30 Men Don’t Hold Back Revealing What Gives Them “The Ick” About Women

Anyone who has been even tangentially interested in dating content online has no doubt come across the idea of an “ick” as well as “red flags.” For those who are unfamiliar, both of these are things people dislike and aim to avoid when dating. This can range from personal preferences to behavior one should absolutely avoid.

Someone asked “Men/boys what are your biggest icks or turn-offs in women/girls?” and males shared their thoughts. So get comfortable as you read through, upvote your favorites, and be sure to share your own thoughts in the comments section below.

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30 Men Don’t Hold Back Revealing What Gives Them "The Ick" About Women Absurd caterpillar eyelashes. Absurdly gross long finger nails.

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30 Men Don’t Hold Back Revealing What Gives Them "The Ick" About Women I recently visited Santorini. One evening, I had dinner at a place overlooking a very popular spot with an amazing view of the island and the water. I lost count of how many Insta girls dragged their dead-eyed boyfriends there and proceeded to cycle through two dozen look-at-me poses while whining photo instructions. Treating people in your life like props or unpaid crew just so you can appear glamorous on social media is a major ick.

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30 Men Don’t Hold Back Revealing What Gives Them "The Ick" About Women Treating people like servers, bartenders or cashiers like complete garbage is a huge red flag and it shows what type of person they really are.

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The options these men shared cover a pretty wide range of possible issues. What a woman’s voice sounds like is closer to an ick. After all, everyone has their own preferences, there isn’t exactly an “objective” superior vocal tone. However, a few of the men here seem to have misunderstood the assignment.

After all, a partner who suddenly ghosts you because she feels like it sounds like a nightmare for the vast majority of people. This is less an ick, and more a major behavioral issue. Oftentimes, icks are superficial, physical traits, although those can still bring forth pretty sizable emotions.

30 Men Don’t Hold Back Revealing What Gives Them "The Ick" About Women My big three: Materialism. Sincere belief in Astrology. Kardashian worship.

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30 Men Don’t Hold Back Revealing What Gives Them "The Ick" About Women When they say s**t like “if he’s under 6 foot or makes less than 100k a year I’m not interested.”

Ironically I am 6’2 and make over that, it’s not about feeling secure it’s just about being annoyed by idiocy.

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30 Men Don’t Hold Back Revealing What Gives Them "The Ick" About Women I am a simple man, but botox lips is an instant turn of.

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30 Men Don’t Hold Back Revealing What Gives Them "The Ick" About Women Racism. Had a girl call a group of black kids the nword because they very slightly delayed us. Like literally they were just walking across the crosswalk.

Never went from 100% to 0 that fast. She was so confused why I didn't want to stay the night with her.

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30 Men Don’t Hold Back Revealing What Gives Them "The Ick" About Women When every other word that comes out of her mouth is "like". Drives me crazy.

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30 Men Don’t Hold Back Revealing What Gives Them "The Ick" About Women Phone addiction.

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Phone addiction which too often is just social media addiction. The worse of this addiction results in "phubbing."

If she's already on the phone all the time with insta/texts/messages, you already feel like you're never alone with her. Your time together is always shared. If on top of that she's on the phone for social reasons when you are specifically trying to spend time together ... rude, lack of respect, and a clear sign whatever is on that phone is more important than you are. Most women wouldn't tolerate it, men should not either.

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#10

30 Men Don’t Hold Back Revealing What Gives Them "The Ick" About Women I hate this trend where women are getting work done surgery/botox/filler to try an achieve that ig/tiktok influencer look. IT LOOKS SO FAKE AND UNNATURAL. Not to mention everyone just look f****n homogenous so no one stands out with whatever unique beauty they might’ve had.

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#11

30 Men Don’t Hold Back Revealing What Gives Them "The Ick" About Women When their dating profile is a list of qualities they want in a man, but doesn't say anything about what they're like or what they bring to a relationship.

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#12

30 Men Don’t Hold Back Revealing What Gives Them "The Ick" About Women Baby voice outside of talking to a baby or animal.

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#13

30 Men Don’t Hold Back Revealing What Gives Them "The Ick" About Women When they always portray themselves as the victim and take zero responsibility.

