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A 2020 study of over 300 fathers present during labor and birth in a German hospital suggested that it was "beneficial" for close to 80% of fathers, 85% of mothers, and over 70% of their relationships — even though 36% of the men felt fear and close to 15% were overwhelmed by the situation, over 90% were happy to be there.
Expanding on these numbers, let's take a look at a Reddit post by user Sakuramochi_Chan, who asked dads on the platform who were there with their partners in the delivery room to describe the experience.
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#1
Most people here are describing the events...so I'll skip the stories of my wife have two accidentally 'natural and lain killer free' births (under two very different circumstances) and, I'm going to try to describe the emotional impact.
The mother has 9 months building a gradually increasing connection the baby; carrying, little kicks, hiccups and burps. For the father, there honestly is a bit of a detachment.
For me, all that happened in one exact moment when I heard my daughter cry for the first time. All emotions wrapped into one exact moment in time.
For the mother, its a nurturing build of love and connection.
For the father, it's a bomb.
I froze, I didn't respond when spoken to, and I cried.
It was a big moment for me, and all I have to do is close my eyes and I can recreate the sound of the first time I heard her voice, etched in my memory like a laser engraved vinyl record.
Nat of Clan P 1 year ago
Love this one. Very emotional and from the heart. So lovely. I can still hear my son's first cries. Love.
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#2
Wife almost bled out - she kept telling me to make sure my daughter was ok and all I could think about was I may only have another minute with my wife.
That Bi Book Lover 1 year ago
Aww :( and all she was thinking about was the baby. She’s a good mum/wife and you’re a good dad/husband. I hope she survived.
#3
Today is my first born's birthday, 29 years ago today i still remember
i grabbed him, i held him ,i cut his cord, he pissed on me
i thought "now im a dad.....i have to be better now"
Serial pacifist 1 year ago (edited)
I remember holding my wife’s hand for our firstborn. She got contractions and squeezed my hand so hard that my fingers felt like popcorn cracking and eyes popped out. I was about to scream but then I remembered that I am not the one in major pain here. I held on
#4
My firstborn was born on my birthday. My main memory is my exhausted wife turning to me after the baby was born and saying “Next year you get an ice cream cake.”
#5
My wife and daughter almost died. Major shoulder dystocia. Code pink. Violent emergency c-section. Witnessed successful resus on my daughter. Mom needed 4 unit transfusion.
I’m a paramedic and this still majorly f****d me up.
Disgruntled Pelican 1 year ago (edited)
Serious question. How many parents experience PTSD after watching a situation like this, but are never given the proper therapy following? I can't even imagine how traumatizing it would be to see your significant other and child nearly die...
#6
It was simultaneously horrifying and miraculous.
The pain she went through and the amount of blood and amniotic fluid that was pushed out of her … it was astounding.
That this tiny little human came out whole and was ours. Was someone we created. And now we are responsible for trying to help him become a decent human.
#7
We were all in the delivery room: my wife, her sister, her mom, my mom, my grandma, myself and the nurse. At one point, my wife exclaimed: "Enough! Everyone out!"
I saw to it that everyone left the room (her mom didn't want to at first), and wanted to be the last one out, to which I received a quick "Not you, you idiot!" I never felt so wanted.
#8
26 hours in labor. Two hours of my wife just pushing (while in agonizing pain) to get the baby out. I was a whole mess from hour 12 and on. So, I was basically miserable for the last 14 hours.
I wasn’t mentally prepared. As soon as I saw him come out and he started crying, I erupted into tears like a baby myself. Most emotional moment of my entire existence. It was magical and I’m just glad I didn’t pass out before I could witness his birth.
Rebelliousslug 1 year ago
It’s amazing how many men think they won’t cry, they all do. There is no way to prepare them for the onslaught of emotions after witnessing their child come into the world
#9
First and only time i cried out of happiness. And its burned into my memory which doesn't happen very often. (Im 24)
#10
We were waiting in the delivery room, the baby was taking its time. Both her and I would dose off between contractions. Once I woke up with the doctor coming into the room. She went and measured various things, my wife still asleep. I asked, "everything all right?" And the doctor replied "Yeah. Just checking. If you see a bunch of people coming in and barking orders at each other, pushing carts, then you can worry."
Of course an hour or so later the doors bang open, a bunch of people coming pushing carts and barking orders at each other. I tried to ask what was the problem and was told, in barking, to stay the f**k out of the way.
