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People Are Sharing What Double Standards Between Men And Women Annoy Them So Much, It’s Disgusting (50 Pics)
Double standards are everywhere and they’re out in the open—you don’t even need a magnifying glass to spot them. Whether in real life or in media, we’re constantly bombarded with examples of how men and women are treated and portrayed differently even though we’re talking about the same thing.
Reddit user Meet_Me_In_Heaven asked their fellow redditors to share the most egregious examples of double standards that "disgust" them, so have a look below, and let us know what you think they say about the state of society in the 21st century, dear Readers. Upvote the double standards that you agree have no place in the modern world and share your own examples in the comments.
One crucial real-life issue and pervasive gender double standard that we’ve been hearing and writing about is that the Covid-19 pandemic disproportionally affects women. Not only have women been shown to be more at risk of losing their jobs during the lockdowns, but they also spend more unpaid time at home doing chores and taking care of family members. Even in developed countries, there’s still an expectation that women ought to do the lion’s share of the housework.
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I'm a straight male. I went to a gay bar with some gay women and their straight married women friends. One of the straight women was being basically sexually harrassed by another gay woman there, to the point of being chased around the table, all the while saying she was married to a guy and she wanted nothing to do with it. The whole bar was laughing. If I did that to a woman in a regular bar, I'd get my ass kicked, thrown out, or arrested.
It's okay for men to not want kids, but women are "broken" or will "change their mind" if they say the same.
I'm almost 36 and been in a relationship for 6 years. If I wanted to have kids, I would have them by now. Still get asked when we'll finally have children by friends and family over and over again. Get treated like a villain for refusing to give children to my partner (who doesn't want to have kids either).
Child predators. Both men and women should receive the same charges.
To learn more about the unequal distribution of housework and other tasks and what can be done to change it, Bored Panda reached out to relationship expert Dan Bacon, the founder of The Modern Man, who gave us some insights on what can be done to share the load. In short, he explained that communication, respect for each other’s choices, and mutual support are key to a healthy relationship. Especially during these difficult times.
“Both a man and a woman should always show gratitude towards each other and from that, you will both feel happier about being loving towards each other because you know the other person appreciates what you are doing,” relationship expert Dan highlighted that thanking someone for taking the initiative with chores, instead of berating them for usually ‘not doing enough,’ yields far better results.
For Dan, it’s important not just what we say in relationships, but how we say it.
Men get pockets big enough to hold all their stuff while women get fake pockets that are sewn shut, or a micro pocket that can't fit anything.
When movies need an ugly guy, they hire an ugly actor. When they need an ugly girl, they hire a smoking hot actress and put glasses on her
People were stunned when they found out that Charlize Theron is a great actress when she put on weight for "Monster" and that she's not only a pretty face (she's stunning by the way!)
Society has been making money off of women’s bodies/sexuality forever and no one cares.
A woman makes money off her own body/sexuality and it’s suddenly a problem.
Relationship expert Dan gave an example where he heard from a man who was cleaning up the bathroom and found his wife complaining about how he was doing things. This led to an argument and the couple didn’t speak for a couple of days.
“He was very upset that she didn’t appreciate his proactive approach to helping out. All of that stress could have been avoided if she walked in and said something like, ‘Oh, thanks, honey. You’re cleaning the bathroom. That’s one less thing for me to do. Thank you.’ Then, if she wanted him to clean the bathroom the way she normally does it, she could ask, ‘Do you want to know how I get those stains out?’ or, ‘Do you want me to tell you some of the ways I do it that makes it easier?’ and if he then said yes, she could tell him,” Bacon gave some practical examples of effective communication.
“If he said no and ended up causing damage to the bathroom for example (unlikely, of course) or not cleaning it properly, she could then talk to him about it and ask why he thought it turned out that way, after all the good effort he put in. He could then realize his mistake, feel supported by her and decide that he probably should have asked her how to do it first, or continued cleaning until he got it done right.”
