Someone Asks Men Why They Don’t Want To Get Married, Gets 30 Honest Answers

Yessir!!

Yes you can. We all can if we choose to. If that's what gives you joy do that.

Indeed, one can.

Of course! Some people want to pair up, other's don't: one is not more valid than the other..

Marriage is to sanctify the children, if any, not to satisfy the emotional insecurities of adults. "We are bonded forever" because I don't trust my own sense of loyalty and commitment.

Perfectly fine but needs to be upfront about it with everyone from the very beginning and find a partner who definitely thinks and wants the same!

All the married people I know are miserable except about two truly happy couples.

So many women say they are OK with this upfront but amazingly change their mind later in the relationship.

Speaking as another introvert, I find that at the end of the day, after my social battery is thoroughly exhausted, I still enjoy spending time with my husband. Rather than draining me, being with him is comforting :)

I used to think the same. I lived alone for 15 years. I always thought I don't need any one, I am independent, I am taking care of myself. I don't have to become someone's responsibility. Then came along this guy who was different from me but at the same time we were too alike. We joke that we are Loki (me married to myself). Unlike movies, it wasn't a damsel in distress and knight in shining armour. I was already happy with my life, he just made it two folds.

I agree with the introvert part. I'm young and still have time to find the right person but sometimes it's better and more comfortable to be alone.

I am 65 and able bodied. I have told my wife, my adult children, my grandchildren and my close friends when the day comes that I am failing phyically or mentally to the point I see myself no longer being able to take care of myself, I fully intend to exit the planet. I even have multiple options available currently.

I too am an introvert and the only companion I want is my cat

Legal rights, e.g., if your spouse is incapacitated for whatever reason you have decision making authority, can receive their earned social security benefits if married for at least 7 years, even if divorced, etc, etc and lower taxes.

Sensible answer - depends on where you live. Frivolous answer - anniversary presents 🤣

A whole lotta.legal rights, especially when there are kids involved.

In the Netherlands you can get a registered partnership. "marriage" is often religious based (or done because it is tradition). I see no real advantages to get married either, although to have a day to affirm/confirm your love for eachother, to have pictures of that day and stop and think about that day every year, like one day a year it is all about your relationship. It's not the same as the anniversary of the day you met, or the day you started dating, as there are no pretty pictures and family involved. I'm just thinking out loud, and my reasoning leads me to: yes, I'd want a special day with pictures and family to show the world my love for this person, and have this person return it. For us to remember in years to come. With my last partner of 14 years (and 3 kids) I wasn't married. Woud being married (or having had a special day) have helped in our relationship? Maybe. Because we didn't put enough effort in it, took eachother for granted too much. A relationship is work.

Yea let's give the state & a bunch of lawyers access to control the relationship! No thanks!

You don’t need any of that s**t to get married, either, as long as you're both on the same page.

If OP honestly believes you NEED all that fluff to get married, then they are too young to get married

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Quite right, but that stuff is all associated with the wedding itself, in your culture, nothing to do with the concept or actuality of marriage.

Umm, we didn't have any of those. Been happily married 13 years now.

You can go to the courthouse and sign a piece of paper.

You married someone you thought should prioritize your decisions and yourself over them? Sounds like you expected to be the only important person in this marriage.

There's a cat so I'm upvoting. That's my only reason why.

Um...yeah that's not how it works. You're not gaining a cheerleading slave, it's supposed to be a partnership in which you BOTH advocate for the betterment of BOTH your lives. And guess what? Sometimes that means you're going to disagree on the best way to do that.....which is why anyone whose been married for more than about 5 minutes bangs on about the importance of communication and compromise.

Very good point

It doesn't

I have a live in lifetime booty call as well lol I kid, I kid, I adore my partner, but we also have no interest in marriage. Maybe one day we might decide to walk into a courthouse, but there are no plans on the horizon. We enjoy each other and our life together immensely, so we are currently exercising the "if it ain't broke don't fix it" plan.

My ex-"friend" once told me that my relationship wasn't serious because we weren't married. We had been together 12 years at this point.

Who said it did?

Then find someone who wants the same but know that a willingness to compromise is essential in any partnership and needs and wants do change.

I guess if your view of relationships in general is people arguing over petty things, you're probably not in a relationship either. Long term, married or not, you will surely start sharing a mortgage or responsibility for a property, maybe kids. Arguments will happen, married or not.

Exactly one month from today my husband and I are celebrating our 25th wedding anniversary. We both believe we've made it this long because we were friends first. I had a few boyfriends, I'm his second wife and we were in our late twenties when we married, so we were a LOT more responsible and mature. He's my best friend and the most hilarious, talented man I've ever known.