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Lady Grateful For Nice MIL Until She Pushes Hubby To Get Paternity Test Because Baby Resembles Wife

Lady Grateful For Nice MIL Until She Pushes Hubby To Get Paternity Test Because Baby Resembles Wife

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You meet the love of your life, marry him, and after years of trying you finally have a baby that completes your family. Life is going incredibly well when out of the blue, you are accused of cheating by the people that you love the most! Sounds heartbreaking, doesn’t it?

That’s what happened to Reddit user Strict-Mine-1326, whose mother-in-law told her husband that their newborn looked “too much” like the mom. The original poster’s (OP) life came crashing down when they demanded a paternity test for the baby, accusing her of cheating on her husband!

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    The poster and her husband, Mark, are new parents and it happened after a lot of struggle where her mother-in-law was very supportive of her

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    Image credits: Strict-Mine-1326

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    Image credits:Andrea Piacquadio / Pexels (not the actual photo)

    The couple was happy and enjoying parenthood when the poster noticed that her husband had started acting distant

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    Image credits: Strict-Mine-1326

    Image credits: Antoni Shkraba / Pexels (not the actual photo)

    One day, he came home and said that his mother had told him that the baby looked too much like the poster, and they both asked to do a paternity test

    Image credits: Strict-Mine-1326

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    The shocked poster agreed, but when the test revealed her husband to be the father, she went no-contact with her mother-in-law

    In today’s story, we dive into a family drama that arose all because of how the poster’s newborn looks. OP tells us that she had miscarried before, and after a long struggle of two years, she and her husband, Mark, were finally blessed with a healthy baby girl, Sophia. 

    Throughout the miscarriages and the birth, her mother-in-law was very supportive and even came to help OP with the new baby. While things were going smoothly, the poster noticed that her husband had started acting distant from her and even spent more time at his mother’s house. 

    Although the poor poster was burdened with childcare and exhaustion, she didn’t complain about it, as she had received so much help from her mother-in-law. However, OP’s world turned upside down when Sophia turned 3 months old and her husband said that his mother had expressed that the baby looked too much like OP and she might’ve cheated on him.

    Well, the mother-in-law and husband demanded a paternity test, leaving the poster completely heartbroken. After the results came out and he was indeed revealed to be the father, the poster decided to go no-contact with her mother-in-law, and so did Mark. 

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    The woman then accused OP of “taking away her family,” and the couple ended up blocking her, which drew ire from their extended family. This backlash made the poster question whether she did the right thing, so she vented online and sought advice from Redditors.

    Image credits: Liza Summers / Pexels (not the actual photo)

    Netizens were flabbergasted by the atrocious accusation that the mother-in-law put on the poster just because the baby had her dominant features. However, most of them pointed out that her husband was equally to blame for the ordeal and backing up his mother in the first place.

    It has been observed that after giving birth, women can experience a range of mental and physical symptoms, including baby blues, postnatal depression, and postpartum psychosis. Folks highlighted that the poster might be suffering from something after her delivery, and on top of it, her husband’s absence put more strain on her.

    They couldn’t believe that he let her suffer for so long and then dumped a massive blame on her. The poster justified his behavior by stating that he had been in a toxic relationship in the past where he was cheated on and that’s why he reacted the way he did.

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    Research suggests that a person who has been cheated on may experience relationship anxiety that might make them feel insecure and worry that they’ll be cheated on again. However, folks online said that he could’ve had an honest conversation with his wife and gone to therapy rather than accuse her of cheating on him.

    The poster mentioned that they were indeed going for couple’s counseling now and his past relationship was the only reason why she didn’t divorce him right there. She mentioned that even her mother-in-law was cheated on, but that didn’t give the two the right to treat her the way they did.

    Do you think she did the right thing or do you agree with the Redditors who said that the husband held equal blame as the mother-in-law? What would you do if you were in her shoes? Let us know in the comments!

    Folks online were baffled by the mother-in-law’s assumption that the poster had cheated, but they equally blamed her husband for agreeing to it all

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    Trillian
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    13 hours ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    God forbid a child (and jeez, 3 months old babies basically look like ... BABIES) should favor its mother. I would never have agreed to a paternity test. If you don't trust me we have no future.

    XenoMurph
    Community Member
    12 hours ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    My daughter looks acts and thinks so much like me that we used to joke my wife should have a maternity test to make sure she was hers.

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    mandy the capibara
    Community Member
    10 hours ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    You can't undo cheating, but neither can you undo accusing your partner of cheating.

    and_a_touch_of_the_’tism
    Community Member
    9 hours ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    When my baby cousin was born, she looked JUST like my uncle. And I mean a carbon copy. She’s two now and looks more like a blend of them. What I’m saying is babies look weird. It doesn’t mean anything. I apparently look just like my nana, but think like my mum.

    Janelle Collard
    Community Member
    Premium
    11 hours ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    OP was way too forgiving to her hubs. If my hubs did this to me, all his s**t would be on the curb, in black garbage bags, *possibly* on trash day. :)

    Surly Scot
    Community Member
    7 hours ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Relationship over. Don't care about mental issues or past partners cheating, you don't drag your baggage from prior relationships into your new one. MIL needs cut off completely for life, no recovering from that. I'd dump husband too because his mothers words still matter more than his wife's, no coming back from that, little mama's boy. If he could believe his wife cheated after 10yrs together just from something his mother mentioned, there's no true foundation of trust or relationship between OP and him. Also husband is stupid enough to believe mother's rantings about strong genes and baby looking too much like OP, then I'd dump the guy just for being that big of a moron - i wouldn't want that stupidity infecting my kid. Toss the family away and go it alone with the kid.