Turns out the baby was in distress. The doctor looked at some machines and decided to do a C-section. Wife's bed was wheeled into the OR, I was given a crash-course in scrubbing, told to go in and sit in a chair by her head. There was a curtain at about her neck line, so neither of us could see what was going on. We struck a conversation with the anesthesiologist, who was sitting near her head as well. She said she was feeling good. I knew the blood had totally drained from my head. I felt excited, worried, afraid, all at the same time. I tried to put on a brave façade, but I knew she could read right through me so she kept making conversation to calm me down.
At some point she said she felt something really strange, and right after we heard the baby crying. Tears welled up in both our eyes, just like they are doing now in mine 15 years later. She told me to keep the baby under my eyes at all times, for some reason she was terrified of the baby being switched.
So I wheeled my chair back and watched as they brought the screaming baby to a sink, cleaned him up, swaddled him and put a little cap on his head, at which point he fell asleep. Then they brought him to us and we got to say hello to our kid for the first time. The baby was weak from the struggle, so they put him in a wheeled incubator, put some monitors on his chest, and told me to push the incubator out of the OR and into the neonatal ICU nearby. On the way through the door, I met my mother in law. She looked at the baby, looked at me, and started to cry. I started to cry as well. Just like I'm crying now, 15 years later.
This is all very vivid in my head, but what happened immediately after is a blur. At some point we were in a recovery room, the baby was fine, the mother was fine, and some kind soul, I think a nurse, told me to change the baby's first diaper. She told me that nothing would be as gross as that first one, so if I could do that I would be fine. She also winked and told me that every diaper I changed I would be scoring points with my wife. And so I changed most of his diapers for as long as he needed diapers.
#11
There was a curtain so we couldn’t see. I held her hand and I gazed into her eyes and told her that she was doing great and just how much I loved her. She was all sweaty and honestly really beautiful. It was one of the best days of my life. Later on that night my son was rushed to the NICU because he stopped breathing and that was consequently the scariest day of my life. He is fine now, but that experience was just the worst.
foryouwhynot IB 1 year ago
From the highest highs to the lowest lows all in one event…it can be pretty hard to handle!
#12
My daughter was born 25th July this year. First child and she came 7 weeks early completely out the blue.
Wife woke me at 2am Saturday with what she thought was contraction. we went into hospital they checked her told us they should pass go home. Got home by 7am but by 9am she was definitely getting contractions and every third she threw up.
Both pretty scared now back to hospital we go. Back at 11am checked over told she doesn't appear to be dilating at all. Checked again at 6pm wife was 4cm dilated. Told the baby is coming she's early and will likely need help. Wife was finally fully dilated at 4.30am Sunday morning. (I have never been more proud of my wife).
At this point over 24 hours with no sleep or food for either of us as I didn't leave her side. Delivery took a hour and my daughter was born at 5.38am Sunday 25th July. She came out deathly grey not breathing, was placed on my wife for about 5 seconds while midwife rubbed her trying to get her to breathe, made me quickly cut her cord and then handed over to resuss doctors. At this point I was in complete shock just trying to focus on my wife and putting a brave face on for her.
After a few minutes under heat lamps and being ventilated she was taken straight to NICU. We didn't even hear her till afternoon. They wanted my wife to rest so I kissed her goodbye told her how proud I was and went to NICU.
Upon seeing my daughter hooked up to all the machines broke me. Everything caught up to me and I had a panic attack, couldn't really understand what was happening and told to go sleep and come back after resting.
Got a few hours sleep went back to meet her properly. Turns out absolutely no reason can be given why she came early. The same day she started breathing by herself was in NICU for just under two weeks been home since. We did every test available not a thing they can find wrong with her. She's nearly 12 weeks old now piling the weight on and a happy little baby. We named her Lyra.
To answer your question the scariest and also proudest moment of my 28 years of life so far. Watching her come out of my wife was also just surreal, probably best description to use.
Pumpkin Spice 1 year ago
Hooray for you, your wife, and lovely baby Lyra! I'm so happy for all of you!
#13
My wife and I have two kids. Each delivery room experience was different, though ended up great with happy, healthy kids and mom.
Kid 1 was about 5 hours of pushing. Some people say that the happiest day of their life is the birth of their child. My happiest day was my wedding day because I spent so much time worrying about the pain my wife was going through giving birth. When we got to the hospital for a planned delivery from her doctor's advice, she was already so far dilated that it was too late for drugs. She hadn't felt much pain yet, so we thought "maybe this will be easy."
