meeting when mum was absent to pull this stunt, if it was mentioned to anyone it should have been mum as she is the only other person by blood who knows her daughters wishes and whether its something to even broach as a subject. She needs to be barred from being anywhere near this young mother and her child, ever.
I'd personally advice OP to bar the Miscreant-In-Law from ever setting foot in the house again, with the heavily-favored option of involving authorities should she persist. How is she the authority on what "future failure" looks like? If anything, I'd call her the failure for pulling a sh*t stunt like this. I hope OP and family change the locks and keep the keys to themselves. Also, a security camera would be a good idea as restraining order and arrest evidence in case the Miscreant-In-Law tries to get cute and come back for round two >:-(
Or worse, like possibly trying to abduct the baby. The Monster-in-Law shouldn't even be allowed in the hospital when OP'S daughter goes into labor. There's no telling what stunt she'd pull there, even with the L & D staff and security.
Load More Replies...My sister had a child at 17, she was told all the horrible things she'd have to deal with, people trying to convince her to give up the child or abortion. She had a baby girl, finished school, finished university and is now a successful high school teacher and grand mother. She proved everyone wrong! With love determination and help from the people closest to this 17 year old , she too can be successful & a great mother. Support her. I strongly agree with you for kicking out anyone trying to destroy this unforgettable time. Some people pffff
I had my daughter at 17. Finished school, went to college, graduated top of my class. It was hard, but I'm so lucky to have her. :)
Load More Replies...Its not even her biological grand daughter she is manipulating it is mums daughter from a previous relationship. Not that it makes more than .002% difference but MIL does not even have familial role here at all. Yet she set up a meeting when mum was absent to pull this stunt, if it was mentioned to anyone it should have been mum as she is the only other person by blood who knows her daughters wishes and whether its something to even broach as a subject. She needs to be barred from being anywhere near this young mother and her child, ever.
I'd personally advice OP to bar the Miscreant-In-Law from ever setting foot in the house again, with the heavily-favored option of involving authorities should she persist. How is she the authority on what "future failure" looks like? If anything, I'd call her the failure for pulling a sh*t stunt like this. I hope OP and family change the locks and keep the keys to themselves. Also, a security camera would be a good idea as restraining order and arrest evidence in case the Miscreant-In-Law tries to get cute and come back for round two >:-(
Or worse, like possibly trying to abduct the baby. The Monster-in-Law shouldn't even be allowed in the hospital when OP'S daughter goes into labor. There's no telling what stunt she'd pull there, even with the L & D staff and security.
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