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#14

30 Men Don’t Hold Back Revealing What Gives Them "The Ick" About Women I'm a lesbian, so I hope I can wage in here.... Obsession of TikTok and Taylor Swift. Like I like Taylor, but paying thousand of euros for tickets and acting like a psycho when someone say anything bad...no...also that TikTok gf behavior, ex.expecting people to treat her like a queen, without her doing anything to deserve that.

Look I treat my gfs like queens, but they don't act entitled to it, they also deserve it.

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#15

30 Men Don’t Hold Back Revealing What Gives Them "The Ick" About Women Caring more about their appearance on social media than their real life.

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#16

30 Men Don’t Hold Back Revealing What Gives Them "The Ick" About Women Demanding emotional vulnerability and using it as a weapon after the guy's opened up. One of the worst betrayals someone can pull on a man, and if I'm talking to a woman who casually mentions a previous bf/lover and talks s**t about his vulnerabilities behind his back in conversation? I'm out, you can handle the check.

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#17

30 Men Don’t Hold Back Revealing What Gives Them "The Ick" About Women If she’s hardcore religious or even remotely religious for that matter. I don’t want a woman who’s going to expect me to be some godly, spiritual leader of the house or relationship….

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#18

30 Men Don’t Hold Back Revealing What Gives Them "The Ick" About Women Only has guy “friends”. Claims other women are “too much drama”. Coincidentally is always involved in drama and loves gossip. Always talks about “haters” and “fans”. Social media bio: “Keep lurking sis 💅💋✨🧿”.

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#19

30 Men Don’t Hold Back Revealing What Gives Them "The Ick" About Women Based solely on my experience? Believes in astrology. Has untreated borderline personality disorder. Stays friends with people who have hurt them. Lack of social awareness.

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#20

Inability to admit to and apologize for doing rude or s****y things.

For example:

"Hey, did you eat the food I made before bed? That was my breakfast. I told you I didn't have time to cook anything before work, now I'm gonna be late."

"What makes you think that I ate it? Why are you assuming it was me?!?"

"We're the only two people living here, and you asked me about it before I went to sleep."

"Maybe you ate it and forgot!"

"No, I didn't drink last night. We had no guests over. I passed out right after putting it away, and now it's gone. I'm less upset about you eating it than I am that you're not being honest."

"FINE. EVERYTHINGS ALWAYS MY FAULT, YOU A*****E! I GUESS I WON'T EAT ANYTHING ANYMORE!" *storms away*

I've been in this type of scenario more times than I can recall. Just admit what you did and apologize, I'll forget about it in an hour. Freaking out instead of being honest just leads me to eventually breaking off the relationship.

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#21

30 Men Don’t Hold Back Revealing What Gives Them "The Ick" About Women Excessive vocal fry. Sounding like a Kardashian/Jenner is the opposite of attractive.

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#22

30 Men Don’t Hold Back Revealing What Gives Them "The Ick" About Women Tries to force beliefs, diets, etc onto others - i don’t give a damn what you believe in, what you will or won’t eat, whatever, but if you try to convince, guilt trip, etc your beliefs/systems onto me, or another person, i don’t trust that you’re a very good person.

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#23

30 Men Don’t Hold Back Revealing What Gives Them "The Ick" About Women If they never initiate.

I don’t mean sex. I mean if the only time we talk or get together is if *I* make the first move.

I get enough of that with my friends, and I hate feeling like I gotta micromanage my relationships because I’ll just be left behind again if I let someone else take the lead.

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#24

30 Men Don’t Hold Back Revealing What Gives Them "The Ick" About Women The ones who think they need to cut down every other female they see. It's repulsive.

No, Karen. I didn't notice the top that woman was wearing until you pointed it out, but even now that I have, it's still not as tacky as the sewage you keep spewing from your mouth.

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#25

Women that think it's cute to be a near non-functioning adult. My ex loved to rely on me/others for like everything, almost took pride in having no idea how to use public transport of find her way around.

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#26

30 Men Don’t Hold Back Revealing What Gives Them "The Ick" About Women The silent treatment. It’s passive aggressive, manipulative, whack b******t.