Wrong.
My wife was pushing for hours, with some breaks in between. It was exhausting and stressful to watch. There was so much pressure pushing the baby out that my son had a somewhat bloodshot eye when he was born (he was fine). The nurses and I got bored with the routine of regular pushing that we were turning our attention to the TV in between while she rested, so I think of my son's birth when I see Guy Fieri. When the head was visible, they told me I could touch him before he came out and I said, "Um, I think I'll wait. I'm good."
The baby finally came out at about 11:30 PM. A newborn looks so much bigger than you imagine. How did that thing survive in my wife?! He had the cord around his neck, and they told me I could cut it, but I didn't want to risk anything. He was perfectly healthy. My wife was in tears, and, looking around at the blood in the room, I thought it was because she was in excruciating pain, but she said she was just so happy. The endorphins helped her and she was at peace and ended up fine.
Women are amazing and tough and if anyone ever calls my wife weak, I'll fight them for that day alone.
The hospital experience after that was actually really good! The nurses were great, my wife got everything she needed, people could visit. No complaints.
Our second son was a much easier birth. It was like a Hollywood movie in that she felt contractions, we went to the hospital, they got her the drugs, and the baby came out with relative ease.
Both kids were in great health, wife recovered well, but I developed a massive amount of respect for any woman who has given birth.
Elin Sandman 1 year ago
Pushing for hours sounds like a nightmare! Your wife is a fudging superstar! Funny thing is I gave birth to my son yesterday. I am at the hospital still and with my baby on my chest. I pushed for fifteen minutes and it was horrible, but when my baby came out with the chord around his neck too all that matters was that he’s ok. And he is! He is perfect.
#14
For some reason, when my wife was pushing, the nurses left. She started contracting again so I told her friend to grab one leg and I grabbed the other — and told her to push like the nurses did. The nurses came back and didn't interfere and I ended up helping her deliver our daughter.
#15
During the actual birth, especially with your first child, you experience almost every emotion simultaneously. Joy for the new addition, fear/worry that something will go wrong, pride for how amazing my wife is, helplessness for not being able to really help my wife more than say encouraging words or holding a leg. It's emotionally exhausting, all while on very little sleep.
10/10 cool experience though.
Douglas Gilanyi 1 year ago
Can we be honest and agree that when it's all over and they are freshly birthed, all babies kinda look like week-old, poorly packed, wet luggage?
#16
At about 4:00am my wife woke me up. She said her contractions signaled it was time to go. I snagged our bags and helped her to the car.
It was a stressful drive as the contractions were intense for my wife. When we got to the hospital they said they didnt immediately have a bed so they wanted her to wait a little. We wandered over to a Starbucks for a refeshment. However the contractions were so intense I had to carry my wife back to the hospital.
By the time we got a bed, my wife was crying from the pain and I was getting irritated with the nurses. They finally gave her something to lessen the pain so she could think again. Once she was herself again, she requested an epidural. That helped a lot and her pain was nearly gone.
Just an hour later she was completely dilated and the pain was back again. But now she could start pushing. I timed each of her contractions but by this time she knew what her body was doing and was in sync with the timing. She squeezed my hand until it l bruised and pushed.
Lots of stuff happened her. The baby's heartbeat got low, my wife tore and bled. After laboring for 7 hours, at 11:15am, our son was born. He was purple at first as he adjusted to being outside, but quickly turned normal pink color. My wife was exhausted but still needed to push out the placenta. She later told me that was easy. Our son was placed on her chest and the doctor worked to fix the tear and stop her bleeding.
Just some points from an outside perspective. You need to be your partner's advocate, defender, and supporter. That's your entire role in this. Have your partner write up a birth plan ahead of time and be ready to defend it against doctors and nurses. I had to raise my voice to get my wife some pain medication and a bed. I didnt like it, but I'd do it again to protect her.
Once everything is settled, snag a nice treat for the doctors and nurses. We bought them some indian food and a cheesecake in appreciation. They upgraded her recovery room.
Pumpkin Spice 1 year ago
You shouldn't have to suck up to the doctors for them to do their jobs. BUT: all sides are under immense stress, so treat the doctors and nurses to something as a thank-you.