I was at the park working out a few years ago and on a bench was a couple arguing. The girl proceeds to slap the crap out of her boyfriend. She then goes for another, but the dude blocked her and held her wrist. The girl then burst into tears and questions why he hurt her like that.
To myself I was thinking, wait you can hit him but when he defends himself its wrong?
That men can't be raped or physically/mentally abused.
Women things like baking or cooking are just for women until it's a profession, and then it's for men.
According to Dan, by choosing not to attack our partners verbally for their ‘mistakes,’ we avoid making them go on the defensive. This reduces stress, helps maintain the relationship, and, in very practical terms, helps deal with the double standard of how housework is distributed.
“They remain in love. They feel supported, appreciated, respected and there is no need for an angry, resentful war to break out over little mistakes or errors. Of course, approaching conversations like that also applies to a man talking to his girlfriend or wife who is doing something around the house,” the expert pointed out that it goes both ways.
“For example, if his wife is doing more than normal around the house, a man should be supportive of her, appreciative and respectful, rather than just expecting that she should do it because she’s a woman. No one has to do anything in a relationship. It’s always a choice. This is why you should always come from a place of love and support, rather than in an angry, attacking way where you essentially become enemies who are trying to beat each other in a pointless, ‘I’m a better person than you’ war.”
While there are plenty of double standards out there, at least we’re better equipped to deal with one of them—sharing housework and other tasks during the pandemic through small changes in how we communicate and show gratitude.
When a girl is into more traditionally manly stuff nobody bats an eye, but when a guy is into traditionally feminine stuff people give him funny looks and question his sexuality
Abusive behavior is funny when coming from a woman. I pointed out to my husband that in movies and TV shows, women get upset by a man's actions and slap him and no one bats an eye. Showing a woman hitting a man normalizes this cruelty and it needs to stop.
I can’t stand it when I see a woman slap a man and it’s considered acceptable.
How it's okay for men to go to strip clubs but strippers are looked down upon or made fun of by society.
Many people who are strippers are very well educated and a lot are also studying. Stripping is a way for them to make ends meet. As long as it is THEIR choice and they aren’t being forced or pressured into it, then I don’t see an issue.
Pedophile teachers, when it's a man, you tend to see "Male teacher raped student", and when they're women it's normally "Female teacher had sex with student", I despise the downplaying of it when the teacher is a woman, and seeing comments like "that kid should be lucky, his teacher is hot" disgusts me.
They did it on Dawsons creek, affair with teacher...woohoo go Pacey. It is horrible, all girls school here had rumors of teacher having relations with student, nothing happened, another teacher married an ex student a year or so after she graduated. Now years on I realise that would have been considered grooming. So horrible
Body shaming men. Make fun of a woman’s boob size and people are aghast. Make fun of someone’s d**k size and that’s hilarious. Slag on a woman’s weight and that’s a no-no, but ‘I only date six feet and taller’ is acceptable. They are things a person really can’t do much about, and both being socially linked to equate manliness.
A woman with her kids is "taking care", a man with his kids is "babysitting"
Men or boys who are sexually abused by women are told to feel lucky. People will joke, 'Where was that teacher when I was in school?' and disregard that being a male victim is a big deal. But sexual abuse messes with you no matter your gender, and being a male survivor is also hard.
Yes, yes, yes. I know someone who was raped by a woman and when he went to the police they laughed at him. In 30 years he has not had a partner or interest in having one because of that experience.
Daughters are raised and taught to clean and cook while sons get cleaned up after. My mother got upset with me when I suggested my younger brother learn to take out the trash or do a single chore. When I was his age, I was cooking and cleaning and helping take care of him while getting good grades in school and doing extracurriculars.
O. M. G this isn't to do with gender because I'm a girl but my sister is 10 I used to do work when I was 10 I understand how annoying it is
Overweight male actors always get cast opposite gorgeous actresses as their love interests and nobody bats an eye. Overweight actresses are rarely allowed to be lead love interests in the first place, and when they are, they're more likely to be paired with less conventionally attractive men.
