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30 Men Reveal The Things About Women They Had No Idea About Before They Got Into A Relationship
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There’s a lot we don’t know about people until we spend more time with them. There are a ton of surprising things you can learn about the folks you care about—and human beings in general—when you see how they behave when they let their guard down. It turns out all of us have lots in common, something many of us probably already suspected.
In a viral discussion on the popular r/AskMen online group, men revealed all of the things that they didn’t know about women before they started going out. Their answers were incredibly honest and a great antidote for anyone who’s prone to putting others on a pedestal while dating. Scroll down to read these internet users’ personal experiences.
Bored Panda reached out to the author of the viral thread, redditor u/_Red_User_. They were happy to answer our questions and to share their thoughts about proper communication in relationships. Check out their insights as you scroll down.
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#1
- That they often feel obligated to do stuff they don’t want to do by their family, friends and just random people and they feel really guilty if they don’t do those things.
- That they feel a lot of pressure to look and act certain ways. Getting dressed can be really overwhelming sometimes.
- That they are often so critical of themselves that you’d be shocked to hear their inner voice.
- That the shower can never be hot enough.
- That they need way more sleep than us.
- That they care a lot about detail and want to share that detail with you when they debrief the day.
- That they have an insatiable appetite for being held, cuddled, and snuggled.
- That giving them regular orgasms is great for their mood and the relationship in general.
- That a fridge full of food will be somehow calming to them despite the grocery bill being soul crushing to you.
- That their feet are always various levels of cold ranging from corpse-dug-up-from-snowdrift cold to deep-sea-tuna-on-ice cold.
- That the facts of a situation will be interpreted in different ways depending on their feelings at the time.
- That they strangely stay friends with other women who are lowkey mean to them.
- That they remember every f****d up thing you’ve ever done or said.
- That taking the pill can really mess with them.
- That it isn’t enough just to do things for them because they ask you to. You need to want to do it without them having to ask. That’s how they know you care.
Sven Horlemann 11 months ago
Oh, too many of them are spot on. And made me giggle. I am sure, there will be an equally fun list about (us) men.
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#2
That when they vent, the solution is sometimes just to listen
The author of the thread, redditor u/_Red_User_, told Bored Panda that the idea to ask the question on Reddit came to them when they were learning new facts about their and their partner’s gender in a relationship.
"I was asking myself what others never knew before," the OP told us, adding that they weren't expecting the discussion to get as much attention as it did.
"I think there are many assumptions about women that are not true in the end. Some of those might scare some men. But in the end, they are true for some women but not all," the redditor said.
#4
That taking the pill really is a wild ride and can seriously impact some girls' behavior and wellbeing.
James Hall 11 months ago
As can not taking it, or taking any other contraceptives - turns out people who menstruate can have a pretty rough ride; it's well worth taking the time to discuss and understand your partner's needs and how you can help support them, it'll make your lives together much easier!
#5
I learned how much I like being a man. I mean, having a period sounds terrible. Childbirth is something I’m glad I’ll never experience
LilliVB 11 months ago
Sometimes ago, I was talking and teaching to my kid (9yo, boy) about women's anatomy and physiology, so reproductive female organs, menstrual cycle, childbirth and everything. He got really curious about childbirth, so he asked pointed questions about the entire process, how it is possible for a woman to push out a child that was in their belly, what happened to the vagina, etc etc. When I finished my explanation, he looked me in the eyes and dead serious he told me he was happy that he was a male.
#6
The insane cost of feminine hygiene products or makeup. I wonder about the numbers because the production costs can’t be that high.
Also why don’t women’s clothes sizes make any sense at all? It doesn’t seem standardized or rational within a given store/brand let alone across brands on the same clothing type.
I can buy a polo or tee shirt in my size and most of the ones I like, regardless of brand or store, fit me pretty well and about the same.
I had no idea women’s clothing had so much variation.
Tobias Reaper 11 months ago
i am a guy but i think the price of feminine hygiene products are ridiculous they should be much lower price if not free especially for those who cant afford them
In the thread author's opinion, men and women can sometimes communicate differently, and it's important to embrace and celebrate these differences.
Case in point, redditor u/_Red_User_ pointed out that many men rush to ‘solve’ their partners’ problems when they should instead consider actively listening to them and simply hearing them out.
“Women sometimes just want to complain, whereas men tend to think logically. If she has a problem, she might expect some [comments like] ‘it’s terrible’ and ‘not your fault’ or something. He instead might think about a solution when she is not interested in solving the issue."