#17
Well, it was a C section and my daughter was 1 pound 10 oz. so there was that. 28 weeks. It was awesome watching the neonatal surgeons work on her. Delivery doctors were talking golf as they worked on my wife. I was in shock. Just numb to what was happening. To be honest I didn't know if I wanted her to live or die. So much s**t going through my head. An hour later that tiny little thing squeezed my finger and I started rooting for her survival big time. Spent the next two days wondering who was going to die first, my wife or my daughter. My wife turned for the better three days later and my daughter came home three months later. She just turned 30. The shock lasted several days. I stopped in at work to grab stuff and let them know I wouldn't be in and a co-worker said "congratulations". Instantly the shock was gone and proud father kicked in. Thanks Stan.
KMill 1 year ago (edited)
Having a micro premie is very traumatic. Eventually in the end, if things are going downhill, you do start wishing and praying for death. My son was sick and dying and I just wanted his suffering to end. Finally the doc said it’s time for you to just hold him. They unplugged everything and put him in my arms and I sang a lullaby as he died. It was devastating but also a relief that he wasn’t suffering anymore.
#18
I got to deliver my youngest son believe it or not. It was one of the coolest experiences of my life.
Rebelliousslug 1 year ago
My friend is still amazed to this day, 23 years later when she tells people how the midwife let me deliver my daughter myself once her head and shoulders were out. Just pulled her right up onto my chest
#19
I was white as a ghost and scared for the first one. You would have thought I was holding an alien. Nothing prepares you for that. Second was more relaxed. I watched football on the tv, she pushed me away and asked for her mom. I tried to help, but didn't get to do the ice chips and holding her hand. I cut the cord. First one to hold him. Both were amazing and memorable. I wouldn't change a thing.
#20
I watched the doctors perform a c section on my wife for the birth of our twins. Nothing could've prepared me for the gore I was about to see. It was wild. Didn't make me nauseous or anything thankfully. Nonetheless seeing both of my girls for the first time was incredible. I cried a whole lot. Holding them was an amazing feeling. It was interesting because after they got my first daughter, I heard the doctor say "where is she?" when looking for my second daughter in the womb. Had me a but nervous for a sec. She was just absolutely refusing to leave mom's belly because she was hiding and hanging on for dear life. It's ironic because now she is very independent and has always been ready to take on the world.
#21
1st daughter was 40 hours of labor before they finally did a c-section. I remember exhaustion. She got pissed at me at one point for nodding off. Attempting labor was violent. They were jumping up on her and pushing down on her belly trying to force the kid out. I got to see the top of her head before they decided she wasn't going to exit the usual way. Once she was out, her head was shaped like a banana from being partially forced through the birth canal. I was numb and wiped out.
2nd daughter, we planned the c-section. I was in there with her. They put me at her head and pointed me at her face, put up a little curtain at her chest that looked like it was made of the same material as the scrubs so we couldn't see what was going on. They asked me if I wanted a chair. No, I said, I was fine. I held her hand and talked to her. At one point I looked down at my feet, and I was standing in a lake of blood. I then realized why there was a drain in the floor. I asked for the chair as my knees buckled and they got it under me before I collapsed.
#22
Second child after the first child had been incredible difficult. My wife went into labor at an ice cream place ("Ooph, I really need to poop..."). We drove to the hospital straight from there. I had been practicing a form of hypnosis to use on her in the hospital. Once she got settled in, I did that and she was able to totally relax from 6 CM dilated to to 10 CM.
We had a midwife for this one. None of us had planned this, but it was going so well that the midwife just put me in the receiving position and I did all the work. Midwife stepped in once to show me how to help scoop open the vaginal canal a little bit with a finger. I touched my daughter's head once she was crowning, and gave a little pull once the head was fully exposed. She dropped right into my arms. I pronounced that she was a girl, cut the cord, and held her to my naked chest while my wife and the midwife finished up and a nurse wiped all the goo off of her. Best day of my life.
#23
It was fine. It was stressful, for obvious reasons. My wife was in pain and I couldn't do anything about it. At times during the birth of my first son, the staff were clearly concerned about him. But it wasn't abnormally stressful.
Things I would advise:
* Pay attention to all the stuff the hospital advises you to bring for your wife. She could be there for hours. Make sure she has what she needs to be as comfortable as possible. Take, or arrange for someone else to bring, some of the food she has missed during pregnancy (for after the birth and when she is allowed to eat again).