And if perchance they are the lead, it's usually for comical reasons. Also, lead actresses are super skinny with super fat bff for comic relief, never the other way round. But where's the between? Average bodies that are neither skinny nor fat, with flabby tammies and saggy boobs are never portrayed even though more people could relate.
Those romantic comedies with the cliché beautiful and smart woman married to the dumbest guy who is lucky to have her. Swap the roles and see people flip out.
My roles are swapped. My hubby is smart, funny and goddam hot as whilst I am not that bright, not very funny and I look like a dogs breakfast. I often wonder HOW I managed to get a catch like I did.
I’m a young guy. One of my female coworkers slapped my ass about a month ago. I didn’t say anything because I really didn’t care too much, but if the roles were reversed I’d be out of here faster than I could say sexual harassment.
Dads are “superhuman” when they take care of baby, cook/clean/etc, or just parent in general. But women are “doing what comes naturally” when we work a full time job while pregnant, go back to work weeks after major trauma, are expected to breastfeed AND work, keep the house, raise good kids, and are somehow bad moms if we complain and feel overwhelmed.
Women who either have sex, love sex, or have a great deal of it when they are single are considered loose. Meanwhile, if a guy has a lot of sex, then he’s just being a guy.
Also when women have sex on the first date are considered easy and not relationship-material
Women are 'supposed' to clean the inside of the house while men do yard work. One day, my husband's friend called him while we were cleaning the house. His friend said, 'Uh oh. In trouble with the wifey?' No! He just lives here, too.
If men play video games, it’s normal and expected. If men like sports, it’s normal and expected. If men enjoy something like skateboarding, it’s normal and expected.
But if a woman does any of those things, she’s only doing it to impress men and couldn’t possibly actually like them herself.
That goes both ways, if a guy likes netball, ballet, sewing or anything that has been traditionally been done by mostly women for decades or centuries... he will be called gay or a sissy
As a man, I could go to the doctor and get a vasectomy tomorrow if I wanted to. A woman has to have like two or three kids and be married for most doctors to even consider performing a tubal ligation.
I’m an 18-24 year old guy, and I work with kids.
It’s disgusting the amount of protocols and procedures there are to keep me from being alone with kids, but there are almost NONE for the female staff I work with.
It is really sad. There are less and less men working with children because of this and peoples ideas that “men are bad”. All children need a male role model and they don’t always get it at home, so having a male teacher, student councillor, social worker can be extremely beneficial. There are more good men than bad, it is just we hear more bad than good. These men are our husbands, fathers, children, friends etc, we need to stop tarring men with the same brush.
Even if I, the father, am listed as the primary contact on every single contact form for my kids, the school will still call my wife first. Even after being the only parent the teachers and school have ever seen during drop-offs and pickups, the school still insists on waiting to talk to my wife to 'discuss something about your child,' even though I'm right there.
Honestly, I would make that public. Call the press or otherwise make a scene. That‘s patronising. It’s YOUR child and you‘re an intelligent human being ffs!
Dad works late, gunning for the big promotion: “What a great provider!”
Dad leaves early to pick up sick kids from daycare: “What a great dad! So wholesome.”
Mom stays late, guns for the big promotion: “How can she neglect her kids like that?”
Mom leaves early to pick up sick kids: “Figures, she was never really committed to the job.”
Depends on the job. Sounds like a toxic environment, and not at all like most places that employ humans.
Women get so much sh*t for being “too choosy” with men and “not giving them a chance” and in general get called uppity, picky snobs because they won’t go out with certain guys.
But when those same women are victims of date rape/violence/murder, they get blamed and people say that they should have been more careful
Women should be choosy, especially if you want children. Childrearing is a long, expensive and trying time. Having a reliable partner that will stay with you when times are hard is invaluable. It literally used to mean the difference between death and survival.
I'm a trans guy, and people listen to me as male way more than they did as female
Single mothers are seen as a red flag and are blamed for choosing a deadbeat as their child’s father. But single fathers are considered a great catch and are praised for 'stepping up.