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#27

30 Men Don’t Hold Back Revealing What Gives Them "The Ick" About Women When a woman doesn’t hold herself to the same standard that she holds her man. Not to say that the roles and responsibilities of each party need to be exactly the same in any given relationship, but it’s the worst when a woman acts a certain way/has a certain attitude but gets upset when the man acts that way as well.

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#28

30 Men Don’t Hold Back Revealing What Gives Them "The Ick" About Women Rude and demeaning attitudes. Like aggressively rude or demeaning. That ends it for me.

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#29

30 Men Don’t Hold Back Revealing What Gives Them "The Ick" About Women When they don’t know how to have a conversation unless it’s talking bad about someone.

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#30

30 Men Don’t Hold Back Revealing What Gives Them "The Ick" About Women No reciprocation of efforts.

u/AyybrahamLmaocoln:
If you don’t let me know in some way that you’re feeling me after I’ve made it clear I’m feeling you, then I stop pursuing. It happens a good amount, and a week later they’ll ask why I stopped trying to spend time with them.

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#31

30 Men Don’t Hold Back Revealing What Gives Them "The Ick" About Women If I'm the only one who can even start a text conversation, it just tells me I'm only there to be an ego boost. For example, I MUST be the one to say "good morning" first. If not, I'm met with silence, possibly for a few days, followed by a passive-aggressive message about me, "not being interested."

I'm in my late 40s. I broke up with my first girlfriend in grade 7 over this exact issue. (Phone calls, not texts, obviously) If you want to play immature foolish games, go find an immature fool.

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#32

Smoking.

After seeing my mom die emaciated, unable to breathe, and unable to even go to the bathroom all because of emphysema caused by a lifetime of smoking... yeah, f**k that s**t.

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#33

30 Men Don’t Hold Back Revealing What Gives Them "The Ick" About Women No hobbies (people who cannot amuse themself usually demand your full attention making you unable to practice your own hobbies).

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#34

Attitude, entitlement.

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#35

A lack of EQ or social awareness.

The kind of person who is extremely inappropriate in public for example, or behaves in a way that has people staring at you (not in a good way).

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#36

Lack of clear and effective communication. If you want/don't want something, make that excessively clear, no ambiguity at all. If it's a big thing and the other person isn't getting it, make sure you sit them down in a non-emotionally charged situation, warn them you're going to be talking about something serious, and then go over it with them until they get it.
Source: my now ex wife wasn't communicative and now basically hates me because I didn't realise how upset she was about some stuff.

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#37

Body odors, bad breath, poor feminine hygiene. It's very hard to be attracted to someone when they smell like a dumpster.

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#38

Romantasizing/unable to move past their ex's, and refusing to stop messaging them because "they're really important to me".

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#39

If they have extreme political viewpoints.

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#40

I love redheads, like, lose the ability to think, and I met a woman at work, played it cool for a few weeks, didn’t want to creep in, we’re at work you know? So one morning we were both in early and she was eating at a table, I asked if I could sit too, she seemed delighted, yay. I’ve never spoken to her before.

We start talking, she immediately tells me about her morning going poorly, I asked more about it.

She didn’t pay for her train, got a fine for putting her feet on the chair on train she didn’t pay for.

Well……I got a derection, in that 4-5 minutes of conversation, she went from being a beautiful woman, to a scumbag.

Disrespectful behaviour towards others. My biggest ick.

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#41

Overly Jealous. Had a gf once who wouldn’t let it go how I “stared” at her roommate when she walked into the living room where we were hanging out with only a towel on her head after shower. Didnt get mad at the roommate, just was my fault for looking at someone the same way I always would when they walk in.

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#42

Arrogance and too much self love. The endless mirror selfies, overdoing make up, the RBF. When they immediately go to low blows (“he must have a small dickkk!”). The attitude, sense of entitlement, and condescending behavior.

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#43

I will get downvoted for this but, high levels of promiscuity is a major turn off for me.

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#44

Expecting me to be like a parent and always take the lead. Can be exhausting.

Want someone with their own drive and proactivity for what they want.

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#45

Negativity (not all days are good, but people who complain about every detail even if their day would be considered amazing by most are a pain).

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#46

Unable to put an proper sentence together, no critical thinking skills.

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#47

Please be clean for THE LOVE OF GOD BE CLEAN.

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#48

Alcohol…. Ruined a really good thing.