* Discuss with your wife what pain-relief she wants if she finds she cannot bear the pain. Be realistic. My wife was dead set against an epidural and asked me to tell the staff as much, if she wasn't in the state to do it herself. In the event, she lay, as I thought, off her head on gas and air and moaning with pain. "I think she needs an epidural", said one of the the stuff. "Oh no," I piped up, "she asked me to tell you she doesn't want an injection in her spine, under any circumstances". At this point, my wife screamed like something from the Exorcist, "Yes, I f*****g do! Give me drugs. Get this f*****g thing out of me. Get a boxcutter and cut it f*****g out". The best-laid plans and all that...
* Decide how you intend to travel to the hospital and practice getting there using your chosen form of transport.
* For yourself, take a pillow, food and something to read. My wife's first labor took around 30 hours. For much of that time, she was out cold. I was left sitting on a hard chair, with no food and I soon got through my reading material.
Of course, it might be totally different for you. But better to have things and not need them than need them and not have them.
EDIT: the other thing I would say, is don't feel pressured to go down to the end where all the action is, unless your help is needed or your partner asks you to. One of the midwives was desperate to get me down there ("It's the miracle of birth!", "Look, it's your chance to see the placenta!"). My wife didn't need me down there. She wanted me holding her hand. I had no inclination to have a look. So why should anyone else hassle me to?
foryouwhynot IB 1 year ago
My son took 12 hours almost to the minute from when my wife said it’s time (and half asleep I said are you sure, like the dumbass I am) to when he cried for the first time. My wife needed me holding her hand. That’s where I stayed!
#24
My son was born third of January 2019. Wife was induced but baby still wasn't playing ball. Wife was having contractions as she should but he was having none of it. His pulse started dropping to an emergency c section was decided on. I was put in scrubs and sat in the room with wife while she was operated on. Her canular fell out and I got blood all over my scrubs. So I looked like an extra from Mad Max at this stage.
Wife was out her face and not doing so great. I was holding her hand, curtain is up so can't see what's going on. Baby suddenly screams loud - I'm very happy with this it was a strong and definitive yell which was great. We weigh him, he cuddles my wife etc. I'm then told to take him out to a recovery room while wife is sewn up.
There are loads of happy families in there all together. I'm alone, covered in blood and holding my beautiful son who is wrapped in a towel and blankets. He's not moving around much. Eventually a consultant and trainee take him from me and tell me he needs to be in ICU immediately as he is not looking clever. So I abandon waiting for wife and follow him up there. He goes under a light, then goes into the ICU and they're not happy either. They're putting hooks under his scalp, I ask about this and they say they can't find brain activity. They ask if I want to hold him, I say no I don't want to bond anymore if he is possibly brain-dead.
The rest is a bit of a haze, running up and down three flights of stairs to help wife express, then bring it to son, up and down. Blacked out a couple times doing this for 5 or 6 hours then went home to sleep when I could do no more.
Came in at 5 or 6 next morning to find wife with okay baby in her arms down in ICU room. Thank Christ. Really really difficult time but really made a man of me. Love my wife and son to bits even more so worrying I would lose both of them that day. Also his name tag outside - we hadn't agreed yet but I wanted to call him frank. The name tag had been changed at my wife's request to say Frank instead of just Baby -Surname- which was wonderful.
Was extremely pleased and not anxious at all taking them both home a week or two later when it had died down.
OnAFreakingRollercoaster 1 year ago
I was speed reading - i must admit - and when I saw the word "died" in the last sentence, my blood pressure rocketed NGL. 🥵
#25
My wife had a scheduled C-section. I sat by her head with a curtain blocking the view to her abdomen. The nurse told me to stand up and look to see my son being born. I stood up in time to see my wife split open like fish and a nurse dragging my blue son out of her belly. Could see some of her internal organs as well. Nearly passed out, sat down heavily back on my stool, and did not look again.
Cara G 1 year ago (edited)
This is definitely a situation where consent is needed. Ask if the other parent WANTS to see the baby being delivered. Don't tell them to stand up and watch like it's some clinical shït they have to do. These poor people are highly emotional and usually in shock. Way to traumatize someone.
#26
It was incredible, breathtaking, amazing, and terrifying. Being the first person my daughter saw and making eye contact with her when she came out was an out of body experience. I have a great picture from about three minutes after she was born where I’m holding her and we’re staring at each other and it looks like she’s sticking her tongue out at me.
I wasn’t anxious about the moment going in, but when it happened, it was like my entire life would now be summed up as before and after that exact moment.