This must be a new thing. Single mothers have always existed in greater numbers and in the town I was raised in it's always been a big thing. But whilst single mothers would always be able to find a partner, if they wanted to, single fathers were usually avoided. Most women, back in the day, didn't want to bring up someone else's kids. Harsh but true..
Female domestic violence victims get lots of support, while male victims get laughed at.
This is one reason why I do not support white ribbon day. It should not be violence against women and children but violence against anyone. There are absolutely F**K all domestic violence services for men, especially shelters. It infuriates me so much, especially since a lot of homeless men are victims of domestic violence.
Women rarely get complimented for the things men get complimented for: assertiveness, accomplishments, or basically any intentional act. While men rarely get complimented for the things that women get complimented for: their appearance or personality characteristics that make others feel good.
Mens nips arent censored but for some reason women's nips are.
True! (And bring that apostrophe over to “aren’t, from above, please!) 😉
When a woman cries, it's viewed as normal.
When a man cries, he's told to man up.
I actually like it when a man cries and I don’t mean that I get some sick gratification from the pain of others. I mean I just like it coz it means they are comfortable within themselves to show their emotions.
Clothes from the women’s section fall apart after six months.
Meanwhile I have a 15-year-old shirt from the men’s section that I still wear.
If a girl is 21 and a virgin she's considered pure. If a guy is 21 and a virgin he's a loser.
Yeah, as a teenager I wondered how that was supposed to work. In order to get the best ratio of "cool guys" and "pure girls" that would mean all guys would have to have lots of sex with a single girl? Would that be the "mega-slut" or would she be considered as providing a service to society (making the dudes cool and keeping the other girls "pure")? Idk.
Men who don't smile: Thinking, serious, determined.
Women who don't smile: B****y and uninteresting.
I've never heard of a man getting asked why they didn't smile for something.
This one really gets me. I get told to smile all the time. I'm not a naturally smiley person. I'm not even a naturally happy person - I'll smile when I darn well feel like it. I once got told on the metro that I'd look prettier if I smiled. My dad was in hospital and we didn't know if he would survive, and this absolute womble tells me to smile. His defence : "how was I supposed to know?". So I told him, "you don't, that's why you keep your trap shut."
When a woman is direct to employees at work she is a b***h. When a man is direct to his employees he’s a leader.
Sorry, from my personal experience I disagree with this one, There's being a leader then there's being an A-hole. there is a fine line between being direct and being an A-hole. Doesn't matter if you are a man or a woman.
Men: I'm a 34in waist and size M shirt in EVERY. SINGLE. STORE.
Women: Sizes are called different things in each country, and the naming convention bears no relationship to the actual size (what is the 6 in size 6 supposed to signify?)
I call BS. I'm a 34 to 38 in one sizing method and 44 to 46 in another. Depending on the year, shop etc. I have rarely been the same size. Even better was when I bought a pair of trousers in H&M, next year I had put on 5 kilos so I went for another pair of the same jeans, I fit perfectly into the same size. I now never bother looking at sizes, I just take a handful of trousers into the changing room and try them on till one fits. Even once with some Bear Grylls trousers, they were marketed as 104cm (perfect for me) when they arrived, they didn't fit. I measured them.. 98cms. This an industry problem more than women/men one.
A bad dad can lose custody but many times a bad mom won't.
Hear hear, just because you are a mum doesn’t mean you are a good one. It should ALWAYS be what is in the best interests of the child, NOT what society expects or is used to etc.
Could not fathom having to give up their family name at marriage, but pressures his wife to do it without a second thought.
It used to be that the woman passed from being the property of her father to that of her husband. That is where the taking of the name came from. As a side note, my brother took the name of his 1st wife and when they divorced and he re-married he still used that name and my new SiL uses it as well.
Single father's taking their kids to the park and watching them play while they get stares from every other parent or ppl passing by.
When men come out and accuse priests or other old men who abused them they aren't interrogated as to why they didn't say it sooner. With the 'Me Too' movement backlash, we see that women are dismissed and not believed when they talk about their abuse years later.