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#49

A lot of my icks have already been mentioned, but here's a couple I haven't seen yet:

Using nothing but emojis to communicate over text. When I'm asking for date ideas, I'd like replies with words in them, not massive walls of emojis.

Talking about nothing but work. Dated one girl who pretty much had no personality outside of her job. Every conversation was all about work, work, work. My brain is not wired that way, and I almost never talk about my job once I've clocked out. People like that are just exhausting.

Lastly, Horse Girls. Horse Girls are insane. If she owns a horse, RUN.

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Girls who push you away and then expect to be chased. Huge ick and generally a red flag that signals you will be expected to do everything in the relationship. No partnership there.

Also double standards. For example, it's okay for a woman to turn down her mans advances, but when he turns down hers then he's being insensitive or cruel. That one also reeks of manipulative behavior.

Finally, have a job and be working towards some sort of career. You don't need college degree, but working a retail job with no future prospects aint gonna cut it.

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#51

Political correctness for popularity.

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#52

Obsessive behaviour.

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#53

Complaining too much.

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#54

When I hear “You are too deep” or even worse “you think too much.”.

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#55

Emotional unavailability.

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#56

When they don't practice what they preach. Sure I might not be the nicest guy and seem prickly to some, but when it comes down to it people have said that I'm really easy to talk to and be around. Yet I need something to work with, and some women tend to double down and are not as accountable as they expect men to be. Some don't return the liberties and other things that they expect from men either. It's sort of hard to convey that the way I react to stuff like I mentioned here from women it's exactly how I would with other men. Some women just expect men to fix everything and act like any conflict between men and women is one sided af.

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#57

A red flag is somebody who primarily defines their personality off of another person. You do you.

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#58

Went on a date once, I asked the girl "what kind of music do you listen to?"

She replied "whatever is Top 40."

Listening to artists who *happen* to be top 40 is one thing, but that response is basically "I listen to whatever everyone else is listening to" which is boring af at best, weird and disturbing at worst.

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#59

Dirty feet.

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#60

Weirdly - Butterfly tattoos.

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#61

Clinginess, “it’s giving x”, “we love a x”.

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#62

High body count, posts revealing pics on IG. Has snapchat, still talks to her ex, has a lot of guy “friends”.

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What do you think ?

Dan 8 months ago

The way that some girls/women end every sentence with a question mark is annoying?

Flora Porter 8 months ago

And the cutesie spelling that doesn't makeeeeee senseeeee phonetically. You even see it on BP. Drives me nuts.

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Pandapoo 8 months ago

Why did you end your statement with a question mark? lol

Tamra 8 months ago

Yes. Drives me mad.

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Doctor Strange 8 months ago

Treating me like a backup option. I went out with a girl one time, it did not go great for various reasons. It was over when she told me her dream was to get a job in a certain field, but on the other side of the country from me. I had already told her, before we even went on that date, that I wasn't looking to move out of my general area, because my last long term relationship ended precisely because she took a job on the other side of the country. So it ended, I, gently, let her know I wasn't interested in a second date. We parted ways. Then a few weeks later she reaches out to me again, wanting a second date, because she couldn't get her dream job, and all the other guys she had gone out with were losers. I said no. Because she wasn't asking me out because she wanted ME, she was asking me out because she couldn't get what she really wanted and so she'd settle for me. At least until something better came along.

Jennifer Clayton 8 months ago

After one date, she doesn't know you enough to choose you over a job. Since you were in the "let's see where this goes" phase, backup option is legit. The "change your life to choose me" should only come much later, after deep feelings are established.

11points

Alex Gataric 8 months ago

You turned down her offer of a situationship? How dare you.

1point

Hey! 8 months ago

Yep, you were smart enough to see it too.

Shane S 8 months ago (edited)

Enforcing hypermasculinity. If I want to watch a RomCom, then let me. If I want to take a bubble bath, so what? Maybe my favorite color is Purple. You’re most likely going to get more fulfillment out of your relationship if you let men be who they are and not try to stick your social stereotypes on them. Insecurity and shame is what breeds insincerity and secrecy.

Marnie 8 months ago

My ex-husband used to occasionally like to take a bath with a beer and some chocolate. More power to him, I thought. (I get the remote for an hour!)

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