Now, the 55 hours of waiting was much less existentially awesome. That was pure torture. Wife was in pain, unable to rest, nurses checking on her every half hour, constant prodding and poking, lots of trips to the little refreshment area to get ice.
Looking back, it was such a crazy experience. You can’t really describe it in a way that does it justice.
Ambry Petersen 1 year ago
Having a child does indeed divide your life into before and after. The amazing thing is how the before no longer seems important while the after becomes infinately precious.
#27
Surreal, joyous, terrifying, exhausting. Main memories are getting worried when heart rates dropped quickly with our first but that just turned out to be the probe not being stable.
Remember that as a man, although your job is important, it is by far the least important job in the room so shut up and do as you're told.
I remember being adamant I was gonna cut the cord for our eldest but when I was suddenly presented with the baby I just stood there mouth agape for about 10 seconds before the midwife did what needed to be done, but left a bit for me to cut later.
And I remember having the best nap ever in the hospital bed with my wife after a 10-12 hour labour for our second whilst my mother in law kept an eye on the baby even though she'd been there the whole time too.
And the look on my eldest's face as he met his little brother for the first time
#28
Louise from Bob's Burgers said it best. "It was like an angry softball pushing it's way out of a coin purse".
#29
Probably one of the most important and memorable days of my life. When the baby came out I was overcome with emotion and the bond formed between my wife and I through the experience is something that I don’t think could be achieved in any other way.
#30
Emergency c section. Kid came out not breathing and heart not beating. Everything is happening so fast and everyone in the room knows what's going on except for me. 1/10 do not want to do that again.
What do you think ?
Lakota Wolf 1 year ago (edited)
I'm adopted, but my adoptive parents were present at my birth. I wish I'd had a chance to ask my dad about how it was to witness my birth and be there to hold me afterwards. He had an accident when I was 18, long before I thought to ask him all the questions I've wanted to ask him since. He sustained a catastrophic brain injury in the accident, and died two years ago after 21 years of a near-vegetative state...
Rougarou Cher 1 year ago
My dad was in the waiting room with some other family, which I was told was pretty standard back in the day. My aunt got mad at him because he kept singing the Jaws theme song regarding my arrival.
J 1 year ago
FYI: Over 30% of births are traumatic for the mother. Many women get PTSD flashbacks around their kids’ birthdays.
James016 1 year ago
My wife had an emergency delivery as hers and our son's heartrates were dropping. I sat next to her holding her hand while the doctors and everyone did their thing. It was a forceps and ventouse delivery. It was a very busy time in the theatre. All I could do is sit there, hold her hand and keep out of the way. She got through it and her and our son were
SealOfDisapproval 1 year ago
We were left alone and told to hit the call button if needed. The Nitrous oxide was freely available, and... Well, anyway, happy times.
OnAFreakingRollercoaster 1 year ago
Oh man i loved that stuff 😶🌫️😶🌫️😶🌫️
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Donkey boi 1 year ago (edited)
The first birth I attended was my friend's girlfriend. We were having trouble getting hold of him and, as she had no family, she asked me to go with her. The whole thing was amazing, really interesting, then it got disgusting but still pretty cool (That was the day I found out some women s**t themselves). I was watching them do some stiches when my mate arrived, 'Why are you staring at my girlfriends vag?' I just said 'Mate! She nearly split in two! I'm watching them stich her back up. She's good though. You should have a look!'. He didn't have a look. Instead, he went straight his GF and their new baby. The 2nd one I thought I was a bit more prepared, but it soon turned to chaos when blood was literally pouring out of her. They cleared the room and rushed her to surgery.
Damon 1 year ago
My child was deliver via c-section. The nurses were very judgy because I wasn’t crying. What are you going do
Maple Porkly 1 year ago
I insisted my husband sleep through the start of my labour because I knew this would be a long one. Yup 71 hours. I had the nurses wake him when they couldn't find a heart beat. It broke me having lost our son a year earlier when they couldn't find his heart beat. I remember snipits of this moment. My husband advocating for me to not get a C-section. I told him if our daughter is already gone a C-section will just leave a forever bad memory and nothing will bring her back. In the end I had several nurses and at least 3 doctors in the room to deliver our daughter vaginally. They had the crash cart ready and as soon as she was out they took her away. I was too exhausted and passed out but my husband told me she was blue, not moving, not making a sound. She was lucky she survived. My husband would not let go of her as soon as the doctors handed her to him. He spent at least 6 hours holding her while I slept and regained strength. They are inseparable nearly 9 years later.
