Someone Asks Men Online What Typically “Masculine” Thing They’re 100% Not Into, Gets 30 Replies
Have you ever thought about one simple question - to what extent are our hobbies really ours, coming from deep within our nature, and not imposed on us by almighty society? While earlier, many decades ago, being, for example, a man automatically meant a certain "gentleman's set" of hobbies and activities, today, everything has actually changed.
There are many things that are traditionally considered "100% masculine," although today many men absolutely aren't into them. And this online thread, a selection of the most popular opinions of which we present to your attention today, is devoted to discussing such things.
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Hiding emotion. F**k that. If I'm happy I'm gonna laugh. If I'm heartbroken I'm gonna cry. If you think that's unmanly, I don't care. Because I think it is more manly to be real than it is to present a façade to the world.
In Homer, crying loud and hard is actually portrayed as something many. Achilles was "like a lion" in his grief over Patroclus.
I generally don't wear high heels or powdered wigs... wait, how "traditional" are we talking?
The definition of what is or isn't masculine. I'm a man, born this way, heterosexual and I will wear that pink shirt that I really like, because I just don't care if that somehow makes me less masculine.
The gender/color appellations are entirely artificial and have changed over time.
The original thread appeared in the AskReddit community about a month ago, when the topicstarter asked male netizens: "What is a traditionally masculine thing which you are not interested in?" As of today, the thread has around 1.8K upvotes and almost 5.5K various comments. As we can see, the discussion was quite lively, and not all the ideas presented by the thread participants were unanimously approved by others.
Multiple boomers have bragged about never changing a diaper. I would be too embarrassed to show my face again if I never changed my kids diaper.
Proving my masculinity. If somebody says I'm "not a real man" because I refuse to do X arbitrary thing, I'm happy to shrug and say "okay.".
My definition is that a real man does what he wants to, not what people tell him to do.
A significant place among the answers in this thread is occupied by different variations on the sports theme. At least out of the 30 top answers that we’ve selected for this collection, 5 are pure sports, and another two or three are somehow related to it (for example, it depends on whether you consider gaming a sport or not).
In fact, with sports, everything is far from clear - and the results of the research only confirm that the world is far from being as crazy about professional sports as it was just a couple of decades ago. At least, the sports audience is getting older, and young people often choose completely different hobbies for themselves.
Fishing: it's gross, boring, and I feel bad for the fish. Plus I don't like fish.
Being super competitive when I’m hanging out with guys who are supposed to be my friends. Can’t we just relax and have a good time without needing to outdo each other in everything? .
Hunting.
For example, while in 2000, the average age of a hockey fan, according to a study conducted by Sport Business Journal, was 33 years old, basketball - 40, football - 44, and baseball - 52, the latest research, conducted in 2016, showed even more depressing figures for major leagues’ commissioners: from 42 years in the NBA to 50 in the NFL and even 57 for MLB. Young people, and young men in particular, are choosing other hobbies en masse.
I really don’t feel the specific need to be the breadwinner… don’t get me wrong of course I want to work for my money. But if I would ever find myself in the situation where my gf (or wife) would earn enough for a family and would prefer to work, while I manage the household and or children, I’d be more than happy to do so.
I loved spending time with my kids. I wish I could have taken 10 - 15 years off back then and work into my old age. Why do we save retirement for the old, when we know that getting out and doing stuff is the best thing for older people? Young people should be home with the kids.
Fighting.
"Public opinion and people's beliefs change over time - and the digitalization of society only accelerates these processes," says Valery Bolgan, a historian and editor-in-chief of Intent news agency from Ukraine, whom Bored Panda asked for a comment here. "And if before, a trend needed months and even years to spread around the world - and some faded away even earlier, now it happens almost instantly."
"Accordingly, in developed countries, where the service sector allows you to order almost any activity on the side, there is no real need for many of the things that made a man ‘a man’ centuries ago. In the historical sense of the word, of course."
The NFL. 18-22 minutes of actual playing motion in 2.5 - 3 hours. Endless beer ads (for s****y brew). So f*****g boring.
Sports.
The whole sports business is just nonsense. Live your own life, people. Don't live vicariously through your favorite team.
"Today there is no classical diversification in the family and society, and we are not so dependent on what used to be called ‘public opinion.’ Now a person can quite easily give up hobbies that were previously literally imposed on them by society - and feel quite good. The world is changing - and we’re also changing with it," Valery Bolgan sums up.
Cigars. I get why people like them, but they are expensive, smell awful, produce a ton of smoke I end up inhaling anyway, and feel like more of a status symbol than something that should be smoked regularly anyway. A whole lot of hype for an oversized cigarette that'll make you vomit and/or feel sick if you accidentally inhale, or just get too much at once.
UFC.