The OP urged all couples to talk to each other, not just about other people. "Don't make assumptions, but talk with each other about issues." The redditor noted that some couples also face social pressure from their friends. However, just because the people around you think a certain way doesn't mean it's the truth.
#7
I’ll add something I don’t see that I didn’t understand:
Childhood trauma.
I understand that this can happen to men, but the number of women I’ve had serious relationships with who ended up struggling with severe trauma when they were younger has been eye-opening.
It dictates parts of the relationship you don’t even realize. Certain things you do can set off triggers that you may have never been aware of. You can end up doing damage to someone who you deeply care about by accident. It could be a simple touch when trying to initiate and without appropriate definitions or communication it can be really devastating.
Then, you begin to piece things together:
“Oh, now I get why she used sex to get my attention.”
“Oh, now I understand why this person has no interest in sex”
It’s just something that’s really personal and difficult. Something people don’t realize they’ve dealt with. And then they need to battle through it and try to heal themselves.
It’s just something I didn’t ever deal with as a guy and I’m both selfishly thankful I’m a man and heartbroken these things happen.
#8
I had no idea what a pain periods and the cramping and the mood swings were until I married a girl who had a bad week every single month and then menopause….omg! I’m glad I’m a guy.
Belle_Pandamonium🇧🇻l 11 months ago (edited)
As a woman; abt 40 years of phys and mental pain, now abt 10 years of menopause-struggle.. 😮💨🥴🤒😵
#9
Evidently, you're not supposed to put bras in the dryer. They turn into shrinky d***s. And bras are expensive to replace.
DarkViolet 11 months ago
Hell hath no fury like a woman whose favorite over-the-shoulder boulder-holder has been decimated by the washer/dryer.
“You never know the thoughts and intentions of your partner, so don’t guess but talk,” they told Bored Panda.
According to u/_Red_User_, people should never judge another couple's lifestyle. They explained that, in their opinion, nobody should be forced to do something just because of their gender.
"It's wrong to say women have to work or they have to stay at home. Some women prefer a and some b. And some do both. It’s great if men want to (and can) provide enough money so their partner has no need to work and can spend time with [the] kids. But there shouldn't be a duty to stay at home or be forbidden to work. Equally, the man can stay at home if both [partners] want that."
#10
How much toilet paper they consume. When I was living alone an 8 pack of toilet paper lasted me like a year. Once she moved in I was buying at least an 8 pack a month. You've been warned.
I’ve Seen Things 11 months ago (edited)
I think guys forget that women need toilet paper for urination, menstruation, and defecation.
#11
That they can fart, and if they're sitting the right way, it travels forward, up through their labia, and comes out the front side.
This took me a long time to get over learning.
#12
The amount of hair bands that will appear out of nowhere. They multiply all over the place!
Like it or not, most of us have a public persona (or a few), as well as a private one. We behave slightly differently depending on who we’re interacting with. So we might act one way at the office. We’re someone slightly different in front of our friends. We probably wouldn’t speak to our parents the way we did with our pals or coworkers. And we’re someone else entirely when we’re trying to impress someone.
However, slowly, we let our guard down around people. It takes time and trust to do so, but we let them in. If they’re special enough, we show them what we’re like when we’re alone, without any pretense.
#13
The smell of period blood and it can fall out in clots.
Weasel Wise 11 months ago
Those aren't blood clots, that's thin layers of our flesh. Yeah, no joke, that's our FLESH. The inner lining of the uterus tears itself off and exits just like the blood. So anytime one of you men or young dudes hear a woman mention menstrual pain, understand that one of her organs is literally tearing a layer off itself every single dàmn month. Then attempt empathy and buy her chocolates or a sandwich.
#14
How much they get “hollered at.” Not sure if it’s universal but def seems to be the case in a big city.
arthbach 11 months ago
Practically all women have endured this, often from the start of puberty. Men, please, if you hear other men doing this, tell them it's not cool. Tell them it's creepy (especially if they are shouting at younger people). The sort of men who do this aren't the sort who are going to listen when a woman tells them to stop. They will only listen to other men. Be an ally, and correct them.
#15
They can also be slobs and (while the human body and bodily processes aren't gross) they can be just as gross as men.
Natasha Arruda 11 months ago
My mom worked as a custodian at my Highschool for years before I even got to the highschool so there were times I'd go and "help" her for a night. The girl's bathroom was always the more disgusting between the two and I have continued to notice that women are gross all through my years of using public bathrooms too. It's worse because we have an extra bodily fluid to make a mess of, as well. Too many women will just toss their used pads and tampons around like they're party favors and So. Many. will try to hover above the toilet cause public restrooms are "gross", which in turn makes them GROSS because now your pee is everywhere. Just. Sit. Down.