Eliza 1 year ago (edited)
I would just like to thank and congratulate these 30 men and ALL of the other men who have been a part of their children's arrival into the world, and for being present for their wives and SO! Those of us who pretty much went the distance alone, thank you for being dedicated to family! We women are strong, no doubt about that, but many men use that as an excuse to selfishly remove themselves from any of the responsibilities. I know that there are many who simply cannot deal with the birthing event and that's fine, but at least some who are this way, support in other ways. My thanks and congratulations to all of you!
Justice 1 year ago
Yeah, but not always being present is 'enough' (or a good thing). I needed an emergency transfusion upon arrival, but apparently my father was too drunk to be of any help... Yep, so... There is that.
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R Dennis 1 year ago (edited)
My wife was due in May. Her water broke January 30. I drove her to the hospital in the middle of the night speeding and stop/go through every red light. She got loaded up with meds and steroids and had to lay in bed chugging water to replace the constantly draining amniotic fluid. I went between taking care of my teen stepkids, work, and the hospital every day. I was home when she started having contractions after two weeks and I rushed to the hospital. No one was listening to her as I was timing them. They moved the sensors and said "Oh!" Still two months early... I put on a gown and we went into the room. They put a curtain up from the waist down and a mirror was available. I was holding her hand as she was being yanked and tugged, but she felt nothing. I looked and saw them pull this tiny baby out of her stomache. They brought her to us and her eyes were open. Then they took her to the side and several doctors and nurses were working on her. Next we were able to see her was in the
R Dennis 1 year ago (edited)
Neonatal Intensive Care Unit (NICU) where she was hooked up to a bunch of machines in an incubator. We didn't get to hold her and a nurse warned us that babies tend to get worse before they get better. His next shift, he was shocked that most monitors had been removed as she was doing so well. He said "That NEVER happens! She's a fighter." It was several more days before she could be brought out of the incubator to be held and she had a feeding tube up her nose and going into her belly. She fit into one hand... the first time I held her, she stopped breathing and they had to massage her to get her breathing again. But she kept getting stronger and after six weeks, we took her home. Even being such a preemie, her only issue has been asthma which has improved greatly. She turns 16 next month, then is going with her school band to Hawaii.
Load More Replies... That Bi Book Lover 1 year ago
My dad wasn’t present on my birth :( apparently he had work and only came after 20 days. He was present for my sister’s birth and absolutely NO hard feelings as I love that little bundle of joy and naughtyness <3
LeighPig 1 year ago
Trauma is definitely personal too. I'd consider my birth traumatic. My husband didn't make it to the hospital on time and missed our 2nd daughter making her entrance. She was whisked off me pretty quickly as she was not responding. I was alone & naked until I heard my baby cry and my husband rushed in and was the first to hold her. It took a while to process everything and although we're both healthy it wasn't the birth I'd hoped for.
Lakota Wolf 1 year ago (edited)
I'm adopted, but my adoptive parents were present at my birth. I wish I'd had a chance to ask my dad about how it was to witness my birth and be there to hold me afterwards. He had an accident when I was 18, long before I thought to ask him all the questions I've wanted to ask him since. He sustained a catastrophic brain injury in the accident, and died two years ago after 21 years of a near-vegetative state...
Rougarou Cher 1 year ago
My dad was in the waiting room with some other family, which I was told was pretty standard back in the day. My aunt got mad at him because he kept singing the Jaws theme song regarding my arrival.
J 1 year ago
FYI: Over 30% of births are traumatic for the mother. Many women get PTSD flashbacks around their kids’ birthdays.
James016 1 year ago
My wife had an emergency delivery as hers and our son's heartrates were dropping. I sat next to her holding her hand while the doctors and everyone did their thing. It was a forceps and ventouse delivery. It was a very busy time in the theatre. All I could do is sit there, hold her hand and keep out of the way. She got through it and her and our son were
SealOfDisapproval 1 year ago
We were left alone and told to hit the call button if needed. The Nitrous oxide was freely available, and... Well, anyway, happy times.