Last night my husband put on a sports channel and two guys were in the ring. He knows I don't like boxing or wrestling but he says 'give this a chance' LOL it was the pillow fighting championship!
Well, no matter how controversial many of the points given in this selection actually are, we sincerely believe that you might be interested in reading the opinions of netizens on this issue. So now please feel free to scroll the list and read these points and stories - and maybe share your thoughts on the topic in the comments below as well.
Voluntary self-restriction. Just in general.
I won’t avoid mai tais and cosmos and have just Coors Light at every party, just because. I won’t refuse to watch Rachael Ray just because. I won’t limit my film choices to action films just because.
Voluntary self-restriction is very much traditionally masculine. Which is in no way a synonym of healthy.
Golf.
That s**t is f*****g boring (to play and watch).
I used to work for Titlelist/Footjoy and that just made me hate it that much more 😂.
Agreed! Now, get me on a mini-golf course and I'll play that over and over.
Being overly hairy, I shave my pits because I have the smell if I don’t, and I shave my chest because I just prefer the look over a hairy chest.
I have a (female) friend who advocates "all off below the nose" and insisted her daughter follow suit as soon as she turned 14. I just hate the thought of it - ok if it's your choice, but to enforce it on others is too much.
Beer (alcohol in general) .
I'm pretty much convinced that like 80% of people who drink only do so because it's "social norm" and peer pressure.
Camping, can't see the joy in purposely inconveniencing myself for fun.
I love visiting places in nature. But I go to places I can drive to and sleep in my van.
Riding Harley Davidson motorcycles. There is a whole generation of d***hebags that has made me lose all interest in them and the culture that comes with it.
Bourbon. $50 bottle. $5,000 bottle. They all make me wanna puke .
I remember that a bourbon magazine decided to have a massive taste test of all sorts of whiskeys. Most really cheap bourbons did poorly, but one called "Ancient Age" won the golden prize (I can't find the original citation - but this taster found that a cheap bourbon called "Zackariah Harris" beat some really expensive competitors: https://abcfws.com/blind-bourbon-taste-test?srsltid=AfmBOooms9gmO5jkUQS0tH4h1bq-6WVrXB2Dl37l9jimzUUIJDri6EPe)
Cars.
I do like cars though, you wouldn't see me attaching my self worth to an automobile I own but in general I do like cars. Some are quite nice. My favorite car is a 99 Civic hatchback coupe, enjoyed every minute I had it but I'm not gonna hate people if they're not a fan of cars.
Home improvements, renovations, dyi, landscaping, yard work, or building/repairing anything. For the record, I know how to do this stuff. I just don’t have the time or energy and I don’t want to.
Gaming
I think the types have changed, and it is no longer typically masculine! Or at least the gap in number of players by sex is closing generation by generation! There is still however from both personal experience and stats, a clear divide in each sexes population by game genre! -Fifa type games (the one seen in the pic) are mostly guys. -Animal crossing games are mostly gals. There are also genres that are pretty 50/50. I would say Rpgs are pretty 50/50 now.
Grilling.
Nothing masculine about that. Just good tasting food my wife doesn't need to cook. (tho, I do 90% of cooking. She's not a bad cook, just indifferent to flavor)
Guns. I never saw the appeal to them. I guess I'm just old school and figured you're not really man enough if you can't handle a hostile situation with your fists. Personally, I'm trained in a couple different martial weapons and martial arts as well. Leave them for the military and action movies.
I used to like to go to the gun range and hunting. Never really felt like I needed one for protection. When I got together with my now wife, I showed them to her small kids. I told them they were not toys and that you always treat them like they will hurt someone. I then promptly sold them because I never wanted there to be a risk of an accident. If I wasn't living with small children, I might have kept them but only for sport.
Load More Replies...There are several things on this list I would never tie to masculinity. Guys are the only ones who like sports, cars, grilling, home improvement? I feel like instead of talking about things men are pressured about: showing emotions, wearing certain colors, etc. this list just says all things that groups of men like suck, even if it's not just men that like it.
Guns. I never saw the appeal to them. I guess I'm just old school and figured you're not really man enough if you can't handle a hostile situation with your fists. Personally, I'm trained in a couple different martial weapons and martial arts as well. Leave them for the military and action movies.
I used to like to go to the gun range and hunting. Never really felt like I needed one for protection. When I got together with my now wife, I showed them to her small kids. I told them they were not toys and that you always treat them like they will hurt someone. I then promptly sold them because I never wanted there to be a risk of an accident. If I wasn't living with small children, I might have kept them but only for sport.
Load More Replies...There are several things on this list I would never tie to masculinity. Guys are the only ones who like sports, cars, grilling, home improvement? I feel like instead of talking about things men are pressured about: showing emotions, wearing certain colors, etc. this list just says all things that groups of men like suck, even if it's not just men that like it.