Women are dismissed constantly and accused of trying to get on the gravy train of claiming compensation. This is even when the complaint was made at the time and disbelieved. I'm always shocked at women being complicit in this nonsense, I feel like they've been conditioned into believing it by those with a vested interest ie the perpetrators..
Straight girls can hold hands, lock fingers, cuddle, shower, and kiss each other. Two guys can’t even make eye contact without being gay-shamed.
Oh. I guess I'm gay as hell. Not that I didnt know that but still...
When a guy gets with a bunch of chicks, he’s a “stud”. When a girl gets with a bunch of guys, she’s a “sl*t”.
Being over looked for a role (between 20-35) because I might become pregnant.
The one solution to this is for men and women to have the same amount of maternity leave and the same legal minimum time off. In Spain this year both men and women will get 4 month maternity/paternity leave. Now they need to add, for example, that both must leaglly take a minimum of 3 months each. Once this happens, the risk to the employer is the same for either sex so no preferences.
I work in a woman dominated field (library) and a good portion of my coworkers are self-proclaimed feminists. They constantly complain about "The Patriarchy" while being hateful, sexist group of humans towards the men in the building.
Also working in a library that is part of a large university: It‘s not quite as bad here, but one thing that drives me nuts: Our university has an 'equality' department. Yet, they only tend to women: They hold women-only university-wide meetings, they send emails to women about holiday camps for their children, they have a campaign against sexual abuse with a confidential email address - put only in women‘s bathrooms. So male workers have no children? Male workers/students face no abuse? I truly hate it from my guts. Pointed that injustice out to one of their members once. She told me women have it worse and that men don’t need anyone lobbying for them.
Expecting women to keep up a constant and rigorous beauty routine while men are doing very little to maintain their own attractiveness.
I am a teenage girl, and I don’t even care about makeup. I spent about 5 minutes doing my hair, and pick out cute outfits for school. People tell me I should do more to please the guys. Meanwhile my brother combs his hair and is told he’s trying to hard.
Women can't be topless in the heat like men.
Some of these things are crazy exaggerations.. A single father with kid in the park is nothing mentionable. Nobodies looking....
This is an annoyance of mine: Reading comments on YouTube, if a guy tells a female creator they think she's hot he will get hounded for being a creep. However, I see females leaving the same type of comments on male creators videos by the heckload and no one bats and eyelid. I personally think that the thirsty comments should stop altogether.
TV Advertising that treats all men as simpletons with their condescending wives needing to look after them because Men Are So Stupid and Women Are so Smart in Tv land
It is difficult for me to believe that men have an equal amount of problems regarding their gender as women do, because I enjoy gaming and see women take so much hate in that community. The young girls I have encountered on Instagram or TikTok or whatever, girls my age, are usually progressive and supportive of men being feminine and men being emotionally vulnerable, supportive of male rape victims and abuse victims, whereas guys hate on other guys being feminine more in my opinion. Also harassment / abuse happens a lot more to women, even though it should of course be recognized when it happens to men
This all just shows how feminism is important and that the patriarchy harms both women and men.
So many I don't agree with at all. And someone actually compared circumcision with female genital mutilation!
The thing that I truly hate is that there is little to no support for men when we have PTSD/anxiety. Also, we are mocked, demeaned, looked down on because we have a mental illness.
I worked part time at Home Depot stocking shelves 7pm-1am. A older male co worker asked me why I was working instead of staying home with the kids. I told him because we needed the money and I like getting out of the house his response was can’t you watch other people’s kids to get money. It was ridiculous.
I'm probably too young to understand some of these. However, I think that as long as I live I will never understand why some people seem to think that males who do traditionally "feminine" things are homosexual. Could anyone here explain this to me?
Not my parents! My mum works for the whole day and my dad cooks and works for 1 to 2 hours. I think its pretty fair tbh.
It definitely happens to men, too. I am in an abusive relationship with a woman, and part of the PTSD I'm experiencing is from when my best friend (also a woman) raped me a little over 8 years ago. I am completely broken and will likely never trust anyone or have a healthy relationship ever again. I guess I should just 'man up,' eh?