OnAFreakingRollercoaster 1 year ago
Oh man i loved that stuff 😶🌫️😶🌫️😶🌫️
Load More Replies... Donkey boi 1 year ago (edited)
The first birth I attended was my friend's girlfriend. We were having trouble getting hold of him and, as she had no family, she asked me to go with her. The whole thing was amazing, really interesting, then it got disgusting but still pretty cool (That was the day I found out some women s**t themselves). I was watching them do some stiches when my mate arrived, 'Why are you staring at my girlfriends vag?' I just said 'Mate! She nearly split in two! I'm watching them stich her back up. She's good though. You should have a look!'. He didn't have a look. Instead, he went straight his GF and their new baby. The 2nd one I thought I was a bit more prepared, but it soon turned to chaos when blood was literally pouring out of her. They cleared the room and rushed her to surgery.
Damon 1 year ago
My child was deliver via c-section. The nurses were very judgy because I wasn’t crying. What are you going do
Maple Porkly 1 year ago
I insisted my husband sleep through the start of my labour because I knew this would be a long one. Yup 71 hours. I had the nurses wake him when they couldn't find a heart beat. It broke me having lost our son a year earlier when they couldn't find his heart beat. I remember snipits of this moment. My husband advocating for me to not get a C-section. I told him if our daughter is already gone a C-section will just leave a forever bad memory and nothing will bring her back. In the end I had several nurses and at least 3 doctors in the room to deliver our daughter vaginally. They had the crash cart ready and as soon as she was out they took her away. I was too exhausted and passed out but my husband told me she was blue, not moving, not making a sound. She was lucky she survived. My husband would not let go of her as soon as the doctors handed her to him. He spent at least 6 hours holding her while I slept and regained strength. They are inseparable nearly 9 years later.
Eliza 1 year ago (edited)
I would just like to thank and congratulate these 30 men and ALL of the other men who have been a part of their children's arrival into the world, and for being present for their wives and SO! Those of us who pretty much went the distance alone, thank you for being dedicated to family! We women are strong, no doubt about that, but many men use that as an excuse to selfishly remove themselves from any of the responsibilities. I know that there are many who simply cannot deal with the birthing event and that's fine, but at least some who are this way, support in other ways. My thanks and congratulations to all of you!
Justice 1 year ago
Yeah, but not always being present is 'enough' (or a good thing). I needed an emergency transfusion upon arrival, but apparently my father was too drunk to be of any help... Yep, so... There is that.
Load More Replies... R Dennis 1 year ago (edited)
My wife was due in May. Her water broke January 30. I drove her to the hospital in the middle of the night speeding and stop/go through every red light. She got loaded up with meds and steroids and had to lay in bed chugging water to replace the constantly draining amniotic fluid. I went between taking care of my teen stepkids, work, and the hospital every day. I was home when she started having contractions after two weeks and I rushed to the hospital. No one was listening to her as I was timing them. They moved the sensors and said "Oh!" Still two months early... I put on a gown and we went into the room. They put a curtain up from the waist down and a mirror was available. I was holding her hand as she was being yanked and tugged, but she felt nothing. I looked and saw them pull this tiny baby out of her stomache. They brought her to us and her eyes were open. Then they took her to the side and several doctors and nurses were working on her. Next we were able to see her was in the
R Dennis 1 year ago (edited)
Neonatal Intensive Care Unit (NICU) where she was hooked up to a bunch of machines in an incubator. We didn't get to hold her and a nurse warned us that babies tend to get worse before they get better. His next shift, he was shocked that most monitors had been removed as she was doing so well. He said "That NEVER happens! She's a fighter." It was several more days before she could be brought out of the incubator to be held and she had a feeding tube up her nose and going into her belly. She fit into one hand... the first time I held her, she stopped breathing and they had to massage her to get her breathing again. But she kept getting stronger and after six weeks, we took her home. Even being such a preemie, her only issue has been asthma which has improved greatly. She turns 16 next month, then is going with her school band to Hawaii.
Load More Replies... That Bi Book Lover 1 year ago
My dad wasn’t present on my birth :( apparently he had work and only came after 20 days. He was present for my sister’s birth and absolutely NO hard feelings as I love that little bundle of joy and naughtyness <3
LeighPig 1 year ago
Trauma is definitely personal too. I'd consider my birth traumatic. My husband didn't make it to the hospital on time and missed our 2nd daughter making her entrance. She was whisked off me pretty quickly as she was not responding. I was alone & naked until I heard my baby cry and my husband rushed in and was the first to hold her. It took a while to process everything and although we're both healthy it wasn't the birth I'd hoped for.
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