That raw image of what we’re like when nobody’s around can gently shock people, even if they behave similarly in their own private lives. This reaction can be at least partly explained by the expectations that people place on their partners when they first start dating.
They might start idealizing them and putting them on a pedestal. Focusing on other people’s positive qualities can be a good thing, but it can be very unhealthy if you completely ignore their negative aspects as well. If you hype yourself up over dating someone, you’re not doing yourself any favors.
#16
How sentimental they are. Buying flowers is an odd exercise to me since I don’t *get* it, but my partner’s been moved to tears multiple times because of it.
#17
How much they shed
CanadianDimes 11 months ago
I think the appearance of shedding more really only applies to people (of any gender) with long hair because it’s more noticeable with longer hair. We probably all shed mostly the same amount (unless you have no hair at all), it just isn’t as obvious with short hair.
#18
I remember being shocked that my first girlfriend *also* enjoyed me touching her boobs.
For one, you’re setting yourself up for disappointment because you will eventually realize that they’re not a ‘perfect’ partner or human being (nobody is). On the flip side, you’re also adding a ton of pressure on your date to behave a certain way. It can be very frustrating when you feel forced to live up to someone’s impossibly high expectations. It’s good to have standards, but keep your expectations somewhat realistic!
Meanwhile, if you want to learn more about your partner, there is no better alternative than open and honest communication. You won’t form a deep connection with them if you’re not willing to talk about the mundane stuff and their quirks, not just exciting global topics and other people.
#19
How much what dream they had that night changes their entire day.
Sven Horlemann 11 months ago
Well, I am married 33 years, and the dreams my wife has (and remembers) are astounding. And crazy. And fun listen to. I cannot compete, I admit.
#20
how long it takes to put on makeup, shower, and get ready to do anything
The key to good communication is learning to listen to what the other person is telling you. If you’re simply waiting for your turn to speak, you’re doing something wrong.
For some more surprising things that men learned about women only after they got into relationships, check out Bored Panda’s previous feature.
#23
I had no idea many women slather on moisturizer over most of their body after every single shower. Still pretty mind blowing tbh.
#25
Moustaches
Natasha Arruda 11 months ago
I have PCOS (I get cysts on my ovaries and it messes with my hormones), if I don't pluck, I somehow end up looking like a Mexican man. Which is weird cause despite having Portuguese background, I don't look anything but white until I have a mustache. 😂
#27
How sacred their space is to them. In my apartment I couldn't care less where you put things as long as it makes sense. Hell, I don't even have a set place for where everything goes, and often decide to put things where they make sense at the time I'm putting them away.
But in a woman's apartment, God forbid you put a brush in the comb-drawer.
troufaki13 11 months ago
It really depends. I have female friends that are very messy and male friends that their home is like ready for an editorial in a magazine. Mine is in the middle.
#28
A women urinates with the power of a water cannon
JuniorCJ82 11 months ago
Not all the time, just when we've been forced to or choose to hold it.
#29
Fake eyelashes.
I’m an idiot
Alexandra Nara 11 months ago
Sometimes I can't believe too,what artificial hair,nails,bodyparts we use to feel pretty Nowadays this is so average,even some boys demand this standards as a definition of beauty
#30
They always want to be doing something. If they’re not they’re making plans for what we’re gunna be doing.
What do you think ?
DarkViolet 11 months ago
I don't have a problem with guys not understanding some things about us womenfolk. It's when they choose not to understand that the conflict begins. True, women can be tidier and not leave the living space a hazmat area. But certain body shapes and functions can NOT be controlled. Remember: when you hold up some imaginary ruler by which you judge others, someone, somewhere, is doing the same thing regarding you.
Zedrapazia 11 months ago
I am a woman and still didn't knew a bunch of those. People can be so different!
DarkViolet 11 months ago
I don't have a problem with guys not understanding some things about us womenfolk. It's when they choose not to understand that the conflict begins. True, women can be tidier and not leave the living space a hazmat area. But certain body shapes and functions can NOT be controlled. Remember: when you hold up some imaginary ruler by which you judge others, someone, somewhere, is doing the same thing regarding you.
Zedrapazia 11 months ago
I am a woman and still didn't knew a bunch of those. People can be so different!
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