This was a tiktok I found but girls...name one thing u can do without being made fun of
These made me so mad because I realised how true and how problematic many of them are
I do agree that double standards exist, but I don't believe it's 100% everywhere, or that it's necessarily always 'the norm'. My hubby treats me like an equal, we share chores at home and nobody makes fun of us for it, male colleagues don't treat me any worse/better than female ones, etc. I have experienced bad treatment, of course, but it's easy to get mad about a few jerks and forget all the good people out there. But there ARE a lot of good, fair-minded people out there.
#50 is ridiculous. No matter how hot it gets, removing your shirt does almost nothing to cool you down. Also only douchebags go outside without a shirt on unless at the beach or swimming pool.
Also think about that you hardly ever saw men in commercials for laundry soap or baby diapers 15-20 years ago. And if a woman appeared in a commercial doing domestic chores, she'd always have a wedding ring on.
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Yeah, because men suck and we all need to say they do or we'll be downvoted!
Some of these things are crazy exaggerations.. A single father with kid in the park is nothing mentionable. Nobodies looking....
This is an annoyance of mine: Reading comments on YouTube, if a guy tells a female creator they think she's hot he will get hounded for being a creep. However, I see females leaving the same type of comments on male creators videos by the heckload and no one bats and eyelid. I personally think that the thirsty comments should stop altogether.
TV Advertising that treats all men as simpletons with their condescending wives needing to look after them because Men Are So Stupid and Women Are so Smart in Tv land
It is difficult for me to believe that men have an equal amount of problems regarding their gender as women do, because I enjoy gaming and see women take so much hate in that community. The young girls I have encountered on Instagram or TikTok or whatever, girls my age, are usually progressive and supportive of men being feminine and men being emotionally vulnerable, supportive of male rape victims and abuse victims, whereas guys hate on other guys being feminine more in my opinion. Also harassment / abuse happens a lot more to women, even though it should of course be recognized when it happens to men
This all just shows how feminism is important and that the patriarchy harms both women and men.
So many I don't agree with at all. And someone actually compared circumcision with female genital mutilation!
The thing that I truly hate is that there is little to no support for men when we have PTSD/anxiety. Also, we are mocked, demeaned, looked down on because we have a mental illness.
I worked part time at Home Depot stocking shelves 7pm-1am. A older male co worker asked me why I was working instead of staying home with the kids. I told him because we needed the money and I like getting out of the house his response was can’t you watch other people’s kids to get money. It was ridiculous.
I'm probably too young to understand some of these. However, I think that as long as I live I will never understand why some people seem to think that males who do traditionally "feminine" things are homosexual. Could anyone here explain this to me?
Not my parents! My mum works for the whole day and my dad cooks and works for 1 to 2 hours. I think its pretty fair tbh.
It definitely happens to men, too. I am in an abusive relationship with a woman, and part of the PTSD I'm experiencing is from when my best friend (also a woman) raped me a little over 8 years ago. I am completely broken and will likely never trust anyone or have a healthy relationship ever again. I guess I should just 'man up,' eh?
This was a tiktok I found but girls...name one thing u can do without being made fun of
These made me so mad because I realised how true and how problematic many of them are
I do agree that double standards exist, but I don't believe it's 100% everywhere, or that it's necessarily always 'the norm'. My hubby treats me like an equal, we share chores at home and nobody makes fun of us for it, male colleagues don't treat me any worse/better than female ones, etc. I have experienced bad treatment, of course, but it's easy to get mad about a few jerks and forget all the good people out there. But there ARE a lot of good, fair-minded people out there.
#50 is ridiculous. No matter how hot it gets, removing your shirt does almost nothing to cool you down. Also only douchebags go outside without a shirt on unless at the beach or swimming pool.
Also think about that you hardly ever saw men in commercials for laundry soap or baby diapers 15-20 years ago. And if a woman appeared in a commercial doing domestic chores, she'd always have a wedding ring on.
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Yeah, because men suck and we all need to say they do or we'll be downvoted!