    Captive
    Community Member
    7 hours ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Accusing a woman of cheating while she is innocent is one of the worst things you can do to her mentally. Shame on MIl for thinking that for such a stupid reason, shame on the guy for even considering it for a second. OP reacted well and wanted to fix things instead of ending it there, which I wouldn't have blamed her for

    bookbuddy
    Community Member
    7 hours ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    The husband is TA. MILs can always try to start something, but it means nothing if he doesn't believe her. Also, I do kind of agree that a child should be tested for paternity at birth, ONLY for legal reasons for support, without any implication of cheating. In my family, each child looks wildly different.

    Lousha
    Community Member
    8 hours ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    As for looks, I looked like my mom from day one. As I grew, I turned more and more like her, to the point that when she had her 25 year high school reunion, at first I entered the room instead of her, and people just got confused for a second, because she can't be that young... But by then (I was 18 at the time) you could also see a few traits from my dad, and as I got older, some of these sort of "took over" . I also have one bio brother that looks very similar to me, and another that looks zero percent like anyone in our whole extended family. Looks mean nothing.

    Lousha
    Community Member
    8 hours ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Trust on the other hand means a whole lot, and throwing that away so nonchalantly was a huge mistake from the husband. That is not something you can really come back from. Like actual cheating. Your partner might decide to get over it, but you'll never have the relationship you had before.

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    ArchangelLoki
    Community Member
    9 hours ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    God I would have to leave that husband. Not necessarily forever, but a serious break. That is such a serious accusation to level and he needs to learn.

    MindNumbinglyBoringJob
    Community Member
    13 hours ago

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    WHO GIVES A FU*K. STOP VOMITING UP YOUR PRIVATE LIFE IN PUBLIC. FFS.

    XenoMurph
    Community Member
    12 hours ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    STOP CLICKING AND COMMENTING ON THINGS YOU AREN'T INTERESTED IN!! AND GET A BETTER JOB FFS!

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    Trillian
    Community Member
    13 hours ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    God forbid a child (and jeez, 3 months old babies basically look like ... BABIES) should favor its mother. I would never have agreed to a paternity test. If you don't trust me we have no future.

    XenoMurph
    Community Member
    12 hours ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    My daughter looks acts and thinks so much like me that we used to joke my wife should have a maternity test to make sure she was hers.

    Load More Replies...
    mandy the capibara
    Community Member
    10 hours ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    You can't undo cheating, but neither can you undo accusing your partner of cheating.

    and_a_touch_of_the_’tism
    Community Member
    9 hours ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    When my baby cousin was born, she looked JUST like my uncle. And I mean a carbon copy. She’s two now and looks more like a blend of them. What I’m saying is babies look weird. It doesn’t mean anything. I apparently look just like my nana, but think like my mum.

    Janelle Collard
    Community Member
    Premium
    11 hours ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    OP was way too forgiving to her hubs. If my hubs did this to me, all his s**t would be on the curb, in black garbage bags, *possibly* on trash day. :)

    Surly Scot
    Community Member
    7 hours ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Relationship over. Don't care about mental issues or past partners cheating, you don't drag your baggage from prior relationships into your new one. MIL needs cut off completely for life, no recovering from that. I'd dump husband too because his mothers words still matter more than his wife's, no coming back from that, little mama's boy. If he could believe his wife cheated after 10yrs together just from something his mother mentioned, there's no true foundation of trust or relationship between OP and him. Also husband is stupid enough to believe mother's rantings about strong genes and baby looking too much like OP, then I'd dump the guy just for being that big of a moron - i wouldn't want that stupidity infecting my kid. Toss the family away and go it alone with the kid.

    Captive
    Community Member
    7 hours ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Accusing a woman of cheating while she is innocent is one of the worst things you can do to her mentally. Shame on MIl for thinking that for such a stupid reason, shame on the guy for even considering it for a second. OP reacted well and wanted to fix things instead of ending it there, which I wouldn't have blamed her for

    bookbuddy
    Community Member
    7 hours ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    The husband is TA. MILs can always try to start something, but it means nothing if he doesn't believe her. Also, I do kind of agree that a child should be tested for paternity at birth, ONLY for legal reasons for support, without any implication of cheating. In my family, each child looks wildly different.

    Lousha
    Community Member
    8 hours ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    As for looks, I looked like my mom from day one. As I grew, I turned more and more like her, to the point that when she had her 25 year high school reunion, at first I entered the room instead of her, and people just got confused for a second, because she can't be that young... But by then (I was 18 at the time) you could also see a few traits from my dad, and as I got older, some of these sort of "took over" . I also have one bio brother that looks very similar to me, and another that looks zero percent like anyone in our whole extended family. Looks mean nothing.

    Lousha
    Community Member
    8 hours ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Trust on the other hand means a whole lot, and throwing that away so nonchalantly was a huge mistake from the husband. That is not something you can really come back from. Like actual cheating. Your partner might decide to get over it, but you'll never have the relationship you had before.

    Load More Replies...
    ArchangelLoki
    Community Member
    9 hours ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    God I would have to leave that husband. Not necessarily forever, but a serious break. That is such a serious accusation to level and he needs to learn.

    MindNumbinglyBoringJob
    Community Member
    13 hours ago

    This comment is hidden. Click here to view.

    WHO GIVES A FU*K. STOP VOMITING UP YOUR PRIVATE LIFE IN PUBLIC. FFS.

    XenoMurph
    Community Member
    12 hours ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    STOP CLICKING AND COMMENTING ON THINGS YOU AREN'T INTERESTED IN!! AND GET A BETTER JOB FFS!

    Load More Replies...
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